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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you. A few subjects. I'm tired of hiding from
the truth. Dear Steven Shirley. I've been sleeping with my
married best friend for almost fifteen years and I have
been friends since high school and we're in our late fifties. Now.
No one suspects anything, and we're able to have sex
in his house while his.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Wife is home.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I even have a key to their house to take
care of their dog whenever they travel. Oh yeah, I'm
about to get married for the second time, and my
best friend, who loves me dearly, is jealous. He said
that I've get married and cut him off sexually, but
I tried to tell him that won't be the case.
We were texting back and forth about how things will
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go once I'm married and my fiance read all of
our texts. He said that he figured we were messing
around and since he since he has proof, now we
should go to counseling before we get married. He was
acting like it's no big deal. So I asked him
why he was so calm, and he said that he
has a side chick too. He was relieved that I
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had been doing the same thing, because he said it
was killing him to cheat on me repeatedly. We're done
with hiding from the truth, and he said, if I'm
going to keep messing with my best friend, then I
need to let his wife know what's going on. He said,
at our ages, we need to be sexual with whoever
suits our fancy because life is short. I love the
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two men in my life for different reasons, and each
one is so different.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
In the bedroom, I.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Told my lover that it's time for us to be
honest with his wife. He said that will never happen,
and if she ever found out about us, he'd have
to end the relationship with me. But what if his
wife is cool like my fiance and she's okay with it.
I can't see my life without my lover. So what
should we do here?
Speaker 2 (02:17):
What?
Speaker 3 (02:20):
Okay? You know what?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you so much
for this letter because it just further proves that we're
living in just crazy times.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
You gotta love her.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Your fiance has a lover. Your lover has a wife
and what okay, nothing well that I can never say
will make you stop, But I will tell you this.
This man who you think is your best friend is
not your friend. And the bigger part is he doesn't
care about you like he like you think he does.
You said he loves you dearly and he's jealous. Nope,
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he's not going to tell his wife because that's who
he loves and that's who he cares about, his side piece. Remember,
he cares about his wife's feelings. He doesn't want to
lose her. You, on the other hand, are expendable, But wife,
he isn't in this situation. And you don't think his
wife suspects anything anything. Your fiance said he figured you
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guys were messing around, so why wouldn't his wife? And
she has intuition. Okay, although I can't imagine you guys
having sex in her house. That is praise and way
too risky.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
You could die.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Okay, I'm just gonna say it. You would be wise
to get somewhere and sit down, like my mom used
to tell me, but not for this, But she used
to tell me that for other stuff. Leave this married
man alone. But I know you won't. I know you're
not going to. If he does tell his wife, it
will not be the happy situation your fiance thinks it's
gonna be. I think he's a low key swinger anyway,
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and he wants everybody to just swing. And you know
you guys be just a happy four some here. But
this is a mess. You don't need any advice for me.
You're tired of hiding the truth. Wait till you tell
his wife and see what's gonna happen unless she has
a side piece too, Tommy, in.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Order for this to work, I mean, And I'm trying
to help you know what I mean, because I know
I know you want you know you want it to work.
You know you've started out doing something and you just
you know you want this to work. I'm pulling for
you because I'm always about what people want in life,
and people want different things than this person. This is
what they want, so in order for this to work,
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everybody has to have a side piece, you see what
I'm saying. So everybody has to bring that to the table.
So I don't know if we need to have a
side piece meeting or to come to side peace meeting.
We need to come to side piece meeting, all right,
And here's what I think you all should do. You
guys to sit down and have a meeting. But more importantly,
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you got to bring somebody in that can talk to
y'all about these type of things, because you want if
you're gonna do it, you want to do it right.
You know, No, not necessarily therapy, just somebody that's going
through this. See, I think you should call Neo. I
think Neo should come in and be the done and
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show you how this is done. Neo has proven that
four or five people can live under the same roof
and have a great time.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
It's tested and proven. Leo is doing it.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
They go out together, they go everywhere together, They cooking
and cleaning together.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
It can be done.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
But now this wife that don't know, we've got to
somehow figure out.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
If she's with us or is she not with us?
