April 8, 2025 • 13 mins
Strawberry Letter Subject for Tuesday, April 8th, 2025: "I Slipped Up and Went Back For More
"Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m married to a great man that looked good and had everything going for him, except in the bedroom. I told myself that sex wasn’t everything and I managed to make it for 3 years without cheating. Up until our wedding, I was sleeping with my daughter’s father..."
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, dating, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time
you gut it for.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Strawb You are so sexy. Subject, Thank you, No subject.
I slipped up and went back for more, Dear Stephen Shirley.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Excuse shy slipped up.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
I slipped up and went back for seconds.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
I have asked you, sir, to change it to more.
All right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm married to a great
man that looked good and had everything going for him
except in the bedroom. I told myself that sex wasn't everything,
and I managed to make it for three years without cheating.
Up until our wedding. I was sleeping with my daughter's
(01:13):
father because we already had history. I was comfortable with him.
Some would say too comfortable because we were not using protection.
My husband and I had sex maybe once, a week,
and that was all for him because he's on the
smaller side. I was sleeping with my ex at least
three times a week, and then we had a pregnancy
scare and it scared me half to death. I was
(01:35):
not going to risk the good life over great sex.
My ex got married last year, so we'd see each
other to pick up only to pick up our and
drop off our daughter. That all changed two days ago.
I went to pick up my daughter and my ex
said his wife is out of town and he wanted
to show me how they painted my daughter's room. My
(01:55):
daughter was watching TV in the family room. That man
did not take me to our daughter's beadyo. He took
me to this huge storage area by his bedroom and
he locked the door. My husband called at the very moment,
and I told him I had something to do first
and i'd be home soon. I had to have sex
real quick. That's what I had to do. It was
(02:16):
so so, so so good. I got myself together and
my daughter and I left by the way home. My
daughter asked why we were locked in the in the closet.
I tried to convince her that she was mistaken. She
is a very outspoken eight year old, So I'm sure
she'll ask again, what do I tell my child? And
what if she asked me in front of in front
(02:36):
of my husband? Wow, what a conundrum you're in. I'm
sorry you didn't ask us before you went over to
your ex's house and had sex and got locked in
the storage room with him. You were really gambling with
what you've described as your good life for sex first
and no protection sex which led to a pregnancy scare,
(02:57):
and then your eight year old daughter asking questionquestions as
kids do when they see things or hear things. So,
as I see the problem is you. You're reckless, You're selfish.
You didn't care about your husband what he was going
to say. What you want from him is a lifestyle
he provides for you, as you call it, the good life.
You said your husband is a good man, so why
(03:19):
would you risk it over someone who clearly only wants
you for sex. Now, your daughter is not mentioning it
is a chance. That's a chance you're going to have
to take, and that might work for you since you're
a gambler anyway, or you're going to have to sit
her down and ask her not to say anything. Those
are your choices. Either you take a chance on her
not saying anything, or you sit her down and ask
(03:42):
her not to say anything to her stepdad.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Period.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I hope you've learned something from this experience and you're
going to stop doing stupid stuff. That's all I have
to say to you, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
I don't think she's learned anything, and I'm a little
bit confused by the letter. Actually, she says she's married
to a great man that looked good and had everything
going for him except in the bedroom. I told myself
sex wasn't everything, and I managed to make it for
three years without cheating. So now is she saying that
(04:14):
she started the cheating after she got married.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Being married, Yeah, for three years she was good for her.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Because what it sounds like, she says, up until our wedding,
this is what she says, Up until our wedding, I
was sleeping with my daughter's father, and.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Then they got married, and then for three years she
was all good. Then she started again.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
All up until our wedding, I was sleeping with my
daughter's father because we already had history.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
I was comfortable with him.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Some would say too comfortable because we were not using protection.
My husband and I had sex maybe once a week,
and that was all for him because he's on the
small all aside. Yeah, I was sleeping with my ex
three times a week, and then we had a little
pregnancy scared That scared her, and I wasn't gonna risk
the good life over great sex. Then her ex got
(05:14):
married last year, so I only saw each other for
pick up and drop off of our daughter.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
That all changed two days ago.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
She went over to the exit and said his wife
was out of town and he wanted to show me
how they painted my daughter's room. My daughter watching TV
in the family room room. And that man didn't take
me to her daughter's bedroom. He took me to a
huge storage area by his bedroom. Now, where is that
at it? Where is the huge storage room down there
(05:47):
by the bedroom? What?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
What? I haven't had a few houses?
Speaker 3 (05:55):
What lady, Lady stopped trying to make this like it
was some big, huge storage area.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Exactly if you.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Got another huge room in your house, why ain't that
your master yeah, or why ain't that the junior sweep?
