July 19, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating a man or we have been messing around, as he says. It’s been almost five years and he’s not the settling down type, so I’ll take it any way I can get it. I have fallen in love with him and he knows it. I think he uses it against me at times. He’s dating other women because I see him posting pictures in the club and he’s hugged up with other females.......................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Well, today's election day for the primaries in Maryland, so
please go vote. We need you to vote. Just a
reminder to the entire Steve Harvey nation, please make sure
you're registered to vote. Go to when we all vote
dot org when we all vote dot org, and you know,
register and do all the things you have to do
(00:21):
to be ready. This is an very important election year. Okay, yes,
let's go very important. Yeah, when we all vote dot org.
All right, switching gears, It is now time for today's
Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex,
parenting and more, please submit your Strawberry letter. Please submit it,
(00:43):
just go ahead, write it out, Submit it to Steve
HARVEYFM dot com. Click submit Strawberry Letter. We'll get the
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the air, just like this, and we'll try to help you.
You never know, it could be yours. You never know.
Buckle up it hold on type We got it for you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. I'll
(01:03):
take it anyway I can get it. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I've been dating a man, or we have been messing around,
as he says, it's been almost five years and he's
not the settling down type, so I'll take it anyway
I can get it. I have fallen in love with him,
and he knows it. I think he uses it against
(01:23):
me at times he's dating other women because I see
him posting pictures in the club and he's hugged up
with other females. He's a flashy type of guy that
needs to go out at night, and I'm a lot
more conservative. He makes fun of me because I like
game nights at home and house get togethers with my family.
I don't drink a lot, and I won't smoke cigars
(01:45):
with him. One drink gets me tipsy, and he hates
when I'm tipsy. I smoke a cigar and threw up
the entire next day, so he hates when I smoke.
I have tried to match him and whatever he's got
going going on, but he will not include me in
that part of his life. I get to see him
when he's not with his friends or turning up in
(02:06):
the club. I often cook for him and rub his
feet so he can relax at the end of the day.
He claims he doesn't like to go out with me
because I'm his peace, and when he is with me,
he feels safe and at home. I stay and I
pray that he will choose me if he decides to
settle down one day soon. I know for a fact
(02:29):
that he is not spending quality time with anyone else.
I never see traces of other women at his house,
so I think I'm the closest thing to a girlfriend
that he's got. I hate that old saying that a
man will be a man, because that's condoning cheating. I
don't want him to ever get his foot rubs from
another woman. I know I am settling, but there are
(02:51):
no good men out there anymore. I put in five
years with him, and I don't want to start over.
Am I wrong for accepting whatever he gives me? Well, yes, ma'am,
yes you are. You're wrong for settling. This whole letter
is about him and what he says and what he wants,
and it's about rubbing his feet. You're the ones that
(03:11):
should be getting your feet rubbed. You're in the heels,
and you know this letter is on and on and
on about him. What about you? Who's looking out for
and who's caring for you? Or don't you think you
deserve that. Listen, I'm just here to tell you that
I don't care if he was the only man left.
Don't ever settle. There are plenty of good man out here.
(03:35):
You just don't know because you've been tied up with
this guy for the last five years. You just have
to not be afraid to be by yourself and wait
or walk away until the right man comes along. Five
years of your life you've given to this man and
you've got nothing in return. All you do is serve him.
I mean, you said, he tells you you're his piece
(03:58):
pe a ce as you put it in the letter,
but in reality, you're his pie cepiece. You don't have
to take it anyway he gives it. You don't have
to settle for anything. Nothing is that good. I mean nothing.
I just don't think it is. Don't let him continue
(04:18):
to use you. You gotta let him stay with those
other women he's cheating with. If that's the case, Okay,
that's the best way I can tell you. Do not
allow him to treat you this way. Get a backbone,
put an end to this situation now. Don't waste another
five years of your time with him, because he'll stay
with you as long as you let him stay with you,
(04:39):
you know that's it. He doesn't even call this a relationship.
