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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you nephew. Subject. If he can do it, I
can too. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married to my
husband for six years now. Recently I found out that
he was cheating on me. He had nude photos of
his side chick on his phone, and I saw all
their text messages and even listen to all of his
voicemail messages. He got really mean and defensive when he
got exposed. He even told me that she was better
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in bed than I am. And I am the reason
that he cheated. I let him have this woman on
the side, and I go on about my business because
I'm not leaving this house that I just fixed up.
What's bad is that a side chick married too, so
I could blow up her marriage if I was an
evil person. I keep my emotions in check by making love.
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You ready for this one? By making love to my stepson.
My husband's son turned twenty two in December, yes okay,
and I went to drop his birthday presents off at
his apartment and he came to the door in his boxers.
It's like he knew what was up. He said, he
knows his dad is trash, and he wants to show
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me that all men aren't dogs. I told him he
is not a man at all because he's barely legal.
He said he could show me better than he could
tell me, so I told him, let's do this. That
young man has changed my whole outlook on sex because
of what he does for me. I'm able to coexist
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in my loveless marriage in a way. I want my
husband to know that two can play that game. But
it's his son, so that's tricky. My stepson is catching feelings,
so I told him we need to go slowly because
I'm not leaving his dad. Now. I've got the son
feelings some kind of way about us. In quotations. He
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wants more and I can't give him that I turned
thirty in January, and I feel like society looks down
on women that date younger men. What should I do?
So this is what we're doing now for the getback.
We're sleeping with our husband's sons. I mean, I understand
you're hurt, but fooling around with his son is definitely
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not the answer. It's too close to home, and you know,
this could blow up the family. This could break up
the entire family. I'm surprised that the son was so
bold as to come onto you like that, But you
guys are not that far apart in age, and he
obviously doesn't like or respect his father. He said his
father was trash. But have you thought this out? You
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know there's a double standard in life with women and men.
You also know that two wrongs do not make a right.
I understand your hurt. Yes, he said some awful things
to you, some very mean things to you, and at
that time you had no defense. Now you do. I
just think that there are a lot of men in
the world. Why couldn't you Why you got to date
his twenty two year old son while you got to
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sleep with him. Could it be that you've been feeling
some kind of way about his son. Anyway, Now you
guys are in this full fledged relationship, and now the
sun is catching feelings. And once more you say, but
you don't want to leave your husband or your home
because you just fixed that up. The son is going
to let it out. You do know that he's gonna
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want to flex on his dad. So get ready to
leave because when your husband finds out, no matter what
he's done, he won't forgive you. Men don't usually do that. Steve,
if he.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Can do it, I can't.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Okay, Well that can be your that's obviously attitude, and
that's what you decided to do.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
His hew.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
I started. They've been married sixteen years. I mean they've
been with you. He's been a husband for six years.
So that means when you married this man, this boy
that you with now, this young dude you with now,
was sixteen. I'm just throwing out some numbers here. Now,
I'm thinking, since this lady's thirty and her son in law,
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her stepson, is twenty two, I'm assuming that the father
could have had the boy when he was eighteen or twenty. So,
if I'm doing some numbers here, the dad right now,
if he had the boy, if he got a girl
pregnant when he was eighteen, the dad right now is forty.
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If he got a girl pregnant when he was twenty,
the dad right now would be forty two. So I'm
just trying to get a little perspective of the numbers
we're talking about here. So the boy was, he's twenty two.
Now his dad is either forty or twenty two. He
could be older, but I know he's somewhere in there
at least. So now you got this man that's forty
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forty two years old and got this house y'all live in,
and he was going through his phone, and you found
out that he's cheated, and you know, you saw text messages, photos,
nude pictures, voice messages, and he got mean and defensive
when you exposed it. He even told me she was
better in bed than I am. And I'm the reason
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he cheated. So now he gonna try the ultimate gangs
to move on you by trying to embarrass you, humiliate you,
and make you the villain.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
You the reason.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Okay, then you said I let him have his woman
on the side, and I went on by a bit
business because I'm not leaving this house that I just
fixed up. Okay, So now that statement there lets me
know that this house was probably in his name, which
is one of the one of the detracting reasons you went.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
With this guy in the first place because he had something.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Now you done went in there and fixed it up,
and you not leaving the house you just fixed up
because you don't have no rights to claim the house
as yours. Most women who get cheated on by their
husband will put the man out. Don't you come in
here and come in his bed?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
No more?
Speaker 3 (06:24):
But the paperwork ain't right yet. I just wanted to
throw that out to you off before I come back
and tell you what happened when she took the boy's
birthday gift over there and he came to the door
in his drawers.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Okay, Steeve, hang on, we'll have part two of your
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's Strawberry Letters subject is if he can do it,
I can too. We'll get back into it right after this.
