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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVIFM dot com click
submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now. You never know. It could
be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle loven, hold on tight. We
got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you. Nephew's subject I know my man's hands. Here's
Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty six year old married woman
and my husband is thirty eight. I'm pregnant with my
second child, and I'm too far along to travel, so
my husband went to his baby sister's wedding without me.
He's from Detroit and his ex wife and twelve year
old son live there. When we first met, he would
(00:49):
go to Detroit to visit with his son, and he
would stay at his old home where his ex wife
still lives. He tried to rationalize it by saying he
still pays for the house, so he's not going to
go to Detroit and pay for a hotel room. After
I broke up with him for doing it, he started
either staying in a hotel or he would stay with
his cousin. Going back and forth to Detroit has always
(01:11):
been an issue with me because he gets ghost when
he's there. He tells me that it's because he puts
his phone down so he can be present and in
the moment with his son. But I think he's over
there with his ex wife playing house. When I noticed
I was nagging him about it, I stopped mentioning it.
Now when he is there, if he ignores my calls,
(01:32):
I ignore his. I hate playing games at this age,
but I have to get his attention somehow. So back
to the topic at hand. My husband went to Detroit
for his sister's wedding and he told me that his
ex wife was invited. I cannot argue with that because
she will be linked to the family forever through their son.
I saw photos days after the wedding and his ex
(01:53):
wife was in a lot of pictures with the family.
One picture was taken of her back and there was
a hand on her lower back right at her. But
it was my husband's right hand. He can deny it
all he wants, that's right. I know my man's hands.
I'm going crazy thinking he was with his ex all weekend.
(02:16):
Is it not his responsibility to make me think otherwise? No, No,
I don't think it's his responsibility to do that. You
saw what you saw. You saw your husband's hand on
her lower back. Don't leave it up to him to
try to make you think you saw something other than
what you saw. You saw it with your own eyes
(02:37):
and you cannot unsee it. Where there's smoke, there's fire,
and his hand on her lower back, right at her
butt as you say, means they're still very close and
familiar with each other. Kid aside, Yes, he could very
well have been with her this weekend in Detroit. Of
course he's going to deny it. I mean, what else
is he going to say? You busted him? What is
(03:00):
he gonna say it wasn't his hand. You definitely should
know your husband's hand.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
And he's not gonna tell you the truth, no chance
of that. You already know what's up anyway. Then you
say you left him early on in your relationship because
of his situation with her, all of this getting ghost
when he's in Detroit, putting his phone down, not answering
when you call all that sounds very suspect to me.
Spending time with his son does not require him to
(03:26):
spend time with his baby mama.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
To period, Steve, it's gonna be a tough one. Yeah,
wiggle out.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Of this one.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
I'm already a pop large knoophole. I'm about to die
for you.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
What sounds.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Me and yeah, would be in some situation here. Whenever
you meet a man or woman, know that there comes
a history with these people. Nobody is history free. Everybody
has a present. However, excuse me, everybody has a past.
That's how you get to the present. You need a
small P to become the big pe past president. And
(04:20):
what's the most important thing, the big P present. But you'
all like to bring up the past. So now what
we got to do is cover the past, shade the past,
make it appear to be something that it wasn't so
we can get on with the present. See, I'm doing
(04:41):
the same thing this woman did in this letter, because
it took her a long time to get down to
the crux of this letter. But she thought she was
in court, so she was presenting her case. She's thirty six,
her husband thirty eight. She's pregnant with her second child,
so she can't travel. So your husband went to his
baby sister's wedding without me. Well he is his baby sister,
(05:03):
so we don't have a problem now. But this is
all to set us up for her side of the story.
