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The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Wednesday, December 10th, 2025. Subject: "I'm Not Going This Year"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you
need advice and relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and click
submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now, and you never know, it
could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you, nephew. Subject I'm not going this year. Dear
Stephen Shirley, My boyfriend is fourteen years older than I am.
We met through a dating app and in his profile
he stated that he's looking for adventure and fun. As
we got to know each other, he admitted that he
did not that he did a lot of threesomes in
(00:44):
his thirties, but he said it's not his thing anymore.
He said he's even had more than two girls in
the bed at one time. I told him it was TMI,
but he said he wanted me to know what I
was getting into. At that time, I had never been
with another female, but I was curious. That was a
year ago. I've matured a lot since then, and it
(01:06):
all happened this January. When my boyfriend took me to
his friend's fiftieth birthday party. I met the most beautiful
woman I had ever seen, and she was so sweet.
We talked all night and she told me that mostly
everyone at the party has had sex with each other.
I asked if they had a swinger thing going on,
(01:27):
and she said it wasn't like that, like I said.
I was curious, so I invited the woman over to
my boyfriend's house. To make a long story short, we
all started hooking up. We stopped messing with her in
October of this year, and since then she's been calling
my boyfriend asking for money and threatening to tell everyone
about our threesomes. Everyone like who Though I'm above this
(01:51):
type of foolishness. I have a reputation to uphold as
a teacher. It's that time again, soon for his friend's
fifty first birthday party, and I told my boyfriend I'm
not going this year, that lady could be planning to
make a scene. He said, I'm being paranoid, and he
has begged me to reconsider. I am not going this year.
(02:12):
How can my boyfriend be so unmothered. Is there more
going on than I know about? Well, I think you're
wise to ask that particular question, because he did take
you to his friend's fiftieth birthday party in the first place,
and the woman, the woman you call the most beautiful
woman that you had ever seen, the sweetest woman, and
all of that, she told you that most of the
(02:32):
people at the party had had sex with each other. Well,
based on that, it is very safe to assume that
she was talking about your boyfriend too. But in October
of this year, you or we, as you said, stopped
messing with her. You didn't tell us why what happened.
You very conveniently left that part out. Now you're scared
(02:54):
she's going to tell everyone if your boyfriend doesn't give
her money, And now you're concerned about your reputation as
a teacher. I think it's a little late for that,
but hopefully the school or the board or anybody won't
find out. And now your man is asking you to
go to this birthday party with him again. You said no.
(03:14):
That's good, You've entitled your letter I'm not going again
this year. But now I think you need to say
no to this whole relationship, not just the party. Your
boyfriend should be protecting you, Okay, you should feel safe
with him. Don't let these swingers, even though they call themselves,
they say they're not swingers. Don't let these swingers make
(03:34):
you lose your job and all of that.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Okay, Steve, Well, Shirley, let me say this off the
back end of what you just said. Don't let these
swingers make you lose a job. She's a swinger. She's okay,
she went, she's been swinging since the last party. Yeah, swinging, Hollywood,
(03:58):
Hollywood swinger. Hey, now, listen the title of the letters.
I'm not going this year. I got news for you.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
He is. Now.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I appreciate you taking a stand and all this here,
but this letter kind of you know. Your boyfriend fourteen
years younger than you.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
You met at a date after year.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
I'm sorry, I'm fourteen years older than I am. Y'all
met on his dating profile.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Excuse me.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
He said he's looking for adventure and fun. Oh little,
did you know what type of advention fun he was
talking about. He didn't mention rock climbing in here nowhere,
I ain't see a bunch of jumping. I didn't see
he likes skiing on the on the Black Diamond slopes
(04:52):
and none of that, looking for adventu fun. Then y'all
got to know each other. Then he admitted to you
he had a lot of threesomes in his thirties, but
he says, not his thing anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Lot of them. God though, come on, he.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
Said he's even had more than two girls in his
bed at once. I don't know how that's this is.
