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July 16, 2025 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show, Wednesday, July 16, 2025. Subject: "If It Ain't Broke, Don't Fix It"

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
And if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve BARVIFM
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Speaker 1 (00:15):
Okay. And you never know.

Speaker 2 (00:16):
We could hear that, we could be getting your letter,
and we could be reading it live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one, and you
just never know it could be yours.

Speaker 3 (00:26):
You never know. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you.

Speaker 4 (00:29):
Here.

Speaker 3 (00:29):
It is the Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
Thank you, nephew.

Speaker 2 (00:32):
Subject. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a fifty two year old married woman and I've
been married for twenty one years and we have three
teenagers at home. I'm working from home now, so I'm
able to cook for the kids and be a bit
more hands on. I also have more time to see
how ignorant my husband really is. He is a cheater

(00:56):
and a very bad one. He's been busted several times,
and I've overlooked it because I don't want to break
up a happy home. My father is a big influencer
in my life. He was a pastor for most of
my life, and when he cheated on my mother, he
got excommunicated from the church. I know I should not
be getting marital advice from him, but he's a wise man,

(01:19):
so I'd rather listen to him than a therapist.

Speaker 1 (01:23):
He's always told me to keep to.

Speaker 2 (01:25):
Myself and not to look for things, and I will
have a long and happy marriage. Being in the house
ninety percent of the time shields me from anything my
husband might be doing in the streets. That's why I
call him ignorant all the time. He can't even cover
his tracks like a seasoned womanizer would. I've seen inappropriate

(01:45):
emails to his female manager, and I've seen text messages
and breastpicks on his phone from random women. That's his thing.
He always gets several breast picks from the women he's
sleeping with. It can be two or three at a time,
and for all I care, but there's no way I
should know what he's up to. Women and my family
disagree with me all the time and try to tell

(02:08):
me things about my husband.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
I ask them politely.

Speaker 2 (02:11):
To stop gossiping with me, because I'm not leaving this man.
My dad came over the other night and confirmed what
I believe.

Speaker 1 (02:20):
He said.

Speaker 2 (02:20):
If it ain't broke, don't fix it. My man still
makes me feel like I am the only woman for
him despite what he does behind my back. Am I
a fool for letting the slide? Or do I destroy
my family and leave him? What a confusing situation you're
in and try to get us in. But let's see

(02:42):
if we can help you. I think the first thing
you need to do is stop listening to your daddy.
That's what I think, because remember, he cheated too. He
got kicked out of the church for it. What he's
telling you to do is what he would have wanted
his wife and your mother to do so he could
keep doing what he would doing cheating. That way he
could cheat and keep his pastor's job at the same time.

(03:05):
So please tell him thank you, but no, thank you.
I'm good, daddy, I'm good. I know this is hurting you.
It's confusing you. Your dad's asking you to turn a
blind eye to your husband's infidelity. You're not happy, and
even though you say you have a happy home, it's
not happy in your home. You're miserable. They all know

(03:26):
about your husband, your family. You've sacrificed your happiness for
twenty one years listening to your dad's crazy advice. I
mean it's time you make some decisions for your own,
on your own about your own life. Okay, tell your
husband you're no longer going to put up with going.
You know, all this goings on that he has, this

(03:48):
is crap that he's giving you.

Speaker 1 (03:50):
You said you're not leaving him. Are you sure?

Speaker 2 (03:52):
You said you're not leaving him in spite of everything
that you've seen and that he's done. But you know
you don't have to take this from him my hope. Yes,
your marriage is very broken and it does need fixing.

Speaker 1 (04:05):
So if you really want to.

Speaker 2 (04:06):
Stay in it, since you said you're not leaving, it's
time to let your husband know that he better straighten
up or he's got to go.

Speaker 1 (04:13):
Simple as that, Steve.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
I don't know how we help a person that don't
want help.

Speaker 4 (04:19):
Yeah, lady, why did you even write us? I mean,
you know you said in the letter. Here's a line
that sticks out for me. Women in my family disagree
with me all the time and then try to tell
me things about my husband. I ask them politely to
stop gossiping with me because I'm not leaving this man.

Speaker 3 (04:45):
Okay, So what you want to do, you ain't leaving.

Speaker 4 (04:48):
Stay there, stay there, stay there and quick complaining that's
all you got to do. Now seemed to me like
in this letter you need to learn how to lap it,
lick it and like it. Three l lap it, lick

(05:10):
it and like it. That's what it seems to me like,
because you don't. You're not leaving this man, all right.
But now let me tell you, let me get you
to this point. You're fifty two, you've been married twenty one,
you got three teenagers at home, and now you have

(05:33):
more time to spend at home, so you can be
a bit more hands on because you work from home now.
And now you want to say your husband are only
time to see how ignorant my husband really is. So
you're married to an ignorant man. Okay, he's a cheater
and a very bad one. Now you're married to an
ignorant man. That's a cheater. You've busted him several times,

(05:58):
and I've overlooked because I don't want to break up
a happy home. Who happy in the home? No, I
mean the kids might be cool because they don't know
he's certainly cool because he can get busted and you
overlook it. So I'm not sure that if he's getting

(06:22):
busted and you're overlooking it, if he's ignorant, or he
realized he can do what he want to do because
you ain't gonna do nothing. So I'm not really sure
that he's ignorant. I just think he realized you ain't
gonna do nothing. When I come back, I'll straightened it out.
They ain't gonna be able to help you, though, but
I will.

Speaker 3 (06:41):
Talk to you.

Speaker 1 (06:41):
It's day, all right, Thank you, Steve.