He's from Detroit. His ex wife and twelve year old
son lived there. He has a past. They were married,
they had a child, they were together. Now when we
(05:27):
first met, he'd go to Detroit to visit his son,
and he'd stay at his old home where's ex wife
still lives. He tried to rationalize it by saying he
still pay for the house. He ain't gonna go to
Detroit and pay for a hotel room. Rival brother, nice things,
but you know that one ain't gonna last. That one
ain't gonna last. Now I must tell you that that
(05:48):
type of thinking is not gonna last.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
I can't help you with this one. Dog.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
I ain't over here. I'm going to Detroit. I'm paying
for this har I'm to pay for a house and
the hotel, Yes you will. So you brought up with
him for doing it. He started either staying in the
hotel or to stay at his cousin's house.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
And that's the way you get your way. Lady.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I commend you for that. I'm on your side. Going
back to forth. Detroit's always been an issue with me
because he gets ghosts when he's there. You man about
to hold Detroit situation anyway. The man got to go
see his son. We get beat up all the time
for not taking care of our kids. Then when we
go and be a quality father, somebody got a problem
with that part too. Now you can't have your cake
(06:30):
and eat it too. We come back. We'll just talk
about what you actually gonna eat though, okay, because they
ain't gonna be cake.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
All right, all right, hold that thought, Steve. Coming up
at twenty three minutes after the hour, we will recapped
today's strawberry letter and have more of your response. The
subject is I know my man's hands. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening hard morning show.
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:59):
The subject is I know my man's hands.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Well, lady, you set up this letter to get to
this long park. We waited till the end of this letter.
You told us because you were staying your case that
you thirty six thirty eight, you're having your second child.
I don't know if that's with him. I'm pregnant with
my second child and I wasn't able to travel. I'm
probably assuming as y'all's two children or you had one before,
(07:26):
but this one is his for sure, doesn't matter.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
He's from Detroit.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
His ex wife and twelve year old son lived there.
Then when he first met, y'all would go back and
forth to Detroit, and he would stay at his old
home where his ex still lives, and he tried to
rationalize that he ain't paying for a house at the
hotel when he goes to Detroit. You got on him
about it, and you broke up with him for doing it.
(07:50):
So he either stays at a hotel or with his cousin. Now, bravo, lady,
you did the right thing. Put your foot down. Stop that.
It's hard for me to fix that one too. Bruhs cussin.
I'm not gonna be able to help you with this one.
Right here, you can't stay at the moment house and
give you you devil ain't gonna fly. So anyway, going
(08:15):
back and forth Detroit's always been an issue because he
gets ghost when he's down, Ah, he tells me, is
because he puts his phone down so he can be
present and in the moment.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
With his son. Ain't God good? Now, Daddy, listen to me.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
If your son twelve and he don't know that the
phone gonna ring sometime, we need to turn him on
to technology because he at that age where y'all probably
considering getting him my phone anyway, So you're putting your
phone down so you can be present. Then you say,
but I think he over there with his ex wife
playing house. Then you said, what I know. I was
(09:00):
nagging him about it. I stopped mentioning it. So when
he's there, he ignores my call, ignore.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
The wife's calls.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Help him.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Boy, I can't. I can't help you with this right here.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Ignore the wife's calls. Bruh. You have got to find
a way to answer that phone and say, baby, were
in the movies? Now, baby, I'm putting him to sleep.
But he twelve, so that ain't gonna work. I don't
know you the reading bedtime, Stuard. You got to do something.
(09:37):
But you cannot ignore her cause you gotta pick that
phone up and say something else. Though you cannot ignore
your wife call I can't help you with him.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
So if he.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Ignores my cause I ignore his. Well, he probably said
hallelujah to that. I called your baby. You ain't answer.
That's the release. So you stupid, you're giving him more
free time. Now, you stupid. That's a dumb move, lady.
Stop doing that, stopping knowing he's gonna pick him up
and just say hello, where you being?
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Are you ready to talk? Now?
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Oh? I guess, I guess it's convenient for me now
while I'm carrying your baby. Oh, it's a whole lot
of stuff you can say when you picked that phone
up to make him wann a vomited. My husband went
to Detroit for his sister's wedding and he told me
his ex wife was invited. Oh, first of all, let
me tell you this, she said, I hate playing games
at this age, but I have to get his attention somehow.
