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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARBFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckel up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject I put my money on the
other dude. Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband is a lot
of fun usually, but he always goes overboard with his
jokes when he's had too much to drink. We're both
thirty eight years old and we've been married four years.
I have a group of friends that have adopted my
husband and they love him, but they can only take
(00:47):
him in small doses because of his sense of humor.
He finds flaws in people and makes jokes about them.
Last week, my husband insulted my friend that and he
got up in my husband's face. My husband was still
laughing and Thad was so serious. I had to pull
him the other to the side. After Thad's wife said
that Thad's veins were popping out on his forehead, which
(01:09):
meant he was ready to fight. My husband got angry
at me, saying I made it a big deal when
I separated them. He said it was just two fellas joking,
and then he started yelling at me in front of everyone.
I told him that I should have let Thad whip
his behind because we're all tired of his efed up personality.
(01:29):
I told him that he doesn't do well in social
situations and that's why he doesn't have his own friends.
I even told him that I'd put all my money
on the other dude if he got into a fight.
Something came over me. I never meant to embarrass him
like that, but I felt better afterwards. The ride home
that night was brutal. He had sobered up and he
(01:52):
was so hurt by what I said. He told me
that he doesn't know how we can move past this.
After I embarrassed him like that, our life as we
know it has changed forever. He said that he'll never
go around my friends again since he's so offensive. Me
and my big mouth messed up my marriage. He hasn't
talked to me in ten days? How can we move
(02:14):
past this? Hm? Well, I mean in the letter, you
see that your husband is immature, he drinks too much.
You see that. You know that he also doesn't take
accountability for what he started. I mean, he's the one
that was in the guy's face making jokes about everybody.
And I say, don't let him blame you for talking
(02:35):
crazy to him when you said he yelled at you
in front of everyone first. I mean, what you did
was react to how he was handling you at that moment.
Now do two things make a right? Two wrongs make
a right? Of course not, they don't. And now he's
making it worse by blaming this whole blow up on
you when clearly you both said things you regret but
can't take back. Also, you know, this childish silent treatment
(02:58):
he's been giving you for the last ten days has
made it even worse and has put your marriage in
real trouble, real jeopardy. Ten days of not speaking is
too long in a marriage. That's too long.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I don't know what you guys are gonna do, but
you guys are gonna have to talk, I mean, and
you may have to start the convo with I didn't
mean to embarrass you at the party, or you know,
you gotta stop drinking something like that because you know
he's immature. And this this is a mess right here
in your marriage, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
This ain't a deal breaker, but it's we got trouble.
Here's the problem.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
She said, her husband is a lot of fun.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Usually, but he go overboard with them jokes after he
done had too much a drink. They're thirty eight years old.
She got a group of friends they adopted.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
They your husband.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
They like him, but they can only take him in
small doses because of his sense of humor.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Now the problem is you're thirty eight.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Now he finding flaws in people making jokes about him
in front of the group. This is I not this
is what's happening. Look at your nose, boy, your nose
so wide. You don't be a sigh?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Okay, laughing like that?
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Yeah, Now, she he'd have mess around and said something
about Thad. Now, I'm pretty sure that the joke he
made about this dude named Thad was a real touchy
subject to Thad. He didn't think at thirty eight nobody
would still be bringing up the size of his teeth,
(04:35):
but he did it anyway.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Dad, how come all your teeth look like coin?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Okay, all right now, but now then Thad got up
in his face and say, hey man, slow that down. Man,
just go on now, you play too much. But he
kept going. Thad was serious. He's still laughing. So she
pulled her husband to the side. And then Thad's wife said, hey, man,
when the veins pop out in forehead, he says he
(05:05):
ready to fight. And so you go to your husband
and you tell him that, and you say, hey, look
they talking about that nick here. Now, just two jokes,
two fellas joking. And then he started yelling at you
in front of everybody. You said, I should have let
Thad whoop your ass.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Now let me let me explain some tea. See, and
this is true.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
But this is why your husband is the way he is.
