December 4, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Thursday, December 4th, 2025. Subject: "I Love The Man That Catfished Me"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVFM dot com
and click submitt Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
(00:20):
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It could beyond. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject. I love the man
that catfished me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm divorced and my
children are grown. I hadn't dated in years, but I
figured I wouldn't have trouble meeting someone because I'm still
in my prime and I don't look like i'm fifty six.
I decided to try online dating, and I was honest
(00:48):
on my dating profile. I used a current picture of
myself and I added that I am a grandma, so
there would be no confusion about my age. I quickly
met a guy and he said he wasn't big on tech,
so he insisted that we talk all the time. We
have a lot in common and we're both interested in
a long term relationship, not necessarily marriage. After two months
(01:11):
of talking, I wanted to meet him, but he was
honest about his financial issues, the financial issues he was having,
and he said I'd have to wait a while for
him to meet me. I felt myself falling in love
with him, so I decided that our age we shouldn't
have at our age, we shouldn't have to wait for love.
(01:33):
I purchased him a plane ticket to come meet me.
That was when he opened up and admitted that he
was falling in love with me too. I went to
pick him up from the airport and I described my
car to him. After a few minutes, I noticed a
very tall, slightly chovvy, and very light skinned guy with
a George Jefferson haircut waving towards my car. It was
(01:57):
my him in all of his pictures. He was buff,
and he had a fade style haircut, and he was
chocolate like I like my men. I told him that
he catfished me, and he got defensive and said he
could go back home. I allowed him to stay because
I honestly think that he's my person and he's in
love with me too. We've had a few small hiccups
(02:20):
since that day at the airport, but it's great to
finally have a romantic partner. We're talking about moving in
together soon. Am I crazy for staying with this guy
after he catfished me? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, And I definitely
wouldn't rush into moving in together right away because there
(02:41):
could be something else he's catfishing you about. You don't
know this man. I mean, you said you guys are
in love with each other, You love him, and he's
fallen in love with you. He finally admitted this is
after two months of talking on the phone. I'll say
it again. You don't know this guy, and you have
you thought about how this is going to work. He
(03:02):
lives out of town. You need to see where he lives.
You need to see how he lives. You need to
meet his family, his close friends, his boys. You need
to know something more about this man. Don't be so
desperate that you start thinking about permanent things with this
man just because you're of a certain age. You're fifty six,
I mean, that would be a big mistake and it
(03:23):
can cause you to settle for any guy because you're
fifty six and afraid of aging and being alone. It's
okay to want to be with someone. That's fine, but
it's got to be the right person for you. This
man has already confessed to you about not being financially straight,
and at least he told you the truth about that.
But he didn't apologize for catfishing you. Instead, he got
(03:45):
mad and threatened to leave. These are red flags. These
are red flags. You're staring you in your face. Please
don't ignore them, or you'll you're sure to be sorry.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Steve, all Right, the subject is I love the man
that catfished me. Okay, we'll get to the catfish thing
in a minute, but first, what is wrong with you?
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Have you lost your mind? Do you not?
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Have you lost the power of reasoning and thinking that
the catfish thing, he don't look like his big chaw
chocolate buff picture.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
We'll get to that in a minute. Let's get to the.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Part where he didn't catfish. Let's go to the non
cat fish matter at hand. You say you're still in
your prime. You're fifty six and you don't look like
you try some online day and you use the current
picture yourself. You was honest with your age. You even
(04:46):
told people the grandmother that your grandmother so wouldn't be
no confusion.
Speaker 4 (04:50):
You met this guy online.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
He wasn't big on Texans, so insisted that we talk
all the time. Girl, you got to talk, and the
found out y'all got a lot income.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
All.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Two months went by, talk talk, talk, talk talk, y'all
just only for just running your mind two months online?
You wanted the meeting. Now let's get into the non
catfish party. He was honest about his financial issues he
was having and said I'd have to wait a while
(05:24):
for him to come meet me.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Alrighty, you already fifty six. You d ain't a man.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
That ain't got no money. I know it, don't because
listen to this. So I decided at our age.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
Listen to me.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Since you're making decisions at your age, I'm trying to
figure out how you came to this conclusion. I decided
at our age that we shouldn't have to wait for love. Okay, cool,
But what does that have to do with the next statement.
I purchased him a plane ticket for him to come
(06:09):
meet me. Lady, If this ain't off to a bad start,
I don't know what is. You're dating and falling for
a man that can't even come see you and you're
a long distant relationship.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
I purchased him.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
That is when he opened up and admitted that he
was falling in love with me too.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
I'll be down.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
You bought him an airplane ticket here in love with
you love.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Part two of your response coming up at your pator.