(10:32):
So back to the topic at him. We are ninety
percent through with the letter before she gets to this part.
My husband went to Detroit for a sister's wedding. He
told me his ex wife was invited. I cannot argue
with that because she is linked to the family forever
through the sun Okay, got that. I saw photos today
after the wedding. His ex wife was in a lot
of pics with the family. Yeah, she was there. You
(10:53):
would have been in picks too, but you couldn't make
it because you was pregnant.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Right. One picture was taken.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Of her back, and that was a on her lower back,
right at her butt. It was my husband's hand. He
can deny it all he wants. I know my man's hands.
I'm going crazy thinking he was with his ex all weekend.
It is it not his responsibility to make me think otherwise. Yes,
(11:19):
it is his responsibility to make you think otherwise. And
he did just that. He said, that is not my hand,
you says, he can deny it all he wants. I
know my man's head. That is not my head. You
(11:39):
know how many people got this head right here?
Speaker 2 (11:42):
You just you, the whole lot.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
Of people got hair looked like mine. Did you see
my face back there.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
On her back, on her butt?
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Did you see my wedding ring on her back? Because
I always wear my wedding ring.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Huh. Look how small that.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Man's hands is. I look at my hands. See the
picture that deception? Pictures are never as clear as that.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
It is the size.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
Of the man's hand. That what I would win this argument.
And I will make a refer to a case in
the past. If it doesn't fit, you must week. That
is not my hand. It is the wrong side. Oh,
it looked like my hand, But I put my hand
up against that picture, which will be way bigger, and
(12:37):
I'll go right there, look at that, Look at the
hand side. Let me take my hand and put it
on your lower back.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
All right? Leave your comments.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
That is not my hand. Is it his responsibility to
make me think otherwise? Yes? And he did it. He
doesn't know.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Leave your comments on Today's on Instagram at Steve Harvey
sm and check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast
on the Free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good.
Coming up next is the Nephew and for Junior and
sports talk. Right after this, you're listening to Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, works, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVIFM dot com click
submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now. You never know. It could
be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle loven, hold on tight. We
got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you. Nephew's subject I know my man's hands. Here's
Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty six year old married woman
and my husband is thirty eight. I'm pregnant with my
second child, and I'm too far along to travel, so
my husband went to his baby sister's wedding without me.
He's from Detroit and his ex wife and twelve year
old son live there. When we first met, he would
(00:49):
go to Detroit to visit with his son, and he
would stay at his old home where his ex wife
still lives. He tried to rationalize it by saying he
still pays for the house, so he's not going to
go to Detroit and pay for a hotel room. After
I broke up with him for doing it, he started
either staying in a hotel or he would stay with
his cousin. Going back and forth to Detroit has always
(01:11):
been an issue with me because he gets ghost when
he's there. He tells me that it's because he puts
his phone down so he can be present and in
the moment with his son. But I think he's over
there with his ex wife playing house. When I noticed
I was nagging him about it, I stopped mentioning it.
Now when he is there, if he ignores my calls,
(01:32):
I ignore his. I hate playing games at this age,
but I have to get his attention somehow. So back
to the topic at hand. My husband went to Detroit
for his sister's wedding and he told me that his
ex wife was invited. I cannot argue with that because
she will be linked to the family forever through their son.
I saw photos days after the wedding and his ex
(01:53):
wife was in a lot of pictures with the family.
One picture was taken of her back and there was
a hand on her lower back right at her. But
it was my husband's right hand. He can deny it
all he wants, that's right. I know my man's hands.
I'm going crazy thinking he was with his ex all weekend.
