September 25, 2025 • 12 mins
The Strawberry Letter, heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show, Thursday, September 25th, 2025. Subject: "I'm The Captain Of This Ship"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And
(00:02):
if you need advice on relationships, work, dating, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com. All you have to do is click submit
Strawberry Letter, and we could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now, could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
You never know, you never know. Buckle up and hold
on tight. We got it for you. Here it is
Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject. I'm the captain of this ship.
I am the captain now, Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm
married and my husband and I have two children. He's
in law enforcement, but he's not a police officer. I
work as a teacher and I have my school kids
and three children at my house. My husband is a
dependent in more ways than one. It has been this
(00:48):
way for the past three years after he had an
on the job injury. He no longer washes his own
clothes and he can't mow the lawn anymore. Those were
the only two things he did before, and now he
can't even do that.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Nothing is physically wrong with him.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
But he says the anxiety from his injury has him
leary of doing too much. So what's the So here's
what happened to him. He works at the jail in
the evidence room, and he was on a ladder maybe
six feet in the air, and he slipped. He didn't
hit the floor, but he dislocated his left shoulder trying
(01:26):
to hold on a small box fell and hit him
in his eye, so he wore an eyepatch for a week.
His shoulder was operated on, and he was off work
for a full month. When it was time to return
to work, he decided he couldn't drive anymore. So now
I take him to work and pick him up, even
with sex I initiated, and I have to do all
(01:47):
the work while he takes special care not to injure
his shoulder, even though he injured it three years ago.
His coworkers are sick of him too, so something's got
to give. When I stopped washing his clothes for him,
he asked our twelve year old daughter to do it,
and I told him that's inappropriate. We got into an
argument and I let him know that I make all
(02:09):
the decisions going forward, and he's going to be treated
like one of the children, he said, since I'm the
captain of the ship now he wants to take early retirement.
Do you think I need to be more patient with him?
Or is he playing me for a whole fool m Okay,
this could all be cleared up. This could all be
(02:31):
cleared up with a quick trip to the doctor. Okay,
but your husband won't go.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
I'm sure. I mean, he already.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Knows that if he went to the doctor, you would
find out what you already know too, that there's nothing
wrong with him.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Now.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Yes, he's been playing you for at least two of
the three years that since he had the operation. You're
not even a doctor, and you know there's nothing wrong
with him. He's just milking the situation to get you
to do stuff for him.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
He's been lazy.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
He's just being like he's lazy with sex, with his laundry,
with everything. So my advice to you, wifey, is to
stop doing the things you do. You have been more
patient than anyone else, I'm sure with him. Even if
coworkers are sick of him. You said, so, stop driving
him to work and picking him up. I'm sure he
(03:20):
can do that himself. All he has to do is
go to the doctor, make sure he's checked out.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
He's fine.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Good to go, and tell your twelve year old daughter
to stop, because you're right, she shouldn't do that.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
She's getting an allowance for it, is she.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
You didn't mention that, so she's probably doing that for free.
He's just lazy and trifling at this point, and you
don't have to treat him like a child. But you know,
like I said, this could all be cleared up if
you guys would just take a trip to the doctor
and you'll find that he's okay, and yeah, he is
playing you. Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Wow, this letter wasn't what I thought it was gonna
be about at all. I thought it was this man
trying to assert the fact that he was captain of
the sh I just thought that's what it was gonna
be about. This is a really disappointing letter, man. This
is really really disappointing because I don't you know I'm
(04:15):
reading or read this letter. I just don't like men
like this. I just don't.
Speaker 5 (04:20):
Now.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
I know it's a one sided story and she's writing
the letter, but she's writing the letter out of frustration.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
This dude right here, y'all married, I wish.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
I knew how old he was could really help me analyze.
Speaker 5 (04:33):
It's even better. But you got two kids.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
He's in law enforcement, but he's not a police officer
the right away, I'm thinking traffic cop, or he write tickets,
but that ain't the case. She's a school teacher and
you got your school kids and three different children at
your house and don't know what that means anyway. My
(04:57):
husband is a dependent in more ways in one uh,
and he's been this way for three years after he
had on the job injury. He no longer washes his
own clothes and he can't mold the lawn anymore.
