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It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you nephew. Subject. I knew it was too good
to be true. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm thirty three years old,
and I've been dating this great guy that a friend
introduced me too. He's thirty eight years old, never been married,
and no children. He looks good, smells good, and he
has a good job. We started dating a month ago
when he invited me to his class reunion recently. They
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had our d'ouvres and drinks, and he fixed us a
plate of food to share. He was killing these tuna
sandwiches that were cut into tiny triangles, and I told
him and didn't smell.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Right to me.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Three hours later, he excused himself to go to the
bathroom and he was gone for thirty minutes. He texted
me and said to meet him at his car, and
he asked me to drive him home. He went straight
to the bathroom. When we got to his house, I
did not go to the bathroom door to check on him.
He finally came out of the bathroom and said he
was going to take a shower and get into bed.
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He asked me if I would stay with him. I
said no, and I suggested that he go to the
er if he's that much in pain. I got in
an uber and I went home. The next day, I
called to check on him and he said he didn't
want to talk to me ever again, since I didn't
seem to care that he was sick the night before.
He said, I don't know how to take care of
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a man. What more could I have done for him
that night? Do I try to work things out with
him or let him go? There's really nothing to work out.
I mean, you both showed who you really are. That's
when you get to see the real character, the true
character of a person, like in trying times like these,
if he's sick or if something happened to you, then
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you get to see so you saw, okay, he was
sick with what sounded like food poisoning. You drove him
home after he asked you. He said after he got
home that he was going to take a shower and
go to bed, and at that point it was okay
that you went home. You obviously didn't feel comfortable staying there.
I mean, you guys have only been dating for a month.
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At the reunion, you told him the tuna sandwiches didn't
smell right. He didn't listen. He scarfed them down anyway.
You also suggested that he go to the er if
he was in that much pain. He didn't respond to
that either, and you didn't offer to take him. You
called the next morning to check on him, which shows
you do care. You were concerned, But he was mad
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that you didn't stay the night with him, and he
said you didn't know how to take care.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Of a man.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Well, that was insulting. I mean, maybe a glimpse of
what's to come if something else happens between you two,
if you stay in there. So I think it's good
that you guys go your separate ways.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Steve, Wow, you and I differ on this one so much,
so much. This is a sad, sad letter because you know,
she said the subject of the letters, I knew it
was too good to be true. Really, well, ladies, here
we go. Let's just walk down this from the male perspective,
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because I know sometimes you don't like to do that,
but let's just look at this from the male perspective.
That's what I'm gonna do, because I'm trying to find
out in this letter what this dude is wrong at.
I'm struggling, okay, and I'm being real with y'all because
and you'll understand what I'm saying as I take you
through this. You're thirty three years old. You've been dating
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this great guy that a friend introduce you to. He's
thirty eight, never been buried in no children, He looks good,
smells good, he.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Has a good job.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
We started dating a month ago, Okay, So that means
this is that we're about to describe is not a
first date. They started dating a month ago. Now, there's
nothing in this letter that says this woman is going
by the ninety day rule or anything. All we know
is the facts is they've been dating for a month,
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which means they've been out on several occasions. Ain't nobody
gonna take you to the classroom unit the first date.
That ain't that ain't a good look? So okay, here
we go or derbs and drinks. He fixed play of
food for us to share. He was killing these tuna
sandwiches cut into triangles. I told him it didn't smell
right to me. Three hours later, he excused himself to
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go to the bathroom. He was gone for thirty minutes.
He texted me and said to meet him at his car.
He asked me to drive him home. He went straight
to the bathroom when we got to his house. I
did not go to the bathroom door.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
To check on him. Right there.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Okay, let's just make note of that. She didn't even
go to the bathroom door to check on hi. You know, look,
if somebody leaves in the middle of their class reunion
asked you to come to the car and drive them home,
something's wrong. Something is wrong. Number one, You didn't even
go to the bathroom door to check on it. And
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this is you writing the letter. This ain't him accusing
you of nothing. You're telling us what you did and
did not do. So you didn't even go to the
bathroom door to check on him. He finally came out
of the bathroom and said he was going to take
a shower, which means he been sweating pretty hard and
tuna sandwiches was cutting in tuning.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
That tuna was doing this damn thing.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
I've had a bad oystry before when you get hold
of some bad seafood who this boy was in there
eating that tuna, and that tuna was doing what tunah do,
swimming round waves and run it. That's what tuna doing
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the while, That's what it was doing in his stomach.
That sandwich that he had chewed up got back together
and formed an actual tuna and was down in his
stomach cutting up all right now. He finally came out
the bathroom, said he was gonna take shower and get
in the bed. He asked me if I would stay
with him. I said no, and I suggest that he
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go to the er if he was in that much pain.
I get in the uber and I went home. Damn,
the dude is in enough pain. He he ain't trying
to trap you into stay in. Ah, girl, are.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
You glue gun? Hang on, yeah, I'll have part two
of Steve's response coming up. At twenty three minutes after
the hour Today's Strawberry letter, subject I knew it was too.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Good to be true.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
hard Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap
today's Strawberry letter. The subject I knew it was too
good to be true.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
I knew it now, Like I said earlier, if you
weren't here, Shirley, and I's response is quite different because,
of course I have a different perspective, because it's the
male perspective. Women don't get to have that perspective. Now,
this woman says in this letter, I knew it was
too good to be true. She's thirty three. She met
a man through some friends who's thirty eight. Great guy,
she says it off. Now this is this woman writing
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this letter. Great guy, look good, smell good, got a
good job. They've been dating for a month. He invites
her to the class reunion. They get it to class reunion.