He calls it messing around, messing around. You don't want
to do that for another five years? Steve very Good
responds during Good. You know when you send in a
letter and your opening statement is I'll take anywhere I
(05:00):
can get it. What you want us to do? What? What?
What can we do? Because you you you you're you're
willing to accept whatever. Let let's go through the letter
this Stephen Sherlly. I've been dating a man or we
have been messing around, as he says, and it's almost
been five years, and he's not the settling down type. Well,
(05:26):
I have news for you. You ain't either. See it
ain't just him, is you? You ain't the settling down
type because you've been letting this man tell you y'all
messing around for five years and you've been cool with that.
Then your next statement is, so I'll take it anyway
I can get it. Oh, so you just miss anything
(05:46):
and everything? What you want to do anything because I
take everything? Or you want to pass out everything because
I take anything? What's what's wrong with you? I have
fallen in love with him, and he knows it, falling
in love in love with him. Why I think he
(06:07):
uses it against me at times he's dating other women
because I see him posting pictures in the club and
he's hugged up with these other females. He's posting the
pictures in your face. He's a flashing type of guy
that needs to go out tonight, and I'm not. And
I'm a lot more conservative girl. Let's say in the
(06:29):
work not for you, because he's working out just fine
for him. When we come back, I'll tell you the
rest of it. It's just gonna be pretty necessaried. All right,
hang on, we'll have part two of Steve's refunds coming
up in twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter.
Subject I'll take it anyway I can get it. We'll
(06:51):
be back right after this. You're listening to all right,
Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject
I'll take it, I can get it. Sisters that's listening
to me. I want you to listen to this because
some of you can see yourself in here, and I'm
about to share some important information. I'll take it anywhere
(07:11):
I can get it. She's been dating a man, been
messing around, as he calls it, for five years, because
he won't call it dating, and she's going along with it.
It's been almost five years and he's not the settling
down type. Well, lady, you ain't either, so I'll take
it anywhere I can get it. So I just told
you on the last break, she's missing anything and everything.
That's so she just go along with anything. He's dating
(07:33):
other women because I see him posting pictures in the
club and he's hugged up with other females and he's
posting these pictures. You don't, You don't see what's happening here.
But you say, I know he's dating other women. You
said that, What do dating them lead to? What do
dating them mean? Why? Why? What's the matter with you?
(07:57):
He's a he's a flashing type of guy that needs
to go out at night, and I'm a lot more concertan. Now,
listen to this. He makes fun of me because I
like game nights at home and house get togethers with
my family. I don't drink a lot, and I don't
smoke cigars with him, and one drink gets me tippy,
and he hates when I'm tipsy. I smoke the cigar
and threw up the entire next day, so he hates
(08:18):
when I smoke. Okay, can I tell you something, man,
He don't like you. He don't like you. Okay, let's
start there. I've tried to match him in whatever he's
got going on, and he will not include me in
that part of his life. He don't like I get
(08:39):
to see him when he's not with his friends or
turning up at the club. That's because he don't like you.
I often cook for him and rub his feet so
he can relax at the end of the day. Oh
so now you stupid too. You're rubbing his feet so
he can go stand back on and take them pictures
(09:00):
with their mother. He claims he doesn't like to go
out with me because I'm his piece. He don't like
to go out with you because he don't like you.
It's in the centers. He claims he doesn't like to
go He don't like you because I'm his piece. Shirley said,
(09:26):
pe a Ce, you're his side piece. He ain't got
to call you know where you the side piece. The
other pieces is on tape, they on video. They at
the club, and when he is with me, he feels safe.
And at home, he tied. He the ward's ass out.
(09:52):
It came to you. Yeah, I stay and pray that
he would choose me if he decides to settle down
one day. Son, you that's stupid. God ain't put you
in this situation. So don't don't don't don't, don't. Don't
pray God to fix this situation here because you bought
this on yourself. I know for a fact that he's
(10:14):
not spending quality time with anyone else. Are you stupid?
You just said you see the post. You just said,
he come in and tied and you got to rub
these feet. Now check this out. I know for a fact,
I don't know he's not spending quality time with anyone.
