May 3, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating a man for 4 years and I asked him to marry me recently because time is of the essence and I want to have a baby. When we met, he told me that I would be his wife. I took it to heart and I overlooked a lot of stuff to make our relationship work. I usually wouldn’t date an overweight man. I definitely wouldn’t date a man with halitosis...........................
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Strawberry Letter subject, I just can't do this, Dear Stephen Shirley.
I've been dating a man for four years, and I
asked him to marry me recently because time is of
the essence and I want to have a baby. When
we met, he told me that I would be his wife.
I took it to heart, and I overlooked a lot
(00:44):
of stuff to make our relationship work. I usually wouldn't
date and overwake man, and I definitely wouldn't date a
man with halitosis. I invested in him, and I cooked
for him, worked out with him, and helped him pay
for his dental work. Even after he gained most of
his weight back. I was patient with him. I won't
say I'm perfect, but I'm too good for him. If
(01:07):
I were him, I'd jump at the chance to marry me.
I can cook, keep a clean house, and be adventurous
in the bedroom. Well, he didn't get to experience the
bedroom part until a year after we met, after he
lost the weight. He has even told me I'm perfect,
So I don't see how one little mistake, one little
mistake on my part, can make him not want to
(01:28):
marry me. So here's the backstory. I messed around with
a coworker three times and it was the best sex
I ever had, so I decided to share it with
one of my best girlfriends. We all had a threesome,
and then she went and told my boyfriend. He gave
me an ultimatum to stop messing around or I'd lose him.
(01:51):
I had invested too much to let him go, so
I stopped messing around and I cut all ties with
my hating friend. My man and I were working things out,
and I decided to ask him to marry me, to
convince him that I'm all in to this relationship. He
told me, I just can't do this. How can he
say that to me? He can't do it? But I've
(02:13):
been holding on and hoping for a husband for four years.
I'm not investing this kind of time and to anyone else,
so this has to work. How do I convince this
man to be my husband? What are you talking about, lady?
This man is not going to marry you now. He's
not gonna do it, and you have to let this go.
(02:35):
I mean, too much has happened, he said out of
his mouth. He can't do it. You said you were
too good for him. So where are we now? What
are you doing? Are you settling just because time is
of the essence and you want a baby? Or is
it because you helped him with his weight and with
his halitosis and all of that and marriage? Is that
(02:57):
return on your investment you think? I don't think you're
really ready to marry this man anyway. If you were,
you wouldn't have messed around with your co worker for
no reason at all. I mean, you throw it out
there so casually. So here's the backstory. I messed around, okay, really,
and then you added your girlfriend into it so you
(03:19):
guys could have a threesome. What was the point of that?
How do you expect your man to recover from that?
If he was considering marrying you, it is over now
Because of that, he doesn't want to marry you. Now
it's over. That's what you gotta get in your head.
It's over, Steve, Damn. I wasn't ready for this letter. Right.
(03:42):
Took a turn, didn't it. Yeah? It was a nice
little letter. I could was feeling fun. Then all of
a sudden, I don't like a no mo. You know,
just a lady. I don't know what you want me
and Shirley to do. Been dating a man for four years.
Now let me show you how I was reading a letter.
So you can understand you recently asked a man to
marry you, because time is of the essence right now.
He told you when you met that you could be
(04:04):
his wife, and you took it to heart, and you
started overlooking a lot of stuff just to make our
relationship work. First thing you did. I usually wouldn't date
and overweight man. So now fat boy had opened up
the whole conversation with oh, I love you, you will
be my wife. He got to come out the gate
with both barrels blazing. He got to come out the gate.
(04:27):
I want to marry you. I want a family, I
want kids. I take care of you. Ain't got a
warant for nothing. I love you or your mind forever.
Is that okay? So he knew he had to come
out with it because it's ass is fat. Now next problem,
definitely wouldn't date a man with holotosis. See holotosis is
(04:48):
different than bad brother. See if you got bad breath,
that's just a day. When somebody says you have holotosis,
they are signing on medical term to what is an
ongoing occurrence. That means every time you open your damn mouth,
(05:08):
here comes something out of it. Now I know for
a fact this is something he eaten and a combination.