Ain't nobody got no huge extra room in nate housing.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
You was in a closet.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Let's make this thing as gritty and dirty as it really.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Is as it is?
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Yeah, huge storage area. What was in the mops buckets?
Say that's a closet storage storage gowns she.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Was trying to make. I would hang on, Steve. We'll
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after today's title is I slipped up and
went back for more? Right after this you're listening Steve
Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Hey, look, you can't let the urge to sing your
favorite songs while you're driving distract you from that truck
drifting toward your lane or that lane splitting biker creeping
up beside you. Fortunately, every Hundai offers advanced safety features
that can alert you to potential dangers around you.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
That's right, because Hondai is always working to ensure the
road doesn't get you. Hondai vehicles have won over one
hundred and twenty IIHS Top Safety awards from two thousand
and six to twenty twenty four. As of December twenty
twenty four.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject I slipped up and went back for more?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Yeah, yeah you did.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
You got this great guy, good at everything except in
the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
But he's a great guy.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Other than that, he was trying to act like sex
wasn't that important, and you was doing our You slept
with him up until you got married. But then after
you got married, three years went by and you was
okay and you were sleeping with this dude three times
a week, and your husband wants because he's on the
(08:05):
smaller side, so that was it for him. And then
you said, I'm not gonna risk a good life over
grade sex. Now your ex got married, so that ended
that whole thing until recently. All you all saw each
other was doing pick up and drop off of y'all's daughter.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
You went over to the house to pick up the daughter.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
One time, he told you that his wife was out
of town and wanted to show you how they painted
the baby bedroom. That's when he said, he took you
back to this huge storage area by his bedroom and
locked the door. That's a lie. Let's cheapen this thing
right on up. You know, got a house, got a
(08:50):
large storage are next to their bedroom. That's a hall closet,
that's what that is. It wasn't no huge room and all.
Then he locked the door behind you. But then your
husband called it that very moment. I'm right, i'ma be
(09:12):
right home quick. Wait, I'll be home, but I don't
know what these people doing out here in this traffic.
I'll be home and I'll call you. Let me call
you back. I got just he got to kill so
I don't know how you played that off, but that
sounded like it. I had to have sex real quick.
(09:37):
That's what I had to do, and it was so,
so so good. I got myself together and my daughter
and I left.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
On the way home.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Of course, my daughter asked me why we were locked
in the closet. That's because your daughter knew what it was. Yeah,
heard this huge story room. The daughter said, it's a closet.
What room down the hallway next to the bedroom. That's
a huge extra lady bye. I tried to convince her.
(10:09):
My daughter asked why we were locked in the closet.
I tried to convince her that she was mistaken. She's
a very outspoken eight year old, so I'm sure she'll
ask again.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
What do I tell my child? And what is she
ask in front of my husband? Well, this is how
you have an eight year old. Okay, you use.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
Something that's important to an eight year old and you
hang it over the head in the form of a threat.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Okay, like, oh.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
So I see you don't want nothing for Christmas. You're
not gonna get no birthday gift this year. Now you
go in this house running your mouth and asking about it,
because I was not in that room. I was in
there looking at your bedroom and we came right out.
You was watching TV. That's why I got you and
(11:06):
we came home.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Well, where were those noises I heard? Mommy?
Speaker 3 (11:12):
You keep on, do listen to me. You keep on
and you finish find out that ain't either one of
them your.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Lid, that she's only eight st Well, you gonna need
therapy playing with me. What you're gonna need?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
I heard so much noise and you were hollering, mommy.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Stop calling me that, because I ain't you real mama.
Now get in the car. See, I'm gonna put something
else on that eight year old head. I'm gonna twist
their little brain up so bad we'llnna be talking about
the closet.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Mama. What you mean you ain't my mama. I ain't
your mama. And that made your daddies. Now let's get
in the car and go to school. The baby you
have a.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Quandary, lady, because you did something in front of the child.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Kids nowadays are not stupid. They are not.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
They are over exposed to everything that's right.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Every single thing.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
So know that, be aware, make the adjustments, and now
all you can do. And you raised this little girl,
so you know she's outspoken, and you know she gonna ask.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Again one more question, because mommy, you never cleared this up.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Yeah, one more question. Why were your clothes all wrinkled
and stuff?
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Why was my clothes rinking? Yeah, because I.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Went to the bathroom and David didn't have no toilet tissue.
I was thinking about using my block, but I found
a toilet. Really, don't ask me nothing. I say stuff
like you.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
And mommy about your hair. It was messed up.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
My hair was You weren't looking at me when we
came in here because you're so busy watching that TV.
