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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, on work, sex, parenting, and more,
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Speaker 2 (00:14):
We could be reading your letter live on the air, just.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
So like I don't read it, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.

Speaker 3 (00:22):
And you never know. Buckle up and hold on tight.
Beguide it for you here it is s draw up
every letter all right?

Speaker 2 (00:28):
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
Nephew's subject. I wish I enjoyed it as much as
he does. You're Stephen Shirley. I'm dating a man that
has all the things a man is supposed to have.
He's handsome, he's in shape, and he loves the Lord.
The fact that he can't keep a job is another story,
but I'm being patient until he finds a job that
he loves. He's thirty seven and I'm thirty nine. He

(00:52):
has two children and I have one child. I'm willing
to make all of the necessary adjustments to be with
this man, but he's he's got to do some things
for me too. Our sex life is lacking in a
major way. It's the size and the technique. I've learned
over the years that if the technique is great, then
the size doesn't really matter. I've made more than a

(01:13):
few recommendations to him, and he won't take any of
my advice. He thinks he is the man in the bedroom,
and I'm not into faking anything. So he's built up
this confidence all on his own, and it's funny to me.
We've been together for three years and instead of getting better,
it's getting worse. He works up a sweat, talks all

(01:34):
the way through it, and he's even stopped to.

Speaker 2 (01:37):
Wipe his head with a towel a few times.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
Meanwhile, I'm thinking of my ex boyfriend the whole time.
When we're done, he's got a burst of energy, and
he cooks breakfast or a full.

Speaker 2 (01:48):
Meal, depending on what time of day it is.

Speaker 1 (01:52):
He buys me gifts and tells me I'm the best
woman he's ever been with, and I wish I could
tell him the same thing. He's great, but the intimacy
is trash. How important is great sex and a mari
in a relationship? Is it a small sacrifice to make
if the man is good at everything else. You know,

(02:12):
if you've got to ask these questions, there's already a problem.
And to answer your question, yes, sex and intimacy extremely
important in a relationship. Okay, that's where you bond, that's
where you show you love for your partner.

Speaker 2 (02:26):
You shut out the world and just enjoy each other.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
And why are you even asking about sacrifice when you're
the only one sacrificing anything in this relationship. This man
doesn't have a job, he can't keep one, according to you,
and he's bad in the bedroom. How have you put
up with this for three whole years? You also said
you've talked to him about his performance and he doesn't listen. Well,

(02:52):
you're gonna have to make him listen and hear you somehow,
because the reason you're writing the Strawberry letter is because
you're becoming bull and frustrated with him. You're being patient
until he finds a job he loves. How long is
that gonna take? At this point? He just needs to
get a job and you're gonna have to to leave
this one sided relationship if he doesn't. I mean, there's

(03:15):
so many things in this letter that we could talk about,
and I'm sure Tommy and Junior will get to them
as well. But you know, you think that he has
all the things that a man is supposed to have. No,
he doesn't. You're you're disillusioned with all of this, Tommy.

Speaker 3 (03:31):
You're just so selfish, you really are. He's handsome, he
in shape, he loved the load. The boy cook a
whole meal. He good with that. He given, he giveing
you gifts. Well, he's lacking in the size and the technique.
How much do you want? I mean, you've getting something.

(03:51):
I mean what else do you want? You got you
got to have a side. You got to have the technique.
I mean you just you already can tell he can't
hate it. The boy over there sweating and in the
middle of it, he gotta stop and wiping his head,
he dripping wet.

Speaker 4 (04:06):
Just with sweat. He can't.

Speaker 3 (04:07):
He can't do all this stuff. So I don't know
what it is you're trying to. You're trying to get
him now, sexy valuation. It's too late for that. Y'all
been doing this three years. So no, it's not gonna
get any better than this. It is what it is.
So that leads me to this, and I hate to
say it you're gonna have to get a side piece.
I just, I just you're gonna have to get a
side It's just, I just, I just don't see any

(04:30):
other way around this for you. I just don't. And
we don't want to lose the great qualities that he
does have. He loves the law, he's in shape. He
ain't in too much shape because he's sweating too much
up in that, so he ain't. That's a lot. He
really ain't in that kind of shape. And all this
he hands some and he cooked good. He cooked good,
and he brings these gifts.

Speaker 4 (04:48):
And we don't want to lose that. We want that,
we want that to continue.

Speaker 5 (04:51):
We like that part.

Speaker 3 (04:53):
But he's missing on the sex side, and you don't
want to give him up because he's missing that.

Speaker 4 (04:58):
Therefore, you need a side piece. You just do you do?

Speaker 3 (05:02):
You need somebody to come in twice a week and
just you know, do what they do. I understand you
are missing. We talked earlier. I can't remember what part
of the break.

