September 6, 2024 • 12 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a thirty three year old married woman and my husband is thirty six. We met on a blind date that was set up by one of our mutual friends. This friend of ours recently got married and we weren't invited because I don't get along with his new wife. I'm a ride or die type of friend, so I warned our friend about this woman before he married her. She had cheated on her first husband and she used to mess with my brother. She works at night, but she is not always at work. She usually takes a two hour lung break and she goes to hang out at a restaurant next to her job...........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
going to read this one right here, right now. You
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Letter, thanking a few subjects. I saw it, so I
know he did too. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty
three year old married woman and my husband is thirty six.
We met on a blind date that was set up
by one of our mutual friends. This friend of ours
recently got married and we weren't invited because I don't
get along with his new wife. I'm a ride or
(00:44):
die type of friend, so I warned our friend about
this woman before he married her. She had cheated on
her first husband and she used to mess with my brother.
She works at night, but she is not always at work.
She usually takes a two hour lung break and she
goes to hang out at a restaurant next to her job.
My niece is a part time bartender at the restaurant,
(01:06):
and she said that the wife comes in a few
times a week because she's messing with one of the cooks.
She said they have sex in the office at the
back of the kitchen. So I did a thing so
I could catch the wife in the act. I told
my husband that I wanted chicken from that particular restaurant.
He said he could go pick up some, but I
said I wanted to go in and eat like a date,
(01:28):
like on a date. He didn't want to go, but
he said yes. Saturday night, we were in a booth
at the restaurant and in comes the wife. She couldn't
see me or my husband. I had told my husband
about her messing with a cook, and when she walked in,
I told him she was there. He said he wasn't
getting into nobody's business. The cook came out of a kitchen,
(01:49):
hugged the wife, and they went into the kitchen. I
told my husband that he saw it for himself, so
he had to tell our friend that his wife is
cheating on him. My husband said he didn't see anything.
My friend was sweet enough to hook us up. So
why won't my husband tell him that his wife is cheating?
Why are you in these people's business? Your husband already
(02:10):
told you he didn't get into other people's business. Why
don't you follow his lead? You need to. You got
to leave these people alone. You don't owe him anything
just because he hooked you and your husband up. I
mean that was nice, you know, and it's working out
for you guys and everything, but that doesn't mean you
have any particular obligation to him. You've got to leave
(02:31):
these people alone. He will find out eventually. You told
him all that, and he still married this woman and
didn't invite you to the wedding.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
So let this go.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Mind your own business. Because your husband is already mad
that you got him into this mess in the first place.
Why can't you get that and just stay out of it?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Steve, You know, uh, I really don't know what it
is with people, But lady, you wrote this letter and
the subject is I saw it, so I know he
did too. But see right there, you want everybody see
what you see, and not only do you want him
to see it, you want him to feel what you
(03:11):
feel about everything. And then on top of that, you
want everybody to react the same way you react, which
is why you ain't got no damn friends. And I
know you don't because you're thirty three year old married
to thirty six You met on a blind date that
was set up with buy one of our mutual friends.
(03:32):
This friend of yours recently got married and we weren't invited.
You all didn't get invited to the wedding because I
don't get along with his new wife.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Starts right there.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
So now you got a bone to pick with this
woman before they got married, and you've kept this bone
to pick with her after the marriage.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
So now that you.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Didn't get invited because you don't get along with his
new wife, then you try to tell us I'm a
ride or die type of friend, So I wanted our
friend to know about this woman before he married it. No,
that's not ride or die friend. You messy, You messy,
You're just a little messy friend. That's why you don't
have no damn friends. That's why you ain't get invited
(04:20):
to the man's wedding. And I promise you he ain't
friends with you either. So I warned our friend before
he married her. She cheated on her first husband, she
used to mess with my brother. She work at night,
but she not always at work. She take a two
hour lunch. She go to hang out at a restaurant
next to her job. Your niece is a part time bartend.
(04:43):
To see everybody know who to bring mess to? You
bring mess to the messy?
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Huh? You the mess? Hay?
Speaker 3 (04:54):
So now here, your niece is a part time bartender.
She done told you. This woman come over to this
job and she sleep with the cook in the back.
She said, they have sex in the office at the
back of the kitchen. Well, ain't that ain't exciting? So
(05:15):
I did a thing so I could catch the wife
in the act.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Now here you got see you plotting.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Your marriage ain't gonna last long because you in everybody
else's marriage. Do you know taking care of your marriage
is a twenty four hour job. Do you know becoming
successful is the other twenty four hour job?
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Do you know that parenting is a twenty four hour job?