My hair was messed up when we came in here.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
It was it was no, it was straight on that side.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
My head on b straight on that side. That's my
other week.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
You've traumatized this poor child.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
And all that you think is your mama them is
weed Hoiday Boast.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM
on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app forre it never sounded
so good.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
You can Santa Claus don't come to nose that he.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Is coming up. In forty six minutes after the hour,
we got Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this. You're
listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, dating, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time
you gut it for.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Strawb You are so sexy. Subject, Thank you, No subject.
I slipped up and went back for more, Dear Stephen Shirley.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Excuse shy slipped up.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
I slipped up and went back for seconds.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
I have asked you, sir, to change it to more.
All right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm married to a great
man that looked good and had everything going for him
except in the bedroom. I told myself that sex wasn't everything,
and I managed to make it for three years without cheating.
Up until our wedding. I was sleeping with my daughter's
(01:13):
father because we already had history. I was comfortable with him.
Some would say too comfortable because we were not using protection.
My husband and I had sex maybe once, a week,
and that was all for him because he's on the
smaller side. I was sleeping with my ex at least
three times a week, and then we had a pregnancy
scare and it scared me half to death. I was
(01:35):
not going to risk the good life over great sex.
My ex got married last year, so we'd see each
other to pick up only to pick up our and
drop off our daughter. That all changed two days ago.
I went to pick up my daughter and my ex
said his wife is out of town and he wanted
to show me how they painted my daughter's room. My
(01:55):
daughter was watching TV in the family room. That man
did not take me to our daughter's beadyo. He took
me to this huge storage area by his bedroom and
he locked the door. My husband called at the very moment,
and I told him I had something to do first
and i'd be home soon. I had to have sex
real quick. That's what I had to do. It was
(02:16):
so so, so so good. I got myself together and
my daughter and I left by the way home. My
daughter asked why we were locked in the in the closet.
I tried to convince her that she was mistaken. She
is a very outspoken eight year old, So I'm sure
she'll ask again, what do I tell my child? And
what if she asked me in front of in front
(02:36):
of my husband? Wow, what a conundrum you're in. I'm
sorry you didn't ask us before you went over to
your ex's house and had sex and got locked in
the storage room with him. You were really gambling with
what you've described as your good life for sex first
and no protection sex which led to a pregnancy scare,
(02:57):
and then your eight year old daughter asking questionquestions as
kids do when they see things or hear things. So,
as I see the problem is you. You're reckless, You're selfish.
You didn't care about your husband what he was going
to say. What you want from him is a lifestyle
he provides for you, as you call it, the good life.
You said your husband is a good man, so why
(03:19):
would you risk it over someone who clearly only wants
you for sex. Now, your daughter is not mentioning it
is a chance. That's a chance you're going to have
to take, and that might work for you since you're
a gambler anyway, or you're going to have to sit
her down and ask her not to say anything. Those
are your choices. Either you take a chance on her
not saying anything, or you sit her down and ask
(03:42):
her not to say anything to her stepdad.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Period.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I hope you've learned something from this experience and you're
going to stop doing stupid stuff. That's all I have
to say to you, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
I don't think she's learned anything, and I'm a little
bit confused by the letter. Actually, she says she's married
to a great man that looked good and had everything
going for him except in the bedroom. I told myself
sex wasn't everything, and I managed to make it for
three years without cheating. So now is she saying that
(04:14):
she started the cheating after she got married.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Being married, Yeah, for three years she was good for her.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Because what it sounds like, she says, up until our wedding,
this is what she says, Up until our wedding, I
was sleeping with my daughter's father, and.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Then they got married, and then for three years she
was all good. Then she started again.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
All up until our wedding, I was sleeping with my
daughter's father because we already had history.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
I was comfortable with him.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Some would say too comfortable because we were not using protection.
My husband and I had sex maybe once a week,
and that was all for him because he's on the
small all aside. Yeah, I was sleeping with my ex
three times a week, and then we had a little
pregnancy scared That scared her, and I wasn't gonna risk
the good life over great sex. Then her ex got
(05:14):
married last year, so I only saw each other for
pick up and drop off of our daughter.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
That all changed two days ago.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
She went over to the exit and said his wife
was out of town and he wanted to show me
how they painted my daughter's room. My daughter watching TV
in the family room room. And that man didn't take
me to her daughter's bedroom. He took me to a
huge storage area by his bedroom. Now, where is that
at it? Where is the huge storage room down there
(05:47):
by the bedroom? What?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
What? I haven't had a few houses?
Speaker 3 (05:55):
What lady, Lady stopped trying to make this like it
was some big, huge storage area.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Exactly if you.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Got another huge room in your house, why ain't that
your master yeah, or why ain't that the junior sweep?
Ain't nobody got no huge extra room in nate housing.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
You was in a closet.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Let's make this thing as gritty and dirty as it really.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Is as it is?
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Yeah, huge storage area. What was in the mops buckets?