Today's Strawberry Letters subject I love the man that catfished me.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Parents Meet Miko Mini Plus, the small a robot that
talks to your kids and turns curiosity into learning.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
And the deal is big right now at Costco. It's
seventy nine to ninety nine originally one forty nine ninety nine.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Screen light, super fun and built for reading, math, science
and creative storytellers.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
I deal for ages five to ten. Price and availability
may vary.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Get Miko Mini Plus today at Costco and.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
For older kids see Miko three on Miko, dot Ai
and Amazon. All right, come on, Steve, Let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The subject is I love the man that
catfished me.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Fifty seven year old woman, kids are grown. Fifty six
year old woman, kids grown out the house. Ain't dating
in a while, decided to start dating went online.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Meta guy.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
The name of the subject of the letter is though
I love the man that catfish mean, so you all
know what that means. That means that the person that
you meet online was not the person you met online.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
He was completely somebody else.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
But before we get into the catfishing, let's talk about
the real facts that's not catfish.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Y'all got to talk and talk for two months.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
You got a lot in common, were both interested in
the long term relationship, not necessarily married. Then after a
couple months of talking, you wanted to meet him, but
he was honest. Here we go, This is the part
where there ain't catfishing come in at He was honest
about his financial issues and said I'd have to wait
awhile for him to come meet me. I decided, here
(08:35):
we go, this where stupid kick is. I decided, at
our age.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
We shouldn't have to wait to fall in love.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
I purchased him a plane ticket for him to come
meet me. If ever, there was a relationship off to
a bad start, here it is. That was when he
opened up and admitted he was falling in love with
me too.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
I can't you done? Bought him a ticket, so I
went to pick him up at the airport. Now this
is the perfect time to tell you that he's falling
in love with you too, because you're on the way
to the airport.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
I went to pick him up, and I described my
car to him.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
After a few minutes, I noticed a very tall, slightly chubby,
very light skinned guy with a George Jefferson haircut. Wow,
so now here come doctor Field walking towards your car. Yeah,
(09:46):
you thought Morris Chestnut was coming, and he'll come doctor Field.
Speaker 4 (09:54):
Waving towards my car. It was my him and all
of his pictures.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
He was buff, he had a fade hairstyle, he was
chocolate like the men I like. I told him he
catfished me. He got defensive and said, well, I can
go back home.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Here.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
You got a lot of nerd, though.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
You little chubby going ball fat light skinn broke and
then you got the nerd and say I'll just go
back home like you ain't wrong. I allowed him to
stay because, honestly, I think that he's my person.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
Lady.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Why what has he done to make you think he's
your person?
Speaker 4 (10:50):
Except tell you he was in love with you after
you bought him a ticket to see you.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
We had a few small hiccups since that day at
the airport, mean, some more lies came out, But it's
great to finally have a romantic partner. Romantic were talking
about moving in together soon, moving in where lady, he
(11:15):
already ain't got no airplane ticket money, moving where. He
gonna move in with you, and you move in with him.
I promise you you can't go there because he got
I stayed at my mama house, rode all over here.
Am I crazy for staying with this guy after he
catfished me? That ain't even the catfish. That's one thing,
(11:39):
Because he didn't threaten to go back home. Your problem
is you had to buy him a ticket to come
see you. He explained his financial situation, so he didn't
even have the money to bring hisself there, which means
he don't have the money to bring you there. So now,
man that don't have the money to take hisself somewhere,
(12:02):
he probably don't have nowhere to take you. What do
you think this man lives in Kee? Then probably sent
you a picture of a big house too. He ain't tall, dark, buffed,
and he doesn't have a fade.
Speaker 4 (12:19):
Nobody fades. They have from the top nobody.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
That's not how we fail.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
The fade starts from the temple area of the hend.
We don't run a raise across the top of our
head and fade from the top down. Lady, what are
you doing? Lady, listen to me, Run run, Stop having.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
A relationship with doctor Field. Stopping.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
He chubby, He don't work out and doctor Field ain't
chubby though, doctor, but just the George have George Jefferson hairstyle,
light scheme. That's the doctor Field. This ain't who you got.
And doctor Field got money and doctor Field would have
sent his.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Plane to pick you up.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Say you didn't get Doctor Field, though, did you.
Speaker 4 (13:25):
You got George Jefferson's dollar?