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Speaker 1 (07:24):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject if he can do it, I can too.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Well, you know what I was going over this letter.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
This woman who's married to this guy that's a little
bit older than her because he has a twenty two
year old son that just had a birthday. They've been
married six years, which means the son in law in
this letter, I mean the step son in this letter
was sixteen when she married the man. Probably knew him
a year or two before that before they got married.
So been around it will the board and grove up now.
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And she was going through her husband's phone, found out
he's cheating on and found some new pictures, text messages,
voicemails and all that confirmed the guy.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
The guy turns around and says, this is your fault.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
She is better in bed than you, and you the
reason I cheated anyway, So now he gonna just throw
a double canandra on you, make you think you the
reason for it, and shame you like you ain't good enough.
So then but you said you're gonna let him go
on to have his little side chick, and you went
on about your business because you're not leaving this house
that you then fixed up. Obviously your paperwork ain't on it,
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so y'all you did was decorate the house. So anyway,
and you say in the letter, I keep my emotions
in check by making love to my step son.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
Wow wow wow wow.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
Now just threw that out in the middle of the
damn letter. And then this is the story. My husband's
son turned twenty two in December and I went to
drop by his birthday presence off at his apartment and
he came to the door in his boxes.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
It's like he knew what was up. Lady.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
First of all, this a twenty two year old young man.
Why you got to bring his birthday gifts over to
his apartment to drop them off? You don't think that
little boy's ears went back, Oh she want to come
over here and drop off the kills it? Well, you
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know easily Hey, next time you overhear your dad's we
have some gifts for you. Now I'm gonna bring them
over to your apartment. Young Buck came up in their
draws on just draws. He said, he knows his da
dad's trash, and he wants to show me that all
men ain't dogs. I told him he's not a man
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at all, because he's badly legal. He said, he can
show me better than you tell. We're gonna call his
nickname is gonna be Jack Rabbit. Jack Rabbit went up
in here because yeah, because at twenty two. Let me
tell you something. It ain't that they can last. It's
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just they can just keep coming back over and over.
That the energize a bunny. That's why we're gonna call
it jack Rabbit. So now he doesn't change your whole
view of sex now and now because of what he
does for me, she says, I'm able to coexist in
my loveless marriage in a way. I want my husband
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to know that two can play this game. What but
it's his son, So that's tricky. It's way past tricky
now this way. Now, first of all, you tricky, your
husband tricky, and the son tricky. So three tricky ass
people is in here tricking each other. That's all tricky, tricky, tricky,
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tricky tricky. So now my step son is catching feelings,
which means you'd.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Have been over there over and over and over.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
And I told him we need to go slowly because
I'm not leaving his dad, because first of all, you're
not moving out this big ass house to go over
there in that little lass apartment with that refrigerator in
that flat screen TV. Now, he don't put together full ikia.
Now see he don't put together full ike. Yeah, that's
what it is. He don't put together full ikea desk,
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chairs and a road and that's his sofa. Uh And
he done took a blanket and covered that. You're not
finna go over there with there. Now, I got his
son feeling some kind of way of us, and he
wants more, and I can't give him that. I turned
thirty in January, and I feel like society looks.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Down on women to day. Younger man, What should I do? Lady?
What should you do?
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Well?
Speaker 2 (11:45):
I don't care what you do. You do? Know this
is gonna blow up in everybody's face.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
Yeah, your husband is a Cheatah, your husband and then
he's he's manipulative, So now he trying to make you
think it's your fault. Your get back. Look, I understand
to get back. Moved two can play that game. But
of all the men out here, the man's son. But
then his son and his dad ain't got no kind
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of relationship because them trifling. Everybody in this letter trifling.
There is no good person in this letter, including you.
And now we can't give you no good advice because
there's no good can come of anything you've told it.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Boy, you're gonna keep.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Coming over there knocking his brains back in his head,
but you're not leaving his daddy because you fixed up
at the house.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
All y'all got a real low set of standards. Yeah,
but can't help you.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Is that she feels like society looks down on women
who date younger men.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
That issue, I'm prob that's what your problem is.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
You're in a bad marriage and you chose to make
it worse by sleeping with the man's son.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Come on, you could have went to work.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
And picked any one of them guys and they'd have
volunteered to help you out.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
Yeah, this is a series of bad choices, bad decisions
and there's nothing I can do for you, and I
really don't care.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Please write us back and.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Let us know how it goes.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Yeah, when they followed up the father son all right.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
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