Say that's a closet storage storage gowns she.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Was trying to make. I would hang on, Steve. We'll
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after today's title is I slipped up and
went back for more? Right after this you're listening Steve
Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Hey, look, you can't let the urge to sing your
favorite songs while you're driving distract you from that truck
drifting toward your lane or that lane splitting biker creeping
up beside you. Fortunately, every Hundai offers advanced safety features
that can alert you to potential dangers around you.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
That's right, because Hondai is always working to ensure the
road doesn't get you. Hondai vehicles have won over one
hundred and twenty IIHS Top Safety awards from two thousand
and six to twenty twenty four. As of December twenty
twenty four.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject I slipped up and went back for more?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Yeah, yeah you did.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
You got this great guy, good at everything except in
the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
But he's a great guy.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Other than that, he was trying to act like sex
wasn't that important, and you was doing our You slept
with him up until you got married. But then after
you got married, three years went by and you was
okay and you were sleeping with this dude three times
a week, and your husband wants because he's on the
(08:05):
smaller side, so that was it for him. And then
you said, I'm not gonna risk a good life over
grade sex. Now your ex got married, so that ended
that whole thing until recently. All you all saw each
other was doing pick up and drop off of y'all's daughter.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
You went over to the house to pick up the daughter.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
One time, he told you that his wife was out
of town and wanted to show you how they painted
the baby bedroom. That's when he said, he took you
back to this huge storage area by his bedroom and
locked the door. That's a lie. Let's cheapen this thing
right on up. You know, got a house, got a
(08:50):
large storage are next to their bedroom. That's a hall closet,
that's what that is. It wasn't no huge room and all.
Then he locked the door behind you. But then your
husband called it that very moment. I'm right, i'ma be
(09:12):
right home quick. Wait, I'll be home, but I don't
know what these people doing out here in this traffic.
I'll be home and I'll call you. Let me call
you back. I got just he got to kill so
I don't know how you played that off, but that
sounded like it. I had to have sex real quick.
(09:37):
That's what I had to do, and it was so,
so so good. I got myself together and my daughter
and I left.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
On the way home.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Of course, my daughter asked me why we were locked
in the closet. That's because your daughter knew what it was. Yeah,
heard this huge story room. The daughter said, it's a closet.
What room down the hallway next to the bedroom. That's
a huge extra lady bye. I tried to convince her.
(10:09):
My daughter asked why we were locked in the closet.
I tried to convince her that she was mistaken. She's
a very outspoken eight year old, so I'm sure she'll
ask again.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
What do I tell my child? And what is she
ask in front of my husband? Well, this is how
you have an eight year old. Okay, you use.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
Something that's important to an eight year old and you
hang it over the head in the form of a threat.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Okay, like, oh.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
So I see you don't want nothing for Christmas. You're
not gonna get no birthday gift this year. Now you
go in this house running your mouth and asking about it,
because I was not in that room. I was in
there looking at your bedroom and we came right out.
You was watching TV. That's why I got you and
(11:06):
we came home.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Well, where were those noises I heard? Mommy?
Speaker 3 (11:12):
You keep on, do listen to me. You keep on
and you finish find out that ain't either one of
them your.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Lid, that she's only eight st Well, you gonna need
therapy playing with me. What you're gonna need?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
I heard so much noise and you were hollering, mommy.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Stop calling me that, because I ain't you real mama.
Now get in the car. See, I'm gonna put something
else on that eight year old head. I'm gonna twist
their little brain up so bad we'llnna be talking about
the closet.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Mama. What you mean you ain't my mama. I ain't
your mama. And that made your daddies. Now let's get
in the car and go to school. The baby you
have a.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Quandary, lady, because you did something in front of the child.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Kids nowadays are not stupid. They are not.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
They are over exposed to everything that's right.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Every single thing.
Speaker 3 (12:13):
So know that, be aware, make the adjustments, and now
all you can do. And you raised this little girl,
so you know she's outspoken, and you know she gonna ask.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Again one more question, because mommy, you never cleared this up.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Yeah, one more question. Why were your clothes all wrinkled
and stuff?
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Why was my clothes rinking? Yeah, because I.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Went to the bathroom and David didn't have no toilet tissue.
I was thinking about using my block, but I found
a toilet. Really, don't ask me nothing. I say stuff
like you.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
And mommy about your hair. It was messed up.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
My hair was You weren't looking at me when we
came in here because you're so busy watching that TV.
My hair was messed up when we came in here.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
It was it was no, it was straight on that side.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
My head on b straight on that side. That's my
other week.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
You've traumatized this poor child.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
And all that you think is your mama them is
weed Hoiday Boast.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM
on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app forre it never sounded
so good.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
You can Santa Claus don't come to nose that he.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Is coming up. In forty six minutes after the hour,
we got Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this. You're
listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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