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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:13):
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Speaker 1 (00:15):
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Speaker 3 (00:21):
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We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 2 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
I love both of them, Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband
was ear hustling and heard me tell my sister I
love both of them. I was telling her that I've
been talking to an old friend and I said that
I loved him. My sister said it's not possible to
love another man if I'm married. We went back and
forth about it, and I truly believe I'm right. My

(00:49):
husband only heard me saying that I love another man
and him. What he didn't hear was that I have
love for my friend, but I'm not in love with him.
My sister's messy behind and came over a day later
and we got into a heated discussion with my husband
she sided with him and said that it goes against
everything marriage stands for for me to say that I

(01:10):
love my friend because he's a man. The fact that
she is even joining forces with my husband against me
is weird to me. I told my husband that he
should never go against me and take her side. He said,
what's right is right, and I'm wrong. I don't see
why it is so hard for him to understand. He said,
if that's the case, then he loves my sister. That

(01:30):
caught me by surprise, and I had to pause for
a second because it came out of left field and
it was a terrible example.

Speaker 2 (01:38):
The whole thing is stupid.

Speaker 1 (01:40):
And now my husband said he doesn't want me to
see my friend during the holidays while he's in town.
My sister totally agrees with my husband, and I'm trying
to figure out why she cares to settle the debate.
Can a married lady love a platonic male friend or
should a woman cut all of her male friends out
of her life just because because her husband tells her

(02:01):
to do that?

Speaker 2 (02:03):
To do it?

Speaker 1 (02:03):
Okay, well, you know we talk about this a lot
on the show. If you're female having male friends and
a male having female friends. It just doesn't go with marriage.
You know, something can happen, it just can. You know,
feelings can happen. You know, it doesn't always happen like that,
but there's the chance that it can.

Speaker 2 (02:21):
You know.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
I don't like the fact that your sister's all up
in your business. She shouldn't be, but I mean, in
this instant, she's you know, she's kind of right. You're
loving this man, and you're loving your husband. I mean,
I know we're supposed to love everybody. You know, that's
morally correct and all of that. Love everyone, But you
didn't say you were in love with him. You didn't
say you wanted to sleep with him, you didn't say

(02:44):
any of that. But your mistake was just saying it
to your messy sister, like you said, who took it
the wrong way. She caused somewhat of a mess between
you and your husband and your marriage. You should have
kept that to yourself. The fact that you say you
love this other and just taking it to the grade.
And I do understand your husband feeling some kind of

(03:05):
way about this.

Speaker 2 (03:06):
That's a blow to his ego.

Speaker 1 (03:08):
No man wants to hear his wife saying they love
another man, I don't care what it is or what
you mean by it. How else was he supposed to
take that? So no, put your marriage first and your
husband's feelings first, and don't agree to see this man
for the holidays. The issue is just too hot right
now in your house and everything. Your friend will have

(03:31):
to understand. And please find out what's going on with
your sister, who just really needs to mind her own business, Steve, I.

Speaker 4 (03:38):
Love both of them, This lady in this letter, I'm
sorry to tell you, but is.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong.

Speaker 3 (03:48):
On all fronts.

Speaker 4 (03:51):
See the fact that what he heard is what he
heard is the problem, and he didn't just hear it.

Speaker 3 (03:59):
You said.

Speaker 4 (04:01):
Now, I don't know how you think it's supposed to
shape out, and I don't know how you trying to
shape it, But let me tell you what's really going
on in his mind. My husband was ear hustling, well,
I mean he wasn't ill you was talking to damn
loud in front of him, all around the corner whatever,
and heard me tell my sister I love both of them.

(04:23):
I was telling her that I had been talking to
an old friend and I said I loved him. My
sister said, it's not possible to love another man.

Speaker 3 (04:30):
Now.

Speaker 4 (04:30):
First of all, I was talking to an old friend
and I told him I love him. Okay, that's bad move.
That's a bad movie. You tell a man you love him,
that's a bad move.

Speaker 3 (04:41):
What you want? What you thought? He heard?

Speaker 4 (04:46):
He heard chance, opportunity, potential sex. That's what he heard.
I loved him, that's what he heard. Okay, okay, because
he a man, I don't know what y'all be thinking.

Speaker 3 (05:00):
Listen to me.

Speaker 4 (05:01):
There is not a man that don't think about sex
every single.

Speaker 3 (05:05):
Day several time. Okay, y'all.

Speaker 4 (05:09):
Yo, man, my sister said it's not possible to love
another man if I'm married. Well, that's not true. That
that's not true cause you just said you did, so
obviously that ain't true. We went back and forth about it,
and I truly believe I'm right. Well, okay, here we go,

(05:29):
Here we go, here we go. Now, you believe you right?
So now what you want us to do? My husband
only heard me saying that I love a man and him.
What he didn't hear was I have love for my friend,
but I'm not in love with him.

Speaker 3 (05:43):
Girl. Bye.

Speaker 4 (05:46):
The fact that your husband heard you say you love
another man. He ain't got to hear nothing else.

Speaker 2 (05:51):
So what again? What's going through his mind?

Speaker 1 (05:53):
When he heard her say that.

Speaker 4 (05:55):
She loves it? She loved this other dude. That's what
he heard, because that's what she said. I love both
of them. Now she he going, damn here, I'm footing
all the bills. I'm in here and ask you to
marry you. I'm your husband, we got a family together,
we trying to make it work. And you send him
be talking about you love him too? How the hell

(06:16):
you love him? And you you sent up in here
married to me? You have an instant problem.

Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yepd wrong for that, all right? She all wrong?