Because see, somewhere down the line, your husband, mister joke
all the time and play all the time and crack
on everybody ain't had his ass whip. The moment he
gets his ass whip, you develop a thing called a filter. See,
(05:53):
I have a filter. Ted hadden't to be this one
time choke me, damn near to death. Terry Hagler, and
I thank God for Terry Hagler because it made me
who I am today because now I know the line
and how to pull back. That's your husband's problem. He
ain't never had his ass whoop, so now he say
(06:15):
what he want to say, however he want to say it. Now,
you just said you should have let Thad whoops at
it because he tied. You tied his fed up personality,
and then you told him he'll do good and social settings,
and that's why you ain't got your own, damn friends.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
All these is facts. Hang all these is facts? Yeah,
hang up. Just missing that ass whooping. That's the only
thing missing.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Well in for two of Steve's response, coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry letter, subject
I put my money on the other dude. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening morning show.
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is I put my money on the other due.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
All right, here's a woman that's thirty eight been married
four years to another thirty eight year old dude. They
have a lot of fun because and you know he
has a sense of humor that has a tendency to
take it too far once he drinks. She has a
group of friends that have adopted him. They like him,
but that they can only take him in small doses.
(07:20):
They all at a party one time and he doing
his usual And the problem he has is he finds
flaws in other people and he make a joke about it. Now,
when you get a little older, some of that stuff
you figure ought to be out the way.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
You know, you know white, his size of your teeth,
you know right, you know how wide your nose is,
you know how much full head you've got.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
All this here, You figure all that ought to be
out by now you're in your late thirties. You had
to hear that the whole time he was growing up
as a child. Well, her husband, he ain't learned that.
So he talks about stuff now people get tired of him.
So y'all at this party one time and he started
talking about this dude named Thad. Now Thad wasn't having
(08:05):
it that day because Thad didn't feel like hearing that
floor that he grew up with here had a lot
of scar tissue on him from his past, you know,
talking about how wide his nose is. Fad know his
nose wide, but Thad didn't want to hear about it.
At the party that night, Thad then got dressed up,
got on his silk Dela crim outfit matching matching men
(08:28):
in suit, Silk Dela Crim. That's a hood outfit, shure.
That's when the shirt and pants matched. You go together.
You buy him in sets. Now he got his set
on and now you're in here talking about how wide
his nose is. So he got up in his face
and told him he ain't want to hear that, and
he kept going. So then you said, hey, stop, leave
(08:53):
him alone. He said, now it's just two fellas joking around.
So he started yelling at you in front of everybody.
Then you told on him.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
I should have let bad whoop your ass. That's that's
I should have just let it.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
And then she said, because we all tied of your
fed up personality. I told him he don't do well
in social situations and that's why he ain't got.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
His own friends. Facts, all these facts that you said.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
The only problem is, see your husband ain't never had
his ass whoop, and this would have slowed all this down.
He would have dealt he would, he would have had
a filter by now, Like I told you, Terry Hagler
gave me my filter.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
He was back in college. I took it too far.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Terry Hagler almost choked me, damn near to death, and
they pulled him off of him. So after I almost
died that night, I learned that it's too far, and
I know now to pull back. Your husband never had that.
Now here's what you told him. You said Dad should
have whooped your ass. We tied your f up personality.
You don't do well in social situations, and that's why
(09:59):
he don't have his on friends. I even told him
I'll put all my money on the other dude if
he got in a fight. Goddam Okay, now, listen to me.
All of this would have been more effective. See all this,
it bleeds into your skin and blood. This would have
been way more effective if you'd have went on and
(10:20):
let Thad whoop his ass. See, after a recent ass whooping,
it's the best time to impart knowledge. I remember my
daddy when he'd be whooping me. Why he was whooping me?
He would be telling me, I bet you ain't gonna
do this no more. I bet this the last time
(10:41):
you do this, I bet you won't ever do that.
And you know what, he was one hundred percent correct.