Speaker 3 (05:40):
So you have three full time positions that you got
to squeeze into one damn day. But now you're all
over in somebody else's man. So you came up with
this scheme. You told your husband that you wanted some
chicken from the particular restaurant that you think the lady
(06:03):
is going next door to see. Cause your aunt, your niece,
who is a part time bartender, told you.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
She come over there and sleep with the cook.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
He told you he gonna pick you up some chicken,
but you said, no, I want to go in and eat.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
He ain't want to.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
But y'all went in the restaurant Saturday night, in the
booth and in walks. The wife tadda. When I come back,
I'll tell you what happened, and then the letter will
be over.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
All right, Thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's Strawberry letter subject is I saw it, so I
know he did too. We'll get back into it right
after this.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
You're listening hard Morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject I saw it, so I know he did too.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
So this lady is real messy.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
She got introduced by her husband on a blind date
from a mutual friend. Her mutual friend recently got married.
She wasn't invited to the wedding because we're I'm mutual
friends now, but they she couldn't come to the wedding
because she don't get along with his new wife because
he know her wife from her past.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Now she done went to her husband.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
She done went to her best friend to forewarn him
about this woman who cheated on her first husband, who
slept with her brother and is now supposedly doing some
other things. He married the woman. Anyway, she wasn't invited
to the wedding. So now she got a bone to
pick with this woman. So she starts picking the bone.
(07:42):
Come to find out, she found out that ho the
girl don't stay at work all the time. She take
a two hour lunch and she go next door to
the restaurant and she's messing with the cook. And when
she come over to the cook where they had his
chicken at, her and the cook have sex.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
In the office. Got a chicken place.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
That's a lot.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
This ain't no executive suite. I done been in a
couple of chicken offices. The chicken office. Ain't a whole
lot of paperwork in there. You ain't gotten nothing in it.
A chicken all being with chicken, you know, I can
name her. It's wings, it's breasts, it's thighs in its legs.
(08:28):
That's all that's in the chicken store unless you work
at the poultry store. Now you got feather plucking, you
got ball and water, you got chicken feet, and you
got next and you can get gizzards and livers in there.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
But that ain't what this is.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
This is probably just a regular chicken place. So now
they in the kitchen having sex. You tell your husband
about it. Well, you don't want to tell your husband
about it, but you kind of set them up.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
So you know that.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
The woman gets off lunch and she goes next door.
So now all of a sudden, you tell your husband
you want some chicken from that restaurant. Your husband say,
I'm gonna go get it for you say, no, let's
go eat it there. He didn't want to, but he
took out. Saturday night, they get a booth in the restaurant.
On her lunch break, in walks the wife and you
see her. Bam, the thing is working. Saturday night. You
(09:20):
in the booth at the restaurant. The wife walk in,
she couldn't see you are your husband. I told my
husband about her messing with the cook when she walked in.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I told him she was there.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
He said he wasn't getting in nobody's business. The cook
came out the kitchen, hugged the wife and they went
into the kitchen, where you assumed that they was going
into that chicken office to have set. I told my
husband that he saw it for himself. So she said,
(09:50):
so he should tell our friend that his wife is
cheating on him. Your husband said he ain't see nothing.
He didn't and you didn't either. He couldn't see nothing.
Our friend was sweet enough to hook us up. So
why won't my husband tell him that his wife is cheating? Well,
(10:12):
because your husband said he not getting in nobody's business.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
And why you want in the business?
Speaker 3 (10:19):
If he your friend, why would you want to hurt
him with this information?
Speaker 2 (10:26):
The other reason your husband don't want to get in it.
Could it be that.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Your husband has some information that you don't have. Since
they mutual friends, how do you know what their marital
arrangement is? They could be swingers. You don't know. Your
(10:52):
husband could know that his voice is a swinger. They
might be okay with all this here.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Now.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
I'm not saying that's the case, but you don't know.
But it ain't your job. I don't know why people
can't mind they damn business. All you gonna do is
break up her home, and then what have you accomplished?
And your real reason is because this woman didn't invite
you to the web, so now you gonna get her.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
That's really what the real reason is.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
That's the real It's not that you care about this
other friend so deeply. It's cause you messy. You said
she cheated on her first husband. Could that have been
some dude you wanted? Then you say she slept with
your brother. Now you thought you Now your brother had
high hopes and they broke up. Now you're mad at
(11:42):
her again. Now you'd have found out that she could
possibly be seeing the cook, So damn what it ain't
your business? Shirley even said it's not your business. And
if Shirley said ain't your business, and Dale, I don't
know what to tell you. That's the ultimate approval right here.
(12:04):
This is what the Strawberry letter is all about. We
are in your business, people, but I don't even want
to be in your business. And Sureley told you to
mind your damn business. So what you want us to
tell you?
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Litter?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Thank you?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
See?