Speaker 3 (06:24):
She wrong in this lad. It ain't no fixing this
for her. You're in trouble. I'll leave.

Speaker 4 (06:33):
Outy five thousand divorce nobody.

Speaker 2 (06:36):
Keep it right there, keep it right there, like Lucas
says said it.

Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll have part two of your response, Steve coming up
at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter,
subject I love both of them. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Morning show, all right,
Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. Subject is
I love both of them.

Speaker 4 (07:01):
Your husband overheard you having a conversation talking to your sister,
and you said you love both of them, meaning you
love your husband and this friend that you have been
talking to. Your sister told you that it's not possible
to love another man if I'm married. Well, that ain't true,
because you just said it. We went back and forth

(07:21):
about it, and I truly believe I'm right. Okay, all right,
so you're right. Okay, now, okay, now take your right
self on to the next part. My husband only heard
me saying that I love another man and him. What
he didn't hear was that I have love for my friend,
but I'm in love with him. That don't make no
damn difference. If I hear you say you love another man, okay,

(07:44):
gone over that in sure, hope he'd love you because
you fit to get over there with him. My sister,
messing behind, came over a day later. We got into
a heated discussion with my husband. She sided with him.
She told you that on the beginning, what's the surprise,
and said it goes against everything marriage stands for. Well
it do you tripping? If you heard your husband say

(08:08):
to his brother, I love both of them, girl, How
would you feel He couldn't explain that to you.

Speaker 3 (08:16):
I know he couldn't.

Speaker 4 (08:18):
And the fact that she's even joining forces my husband
against me is weird to be.

Speaker 3 (08:24):
I can't believe you think you right in this situation.

Speaker 4 (08:27):
You let your husband here, you say you love another man,
and now you mad at your sister for siding with him.
He not fit to be unmad about this, He not
fit to understand it. I told my husband he should
never go against me and take her side. What how
you trying to get somebody on your side in this?
You told your husband he should never go against you,

(08:50):
You went against him.

Speaker 3 (08:51):
You to want? Bishop Bonner said it best be careful
of people who played the victim in situations that they create.

Speaker 2 (09:02):
Created.

Speaker 4 (09:04):
Now you sit up here telling your husband he should
never go against you, when you the one said you
love another man. He said what was right is right,
and I'm wrong, and he is right about that. I
don't see why it's so hard for him to understand,
because it would be damn near impossible for your ass
to understand if you heard your husband say he loved

(09:26):
you and another woman.

Speaker 3 (09:28):
Where are we at with this?

Speaker 4 (09:30):
What woman is gonna sit through that and go, oh,
I understand what you said. No, hell no, all she
heard was okay, ladies, just listening to the show. You
walk in the room and you hear your man, your boyfriend,
your boyfriend, a dude, you dayton, your fiance, or your

(09:53):
husband on the phone with his brother and say, hey, man,
I love both of them. I love this girl I'm dating,
I love this girl, I'm engaged to you. I love my wife,
and I love.

Speaker 3 (10:05):
This other girl. Mm hmm what who? What? You know what?

Speaker 4 (10:11):
I can't even tell you how that's gonna end up,
And I don't know. Why is it so hard for
him to understand? He said, If that's the case, then
he loves my sister. Well that called me by surprise. See,
he said, okay, cool, all right, let me show you
how it sound. I love your sister.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
M M.

Speaker 3 (10:32):
What e skew? Huh what you say? I love your sister? Why? Why?
Why that's so hard? Does understand? Wait?

Speaker 4 (10:45):
Man, hold wait, well what you my that's my see yeah? Yeah,
he he pumped the brakes. He threw it on her,
and I had to pause for a second. Yeah, he
got you because it came left field and it was
a terrible example.

Speaker 3 (11:02):
Now it's the exact same damn example.

Speaker 4 (11:04):
He love another woman outside of you, and you want
you ought to understand that the whole thing is stupid.
And now my husband said he doesn't want me to
see my friend during the holidays while he live in town.
Here in town, Oh, you carry your ass.

Speaker 2 (11:18):
Over there if you want.

Speaker 3 (11:20):
When you take your ass over that stay over there.

Speaker 4 (11:23):
I done told you, because I keep telling y'all about
these friendships. You done told this man you love him,
you gonna go see while you in town over the holidays.

Speaker 3 (11:32):
You don't think he looking upside your head? Where was
she here?

Speaker 4 (11:37):
My sister totally agrees with my husband. I'm trying to
figure out why she cares to settle the debate. Can
a married lady love a platomic male friend or should
a woman cut off her male friends out of her
life just because her husband tells her to do it? Tada,
The Bible says, leave all others and cleave only on

(12:00):
to her. I'm telling you, man, you can't. You can
do it, but it ain't gonna be healthy for you.
As you can see right now, it's already created a
major problem for you. Now, how you think now? He
done told you don't go see him, and you're gonna
go see him anyway. Okay, So now damn what I say.

(12:23):
And you know why you're gonna damn what I say
because you love.

Speaker 1 (12:26):
Him, so you said you wouldn't stick around for it.

Speaker 3 (12:29):
Steve, you're not doing You're not doing this to me. Now.

Speaker 4 (12:33):
I'm just telling you right now, you're not doing this
to me. I will leave your ass. I will leave
your ass. I don't give a damn what you say.

Speaker 3 (12:50):
I'm leave your ass.

Speaker 1 (12:52):
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Speaker 3 (12:56):
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proof of it on this hill.

Speaker 1 (13:01):
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Speaker 3 (13:09):
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Speaker 2 (13:12):
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Speaker 1 (13:14):
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