I know for a fact that's where the hellas came from. Yeah,
that's fun. Then I invested in him and cooked for him,
worked out with him, and helped him pay for his
(05:30):
dental work. Nah is deeper. Now we got holes and
cavities in. Stuff is hiding in the cavities in down
there turning into something else. So he opening off his
mouth and sound like a waste management area. So he
(05:52):
don't know his mouth. You don't know what's coming out,
but it's deadly though. It is deadly, and he fat.
So now he wheezing. I say that people that breathe
like that. You ever heard somebody breathe like that? Yeah? Yeah,
(06:18):
one more time, One more time. You'd be saying, is
you sleep like the sleep dogs? You sleep? But he'd
be wide awake, be reading texts? All right, just stopped up?
What is? What is wrong? Dog? Is you got de
(06:39):
hold on? We'll be back with part two of Steve's
response and his breathing at twenty three minutes to have
to be our Today's Strawberry Letters. Subject, I just can't
do this. All right, we'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening show, are you still breathing? Let's
recast Steve the Strawberry Letter for today, subject I just
(07:02):
can't do this? Okay. Lady dating this fat boy for
four years and she don't know him to date fat men.
But he came out to gate and said he wanted
to marry her. That was intriguing and she wants to
hold him to it. But he got holotosa. She say.
Holotosas is a level up from bad breath, bad breathas
You just got caught out there one day? You know
(07:23):
what happens to us? All I guess, But if you
have if they've assigned a medical condition to it. It
starts saying you have halotosa. That means every time they
see you, you open your mouth, garbage, hot garbage come
out your damn mouth. Okay, so now we went over that.
(07:44):
Now she helped him pay his bills, She cooked for him,
worked out with him, and helped him pay for his
dental work. Now he got to get work done. Teeth
moved around, shifting on him and all this hell. Now,
even after he gained most of his weight back, she
fat boy was not committed to this program. You took
(08:04):
him down too fast, she said, even after he gave
most of his weight back. I was patient with it.
I wouldn't say I'm perfect, because you know she got
some flaws too, right, But I'm too good for him.
If I were him, I jump at the chance to
marry me. I can cook, so you know, see s
a little thick. I can cook, keep a clean house,
(08:25):
and be adventurous in the bed. Well, he didn't get
the experience that bedroom part till after year after we met. Yeah,
but even when he did see you said something else
and that you adventurous in the bedroom. Now he fat,
fat people ain't that adventurous, you know, all this, all this,
you ain't hit all this. You inn't here with all
(08:46):
this here. I'm just trying to get over here and
get this to get done. You know you're all this,
all this work I'm doing right here. You see me sweating.
I want to stand up today. That says adventurous as
I need to get why you want to stand up
because I'm tired of climbing back out that bed. It's
a lot of stuff. So now you ain't here doing
(09:06):
monkey flips, and he ain't with none of this. Now
you're thinking everything is on her side, and then he
has even told you that you perfect. So I don't
see how one little mistake on my part can make
him not want to marry me. Oh, he would go.
So here's the backstory. She messed around with a coworker
three times. If the best sect she ever had? Why
(09:27):
he was in shape. So it was so good that
you shared it with one of your best girlfriends, She said, girl,
what now y'all over there having a threesol. Then she
went and told your boyfriend fat boy, he gave you
an ultimatum to stop messing around or I lose him.
I had invested too much to let him go. So
(09:48):
I stopped messing around. I cut all ties with my
hating friend. My man and I was working things out,
and I decided to ask him to marry me, to
convince him that I'm all into this relationship. He told me,
I just, I just, I just I just can't do
this one more time, one more time. I listen, I just,
(10:11):
I just, I just can't do this here you all
these people, now, you should up been saying, How can
he say that to me? He can't do it. I've
been holding on and hoping for a husband for four years.
I'm not investing this type of time into anybody else.
So this has to work. How do I convince this
man to be my husband? You're not, You're not, You're not.