I want to say this before I continue the letter
to anybody listening.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
This is not a freak off letter. That's not what
this is.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
They say, we didn't get this, this puffet, didn't write
this end. We don't know where that letter came from.
It's start to have little freak off tones to it,
and it's scared. I told him that was too much information,
but he said he wanted me to know what I
was getting into.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Now listen to me.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
He'd have told you he had a bunch of threesomes
in his thirties. His friend is at his fiftieth birthday party,
so I'm assuming he's at fifty up. And he wanted
you to know what you were getting into.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
So when he told you that ain't what he do
no more. That wasn't true.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
At that time, I had never been with another female,
but I was curious.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
That was a year ago.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
I matured a lot since then, And all happened this
January when my boyfriend took me to his friend's fiftieth
birthday party. I met the most beautiful woman I've ever seen,
and she was so sweet.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Lord have mercy.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
Right after this, we'll get into the freak off coming
back right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up in twenty three minutes after the hour today Strawberry letter,
subject I'm not going this year. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening to the Steve Harvey
Morning Show. If someone asked you to pay with a
(07:00):
gift card, it's a scam always. Cammers love gift cards
because they're just like cash. They use fake stories about prizes,
overdue bills, or emergencies to get you to act before
you think. But no real business, government agency, or friend
will ever ask for gift cards. Learn how to spot
(07:21):
and stop these scams at AAARP dot org slash gift
cards paid for by AARP. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is I'm not
going this year.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Yeah, the letters about this lady who met her boyfriend
who's fourteen years older than her on a dating app
and his profile he said he was looking for adventure
and fun. Now, no way in the app did you
hear rock climbing or snowboarding, a bungee jumping. You didn't
hear cliff diving. You didn't hear free diving, spearfishing, you
(08:01):
didn't hear that. You didn't hear a black diamond slope ski.
You didn't hear that. You didn't hear hang gliding, a parachuting.
All you heard was adventure in fun. Then y'all got
to know each other. And then he admitted to you
he had a lot of threesomes in his thirties.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Here comes the adventure and fun, he said. But he's
not into that. That's not his thing anymore.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
He said, he's even had more than two girls in
his bed at one time. I told him that's TMI.
He said, he wanted me to know what I was
getting into that right there, ma'am negates what he just
said about I'm not into that anymore. So Now, at
(08:48):
that time I had never been with another female. But
I was curious. Now she said that was a year ago.
She's matured a lot since that. And then this January,
which means coming up is this next party. But this January,
your boyfriend take you to his friend's fiftieth birthday party.
That's how I know they round the same age. I
(09:09):
met the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. She was
so sweet. We talked all night.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
She told you that most.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Everybody at the party that had sex with each other.
Now what she told you? The fine chick? I asked
if they had a swing this thing going on? She said,
it wasn't like that.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Well what is it? Then?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
If everybody at the party that had sex with each other?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
What you call that swanging? What? What is it? Just
let me know which one it is. Something happened here.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
To make a long story short, I said, I was curious,
so I invited the woman over.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
To my boyfriend's house. You did this, Now, a long
story short. We all started hooking up.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
We stopped messing with her in October of this year,
and since then she been calling my boyfriend asking for
money and threatening to tell everybody about our threesomes. Then
the lady said, everybody like, who, I'm above this type
of foolishness.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
No you're not. No, you ain't above it. You in it.
I have a reputation to uphold as a teacher.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
Teachers do freaking stuff too, you know, our pastors do
freaking stuff. You know, astronauts do freaking stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
A TV.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Yeah, some some happening up there. Oh, we ain't got
no gravity going on?
Speaker 2 (10:47):
What you doing this? Ease?