I heard him way more clearly because the first time
he told me not to do it, obviously I didn't
hear it clearly. That's why I did it. But during
the ass whooping while they talking to you that it nates.
So now you told him you put all your money
(11:03):
on the dude if he get inter vent and then
you don't know what came over. You said you never
met to embass him like that. But you felt good
afterwards though, because you finally got it off your check.
But the ride home was brutal.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
He sold it up. He was so hurt by what
I did.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
He told me he don't know how we can move
past this after I embassed him like that.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
And you should not have.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
You really should not have technically, because you're all supposed
to be riding die. You're supposed to get your made
at the house and say hey, look because in front
of everybody, we're united force. Now when I get you
by yourself, hey baby, don't do that no more?
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Right, come on now you tripping.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
So now, but you were, You was wrong for that,
But all of it was true. He told me he
don't know how we can move past this after I
embarrassed him like that. Now he said he'll never go
around my friends again. Well, then now he friend less.
He already ain't got none of his own friend right now,
he ain't gonna come around your friends no more. See,
(12:00):
he really don't want to go around your friends no
more because he found out how close he was getting
his ass will But now he's trying to blame it
on you. If he hadn't have been running his damn mouth,
y'all still be at the party right now. And then
me and my big mouth messed up my marriage. He
ain't talk to me in ten days? How could I
move past it? So I have a solution for you.
(12:20):
First of all, ten days is a lot.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
No, man ain't talk to his wife in ten days.
I don't know that long time. That's a long time.
It's ten days. One day, it's like, really magnificent, here's
my suitor.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I have a suggestion.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
Okay, if I was you, I tell him I was
just joking.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I was playing with you. You're very prank.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
It's a prank. And then get one of your friends
and say yeah, we pranked you on that. We actually
we did that on purpose and then just let it go.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Strawberry Letters, thank and Stevens.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
He's gonna find nobody else would put up with this
like you.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
So on Instagram and Facebook and check out the Strawberry
letter on the free iHeartRadio app. You can download it today.
Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, we
got Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening
to Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARBFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckel up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject I put my money on the
other dude. Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband is a lot
of fun usually, but he always goes overboard with his
jokes when he's had too much to drink. We're both
thirty eight years old and we've been married four years.
I have a group of friends that have adopted my
husband and they love him, but they can only take
(00:47):
him in small doses because of his sense of humor.
He finds flaws in people and makes jokes about them.
Last week, my husband insulted my friend that and he
got up in my husband's face. My husband was still
laughing and Thad was so serious. I had to pull
him the other to the side. After Thad's wife said
that Thad's veins were popping out on his forehead, which
(01:09):
meant he was ready to fight. My husband got angry
at me, saying I made it a big deal when
I separated them. He said it was just two fellas joking,
and then he started yelling at me in front of everyone.
I told him that I should have let Thad whip
his behind because we're all tired of his efed up personality.
(01:29):
I told him that he doesn't do well in social
situations and that's why he doesn't have his own friends.
I even told him that I'd put all my money
on the other dude if he got into a fight.
Something came over me. I never meant to embarrass him
like that, but I felt better afterwards. The ride home
that night was brutal. He had sobered up and he
(01:52):
was so hurt by what I said. He told me
that he doesn't know how we can move past this.
After I embarrassed him like that, our life as we
know it has changed forever. He said that he'll never
go around my friends again since he's so offensive. Me
and my big mouth messed up my marriage. He hasn't
talked to me in ten days? How can we move
(02:14):
past this? Hm? Well, I mean in the letter, you
see that your husband is immature, he drinks too much.
You see that. You know that he also doesn't take
accountability for what he started. I mean, he's the one
that was in the guy's face making jokes about everybody.
And I say, don't let him blame you for talking
(02:35):
crazy to him when you said he yelled at you
in front of everyone first. I mean, what you did
was react to how he was handling you at that moment.