(02:16):
Is it not his responsibility to make me think otherwise? No, No,
I don't think it's his responsibility to do that. You
saw what you saw. You saw your husband's hand on
her lower back. Don't leave it up to him to
try to make you think you saw something other than
what you saw. You saw it with your own eyes
(02:37):
and you cannot unsee it. Where there's smoke, there's fire,
and his hand on her lower back, right at her
butt as you say, means they're still very close and
familiar with each other. Kid aside, Yes, he could very
well have been with her this weekend in Detroit. Of
course he's going to deny it. I mean, what else
is he going to say? You busted him? What is
(03:00):
he gonna say it wasn't his hand. You definitely should
know your husband's hand.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
And he's not gonna tell you the truth, no chance
of that. You already know what's up anyway. Then you
say you left him early on in your relationship because
of his situation with her, all of this getting ghost
when he's in Detroit, putting his phone down, not answering
when you call all that sounds very suspect to me.
Spending time with his son does not require him to
(03:26):
spend time with his baby mama.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
To period, Steve, it's gonna be a tough one. Yeah,
wiggle out.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Of this one.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
I'm already a pop large knoophole. I'm about to die
for you.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
What sounds.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Me and yeah, would be in some situation here. Whenever
you meet a man or woman, know that there comes
a history with these people. Nobody is history free. Everybody
has a present. However, excuse me, everybody has a past.
That's how you get to the present. You need a
small P to become the big pe past president. And
(04:20):
what's the most important thing, the big P present. But you'
all like to bring up the past. So now what
we got to do is cover the past, shade the past,
make it appear to be something that it wasn't so
we can get on with the present. See, I'm doing
(04:41):
the same thing this woman did in this letter, because
it took her a long time to get down to
the crux of this letter. But she thought she was
in court, so she was presenting her case. She's thirty six,
her husband thirty eight. She's pregnant with her second child,
so she can't travel. So your husband went to his
baby sister's wedding without me. Well he is his baby sister,
(05:03):
so we don't have a problem now. But this is
all to set us up for her side of the story.
He's from Detroit. His ex wife and twelve year old
son lived there. He has a past. They were married,
they had a child, they were together. Now when we
(05:27):
first met, he'd go to Detroit to visit his son,
and he'd stay at his old home where's ex wife
still lives. He tried to rationalize it by saying he
still pay for the house. He ain't gonna go to
Detroit and pay for a hotel room. Rival brother, nice things,
but you know that one ain't gonna last. That one
ain't gonna last. Now I must tell you that that
(05:48):
type of thinking is not gonna last.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
I can't help you with this one. Dog.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
I ain't over here. I'm going to Detroit. I'm paying
for this har I'm to pay for a house and
the hotel, Yes you will. So you brought up with
him for doing it. He started either staying in the
hotel or to stay at his cousin's house.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
And that's the way you get your way. Lady.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I commend you for that. I'm on your side. Going
back to forth. Detroit's always been an issue with me
because he gets ghosts when he's there. You man about
to hold Detroit situation anyway. The man got to go
see his son. We get beat up all the time
for not taking care of our kids. Then when we
go and be a quality father, somebody got a problem
with that part too. Now you can't have your cake
(06:30):
and eat it too. We come back. We'll just talk
about what you actually gonna eat though, okay, because they
ain't gonna be cake.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
All right, all right, hold that thought, Steve. Coming up
at twenty three minutes after the hour, we will recapped
today's strawberry letter and have more of your response. The
subject is I know my man's hands. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening hard morning show.
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:59):
The subject is I know my man's hands.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Well, lady, you set up this letter to get to
this long park. We waited till the end of this letter.
You told us because you were staying your case that
you thirty six thirty eight, you're having your second child.
I don't know if that's with him. I'm pregnant with
my second child and I wasn't able to travel. I'm
probably assuming as y'all's two children or you had one before,
(07:26):
but this one is his for sure, doesn't matter.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
He's from Detroit.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
His ex wife and twelve year old son lived there.
Then when he first met, y'all would go back and
forth to Detroit, and he would stay at his old
home where his ex still lives, and he tried to
rationalize that he ain't paying for a house at the
hotel when he goes to Detroit. You got on him
about it, and you broke up with him for doing it.
(07:50):
So he either stays at a hotel or with his cousin. Now, bravo, lady,
you did the right thing. Put your foot down. Stop that.