Speaker 3 (12:22):
I don't do like you want to do. Go and
tell you man, Go tell a man and see what happen. Now,
you ain't gonna have no more friends.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and
on Facebook. It's Steve Harvey FM, and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up
next to is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
going to read this one right here, right now. You
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Letter, thanking a few subjects. I saw it, so I
know he did too. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty
three year old married woman and my husband is thirty six.
We met on a blind date that was set up
by one of our mutual friends. This friend of ours
recently got married and we weren't invited because I don't
get along with his new wife. I'm a ride or
(00:44):
die type of friend, so I warned our friend about
this woman before he married her. She had cheated on
her first husband and she used to mess with my brother.
She works at night, but she is not always at work.
She usually takes a two hour lung break and she
goes to hang out at a restaurant next to her job.
My niece is a part time bartender at the restaurant,
(01:06):
and she said that the wife comes in a few
times a week because she's messing with one of the cooks.
She said they have sex in the office at the
back of the kitchen. So I did a thing so
I could catch the wife in the act. I told
my husband that I wanted chicken from that particular restaurant.
He said he could go pick up some, but I
said I wanted to go in and eat like a date,
(01:28):
like on a date. He didn't want to go, but
he said yes. Saturday night, we were in a booth
at the restaurant and in comes the wife. She couldn't
see me or my husband. I had told my husband
about her messing with a cook, and when she walked in,
I told him she was there. He said he wasn't
getting into nobody's business. The cook came out of a kitchen,
(01:49):
hugged the wife, and they went into the kitchen. I
told my husband that he saw it for himself, so
he had to tell our friend that his wife is
cheating on him. My husband said he didn't see anything.
My friend was sweet enough to hook us up. So
why won't my husband tell him that his wife is cheating?
Why are you in these people's business? Your husband already
(02:10):
told you he didn't get into other people's business. Why
don't you follow his lead? You need to. You got
to leave these people alone. You don't owe him anything
just because he hooked you and your husband up. I
mean that was nice, you know, and it's working out
for you guys and everything, but that doesn't mean you
have any particular obligation to him. You've got to leave
(02:31):
these people alone. He will find out eventually. You told
him all that, and he still married this woman and
didn't invite you to the wedding.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
So let this go.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Mind your own business. Because your husband is already mad
that you got him into this mess in the first place.
Why can't you get that and just stay out of it?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Steve, You know, uh, I really don't know what it
is with people, But lady, you wrote this letter and
the subject is I saw it, so I know he
did too. But see right there, you want everybody see
what you see, and not only do you want him
to see it, you want him to feel what you
(03:11):
feel about everything. And then on top of that, you
want everybody to react the same way you react, which
is why you ain't got no damn friends. And I
know you don't because you're thirty three year old married
to thirty six You met on a blind date that
was set up with buy one of our mutual friends.
(03:32):
This friend of yours recently got married and we weren't invited.
You all didn't get invited to the wedding because I
don't get along with his new wife.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Starts right there.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
So now you got a bone to pick with this
woman before they got married, and you've kept this bone
to pick with her after the marriage.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
So now that you.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Didn't get invited because you don't get along with his
new wife, then you try to tell us I'm a
ride or die type of friend, So I wanted our
friend to know about this woman before he married it. No,
that's not ride or die friend. You messy, You messy,
You're just a little messy friend. That's why you don't
have no damn friends. That's why you ain't get invited
(04:20):
to the man's wedding. And I promise you he ain't
friends with you either. So I warned our friend before
he married her. She cheated on her first husband, she
used to mess with my brother. She work at night,
but she not always at work. She take a two
hour lunch. She go to hang out at a restaurant
next to her job. Your niece is a part time bartend.
(04:43):
To see everybody know who to bring mess to? You
bring mess to the messy?
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Huh? You the mess? Hay?
Speaker 3 (04:54):
So now here, your niece is a part time bartender.
She done told you. This woman come over to this
job and she sleep with the cook in the back.
She said, they have sex in the office at the
back of the kitchen. Well, ain't that ain't exciting? So
(05:15):
I did a thing so I could catch the wife
in the act.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Now here you got see you plotting.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Your marriage ain't gonna last long because you in everybody
else's marriage. Do you know taking care of your marriage
is a twenty four hour job. Do you know becoming
successful is the other twenty four hour job?
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Do you know that parenting is a twenty four hour job?