Speaker 2 (13:29):
All right?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Post your comments on today stro Fm on Instagram and
on Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on
the free iHeartRadio app for he never Sounded So good,
you can download it. Today you're listening to the Steve
Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVFM dot com
and click submitt Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
(00:20):
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It could beyond. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject. I love the man
that catfished me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm divorced and my
children are grown. I hadn't dated in years, but I
figured I wouldn't have trouble meeting someone because I'm still
in my prime and I don't look like i'm fifty six.
I decided to try online dating, and I was honest
(00:48):
on my dating profile. I used a current picture of
myself and I added that I am a grandma, so
there would be no confusion about my age. I quickly
met a guy and he said he wasn't big on tech,
so he insisted that we talk all the time. We
have a lot in common and we're both interested in
a long term relationship, not necessarily marriage. After two months
(01:11):
of talking, I wanted to meet him, but he was
honest about his financial issues, the financial issues he was having,
and he said I'd have to wait a while for
him to meet me. I felt myself falling in love
with him, so I decided that our age we shouldn't
have at our age, we shouldn't have to wait for love.
(01:33):
I purchased him a plane ticket to come meet me.
That was when he opened up and admitted that he
was falling in love with me too. I went to
pick him up from the airport and I described my
car to him. After a few minutes, I noticed a
very tall, slightly chovvy, and very light skinned guy with
a George Jefferson haircut waving towards my car. It was
(01:57):
my him in all of his pictures. He was buff,
and he had a fade style haircut, and he was
chocolate like I like my men. I told him that
he catfished me, and he got defensive and said he
could go back home. I allowed him to stay because
I honestly think that he's my person and he's in
love with me too. We've had a few small hiccups
(02:20):
since that day at the airport, but it's great to
finally have a romantic partner. We're talking about moving in
together soon. Am I crazy for staying with this guy
after he catfished me? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, And I definitely
wouldn't rush into moving in together right away because there
(02:41):
could be something else he's catfishing you about. You don't
know this man. I mean, you said you guys are
in love with each other, You love him, and he's
fallen in love with you. He finally admitted this is
after two months of talking on the phone. I'll say
it again. You don't know this guy, and you have
you thought about how this is going to work. He
(03:02):
lives out of town. You need to see where he lives.
You need to see how he lives. You need to
meet his family, his close friends, his boys. You need
to know something more about this man. Don't be so
desperate that you start thinking about permanent things with this
man just because you're of a certain age. You're fifty six,
I mean, that would be a big mistake and it
(03:23):
can cause you to settle for any guy because you're
fifty six and afraid of aging and being alone. It's
okay to want to be with someone. That's fine, but
it's got to be the right person for you. This
man has already confessed to you about not being financially straight,
and at least he told you the truth about that.
But he didn't apologize for catfishing you. Instead, he got
(03:45):
mad and threatened to leave. These are red flags. These
are red flags. You're staring you in your face. Please
don't ignore them, or you'll you're sure to be sorry.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Steve, all Right, the subject is I love the man
that catfished me. Okay, we'll get to the catfish thing
in a minute, but first, what is wrong with you?
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Have you lost your mind? Do you not?
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Have you lost the power of reasoning and thinking that
the catfish thing, he don't look like his big chaw
chocolate buff picture.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
We'll get to that in a minute. Let's get to the.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Part where he didn't catfish. Let's go to the non
cat fish matter at hand. You say you're still in
your prime. You're fifty six and you don't look like
you try some online day and you use the current
picture yourself. You was honest with your age. You even
(04:46):
told people the grandmother that your grandmother so wouldn't be
no confusion.
Speaker 4 (04:50):
You met this guy online.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
He wasn't big on Texans, so insisted that we talk
all the time. Girl, you got to talk, and the
found out y'all got a lot income.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
All.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Two months went by, talk talk, talk, talk talk, y'all
just only for just running your mind two months online?
You wanted the meeting. Now let's get into the non
catfish party. He was honest about his financial issues he
was having and said I'd have to wait a while
(05:24):
for him to come meet me.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Alrighty, you already fifty six. You d ain't a man.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
That ain't got no money. I know it, don't because
listen to this. So I decided at our age.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
Listen to me.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Since you're making decisions at your age, I'm trying to
figure out how you came to this conclusion. I decided
at our age that we shouldn't have to wait for love. Okay, cool,
But what does that have to do with the next statement.
I purchased him a plane ticket for him to come
(06:09):
meet me. Lady, If this ain't off to a bad start,
I don't know what is. You're dating and falling for
a man that can't even come see you and you're
a long distant relationship.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
I purchased him.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
That is when he opened up and admitted that he
was falling in love with me too.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
I'll be down.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
You bought him an airplane ticket here in love with
you love.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Part two of your response coming up at your pator.