Speaker 5 (05:10):
What did he do? Oh?
Speaker 4 (05:12):
We find out those are the only two things he
did before, and now he can't even do that. Nothing
is physically wrong with him, but he says the anxiety
from his injury caught makes him leary of doing too much.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
Too much.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
You don't do nothing to wash clothes and molded lawn,
And based on y'all's two jobs, that lawn ain't that big.
I'm just saying so. Now now she describes what happened
to him. He worked out the jail in evidence room,
he up on the ladder one trying here, no mention
(05:51):
to weight. How you think you pull your should out
when you grab and don't fall left? I'm telling you
that's what happens. She say, how holy is either?
Speaker 5 (06:03):
And if you ain't working, your ass gonna get fut.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Hold on, hold on, okay, Ky.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject of today's Strawberry letter,
I'm the captain of this ship. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (06:28):
What is it that makes the all new Hyundai Palisade
Hybrid and incredible suv? Is it the spacious interior that's
comfy for the whole crew. Maybe it's having up to
six hundred plus miles of range.
Speaker 5 (06:40):
What if it's all of that and more? What is
it then?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
The all new Hondai Palisade Hybrid so much more than
just another suv. Visit HONDAIUSA dot com or Carl five
six two three one four four six zero three for
more details.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
This subject, I'm the captain of this ship.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
All right?
Speaker 4 (07:03):
This woman been married to her in the everdence room,
up on the letder, probably looking at some evidence.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
He ain't had no business. He was doing doom do
do do Do Do do Doom Doom, doo doom.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
And he moved up on that ledder and she say
he injured his shoulder. But Dick, when he grabbed on
that was it all the weight told his shoulder dislocated,
It ripped the ligaments. All this here fast should have
just went on down, but no, he tried to stay up.
(07:38):
He ain't hit the floor, but he dislocated his shoulder
trying to hold on.
Speaker 5 (07:42):
Then a small box fell and hit him in the eye.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Now in the evidence room, that small box is probably
a jewelry box. It could be a room with a
quarter sack of weed in it. It could be a
little maybe a little couple of keys or coke. He
was in the box in his eye, so he wore
an eye patch.
Speaker 5 (08:06):
For a week. Now, that really makes you look like
you hurt.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
You got your arm and a sling and you gotta
patch on your eye. Now, he tried to figure out
how you can play this. His shoulder was operated on
and he was off.
Speaker 5 (08:18):
For a full month.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
Now now he can't drive black people on Black dudes
only drive with one hand any damn waiting. We already
know that. Now if his right arm was hurt, that's
even better. That's the one we lean on the arm
rest on anyway. And if his left arm is hurt,
then that's cool. Then we just do the lean the
(08:41):
other way, lean up against the door. Both of them
is pimp poses. You just got to rock the one
you like. So I take him to work and pick
him up, even with sex I initiated and have to
do all the work where he takes special care not
to injure his shoulder. This hot no is the fat.
See when you're having sex and you don't want to
(09:04):
injure your shoulder.
Speaker 5 (09:06):
The only thing he can do it in they.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
On his sorrey back, which is fat gonna do anyway
because he don't want to be up on his knees
where he got to put that work in, pull his
big up and all this.
Speaker 5 (09:18):
Here my shoulder. He can't hurt my shoulder. Do nobody
give it but they shoulder? When you have his.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Sex, you know how many whole cramps out they got,
how many ham strings out and pulled you how many
peck muscles out and toe. You know how many head
lacerations out of head in my head going from slamming
into it too hard? You how many times man, I
gripped that muscle off? You have any idea?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Man?
Speaker 4 (09:45):
How many times out of toe the tenders in the
bottom of my feet trying to get my toes and
get more more grip on that sheet? You know how
many injuries out and had doing sex? And don't give it?