I never see traces of other women at his house,
so I think I'm the closest thing to a girlfriend
(10:34):
that he's got. He got cleaning lady, He got to
cleaning lady. You can't see trade. You ain't no blood.
How a matter of fact, you're stupid, so you don't
see no traces of no other woman. He posting pictures?
Why they got to leave everdence over there for somebody
They think they it too. I hate the old saying
(10:55):
that a that a man's a man, because that's condoned
in cheak. He cheating, he's seeing other people. You think
it is cheating because you think he yours, he belonged
to them streets. I don't want him to ever get
his foot rubs from another woman. Well, you keep doing
(11:17):
the lady, You're stupid. I know I'm settling, Okay, glad
you know that. But there are no good men out
there anymore. Okay, see this is what, this is what
now we gotta get to. There are no good men
out there anymore. Okay. And so now that you've made
(11:37):
that statement, please describe to me which one you have,
because it sounds like you got one of them, no
good ones to me, you put into the universe. There
are no good men out there anymore. So now you
didn't took one of these no good men? And I
hope they're gonna turn into a good man by praying
(11:57):
that he don't go no whales and get his feet rubbed.
You stupid. I put five years in with him and
I don't want to start over. Am I wrong for
accepting whatever he gives me? Don't it sound wrong? To you.
Did you read this letter for you? Send it back
to me? Stop being blind to your own self. If
your girlfriend told you this was happening to her, would
(12:19):
you advise her to stay? I don't think so, but
it's amazing how people don't follow their own advice. That
are good men out there, You're just not available to
locate one and they can't locate you because you ain't available.
Can I say this to you again? That are good
men out there, You're just not available to locate one
(12:41):
and they can't locate you because you are not available.
Rubbing understand because you're rubbing mister wronges feet. So where
is mister wrong wherever? Mister rightfin to sit at on
the couch next to y'all while you love and mister
ronges man, don't be stupid? All right? You said it?
Post your comments on today's struw Daughter like you Steve
(13:03):
Harvey at them on Instagram and Facebook, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. We're coming up here
at forty six minutes after the hour, Junior is back
with sports talk and we'll get into that right after this.
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
Well, today's election day for the primaries in Maryland, so
please go vote. We need you to vote. Just a
reminder to the entire Steve Harvey nation, please make sure
you're registered to vote. Go to when we all vote
dot org when we all vote dot org, and you know,
register and do all the things you have to do
(00:21):
to be ready. This is an very important election year. Okay, yes,
let's go very important. Yeah, when we all vote dot org.
All right, switching gears, It is now time for today's
Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex,
parenting and more, please submit your Strawberry letter. Please submit it,
(00:43):
just go ahead, write it out, Submit it to Steve
HARVEYFM dot com. Click submit Strawberry Letter. We'll get the
letter and we could be reading your letter live on
the air, just like this, and we'll try to help you.
You never know, it could be yours. You never know.
Buckle up it hold on type We got it for you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. I'll
(01:03):
take it anyway I can get it. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I've been dating a man, or we have been messing around,
as he says, it's been almost five years and he's
not the settling down type, so I'll take it anyway
I can get it. I have fallen in love with him,
and he knows it. I think he uses it against
(01:23):
me at times he's dating other women because I see
him posting pictures in the club and he's hugged up
with other females. He's a flashy type of guy that
needs to go out at night, and I'm a lot
more conservative. He makes fun of me because I like
game nights at home and house get togethers with my family.
I don't drink a lot, and I won't smoke cigars
(01:45):
with him. One drink gets me tipsy, and he hates
when I'm tipsy. I smoke a cigar and threw up
the entire next day, so he hates when I smoke.
I have tried to match him and whatever he's got
going going on, but he will not include me in
that part of his life. I get to see him
when he's not with his friends or turning up in
(02:06):
the club. I often cook for him and rub his
feet so he can relax at the end of the day.
He claims he doesn't like to go out with me
because I'm his peace, and when he is with me,
he feels safe and at home. I stay and I
pray that he will choose me if he decides to
settle down one day soon. I know for a fact
(02:29):
that he is not spending quality time with anyone else.