Now this man right here that invited this woman to
the class reunion. He if a dude, don't care about you.
He not taking you to the class reunion. This is
the flex moment. So now he going, hey, man, look
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what I got. This is after how many years this
for that's about the twenty year reunion.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
You at the twenty year you he thirty eight. He
had his twenty year reunion.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Graduated when he was eighteen, and he going, hey, hey,
look what iut' find? Been married, I ain't got no kids, man,
Look what I found. Ladies, take note of that. He
took you to a very important moment right here. All
after this is just meeting the mama. If you can
meet the mama after this, you're pretty much locked in.
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Been dating for a month. He takes you to the
class for you. He's some tuna sandwiches. You told him
wasn't good. He hard hited he ain't your tuna sandwiches.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Anyway.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
He ended up going to the bathroom for thirty minutes.
Then he texted you and said meet him at the car.
Something happened in a bathroom. Traumatic traumatic. Not only could
you meet me at the car? Can you dry this
damn car home? I'm in pain? He'd get to the house.
He go in the bathroom for thirty minutes, He come out,
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told up, did he look disshovel?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Probably deep? And then he went straight to the bathroom.
Got to the house.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Uh you didn't she said, I didn't go to the
bathroom though, to check on it.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Okay? Cool.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
He finally came out of the bathroom, said he was
gonna take a shower and get in the bed. He
asked me if I would stay with him. I said no,
and I suggested he go to the er if he's
in that much pain. Why didn't you stay with the man?
He didn't ask you to sleep with him. You said,
if he is so much pain, go to the er.
You didn't offer to take him to the er. You
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didn't offer to stay with him. Where the soup at,
where the cracker is at, where that's at. You know
that's all you had to do. Hey, look, I'll stay
in here on the couch with you. Let me check
on you, make sure you're okay. That's all the man.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Won't you gotta cook?
Speaker 2 (09:31):
See right here, you.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Ain't cooking crack soup coming a can? That ain't cooking?
Lord a mercy chusetts help her in the kitchen. It's
heating up some soup. Who can make soup?
Speaker 1 (09:50):
No man?
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Anyway, I got in an uber and I went home.
So that means he picked her up, took her to
what's the event. She drove his car to the house.
She got in the uber and went home. The next
day I called a check on him. He said, he
ain't even want to talk to me ever again, since
I didn't seem to care that he was sick the
night before. He said, I don't know how to take
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care of a man, and I have news for you.
You don't because it just would have been a little
thoughtful thing to say, hey, let me stay with you
at least till you fall asleep and feel better. Then
you could have left home. Oh no, I'm not staying
in him. He wasn't trying to trick you and get
you into the bed. The man was obviously sick. He'd
have left his class reunion. It wasn't a trap to
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get you to the house. Something was seriously wrong with
this man, and you didn't think enough of him, and he.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Was testing you.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
He was testing you to see now, Shirley said, y'all
need to break up because both of you showed who
you really were. Well, yeah, he did. He showed that
he was looking for somebody to care for him. You
decided to show him. And then Shirley said, you find
out in moments like this who people really are, and
he did. He found out exactly who you really was.
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He was sick and didn't feel well, and you bounced
and he told you right, you don't know how to
treat him man. And he thought he had something too.
He should have wrote this letter and said it was
too good to be true, because he thought you would
at least just care about it. That's all you had
to do. He didn't say, Look, sleep with me, has
sex with me. I feel better in the morning. Now
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I'm sick. I'm gonna take a shower, get in his bed.
Would you stay with me? No, I'm getting the ober,
heat the man up, some soup, gettinghim some crackers, where
a pepto bismol. You ain't did nothing? What more could
I have done for him that night? It's called comfort.
It's called concern. It's the thing that I teach all
married men. Show concern. They just want to know that
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you're listening, man, that all time, want you to fix nothing.
I used to think they wanted to fix, so I
had suggestion. They don't even want to fix. Sometimes they
just want to verbalize it. That's that's how they work
stuff through. They talk it out. So, bruh, just show concern.
What you had opportunity to do, young lady was show
concern and you didn't do I try to work things
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out with him or let him go? What you're finn
to do? You know what you're finn to let go?
These are your words. Now read your letter. A great
guy that a friend introduced me to. He's thirty eight
years old, never been married, no children, He looks good,
smells good, and he has a good job. Okay, now
you're gonna let him go and go get what.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Are you? Are? You? Are? You are? Are? You? Are
you ignorant? What? What is it? What is it?
Speaker 3 (12:38):
You're gonna let him go because you missed an opportunity
to learn how to treat a man, didn't That probably
why you ain't got nobody post your comments because you
don't know how to treat a man.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
No, you probably don't deserve to do.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Get out of there. You don't have to cook. Post
your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey FM, and.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
You and Shirley can move in together.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
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