Speaker 5 (09:56):
But I'll see you tomorrow, and don't stop. Just stop.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
Child horses, bustle, pulls, cramps right on, do it? Everything
out of my arms just slipped off the corner of
the mattress. I bust my mouth on a night stand
one time, kept going, kept swallowing the blood so.
Speaker 5 (10:15):
It wouldn't get on her, and kept moving.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
Has got to be done, hissed the punk got a
little hurt. Shows man missed me with this here pissed
Now he now now his coworkers as sick of him too,
So something got to give. When I stopped washing his
clothes for him, he has got twelve year old daughter
to do it. He can't wash clothes. And then I
(10:44):
told him that was inappropriate. We got in an argument
and I let him know that I was making all
the decisions going forward, and he gonna be treated like
one of the children. He said, since I'm the captain
of the ship. Now he wants to take early retirement.
Do you think I need to be more patient in him?
Or is he playing me for a whole fool a
(11:05):
whole fool plus song? He playing the police department.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
That's fools.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
They tied in his eyes, your twelve year old tied
of washing his underwear and all this hell. How you
can't wash clothes after three years with a shoulder injury.
Obviously there's some type of math practice that doesn't happen
because of your shoulder. Ain't worth for three years after
the operation? Did they operate on the right shoulder? They
(11:37):
do that all the time? Did they operate on the
right shoulder? I say, yes, they operated on the right shoulder.
And I say, your man is full of it. He
is just full of it.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
He is lazy.
Speaker 4 (11:51):
He has found a way to make an excuse for
his laziness.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
And once you decide to be.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
A lazy person, let me help you understand something y'all
carries over into every aspect of your life. So now
you lazy at the job, you lazy at home. You
don't want to do nothing to work, You're gonna do
no home. You lazy in the bedroom. You're just a
lazy person. So you can relegate your life to living
with this lazy person, or you.
Speaker 5 (12:16):
Can issue an ultimatum.
Speaker 4 (12:18):
You either get up and get back to work and
be the man that I'm married or me and you
are done.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Back to you busting your lip on a night stand
though and kept what happens.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
All right, it happens, and leave us for comments.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Please on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook, at
Steve Harvey FM and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand.
Speaker 3 (12:42):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
All right, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And
(00:02):
if you need advice on relationships, work, dating, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com. All you have to do is click submit
Strawberry Letter, and we could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now, could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
You never know, you never know. Buckle up and hold
on tight. We got it for you. Here it is
Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject. I'm the captain of this ship.
I am the captain now, Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm
married and my husband and I have two children. He's
in law enforcement, but he's not a police officer. I
work as a teacher and I have my school kids
and three children at my house. My husband is a
dependent in more ways than one. It has been this
(00:48):
way for the past three years after he had an
on the job injury. He no longer washes his own
clothes and he can't mow the lawn anymore. Those were
the only two things he did before, and now he
can't even do that.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Nothing is physically wrong with him.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
But he says the anxiety from his injury has him
leary of doing too much. So what's the So here's
what happened to him. He works at the jail in
the evidence room, and he was on a ladder maybe
six feet in the air, and he slipped. He didn't
hit the floor, but he dislocated his left shoulder trying
(01:26):
to hold on a small box fell and hit him
in his eye, so he wore an eyepatch for a week.
His shoulder was operated on, and he was off work
for a full month. When it was time to return
to work, he decided he couldn't drive anymore. So now
I take him to work and pick him up, even
with sex I initiated, and I have to do all
(01:47):
the work while he takes special care not to injure
his shoulder, even though he injured it three years ago.
His coworkers are sick of him too, so something's got
to give. When I stopped washing his clothes for him,
he asked our twelve year old daughter to do it,
and I told him that's inappropriate. We got into an
argument and I let him know that I make all
(02:09):
the decisions going forward, and he's going to be treated
like one of the children, he said, since I'm the
captain of the ship now he wants to take early retirement.
Do you think I need to be more patient with him?