(10:32):
It's over with a couple of things. First of all,
you do threesomes. You do threesomes. Now that's hard on
the fat man because now he gotta watch everybody here.
He don't know if you're looking at him or her.
Now he just he on point. He can't even eat
his dinner. Who wore he looking at? Well? Who's she
(10:53):
looking at? Who? Looking over here? He looking over here?
Why is they looking over here? Why is all these
people looking you know here. Have you ever met her too?
You know her too? Have you seen him before? Where
was y'all that together? Y'all probably had another threesomes. He
can't even meet his food. He probably losing weight right
now because he at the restaurant looking at everybody, watching you,
(11:15):
trying to figure out which one you want, because once
you do threesomes, you wants everybody. She's one thing for
a man to have to watch out for another man,
But when you got to watch out for the men
and the women, the waiters, the matre d the owner
of the club, the uber driver, it's just too damn much.
The people in that passing our mits in the bathroom,
(11:35):
the shoe shine man, the valet. Who you want? They
all in him? Your ex, my ex, they exs what
you want? The pass of the pass of wife. Wasn't
we're in there for you. You're all in the tenor section,
soprano section. You see me without tones, bad tones? What's
going on in him? It's too much, It's too much,
(11:58):
It's over, he said, I just can't do this. Listen
to me. Judge Lynn tolda told me the best advice
I've ever heard on my show. One day she said,
don't let him man have to tell you twice he
don't want you. I've told y'all this, Don't let him
man have to tell you twice he don't want you.
(12:19):
He watching too much, So let his fat ass, bad
breath having land go a head on. He ain't gonna
get nobody else here that breathing or queezing and stuff.
And the whole time he was telling you, baby, I'm sorry,
I was seeing this other man. Who who was he? Who?
(12:43):
Who was he doing that? I can't do? What? What
was she in that doing? Folk too? What she? All? Right? Listen?
Post your comments on hold on, Baby, hand me my
of a coffee. Strawberry Letter at stefort, Instagram and Facebook.
(13:06):
Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Open up
in forty six minutes after the hour, we'll have a
sports talk with Junior. Right after this. You're listening to
the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need
advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now. It could be yours.
You never know, You never know. Buckle love and hold
(00:22):
on tight. We got it for you here it is
Strawberry Letter subject, I just can't do this, Dear Stephen Shirley.
I've been dating a man for four years, and I
asked him to marry me recently because time is of
the essence and I want to have a baby. When
we met, he told me that I would be his wife.
I took it to heart, and I overlooked a lot
(00:44):
of stuff to make our relationship work. I usually wouldn't
date and overwake man, and I definitely wouldn't date a
man with halitosis. I invested in him, and I cooked
for him, worked out with him, and helped him pay
for his dental work. Even after he gained most of
his weight back. I was patient with him. I won't
say I'm perfect, but I'm too good for him. If
(01:07):
I were him, I'd jump at the chance to marry me.
I can cook, keep a clean house, and be adventurous
in the bedroom. Well, he didn't get to experience the
bedroom part until a year after we met, after he
lost the weight. He has even told me I'm perfect,
So I don't see how one little mistake, one little
mistake on my part, can make him not want to
(01:28):
marry me. So here's the backstory. I messed around with
a coworker three times and it was the best sex
I ever had, so I decided to share it with
one of my best girlfriends. We all had a threesome,
and then she went and told my boyfriend. He gave
me an ultimatum to stop messing around or I'd lose him.
(01:51):
I had invested too much to let him go, so
I stopped messing around and I cut all ties with
my hating friend. My man and I were working things out,
and I decided to ask him to marry me, to
convince him that I'm all in to this relationship. He
told me, I just can't do this. How can he
say that to me? He can't do it? But I've
(02:13):
been holding on and hoping for a husband for four years.
I'm not investing this kind of time and to anyone else,
so this has to work. How do I convince this
man to be my husband? What are you talking about, lady?
This man is not going to marry you now. He's
not gonna do it, and you have to let this go.