Speaker 2 (05:10):
It was.

Speaker 3 (05:11):
Somebody was making too much noise having sex in their conduct.
That's what you want, you want that and y'all ain't
making noise. He just sweating and it's just a pool
of sweat all over the floor, and you're gonna have
to find you somebody. But he can't nobody come by
because he got because he ain't got no damn job
he had, right, We got to get him a job
so we can get him to working so we can

(05:32):
have room for side piece time.

Speaker 4 (05:34):
And you don't have.

Speaker 3 (05:35):
Room right now, and we got to figure out how
to get you some room. What we need to work
on is who hiring now. Maybe they're hiring down there
at the church because he loved the Lord. Now you
know the Lord to get you a job if you
ask for one. Go down there to the church and
see a pastor got something he can do. Cut the
yard down there to something for whatever it is. You
need to pay attention to what his schedule live so

(05:56):
we can schedule this side piece.

Speaker 4 (05:58):
We got to have some room.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
Got to find a good hour for this side piece
to come in and handle up for you so you'll
be able to I personally, if I was you, I'd
do more like a like a Monday and a Thursday.

Speaker 4 (06:10):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (06:11):
You ain't got to tell your side people about no technique,
and you ain't got to worry about no side because
side piece coming with all of that.

Speaker 4 (06:17):
Now, he ain't.

Speaker 3 (06:18):
He might not be handsome, okay, he probably a finna
cook nothing afterwards. Side piece don't side pieces don't do
all that. He probably don't love the Lord. But that
ain't what you're looking for. You looking for technique inside
and that's how you get to it. And I hate
to tell you that that is not the ready to
live up Tommy.

Speaker 4 (06:34):
That's just Tommy.

Speaker 2 (06:35):
Okay, all right, right, nephew, thank you.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
We'll have part two of the Strawberry Letter coming up
at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter
subject I wish I enjoyed it as much as he does.
We'll hit from Junior right after this.

Speaker 2 (06:52):
You're listening hard morning show.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
All right, it is time now for the part two
of the Struwberry We got to recap it. The subject
is I wish I enjoyed it as much as you do,
as much as he does. I wish I enjoyed it
as much as he does. A thirty nine year old
woman wrote in she's dating for three years. She's been
dating this guy who's thirty seven. She says he has

(07:17):
all the things a man should have. He's handsome, he's
in shape, he loves the lord, but he can't keep
a job, and he's waiting to try and find a
job that he loves. She says, even with all that,
he's terrible in the bedroom. He's bad in the bedroom.
And she is trying to make her really, yeah, he's terrible.

(07:39):
She's willing to make all the necessary adjustments with this man,
but he has to do some things for her too.
He's lacking in size, he's lacking in techniques, and she says,
if the technique is great size.

Speaker 2 (07:50):
It doesn't really matter. But he doesn't have either of those.

Speaker 1 (07:53):
She said, he's, you know, thinking that he's bringing it
in the bedroom.

Speaker 2 (07:56):
He's not. He's sweating, he's not.

Speaker 1 (08:00):
He's doing all these things. He's wipe, wipes his head
with a towel a few.

Speaker 2 (08:05):
Times, you know, during and all that.

Speaker 1 (08:08):
You know, But she's she's unimpressed, and she's thinking of
her ex boyfriend all during this time while she's in
there with him.

Speaker 2 (08:17):
So she wants to know how.

Speaker 1 (08:19):
Important is great sex in a relationship, and uh, is
it a small sacrifice to make if the man is
good at everything else?

Speaker 2 (08:26):
So that's where we are. That's where we are, Junior.
What you got?

Speaker 6 (08:29):
Uh no, no, no, no, no, no, it's trish. You said,
see what was trash? Yeah she said it ain't no,
ain't no good trash. It's try. I don't care what
you say. This what gets me by because he loved
the lord he has I.

Speaker 5 (08:45):
Mean in shape. But what did I got to do
with technique and sign? Let me tell you something. You
got to have both.

Speaker 6 (08:52):
You got the ain't no one of them? We can
make it with just one of the other.

Speaker 4 (08:57):
Fair please?

Speaker 5 (08:58):
This is try it. Then he got the third to
be talking all the way through it. Now what is
he saying? See you over here taking this trash?

Speaker 6 (09:06):
And you just laid up there looking at him while
he talking and working up a sweat. So I don't
even know how you doing this, but I think it's
my mind, probably something like this, because and you fantacy land,
you're thinking about your ex. But he in here talking
to you while you filing your nails. Yeah, okay, on,
so you just gonna file on me? You're gonna file
on me? How you just gonna file your nails? Like

(09:26):
I ain't doing nothing?

Speaker 5 (09:27):
Or watch this?

Speaker 4 (09:27):
Watch it?