Or is he playing me for a whole fool m Okay,
this could all be cleared up. This could all be
(02:31):
cleared up with a quick trip to the doctor. Okay,
but your husband won't go.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
I'm sure. I mean, he already.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Knows that if he went to the doctor, you would
find out what you already know too, that there's nothing
wrong with him.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Now.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Yes, he's been playing you for at least two of
the three years that since he had the operation. You're
not even a doctor, and you know there's nothing wrong
with him. He's just milking the situation to get you
to do stuff for him.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
He's been lazy.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
He's just being like he's lazy with sex, with his laundry,
with everything. So my advice to you, wifey, is to
stop doing the things you do. You have been more
patient than anyone else, I'm sure with him. Even if
coworkers are sick of him. You said, so, stop driving
him to work and picking him up. I'm sure he
(03:20):
can do that himself. All he has to do is
go to the doctor, make sure he's checked out.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
He's fine.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Good to go, and tell your twelve year old daughter
to stop, because you're right, she shouldn't do that.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
She's getting an allowance for it, is she.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
You didn't mention that, so she's probably doing that for free.
He's just lazy and trifling at this point, and you
don't have to treat him like a child. But you know,
like I said, this could all be cleared up if
you guys would just take a trip to the doctor
and you'll find that he's okay, and yeah, he is
playing you. Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Wow, this letter wasn't what I thought it was gonna
be about at all. I thought it was this man
trying to assert the fact that he was captain of
the sh I just thought that's what it was gonna
be about. This is a really disappointing letter, man. This
is really really disappointing because I don't you know I'm
(04:15):
reading or read this letter. I just don't like men
like this. I just don't.
Speaker 5 (04:20):
Now.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
I know it's a one sided story and she's writing
the letter, but she's writing the letter out of frustration.
Speaker 5 (04:26):
This dude right here, y'all married, I wish.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
I knew how old he was could really help me analyze.
Speaker 5 (04:33):
It's even better. But you got two kids.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
He's in law enforcement, but he's not a police officer
the right away, I'm thinking traffic cop, or he write tickets,
but that ain't the case. She's a school teacher and
you got your school kids and three different children at
your house and don't know what that means anyway. My
(04:57):
husband is a dependent in more ways in one uh,
and he's been this way for three years after he
had on the job injury. He no longer washes his
own clothes and he can't mold the lawn anymore.
Speaker 5 (05:10):
What did he do? Oh?
Speaker 4 (05:12):
We find out those are the only two things he
did before, and now he can't even do that. Nothing
is physically wrong with him, but he says the anxiety
from his injury caught makes him leary of doing too much.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
Too much.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
You don't do nothing to wash clothes and molded lawn,
And based on y'all's two jobs, that lawn ain't that big.
I'm just saying so. Now now she describes what happened
to him. He worked out the jail in evidence room,
he up on the ladder one trying here, no mention
(05:51):
to weight. How you think you pull your should out
when you grab and don't fall left? I'm telling you
that's what happens. She say, how holy is either?
Speaker 5 (06:03):
And if you ain't working, your ass gonna get fut.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Hold on, hold on, okay, Ky.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject of today's Strawberry letter,
I'm the captain of this ship. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (06:28):
What is it that makes the all new Hyundai Palisade
Hybrid and incredible suv? Is it the spacious interior that's
comfy for the whole crew. Maybe it's having up to
six hundred plus miles of range.
Speaker 5 (06:40):
What if it's all of that and more? What is
it then?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
The all new Hondai Palisade Hybrid so much more than
just another suv. Visit HONDAIUSA dot com or Carl five
six two three one four four six zero three for
more details.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
This subject, I'm the captain of this ship.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
All right?
Speaker 4 (07:03):
This woman been married to her in the everdence room,
up on the letder, probably looking at some evidence.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
He ain't had no business. He was doing doom do
do do Do Do do Doom Doom, doo doom.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
And he moved up on that ledder and she say
he injured his shoulder. But Dick, when he grabbed on
that was it all the weight told his shoulder dislocated,
It ripped the ligaments. All this here fast should have
just went on down, but no, he tried to stay up.
(07:38):
He ain't hit the floor, but he dislocated his shoulder
trying to hold on.