Now do two things make a right? Two wrongs make
a right? Of course not, they don't. And now he's
making it worse by blaming this whole blow up on
you when clearly you both said things you regret but
can't take back. Also, you know, this childish silent treatment
(02:58):
he's been giving you for the last ten days has
made it even worse and has put your marriage in
real trouble, real jeopardy. Ten days of not speaking is
too long in a marriage. That's too long.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I don't know what you guys are gonna do, but
you guys are gonna have to talk, I mean, and
you may have to start the convo with I didn't
mean to embarrass you at the party, or you know,
you gotta stop drinking something like that because you know
he's immature. And this this is a mess right here
in your marriage, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
This ain't a deal breaker, but it's we got trouble.
Here's the problem.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
She said, her husband is a lot of fun.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Usually, but he go overboard with them jokes after he
done had too much a drink. They're thirty eight years old.
She got a group of friends they adopted.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
They your husband.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
They like him, but they can only take him in
small doses because of his sense of humor.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Now the problem is you're thirty eight.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Now he finding flaws in people making jokes about him
in front of the group. This is I not this
is what's happening. Look at your nose, boy, your nose
so wide. You don't be a sigh?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Okay, laughing like that?
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Yeah, Now, she he'd have mess around and said something
about Thad. Now, I'm pretty sure that the joke he
made about this dude named Thad was a real touchy
subject to Thad. He didn't think at thirty eight nobody
would still be bringing up the size of his teeth,
(04:35):
but he did it anyway.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Dad, how come all your teeth look like coin?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Okay, all right now, but now then Thad got up
in his face and say, hey man, slow that down. Man,
just go on now, you play too much. But he
kept going. Thad was serious. He's still laughing. So she
pulled her husband to the side. And then Thad's wife said, hey, man,
when the veins pop out in forehead, he says he
(05:05):
ready to fight. And so you go to your husband
and you tell him that, and you say, hey, look
they talking about that nick here. Now, just two jokes,
two fellas joking. And then he started yelling at you
in front of everybody. You said, I should have let
Thad whoop your ass.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Now let me let me explain some tea. See, and
this is true.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
But this is why your husband is the way he is.
Because see, somewhere down the line, your husband, mister joke
all the time and play all the time and crack
on everybody ain't had his ass whip. The moment he
gets his ass whip, you develop a thing called a filter. See,
(05:53):
I have a filter. Ted hadden't to be this one
time choke me, damn near to death. Terry Hagler, and
I thank God for Terry Hagler because it made me
who I am today because now I know the line
and how to pull back. That's your husband's problem. He
ain't never had his ass whoop, so now he say
(06:15):
what he want to say, however he want to say it. Now,
you just said you should have let Thad whoops at
it because he tied. You tied his fed up personality,
and then you told him he'll do good and social settings,
and that's why you ain't got your own, damn friends.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
All these is facts. Hang all these is facts? Yeah,
hang up. Just missing that ass whooping. That's the only
thing missing.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Well in for two of Steve's response, coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry letter, subject
I put my money on the other dude. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening morning show.
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is I put my money on the other due.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
All right, here's a woman that's thirty eight been married
four years to another thirty eight year old dude. They
have a lot of fun because and you know he
has a sense of humor that has a tendency to
take it too far once he drinks. She has a
group of friends that have adopted him. They like him,
but that they can only take him in small doses.
(07:20):
They all at a party one time and he doing
his usual And the problem he has is he finds
flaws in other people and he make a joke about it. Now,
when you get a little older, some of that stuff
you figure ought to be out the way.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
You know, you know white, his size of your teeth,
you know right, you know how wide your nose is,
you know how much full head you've got.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
All this here, You figure all that ought to be
out by now you're in your late thirties. You had
to hear that the whole time he was growing up
as a child. Well, her husband, he ain't learned that.
So he talks about stuff now people get tired of him.
So y'all at this party one time and he started
talking about this dude named Thad. Now Thad wasn't having
(08:05):
it that day because Thad didn't feel like hearing that
floor that he grew up with here had a lot
of scar tissue on him from his past, you know,
talking about how wide his nose is. Fad know his
nose wide, but Thad didn't want to hear about it.