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Okay, I'm I can promise you something didn't happen in one.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
Of them ships. I'm above this type of fool I
have a reputation of holes here.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
So now I guess what, y'all it's time again this
January for my friend's fifty first birthday party. I told
my boyfriend I'm not going this year that lady could
be planning to make a scene. He said, I'm being paranoid,
and he has begged me to reconsider. See, because y'all
(11:22):
gonna go to the party and find another person to
hook up with, and the lady ain't gonna make no
scene because that what they're all in there doing. Anyway,
I slept with them, we know it. What's she gonna say?
I've been having a threesomewhere with him and her. But
you was over our house too, so the boyfriend know
(11:46):
you're being a little paranoid, and you are, But do
I think you should go? This don't look like this
really for you. I'm not going this year. How can
my boyfriend be so unbothered? Is that more going on
than I know about? He told you he wanted you
(12:06):
to know what he was getting in, what you were
getting into. This is his lifestyle. Birds of a feather
flock together, you're free and throw a birthday party every year.
The girl told you everybody at the party that slept
with each other.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
So that's what they do. I don't understand what's the
confusion right.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
Now?
Speaker 2 (12:35):
You're going or not?
Speaker 1 (12:38):
She said, she's not.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Yeah, but see you was curious about women. You met
the most beautiful woman you ever saw.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Are you going again? He started?
Speaker 3 (12:52):
She started asking your boyfriend for money and stuff. That's
when he started fooling with it. This ain't free, y'all
know this game.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Let me tell you that I'm not going.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
You're not going to the far Way.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Too many cares were you invited?
Speaker 1 (13:17):
They didn't invite you.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
See, that's why they don't invite me.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
That's the one thing about, you know, like Dave Chappelle
did that joke about not going to the Freak Coffee
didn't he said, Wow, I'm the only one ain't get invited.
Am I Ugly?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook,
at Steve Harvey FM and check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. You're listening
to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you
need advice and relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and click
submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now, and you never know, it
could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you, nephew. Subject I'm not going this year. Dear
Stephen Shirley, My boyfriend is fourteen years older than I am.
We met through a dating app and in his profile
he stated that he's looking for adventure and fun. As
we got to know each other, he admitted that he
did not that he did a lot of threesomes in
(00:44):
his thirties, but he said it's not his thing anymore.
He said he's even had more than two girls in
the bed at one time. I told him it was TMI,
but he said he wanted me to know what I
was getting into. At that time, I had never been
with another female, but I was curious. That was a
year ago. I've matured a lot since then, and it
(01:06):
all happened this January. When my boyfriend took me to
his friend's fiftieth birthday party. I met the most beautiful
woman I had ever seen, and she was so sweet.
We talked all night and she told me that mostly
everyone at the party has had sex with each other.
I asked if they had a swinger thing going on,
(01:27):
and she said it wasn't like that, like I said.
I was curious, so I invited the woman over to
my boyfriend's house. To make a long story short, we
all started hooking up. We stopped messing with her in
October of this year, and since then she's been calling
my boyfriend asking for money and threatening to tell everyone
about our threesomes. Everyone like who Though I'm above this
(01:51):
type of foolishness. I have a reputation to uphold as
a teacher. It's that time again, soon for his friend's
fifty first birthday party, and I told my boyfriend I'm
not going this year, that lady could be planning to
make a scene. He said, I'm being paranoid, and he
has begged me to reconsider. I am not going this year.
(02:12):
How can my boyfriend be so unmothered. Is there more
going on than I know about? Well, I think you're
wise to ask that particular question, because he did take
you to his friend's fiftieth birthday party in the first place,
and the woman, the woman you call the most beautiful
woman that you had ever seen, the sweetest woman, and
all of that, she told you that most of the
(02:32):
people at the party had had sex with each other. Well,
based on that, it is very safe to assume that
she was talking about your boyfriend too. But in October
of this year, you or we, as you said, stopped
messing with her. You didn't tell us why what happened.