It's hard for me to fix that one too. Bruhs cussin.
I'm not gonna be able to help you with this one.
Right here, you can't stay at the moment house and
give you you devil ain't gonna fly. So anyway, going
(08:15):
back and forth Detroit's always been an issue because he
gets ghost when he's down, Ah, he tells me, is
because he puts his phone down so he can be
present and in the moment.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
With his son. Ain't God good? Now, Daddy, listen to me.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
If your son twelve and he don't know that the
phone gonna ring sometime, we need to turn him on
to technology because he at that age where y'all probably
considering getting him my phone anyway, So you're putting your
phone down so you can be present. Then you say,
but I think he over there with his ex wife
playing house. Then you said, what I know. I was
(09:00):
nagging him about it. I stopped mentioning it. So when
he's there, he ignores my call, ignore.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
The wife's calls.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Help him.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Boy, I can't. I can't help you with this right here.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Ignore the wife's calls. Bruh. You have got to find
a way to answer that phone and say, baby, were
in the movies? Now, baby, I'm putting him to sleep.
But he twelve, so that ain't gonna work. I don't
know you the reading bedtime, Stuard. You got to do something.
(09:37):
But you cannot ignore her cause you gotta pick that
phone up and say something else. Though you cannot ignore
your wife call I can't help you with him.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
So if he.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Ignores my cause I ignore his. Well, he probably said
hallelujah to that. I called your baby. You ain't answer.
That's the release. So you stupid, you're giving him more
free time. Now, you stupid. That's a dumb move, lady.
Stop doing that, stopping knowing he's gonna pick him up
and just say hello, where you being?
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Are you ready to talk? Now?
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Oh? I guess, I guess it's convenient for me now
while I'm carrying your baby. Oh, it's a whole lot
of stuff you can say when you picked that phone
up to make him wann a vomited. My husband went
to Detroit for his sister's wedding and he told me
his ex wife was invited. Oh, first of all, let
me tell you this, she said, I hate playing games
at this age, but I have to get his attention somehow.
(10:32):
So back to the topic at him. We are ninety
percent through with the letter before she gets to this part.
My husband went to Detroit for a sister's wedding. He
told me his ex wife was invited. I cannot argue
with that because she is linked to the family forever
through the sun Okay, got that. I saw photos today
after the wedding. His ex wife was in a lot
of pics with the family. Yeah, she was there. You
(10:53):
would have been in picks too, but you couldn't make
it because you was pregnant.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Right. One picture was taken.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Of her back, and that was a on her lower back,
right at her butt. It was my husband's hand. He
can deny it all he wants. I know my man's hands.
I'm going crazy thinking he was with his ex all weekend.
It is it not his responsibility to make me think otherwise. Yes,
(11:19):
it is his responsibility to make you think otherwise. And
he did just that. He said, that is not my hand,
you says, he can deny it all he wants. I
know my man's head. That is not my head. You
(11:39):
know how many people got this head right here?
Speaker 2 (11:42):
You just you, the whole lot.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
Of people got hair looked like mine. Did you see
my face back there.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
On her back, on her butt?
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Did you see my wedding ring on her back? Because
I always wear my wedding ring.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Huh. Look how small that.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Man's hands is. I look at my hands. See the
picture that deception? Pictures are never as clear as that.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
It is the size.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
Of the man's hand. That what I would win this argument.
And I will make a refer to a case in
the past. If it doesn't fit, you must week. That
is not my hand. It is the wrong side. Oh,
it looked like my hand, But I put my hand
up against that picture, which will be way bigger, and
(12:37):
I'll go right there, look at that, Look at the
hand side. Let me take my hand and put it
on your lower back.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
All right? Leave your comments.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
That is not my hand. Is it his responsibility to
make me think otherwise? Yes? And he did it. He
doesn't know.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Leave your comments on Today's on Instagram at Steve Harvey
sm and check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast
on the Free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good.
Coming up next is the Nephew and for Junior and
sports talk. Right after this, you're listening to Harvey Morning Show.
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