(02:35):
I mean, too much has happened, he said out of
his mouth. He can't do it. You said you were
too good for him. So where are we now? What
are you doing? Are you settling just because time is
of the essence and you want a baby? Or is
it because you helped him with his weight and with
his halitosis and all of that and marriage? Is that
(02:57):
return on your investment you think? I don't think you're
really ready to marry this man anyway. If you were,
you wouldn't have messed around with your co worker for
no reason at all. I mean, you throw it out
there so casually. So here's the backstory. I messed around, okay, really,
and then you added your girlfriend into it so you
(03:19):
guys could have a threesome. What was the point of that?
How do you expect your man to recover from that?
If he was considering marrying you, it is over now
Because of that, he doesn't want to marry you. Now
it's over. That's what you gotta get in your head.
It's over, Steve, Damn. I wasn't ready for this letter. Right.
(03:42):
Took a turn, didn't it. Yeah? It was a nice
little letter. I could was feeling fun. Then all of
a sudden, I don't like a no mo. You know,
just a lady. I don't know what you want me
and Shirley to do. Been dating a man for four years.
Now let me show you how I was reading a letter.
So you can understand you recently asked a man to
marry you, because time is of the essence right now.
He told you when you met that you could be
(04:04):
his wife, and you took it to heart, and you
started overlooking a lot of stuff just to make our
relationship work. First thing you did. I usually wouldn't date
and overweight man. So now fat boy had opened up
the whole conversation with oh, I love you, you will
be my wife. He got to come out the gate
with both barrels blazing. He got to come out the gate.
(04:27):
I want to marry you. I want a family, I
want kids. I take care of you. Ain't got a
warant for nothing. I love you or your mind forever.
Is that okay? So he knew he had to come
out with it because it's ass is fat. Now next problem,
definitely wouldn't date a man with holotosis. See holotosis is
(04:48):
different than bad brother. See if you got bad breath,
that's just a day. When somebody says you have holotosis,
they are signing on medical term to what is an
ongoing occurrence. That means every time you open your damn mouth,
(05:08):
here comes something out of it. Now I know for
a fact this is something he eaten and a combination.
I know for a fact that's where the hellas came from. Yeah,
that's fun. Then I invested in him and cooked for him,
worked out with him, and helped him pay for his
(05:30):
dental work. Nah is deeper. Now we got holes and
cavities in. Stuff is hiding in the cavities in down
there turning into something else. So he opening off his
mouth and sound like a waste management area. So he
(05:52):
don't know his mouth. You don't know what's coming out,
but it's deadly though. It is deadly, and he fat.
So now he wheezing. I say that people that breathe
like that. You ever heard somebody breathe like that? Yeah? Yeah,
(06:18):
one more time, One more time. You'd be saying, is
you sleep like the sleep dogs? You sleep? But he'd
be wide awake, be reading texts? All right, just stopped up?
What is? What is wrong? Dog? Is you got de
(06:39):
hold on? We'll be back with part two of Steve's
response and his breathing at twenty three minutes to have
to be our Today's Strawberry Letters. Subject, I just can't
do this. All right, we'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening show, are you still breathing? Let's
recast Steve the Strawberry Letter for today, subject I just
(07:02):
can't do this? Okay. Lady dating this fat boy for
four years and she don't know him to date fat men.
But he came out to gate and said he wanted
to marry her. That was intriguing and she wants to
hold him to it. But he got holotosa. She say.
Holotosas is a level up from bad breath, bad breathas
You just got caught out there one day? You know
(07:23):
what happens to us? All I guess, But if you
have if they've assigned a medical condition to it. It
starts saying you have halotosa. That means every time they
see you, you open your mouth, garbage, hot garbage come
out your damn mouth. Okay, so now we went over that.
(07:44):
Now she helped him pay his bills, She cooked for him,
worked out with him, and helped him pay for his
dental work. Now he got to get work done. Teeth
moved around, shifting on him and all this hell. Now,
even after he gained most of his weight back, she
fat boy was not committed to this program. You took
(08:04):
him down too fast, she said, even after he gave
most of his weight back. I was patient with it.