I never see traces of other women at his house,
so I think I'm the closest thing to a girlfriend
that he's got. I hate that old saying that a
man will be a man, because that's condoning cheating. I
don't want him to ever get his foot rubs from
another woman. I know I am settling, but there are
(02:51):
no good men out there anymore. I put in five
years with him, and I don't want to start over.
Am I wrong for accepting whatever he gives me? Well, yes, ma'am,
yes you are. You're wrong for settling. This whole letter
is about him and what he says and what he wants,
and it's about rubbing his feet. You're the ones that
(03:11):
should be getting your feet rubbed. You're in the heels,
and you know this letter is on and on and
on about him. What about you? Who's looking out for
and who's caring for you? Or don't you think you
deserve that. Listen, I'm just here to tell you that
I don't care if he was the only man left.
Don't ever settle. There are plenty of good man out here.
(03:35):
You just don't know because you've been tied up with
this guy for the last five years. You just have
to not be afraid to be by yourself and wait
or walk away until the right man comes along. Five
years of your life you've given to this man and
you've got nothing in return. All you do is serve him.
I mean, you said, he tells you you're his piece
(03:58):
pe a ce as you put it in the letter,
but in reality, you're his pie cepiece. You don't have
to take it anyway he gives it. You don't have
to settle for anything. Nothing is that good. I mean nothing.
I just don't think it is. Don't let him continue
(04:18):
to use you. You gotta let him stay with those
other women he's cheating with. If that's the case, Okay,
that's the best way I can tell you. Do not
allow him to treat you this way. Get a backbone,
put an end to this situation now. Don't waste another
five years of your time with him, because he'll stay
with you as long as you let him stay with you,
(04:39):
you know that's it. He doesn't even call this a relationship.
He calls it messing around, messing around. You don't want
to do that for another five years? Steve very Good
responds during Good. You know when you send in a
letter and your opening statement is I'll take anywhere I
(05:00):
can get it. What you want us to do? What? What?
What can we do? Because you you you you're you're
willing to accept whatever. Let let's go through the letter
this Stephen Sherlly. I've been dating a man or we
have been messing around, as he says, and it's almost
been five years, and he's not the settling down type. Well,
(05:26):
I have news for you. You ain't either. See it
ain't just him, is you? You ain't the settling down
type because you've been letting this man tell you y'all
messing around for five years and you've been cool with that.
Then your next statement is, so I'll take it anyway
I can get it. Oh, so you just miss anything
(05:46):
and everything? What you want to do anything because I
take everything? Or you want to pass out everything because
I take anything? What's what's wrong with you? I have
fallen in love with him, and he knows it, falling
in love in love with him. Why I think he
(06:07):
uses it against me at times he's dating other women
because I see him posting pictures in the club and
he's hugged up with these other females. He's posting the
pictures in your face. He's a flashing type of guy
that needs to go out tonight, and I'm not. And
I'm a lot more conservative girl. Let's say in the
(06:29):
work not for you, because he's working out just fine
for him. When we come back, I'll tell you the
rest of it. It's just gonna be pretty necessaried. All right,
hang on, we'll have part two of Steve's refunds coming
up in twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter.
Subject I'll take it anyway I can get it. We'll
(06:51):
be back right after this. You're listening to all right,
Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject
I'll take it, I can get it. Sisters that's listening
to me. I want you to listen to this because
some of you can see yourself in here, and I'm
about to share some important information. I'll take it anywhere
(07:11):
I can get it. She's been dating a man, been
messing around, as he calls it, for five years, because
he won't call it dating, and she's going along with it.
It's been almost five years and he's not the settling
down type. Well, lady, you ain't either, so I'll take
it anywhere I can get it. So I just told
you on the last break, she's missing anything and everything.
That's so she just go along with anything. He's dating
(07:33):
other women because I see him posting pictures in the
club and he's hugged up with other females and he's
posting these pictures. You don't, You don't see what's happening here.