Speaker 5 (07:42):
Then a small box fell and hit him in the eye.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Now in the evidence room, that small box is probably
a jewelry box. It could be a room with a
quarter sack of weed in it. It could be a
little maybe a little couple of keys or coke. He
was in the box in his eye, so he wore
an eye patch.
Speaker 5 (08:06):
For a week. Now, that really makes you look like
you hurt.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
You got your arm and a sling and you gotta
patch on your eye. Now, he tried to figure out
how you can play this. His shoulder was operated on
and he was off.
Speaker 5 (08:18):
For a full month.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
Now now he can't drive black people on Black dudes
only drive with one hand any damn waiting. We already
know that. Now if his right arm was hurt, that's
even better. That's the one we lean on the arm
rest on anyway. And if his left arm is hurt,
then that's cool. Then we just do the lean the
(08:41):
other way, lean up against the door. Both of them
is pimp poses. You just got to rock the one
you like. So I take him to work and pick
him up, even with sex I initiated and have to
do all the work where he takes special care not
to injure his shoulder. This hot no is the fat.
See when you're having sex and you don't want to
(09:04):
injure your shoulder.
Speaker 5 (09:06):
The only thing he can do it in they.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
On his sorrey back, which is fat gonna do anyway
because he don't want to be up on his knees
where he got to put that work in, pull his
big up and all this.
Speaker 5 (09:18):
Here my shoulder. He can't hurt my shoulder. Do nobody
give it but they shoulder? When you have his.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Sex, you know how many whole cramps out they got,
how many ham strings out and pulled you how many
peck muscles out and toe. You know how many head
lacerations out of head in my head going from slamming
into it too hard? You how many times man, I
gripped that muscle off? You have any idea?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Man?
Speaker 4 (09:45):
How many times out of toe the tenders in the
bottom of my feet trying to get my toes and
get more more grip on that sheet? You know how
many injuries out and had doing sex? And don't give it?
Speaker 5 (09:56):
But I'll see you tomorrow, and don't stop. Just stop.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
Child horses, bustle, pulls, cramps right on, do it? Everything
out of my arms just slipped off the corner of
the mattress. I bust my mouth on a night stand
one time, kept going, kept swallowing the blood so.
Speaker 5 (10:15):
It wouldn't get on her, and kept moving.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
Has got to be done, hissed the punk got a
little hurt. Shows man missed me with this here pissed
Now he now now his coworkers as sick of him too,
So something got to give. When I stopped washing his
clothes for him, he has got twelve year old daughter
to do it. He can't wash clothes. And then I
(10:44):
told him that was inappropriate. We got in an argument
and I let him know that I was making all
the decisions going forward, and he gonna be treated like
one of the children. He said, since I'm the captain
of the ship. Now he wants to take early retirement.
Do you think I need to be more patient in him?
Or is he playing me for a whole fool a
(11:05):
whole fool plus song? He playing the police department.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
That's fools.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
They tied in his eyes, your twelve year old tied
of washing his underwear and all this hell. How you
can't wash clothes after three years with a shoulder injury.
Obviously there's some type of math practice that doesn't happen
because of your shoulder. Ain't worth for three years after
the operation? Did they operate on the right shoulder? They
(11:37):
do that all the time? Did they operate on the
right shoulder? I say, yes, they operated on the right shoulder.
And I say, your man is full of it. He
is just full of it.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
He is lazy.
Speaker 4 (11:51):
He has found a way to make an excuse for
his laziness.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
And once you decide to be.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
A lazy person, let me help you understand something y'all
carries over into every aspect of your life. So now
you lazy at the job, you lazy at home. You
don't want to do nothing to work, You're gonna do
no home. You lazy in the bedroom. You're just a
lazy person. So you can relegate your life to living
with this lazy person, or you.
Speaker 5 (12:16):
Can issue an ultimatum.
Speaker 4 (12:18):
You either get up and get back to work and
be the man that I'm married or me and you
are done.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
Back to you busting your lip on a night stand
though and kept what happens.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
All right, it happens, and leave us for comments.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Please on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook, at
Steve Harvey FM and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand.
Speaker 3 (12:42):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
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