You very conveniently left that part out. Now you're scared
(02:54):
she's going to tell everyone if your boyfriend doesn't give
her money, And now you're concerned about your reputation as
a teacher. I think it's a little late for that,
but hopefully the school or the board or anybody won't
find out. And now your man is asking you to
go to this birthday party with him again. You said no.
(03:14):
That's good, You've entitled your letter I'm not going again
this year. But now I think you need to say
no to this whole relationship, not just the party. Your
boyfriend should be protecting you, Okay, you should feel safe
with him. Don't let these swingers, even though they call themselves,
they say they're not swingers. Don't let these swingers make
(03:34):
you lose your job and all of that.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Okay, Steve, Well, Shirley, let me say this off the
back end of what you just said. Don't let these
swingers make you lose a job. She's a swinger. She's okay,
she went, she's been swinging since the last party. Yeah, swinging, Hollywood,
(03:58):
Hollywood swinger. Hey, now, listen the title of the letters.
I'm not going this year. I got news for you.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
He is. Now.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I appreciate you taking a stand and all this here,
but this letter kind of you know. Your boyfriend fourteen
years younger than you.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
You met at a date after year.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
I'm sorry, I'm fourteen years older than I am. Y'all
met on his dating profile.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Excuse me.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
He said he's looking for adventure and fun. Oh little,
did you know what type of advention fun he was
talking about. He didn't mention rock climbing in here nowhere,
I ain't see a bunch of jumping. I didn't see
he likes skiing on the on the Black Diamond slopes
(04:52):
and none of that, looking for adventu fun. Then y'all
got to know each other. Then he admitted to you
he had a lot of threesomes in his thirties, but
he says, not his thing anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Lot of them. God though, come on, he.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
Said he's even had more than two girls in his
bed at once. I don't know how that's this is.
I want to say this before I continue the letter
to anybody listening.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
This is not a freak off letter. That's not what
this is.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
They say, we didn't get this, this puffet, didn't write
this end. We don't know where that letter came from.
It's start to have little freak off tones to it,
and it's scared. I told him that was too much information,
but he said he wanted me to know what I
was getting into.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Now listen to me.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
He'd have told you he had a bunch of threesomes
in his thirties. His friend is at his fiftieth birthday party,
so I'm assuming he's at fifty up. And he wanted
you to know what you were getting into.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
So when he told you that ain't what he do
no more. That wasn't true.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
At that time, I had never been with another female,
but I was curious.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
That was a year ago.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
I matured a lot since then, And all happened this
January when my boyfriend took me to his friend's fiftieth
birthday party. I met the most beautiful woman I've ever seen,
and she was so sweet.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Lord have mercy.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
Right after this, we'll get into the freak off coming
back right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up in twenty three minutes after the hour today Strawberry letter,
subject I'm not going this year. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening to the Steve Harvey
Morning Show. If someone asked you to pay with a
(07:00):
gift card, it's a scam always. Cammers love gift cards
because they're just like cash. They use fake stories about prizes,
overdue bills, or emergencies to get you to act before
you think. But no real business, government agency, or friend
will ever ask for gift cards. Learn how to spot
(07:21):
and stop these scams at AAARP dot org slash gift
cards paid for by AARP. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is I'm not
going this year.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Yeah, the letters about this lady who met her boyfriend
who's fourteen years older than her on a dating app
and his profile he said he was looking for adventure
and fun. Now, no way in the app did you
hear rock climbing or snowboarding, a bungee jumping. You didn't
hear cliff diving. You didn't hear free diving, spearfishing, you
(08:01):
didn't hear that. You didn't hear a black diamond slope ski.
You didn't hear that. You didn't hear hang gliding, a parachuting.
All you heard was adventure in fun. Then y'all got
to know each other. And then he admitted to you
he had a lot of threesomes in his thirties.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Here comes the adventure and fun, he said. But he's
not into that. That's not his thing anymore.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
He said, he's even had more than two girls in
his bed at one time. I told him that's TMI.