Speaker 3 (05:40):
So you have three full time positions that you got
to squeeze into one damn day. But now you're all
over in somebody else's man. So you came up with
this scheme. You told your husband that you wanted some
chicken from the particular restaurant that you think the lady
(06:03):
is going next door to see. Cause your aunt, your niece,
who is a part time bartender, told you.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
She come over there and sleep with the cook.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
He told you he gonna pick you up some chicken,
but you said, no, I want to go in and eat.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
He ain't want to.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
But y'all went in the restaurant Saturday night, in the
booth and in walks. The wife tadda. When I come back,
I'll tell you what happened, and then the letter will
be over.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
All right, Thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's Strawberry letter subject is I saw it, so I
know he did too. We'll get back into it right
after this.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
You're listening hard Morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject I saw it, so I know he did too.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
So this lady is real messy.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
She got introduced by her husband on a blind date
from a mutual friend. Her mutual friend recently got married.
She wasn't invited to the wedding because we're I'm mutual
friends now, but they she couldn't come to the wedding
because she don't get along with his new wife because
he know her wife from her past.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Now she done went to her husband.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
She done went to her best friend to forewarn him
about this woman who cheated on her first husband, who
slept with her brother and is now supposedly doing some
other things. He married the woman. Anyway, she wasn't invited
to the wedding. So now she got a bone to
pick with this woman. So she starts picking the bone.
(07:42):
Come to find out, she found out that ho the
girl don't stay at work all the time. She take
a two hour lunch and she go next door to
the restaurant and she's messing with the cook. And when
she come over to the cook where they had his
chicken at, her and the cook have sex.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
In the office. Got a chicken place.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
That's a lot.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
This ain't no executive suite. I done been in a
couple of chicken offices. The chicken office. Ain't a whole
lot of paperwork in there. You ain't gotten nothing in it.
A chicken all being with chicken, you know, I can
name her. It's wings, it's breasts, it's thighs in its legs.
(08:28):
That's all that's in the chicken store unless you work
at the poultry store. Now you got feather plucking, you
got ball and water, you got chicken feet, and you
got next and you can get gizzards and livers in there.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
But that ain't what this is.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
This is probably just a regular chicken place. So now
they in the kitchen having sex. You tell your husband
about it. Well, you don't want to tell your husband
about it, but you kind of set them up.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
So you know that.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
The woman gets off lunch and she goes next door.
So now all of a sudden, you tell your husband
you want some chicken from that restaurant. Your husband say,
I'm gonna go get it for you say, no, let's
go eat it there. He didn't want to, but he
took out. Saturday night, they get a booth in the restaurant.
On her lunch break, in walks the wife and you
see her. Bam, the thing is working. Saturday night. You
(09:20):
in the booth at the restaurant. The wife walk in,
she couldn't see you are your husband. I told my
husband about her messing with the cook when she walked in.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
I told him she was there.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
He said he wasn't getting in nobody's business. The cook
came out the kitchen, hugged the wife and they went
into the kitchen, where you assumed that they was going
into that chicken office to have set. I told my
husband that he saw it for himself. So she said,
(09:50):
so he should tell our friend that his wife is
cheating on him. Your husband said he ain't see nothing.
He didn't and you didn't either. He couldn't see nothing.
Our friend was sweet enough to hook us up. So
why won't my husband tell him that his wife is cheating? Well,
(10:12):
because your husband said he not getting in nobody's business.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
And why you want in the business?
Speaker 3 (10:19):
If he your friend, why would you want to hurt
him with this information?
Speaker 2 (10:26):
The other reason your husband don't want to get in it.
Could it be that.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Your husband has some information that you don't have. Since
they mutual friends, how do you know what their marital
arrangement is? They could be swingers. You don't know. Your
(10:52):
husband could know that his voice is a swinger. They
might be okay with all this here.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Now.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
I'm not saying that's the case, but you don't know.
But it ain't your job. I don't know why people
can't mind they damn business. All you gonna do is
break up her home, and then what have you accomplished?
And your real reason is because this woman didn't invite
you to the web, so now you gonna get her.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
That's really what the real reason is.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
That's the real It's not that you care about this
other friend so deeply. It's cause you messy. You said
she cheated on her first husband. Could that have been
some dude you wanted? Then you say she slept with
your brother. Now you thought you Now your brother had
high hopes and they broke up. Now you're mad at
(11:42):
her again. Now you'd have found out that she could
possibly be seeing the cook, So damn what it ain't
your business? Shirley even said it's not your business. And
if Shirley said ain't your business, and Dale, I don't
know what to tell you. That's the ultimate approval right here.
(12:04):
This is what the Strawberry letter is all about. We
are in your business, people, but I don't even want
to be in your business. And Sureley told you to
mind your damn business. So what you want us to
tell you?
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Litter?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Thank you?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
See?
Speaker 3 (12:22):
I don't do like you want to do. Go and
tell you man, Go tell a man and see what happen. Now,
you ain't gonna have no more friends.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and
on Facebook. It's Steve Harvey FM, and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up
next to is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show
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