Speaker 5 (09:28):
Okay?

Speaker 6 (09:28):
So now you're just gonna ewn your clothes. You gonna
iron your clothes while.

Speaker 5 (09:31):
I'm mean they're putting in all these works. You gonna
see this here?

Speaker 6 (09:34):
Oh oh, you trying to try me? Are you trying
to try me? So you're gonna watch First forty eight
while I'm doing all this work right here, You're gonna watch.

Speaker 5 (09:40):
A crime show on me? How try make it? Turn
that off? Right now?

Speaker 6 (09:44):
Wait a minute, Wait a minute, is you getting cleaning supplies?
You gonna clean the restaurroom on mena do? Cause she
could do all these things because it's trash.

Speaker 2 (09:53):
That's what she said.

Speaker 5 (09:54):
That's what she doing.

Speaker 6 (09:56):
Cause it's trash. She can't do nothing else. Hey, I
don't even know why. I don't even know we even
talking about this. So you know I love the Lord.
You're gonna pull the Bible out on me? Okay, you're
gonna read the scripture right now? Yeah, it's not working
for you.

Speaker 5 (10:12):
And you've been with us for three years?

Speaker 6 (10:14):
Did he get have no technique, no side, and no job.

Speaker 2 (10:19):
Because he's handsome, in shape and loves the Lord. That's
why this.

Speaker 4 (10:23):
Is Tommy in shape, I'm telling you.

Speaker 6 (10:29):
And then all of a sudden so so I said
that you finished doing all this none work.

Speaker 5 (10:34):
Now we become Marie Calendy. You in his cooking. Now
you're a restaurant. Now you're in here just baking everything.
Got a full meal, full spread? What is this?

Speaker 1 (10:45):
And it's probably now that he can't get a job.
He's just waiting for the job that he loves.

Speaker 4 (10:50):
She said.

Speaker 1 (10:51):
He's he wants the job that he loves catering since.

Speaker 2 (11:00):
And some chef.

Speaker 5 (11:01):
Yeah, this is this doesn't work for me. I don't
I don't get it. You need to leave him. You
did it for three years. It's three years of this
and you might call your ex boyfriend up.

Speaker 6 (11:10):
So you're gonna talk to him while I'm in here
putting in all Okay, you're gonna hang that phone up.

Speaker 5 (11:13):
Oh, you're gonna put that phone up. Watch this. Give
him a tie, Give me a tie, give me tie.

Speaker 3 (11:20):
Hey, Yeah, when you need it, you're gonna so you're
gonna call tast the name out like I ain't in here, honey,
what you're gonna do?

Speaker 6 (11:28):
Okay, all right, you're gonna gona You're gonna save Melvin
in a minute. In a minute, you're gonna save Melvin yeah,
give give him a tie, Give me tie, give me.

Speaker 4 (11:37):
Talk.

Speaker 5 (11:38):
So you just folding cloth while I'm in here working hard.
I got your leg up. You can still fold a
T shirt while your leg in the ass. Okay, all right,
I see what you're doing. Now are you gonna make
me mad? And I'm gonna tell you to put that
whole basket down? Watch it. I ain't nothing happened because
it's trash.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
Yes, he said it was trash. He tries her gifts,
He buys her gifts. Now he does do that. He
tells you, making up for it. He tells her she's
the best woman he's ever been with.

Speaker 5 (12:02):
Now let's understand this. Surely they're not good gifts now.

Speaker 2 (12:06):
Oh oh oh, oh oh.

Speaker 5 (12:08):
Where he get the money for a good gift?

Speaker 4 (12:10):
Oh?

Speaker 5 (12:10):
He got no job.

Speaker 2 (12:12):
That's right.

Speaker 4 (12:12):
That's true. That's true.

Speaker 2 (12:14):
That's right.

Speaker 1 (12:15):
And he's wine for the job that he loves before
he gets the job.

Speaker 4 (12:18):
Them dollarsto gifts.

Speaker 6 (12:20):
Yeah, I'm about to say, Tommy, you know you got
you got the fan you plugging the bottom of your phone,
Keep you cool, that's what you got.

Speaker 5 (12:26):
And that's the one that's the one he get.

Speaker 6 (12:30):
Surprise, It's like you get some great gifts in here.
If there's a three piece character, hold them now.

Speaker 5 (12:37):
You're gonna call him.

Speaker 2 (12:39):
Carlin's got the phone. Yes, yeah, they get.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
He bad, he bad, he bad fruit and I went
by the grunstore. Got you some grapes, grapes.

Speaker 2 (12:50):
Come on now cooking though, what is he cooking in
the kitchen?

Speaker 4 (12:54):
Grial cheese, Blona sandwiches.

Speaker 3 (12:57):
They ain't got no money, ain't got no money, Roman noodles.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
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