He said, he wanted me to know what I was
getting into that right there, ma'am negates what he just
said about I'm not into that anymore. So Now, at
(08:48):
that time I had never been with another female. But
I was curious. Now she said that was a year ago.
She's matured a lot since that. And then this January,
which means coming up is this next party. But this January,
your boyfriend take you to his friend's fiftieth birthday party.
That's how I know they round the same age. I
(09:09):
met the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. She was
so sweet. We talked all night.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
She told you that most.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Everybody at the party that had sex with each other.
Now what she told you? The fine chick? I asked
if they had a swing this thing going on? She said,
it wasn't like that.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Well what is it? Then?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
If everybody at the party that had sex with each other?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
What you call that swanging? What? What is it? Just
let me know which one it is. Something happened here.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
To make a long story short, I said, I was curious,
so I invited the woman over.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
To my boyfriend's house. You did this, Now, a long
story short. We all started hooking up.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
We stopped messing with her in October of this year,
and since then she been calling my boyfriend asking for
money and threatening to tell everybody about our threesomes. Then
the lady said, everybody like, who, I'm above this type
of foolishness.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
No you're not. No, you ain't above it. You in it.
I have a reputation to uphold as a teacher.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
Teachers do freaking stuff too, you know, our pastors do
freaking stuff. You know, astronauts do freaking stuff.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
A TV.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Yeah, some some happening up there. Oh, we ain't got
no gravity going on?
Speaker 2 (10:47):
What you doing this? Ease?
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Okay, I'm I can promise you something didn't happen in one.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
Of them ships. I'm above this type of fool I
have a reputation of holes here.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
So now I guess what, y'all it's time again this
January for my friend's fifty first birthday party. I told
my boyfriend I'm not going this year that lady could
be planning to make a scene. He said, I'm being paranoid,
and he has begged me to reconsider. See, because y'all
(11:22):
gonna go to the party and find another person to
hook up with, and the lady ain't gonna make no
scene because that what they're all in there doing. Anyway,
I slept with them, we know it. What's she gonna say?
I've been having a threesomewhere with him and her. But
you was over our house too, so the boyfriend know
(11:46):
you're being a little paranoid, and you are, But do
I think you should go? This don't look like this
really for you. I'm not going this year. How can
my boyfriend be so unbothered? Is that more going on
than I know about? He told you he wanted you
(12:06):
to know what he was getting in, what you were
getting into. This is his lifestyle. Birds of a feather
flock together, you're free and throw a birthday party every year.
The girl told you everybody at the party that slept
with each other.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
So that's what they do. I don't understand what's the
confusion right.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
Now?
Speaker 2 (12:35):
You're going or not?
Speaker 1 (12:38):
She said, she's not.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Yeah, but see you was curious about women. You met
the most beautiful woman you ever saw.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Are you going again? He started?
Speaker 3 (12:52):
She started asking your boyfriend for money and stuff. That's
when he started fooling with it. This ain't free, y'all
know this game.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Let me tell you that I'm not going.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
You're not going to the far Way.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Too many cares were you invited?
Speaker 1 (13:17):
They didn't invite you.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
See, that's why they don't invite me.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
That's the one thing about, you know, like Dave Chappelle
did that joke about not going to the Freak Coffee
didn't he said, Wow, I'm the only one ain't get invited.
Am I Ugly?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook,
at Steve Harvey FM and check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. You're listening
to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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The Brothers Ortiz is the story of two brothers–both successful, but in very different ways. Gabe Ortiz becomes a third-highest ranking officer in all of Texas while his younger brother Larry climbs the ranks in Puro Tango Blast, a notorious Texas Prison gang. Gabe doesn’t know all the details of his brother’s nefarious dealings, and he’s made a point not to ask, to protect their relationship. But when Larry is murdered during a home invasion in a rented beach house, Gabe has no choice but to look into what happened that night. To solve Larry’s murder, Gabe, and the whole Ortiz family, must ask each other tough questions.