But you say, I know he's dating other women. You
said that, What do dating them lead to? What do
dating them mean? Why? Why? What's the matter with you?
(07:57):
He's a he's a flashing type of guy that needs
to go out at night, and I'm a lot more concertan. Now,
listen to this. He makes fun of me because I
like game nights at home and house get togethers with
my family. I don't drink a lot, and I don't
smoke cigars with him, and one drink gets me tippy,
and he hates when I'm tipsy. I smoke the cigar
and threw up the entire next day, so he hates
(08:18):
when I smoke. Okay, can I tell you something, man,
He don't like you. He don't like you. Okay, let's
start there. I've tried to match him in whatever he's
got going on, and he will not include me in
that part of his life. He don't like I get
(08:39):
to see him when he's not with his friends or
turning up at the club. That's because he don't like you.
I often cook for him and rub his feet so
he can relax at the end of the day. Oh
so now you stupid too. You're rubbing his feet so
he can go stand back on and take them pictures
(09:00):
with their mother. He claims he doesn't like to go
out with me because I'm his piece. He don't like
to go out with you because he don't like you.
It's in the centers. He claims he doesn't like to
go He don't like you because I'm his piece. Shirley said,
(09:26):
pe a Ce, you're his side piece. He ain't got
to call you know where you the side piece. The
other pieces is on tape, they on video. They at
the club, and when he is with me, he feels safe.
And at home, he tied. He the ward's ass out.
(09:52):
It came to you. Yeah, I stay and pray that
he would choose me if he decides to settle down
one day. Son, you that's stupid. God ain't put you
in this situation. So don't don't don't don't, don't. Don't
pray God to fix this situation here because you bought
this on yourself. I know for a fact that he's
(10:14):
not spending quality time with anyone else. Are you stupid?
You just said you see the post. You just said,
he come in and tied and you got to rub
these feet. Now check this out. I know for a fact,
I don't know he's not spending quality time with anyone.
I never see traces of other women at his house,
so I think I'm the closest thing to a girlfriend
(10:34):
that he's got. He got cleaning lady, He got to
cleaning lady. You can't see trade. You ain't no blood.
How a matter of fact, you're stupid, so you don't
see no traces of no other woman. He posting pictures?
Why they got to leave everdence over there for somebody
They think they it too. I hate the old saying
(10:55):
that a that a man's a man, because that's condoned
in cheak. He cheating, he's seeing other people. You think
it is cheating because you think he yours, he belonged
to them streets. I don't want him to ever get
his foot rubs from another woman. Well, you keep doing
(11:17):
the lady, You're stupid. I know I'm settling, Okay, glad
you know that. But there are no good men out
there anymore. Okay, see this is what, this is what
now we gotta get to. There are no good men
out there anymore. Okay. And so now that you've made
(11:37):
that statement, please describe to me which one you have,
because it sounds like you got one of them, no
good ones to me, you put into the universe. There
are no good men out there anymore. So now you
didn't took one of these no good men? And I
hope they're gonna turn into a good man by praying
(11:57):
that he don't go no whales and get his feet rubbed.
You stupid. I put five years in with him and
I don't want to start over. Am I wrong for
accepting whatever he gives me? Don't it sound wrong? To you.
Did you read this letter for you? Send it back
to me? Stop being blind to your own self. If
your girlfriend told you this was happening to her, would
(12:19):
you advise her to stay? I don't think so, but
it's amazing how people don't follow their own advice. That
are good men out there, You're just not available to
locate one and they can't locate you because you ain't available.
Can I say this to you again? That are good
men out there, You're just not available to locate one
(12:41):
and they can't locate you because you are not available.
Rubbing understand because you're rubbing mister wronges feet. So where
is mister wrong wherever? Mister rightfin to sit at on
the couch next to y'all while you love and mister
ronges man, don't be stupid? All right? You said it?
Post your comments on today's struw Daughter like you Steve
(13:03):
Harvey at them on Instagram and Facebook, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. We're coming up here
at forty six minutes after the hour, Junior is back
with sports talk and we'll get into that right after this.
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