Today's Strawberry Letters subject I love the man that catfished me.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Parents Meet Miko Mini Plus, the small a robot that
talks to your kids and turns curiosity into learning.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
And the deal is big right now at Costco. It's
seventy nine to ninety nine originally one forty nine ninety nine.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Screen light, super fun and built for reading, math, science
and creative storytellers.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
I deal for ages five to ten. Price and availability
may vary.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Get Miko Mini Plus today at Costco and.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
For older kids see Miko three on Miko, dot Ai
and Amazon. All right, come on, Steve, Let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The subject is I love the man that
catfished me.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Fifty seven year old woman, kids are grown. Fifty six
year old woman, kids grown out the house. Ain't dating
in a while, decided to start dating went online.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Meta guy.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
The name of the subject of the letter is though
I love the man that catfish mean, so you all
know what that means. That means that the person that
you meet online was not the person you met online.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
He was completely somebody else.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
But before we get into the catfishing, let's talk about
the real facts that's not catfish.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Y'all got to talk and talk for two months.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
You got a lot in common, were both interested in
the long term relationship, not necessarily married. Then after a
couple months of talking, you wanted to meet him, but
he was honest. Here we go, This is the part
where there ain't catfishing come in at He was honest
about his financial issues and said I'd have to wait
awhile for him to come meet me. I decided, here
(08:35):
we go, this where stupid kick is. I decided, at
our age.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
We shouldn't have to wait to fall in love.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
I purchased him a plane ticket for him to come
meet me. If ever, there was a relationship off to
a bad start, here it is. That was when he
opened up and admitted he was falling in love with
me too.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
I can't you done? Bought him a ticket, so I
went to pick him up at the airport. Now this
is the perfect time to tell you that he's falling
in love with you too, because you're on the way
to the airport.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
I went to pick him up, and I described my
car to him.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
After a few minutes, I noticed a very tall, slightly chubby,
very light skinned guy with a George Jefferson haircut. Wow,
so now here come doctor Field walking towards your car. Yeah,
(09:46):
you thought Morris Chestnut was coming, and he'll come doctor Field.
Speaker 4 (09:54):
Waving towards my car. It was my him and all
of his pictures.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
He was buff, he had a fade hairstyle, he was
chocolate like the men I like. I told him he
catfished me. He got defensive and said, well, I can
go back home.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Here.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
You got a lot of nerd, though.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
You little chubby going ball fat light skinn broke and
then you got the nerd and say I'll just go
back home like you ain't wrong. I allowed him to
stay because, honestly, I think that he's my person.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
Lady.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Why what has he done to make you think he's
your person?
Speaker 4 (10:50):
Except tell you he was in love with you after
you bought him a ticket to see you.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
We had a few small hiccups since that day at
the airport, mean, some more lies came out, But it's
great to finally have a romantic partner. Romantic were talking
about moving in together soon, moving in where lady, he
(11:15):
already ain't got no airplane ticket money, moving where. He
gonna move in with you, and you move in with him.
I promise you you can't go there because he got
I stayed at my mama house, rode all over here.
Am I crazy for staying with this guy after he
catfished me? That ain't even the catfish. That's one thing,
(11:39):
Because he didn't threaten to go back home. Your problem
is you had to buy him a ticket to come
see you. He explained his financial situation, so he didn't
even have the money to bring hisself there, which means
he don't have the money to bring you there. So now,
man that don't have the money to take hisself somewhere,
(12:02):
he probably don't have nowhere to take you. What do
you think this man lives in Kee? Then probably sent
you a picture of a big house too. He ain't tall, dark, buffed,
and he doesn't have a fade.
Speaker 4 (12:19):
Nobody fades. They have from the top nobody.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
That's not how we fail.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
The fade starts from the temple area of the hend.
We don't run a raise across the top of our
head and fade from the top down. Lady, what are
you doing? Lady, listen to me, Run run, Stop having.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
A relationship with doctor Field. Stopping.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
He chubby, He don't work out and doctor Field ain't
chubby though, doctor, but just the George have George Jefferson hairstyle,
light scheme. That's the doctor Field. This ain't who you got.
And doctor Field got money and doctor Field would have
sent his.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Plane to pick you up.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Say you didn't get Doctor Field, though, did you.
Speaker 4 (13:25):
You got George Jefferson's dollar?
Speaker 2 (13:29):
All right?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Post your comments on today stro Fm on Instagram and
on Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on
the free iHeartRadio app for he never Sounded So good,
you can download it. Today you're listening to the Steve
Harvey Morning Show
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