I wouldn't say I'm perfect, because you know she got
some flaws too, right, But I'm too good for him.
If I were him, I jump at the chance to
marry me. I can cook, so you know, see s
a little thick. I can cook, keep a clean house,
(08:25):
and be adventurous in the bed. Well, he didn't get
the experience that bedroom part till after year after we met. Yeah,
but even when he did see you said something else
and that you adventurous in the bedroom. Now he fat,
fat people ain't that adventurous, you know, all this, all this,
you ain't hit all this. You inn't here with all
(08:46):
this here. I'm just trying to get over here and
get this to get done. You know you're all this,
all this work I'm doing right here. You see me sweating.
I want to stand up today. That says adventurous as
I need to get why you want to stand up
because I'm tired of climbing back out that bed. It's
a lot of stuff. So now you ain't here doing
(09:06):
monkey flips, and he ain't with none of this. Now
you're thinking everything is on her side, and then he
has even told you that you perfect. So I don't
see how one little mistake on my part can make
him not want to marry me. Oh, he would go.
So here's the backstory. She messed around with a coworker
three times. If the best sect she ever had? Why
(09:27):
he was in shape. So it was so good that
you shared it with one of your best girlfriends, She said, girl,
what now y'all over there having a threesol. Then she
went and told your boyfriend fat boy, he gave you
an ultimatum to stop messing around or I lose him.
I had invested too much to let him go. So
(09:48):
I stopped messing around. I cut all ties with my
hating friend. My man and I was working things out,
and I decided to ask him to marry me, to
convince him that I'm all into this relationship. He told me,
I just, I just, I just I just can't do
this one more time, one more time. I listen, I just,
(10:11):
I just, I just can't do this here you all
these people, now, you should up been saying, How can
he say that to me? He can't do it. I've
been holding on and hoping for a husband for four years.
I'm not investing this type of time into anybody else.
So this has to work. How do I convince this
man to be my husband? You're not, You're not, You're not.
(10:32):
It's over with a couple of things. First of all,
you do threesomes. You do threesomes. Now that's hard on
the fat man because now he gotta watch everybody here.
He don't know if you're looking at him or her.
Now he just he on point. He can't even eat
his dinner. Who wore he looking at? Well? Who's she
(10:53):
looking at? Who? Looking over here? He looking over here?
Why is they looking over here? Why is all these
people looking you know here. Have you ever met her too?
You know her too? Have you seen him before? Where
was y'all that together? Y'all probably had another threesomes. He
can't even meet his food. He probably losing weight right
now because he at the restaurant looking at everybody, watching you,
(11:15):
trying to figure out which one you want, because once
you do threesomes, you wants everybody. She's one thing for
a man to have to watch out for another man,
But when you got to watch out for the men
and the women, the waiters, the matre d the owner
of the club, the uber driver, it's just too damn much.
The people in that passing our mits in the bathroom,
(11:35):
the shoe shine man, the valet. Who you want? They
all in him? Your ex, my ex, they exs what
you want? The pass of the pass of wife. Wasn't
we're in there for you. You're all in the tenor section,
soprano section. You see me without tones, bad tones? What's
going on in him? It's too much, It's too much,
(11:58):
It's over, he said, I just can't do this. Listen
to me. Judge Lynn tolda told me the best advice
I've ever heard on my show. One day she said,
don't let him man have to tell you twice he
don't want you. I've told y'all this, Don't let him
man have to tell you twice he don't want you.
(12:19):
He watching too much, So let his fat ass, bad
breath having land go a head on. He ain't gonna
get nobody else here that breathing or queezing and stuff.
And the whole time he was telling you, baby, I'm sorry,
I was seeing this other man. Who who was he? Who?
(12:43):
Who was he doing that? I can't do? What? What
was she in that doing? Folk too? What she? All? Right? Listen?
Post your comments on hold on, Baby, hand me my
of a coffee. Strawberry Letter at stefort, Instagram and Facebook.
(13:06):
Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Open up
in forty six minutes after the hour, we'll have a
sports talk with Junior. Right after this. You're listening to
the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
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