At the party that night, Thad then got dressed up,
got on his silk Dela crim outfit matching matching men
(08:28):
in suit, Silk Dela Crim. That's a hood outfit, shure.
That's when the shirt and pants matched. You go together.
You buy him in sets. Now he got his set
on and now you're in here talking about how wide
his nose is. So he got up in his face
and told him he ain't want to hear that, and
he kept going. So then you said, hey, stop, leave
(08:53):
him alone. He said, now it's just two fellas joking around.
So he started yelling at you in front of everybody.
Then you told on him.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
I should have let bad whoop your ass. That's that's
I should have just let it.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
And then she said, because we all tied of your
fed up personality. I told him he don't do well
in social situations and that's why he ain't got.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
His own friends. Facts, all these facts that you said.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
The only problem is, see your husband ain't never had
his ass whoop, and this would have slowed all this down.
He would have dealt he would, he would have had
a filter by now, Like I told you, Terry Hagler
gave me my filter.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
He was back in college. I took it too far.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Terry Hagler almost choked me, damn near to death, and
they pulled him off of him. So after I almost
died that night, I learned that it's too far, and
I know now to pull back. Your husband never had that.
Now here's what you told him. You said Dad should
have whooped your ass. We tied your f up personality.
You don't do well in social situations, and that's why
(09:59):
he don't have his on friends. I even told him
I'll put all my money on the other dude if
he got in a fight. Goddam Okay, now, listen to me.
All of this would have been more effective. See all this,
it bleeds into your skin and blood. This would have
been way more effective if you'd have went on and
(10:20):
let Thad whoop his ass. See, after a recent ass whooping,
it's the best time to impart knowledge. I remember my
daddy when he'd be whooping me. Why he was whooping me?
He would be telling me, I bet you ain't gonna
do this no more. I bet this the last time
(10:41):
you do this, I bet you won't ever do that.
And you know what, he was one hundred percent correct.
I heard him way more clearly because the first time
he told me not to do it, obviously I didn't
hear it clearly. That's why I did it. But during
the ass whooping while they talking to you that it nates.
So now you told him you put all your money
(11:03):
on the dude if he get inter vent and then
you don't know what came over. You said you never
met to embass him like that. But you felt good
afterwards though, because you finally got it off your check.
But the ride home was brutal.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
He sold it up. He was so hurt by what
I did.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
He told me he don't know how we can move
past this after I embassed him like that.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
And you should not have.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
You really should not have technically, because you're all supposed
to be riding die. You're supposed to get your made
at the house and say hey, look because in front
of everybody, we're united force. Now when I get you
by yourself, hey baby, don't do that no more?
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Right, come on now you tripping.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
So now, but you were, You was wrong for that,
But all of it was true. He told me he
don't know how we can move past this after I
embarrassed him like that. Now he said he'll never go
around my friends again. Well, then now he friend less.
He already ain't got none of his own friend right now,
he ain't gonna come around your friends no more. See,
(12:00):
he really don't want to go around your friends no
more because he found out how close he was getting
his ass will But now he's trying to blame it
on you. If he hadn't have been running his damn mouth,
y'all still be at the party right now. And then
me and my big mouth messed up my marriage. He
ain't talk to me in ten days? How could I
move past it? So I have a solution for you.
(12:20):
First of all, ten days is a lot.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
No, man ain't talk to his wife in ten days.
I don't know that long time. That's a long time.
It's ten days. One day, it's like, really magnificent, here's
my suitor.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I have a suggestion.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
Okay, if I was you, I tell him I was
just joking.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I was playing with you. You're very prank.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
It's a prank. And then get one of your friends
and say yeah, we pranked you on that. We actually
we did that on purpose and then just let it go.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Strawberry Letters, thank and Stevens.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
He's gonna find nobody else would put up with this
like you.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
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Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, we
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