Speaker 2 (06:44):
Coming up Part two of Steve Strawberry let her response
at twenty three minutes after the hour. The subject is,
if it ain't broke, don't fix it. We'll get back
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today's crazy Strawberry letter.

Speaker 1 (07:35):
The subject if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

Speaker 3 (07:38):
This is the dumbest letter we've had in a while.
This is just dumb.

Speaker 4 (07:43):
I'm fifty two, been married twenty one years, three teen
years at home. You work for home now, so you
spend a lot of more time. You're a lot more
home are you a lot more hands on now? And
you've also had had time to see how ignorant your
husband really is now. This is why you say he's ignorant.
He's a cheatah and a very bad Okay, then you
say he's been busting several times, and I've overlooked it

(08:05):
because I don't want.

Speaker 3 (08:06):
To break up a happy home. You don't want to
break up home for who?

Speaker 4 (08:11):
Because if you happy in that type of situation, there's
nothing Man Shirley can do for you. My father is
a big influence in my life. He was a pastor
for most of my life. When he cheated on my
mother and he got excommunicated from the church. I know
I should not be getting marriedtal advice from him, but

(08:31):
he's a wise man, so I'd rather listen to him
than a therapist. You make the most contradictory statements throughout
your damn ladder. You live with the man who's ignorant
and a bad cheater, and you overlook it because you
don't want to break up a happy home. Your father
got excommunicated for cheating on your mama, and I know

(08:53):
I should not be getting married. Tell advice from him,
but he's a wise man, so I'd rather listen to
him down a therapist.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
Okay, okay, lady.

Speaker 4 (09:04):
And now this is what his father says. He's always
told me to keep to myself and not look for things,
and I will have a long and happy marriage. What
kind of father is this? Listen to me, He's wise,
but not to your benefit. He has give you the

(09:25):
wisdom of a cheater. He's not giving you the wisdom
you need as the person who's being cheated on. And
I'm stunned that this is coming from your father. How
old and backwards ass is he thinking? And this is
who you'd rather talk to than a therapist?

Speaker 3 (09:43):
A lady, come on now, and you fifty two what
you're talking to?

Speaker 4 (09:49):
His old ass fault, this old ass cheating with this
old ass advice you do daddy old enough to have
written a him. Why are you listening to him? Shut up,

(10:11):
keep your mouth closed, Let your man cheat. Head here
gold you shut up, keep your mouth closed. Let your
man keep cheating on. I said, shut up and keep
your mouth closed, and let your man keep cheating on.
Let him cheat, let him cheat, cheat on you, and

(10:33):
keep your mouth closed.

Speaker 3 (10:34):
So you have a happy home.

Speaker 4 (10:37):
Now.

Speaker 3 (10:38):
Being in the house ninety.

Speaker 4 (10:39):
Percent of the time, it shields me from anything my
husband might be doing in the streets.

Speaker 3 (10:43):
No, it don't, lady. That's why I call him ignorant
all the time.

Speaker 4 (10:47):
He can't even cover his track like a seasoned Lumanizer Wood.
I've seen inappropriate emails to his female manager. I've seen
text messages and breastpiics on his phone from random women.
Why he need a pass code because if you see it,
you've already said you gonna overlook it. And in a

(11:09):
minute in the letter, you're finna tell us you ain't
finna leave him.

Speaker 3 (11:13):
So how ignorant is he? He doing it? Because he
know you ain't gonna do nothing. That's his thing.

Speaker 4 (11:20):
He always gets several breast picks from the women he's
sleeping with.

Speaker 3 (11:24):
You're typing this from your happy home.

Speaker 4 (11:32):
It can be two or three out of time for
all I care. But there's no way I should know
what he's up to. It's okay that you know what
he's up to, because you're not going to do anything
about it for two reasons, cause you don't want to
upset your happy home, and your daddy told you to
stop looking for stuff. Women in my family disagree with

(11:55):
me all the time, and they try to tell me
things about my husband. I ask him politely stop gossiping
with me, because I am not leaving this man. Okay, now, nah,
I got a clear picture of it. You think your
husband is a ignorant because he cheats. He's been busting
several times, and you keep overlooking it. Your dad isn't

(12:16):
told you to stop looking through for stuff, but you
find stuff anyway.

Speaker 3 (12:21):
Female relatives and told you to leave him.

Speaker 4 (12:23):
You've told him to stop gossiping about you and him
because you're not leaving this man.

Speaker 3 (12:31):
My dad came over the other night.

Speaker 4 (12:33):
Now here come this old fool your dad came over
the other night and confirmed what I believe.

Speaker 3 (12:41):
He said. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

Speaker 4 (12:45):
My man still makes me feel like I'm the only
woman for him despite what he does behind my back.
Am I a food for letting this slide? Or do
I destroy my family and leave him? Lady, listen to me.
This man makes you feel like you're the only woman
for him. You may he may make you feel like

(13:06):
you're the only woman for him, but you ain't the
only woman with him. Now. If you done signed up
for this open marriage that you're in and don't know it,
I'd like to introduce you to it. You are in
an open marriage, idle, and as far as your daddy go,
listen to me. Man, Please don't advise your daughters based

(13:28):
on advise your daughter's based on mistakes you've made, and
let them learn from mistakes you've made. Do not make
your daughters releive a mistakes so you can be cleared
as a cheater.

Speaker 3 (13:38):
That's the most ignorant mess I've ever heard.

Speaker 1 (13:40):
This stupid all right, thank you, Steve.

Speaker 2 (13:44):
You guys can leave us your comments on today's letter
on Instagram at Steve HARVEFM. And check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on demand.

Speaker 1 (13:52):
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