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (05:40):
And they may we may have to let the wife go,
but we can't handlebody that's not. Hey, hey, sometimes you
gotta let some things go to get the big picture.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
If you if it's what you want, you really want
things go, you know what I mean? One of them?
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Hey, you know, surely they can't be too attached if
we're still over here messing around the sidepiece. All right,
So fifteen, if you really want this to go, I
can reach out the neo. I let him come higher
at y'all and sit down and walk y'all through the
steps of being together where all of you all are
happy and it can be done. If this is what
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you want. This is not for everybody, but for this
group right here in this letter. You know, this is
what makes them happy.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
You know.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
They want to do this person, then do that person,
and then do that one over. Then they don't even
know that one, but we're gonna do that one too.
That's what they want. I'm not like Uncle Steve that'll
tell you, hey'all wrong with y'all, y'all, whyle, y'all can't
get one person?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
What the hell is going on today?
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Hang on? Hang on, hang on, nephew. We'll have part
two at twenty three minutes after the hour, we'll hear
from Junior. Subject is I'm tired of hiding from the truth.
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or Globelife radio dot com. All right, it's time now
for us to recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is
I'm tired of hiding from the truth. A lady wrote
this letter. She says she's been sleeping with her married
best friend for the last fifteen years almost and they've
been friends since high school. They're in their late fifties now,
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still doing the same thing, still sleeping with each other.
Now her best friend has a has a wife and
now she's getting ready to get married for the second time,
and so her who is the husband, didn't want her
to do it. Well, he said that, you know, she's
going to be messing around and he may not ever
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see her, and you know, because she's married now and
all of that, and she wanted to reassure him that
that wouldn't be the case. They could still mess around
even though she's getting ready to get married. And what
happened they were texting back and forth. Her fiance saw
the Texas and boy was he relieved because and she
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was wondering, why are you so calm? Why are you
not mad? He said, because I got a sigh piece too.
So you know.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
You got a side peece.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
You get peece? Yes? So yeah, so so the the
jickst of the letter is that you know, they're tired
of hiding from the truth. They want to tell everybody.
She wants her boyfriend, who is married, not the fiance,
to tell his wife so she would know what's going on.
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But the boyfriend husband said, that's not happening. I'm not
telling my wife, which means that he didn't think his
wife would go along with this. He doesn't know whether
his wife has a zide piece or not. But he
knows that his wife won't go along with this. He said,
if I tell my wife, that will be the end
of us.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
So what she.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Wants to know is, you know, she she can't see
life without him. She loves them both, although they're both
different sexually in every other way. But she wants to
know what should she do here? Basically, what should she do? Junior?
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Yeah, that's that's the question we do here? Yeah, which
I've been doing.
Speaker 4 (09:35):
But you know what, because you know you're dating your
best friend, you dat him when you're also dating your fiance,
you dating them. But I think you need to mention
all your partners in here. Put put the other partners
you ain't thinking about. Are you also Dayton death? You
need to put that in there to you also Dayton death.
Don't go in there and tell that woman nothing.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
No, she's gonna kill you.
Speaker 4 (09:59):
Don't don't talk about the man you dating. You're dating
death too, y'all in a full full blown relationship. You
can't just sit up here and act like death is
not involved. Y'a Also dating funeral homes because they gonna
shock this body around. You date cemeteries, you date a
lot of people here. You're dating churches. You're gonna have
this funel in you date way moted just these two.
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You dating everything.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
Okay, you need to really think about this. Don't go
in there. Ask that woman nothing.
Speaker 4 (10:26):
Okay, you going there there, don't ask about Facebook?
Speaker 3 (10:28):
Did you see this? Don't see nothing about the Diny trial.
Don't say nothing about none of this.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
Don't mention nothing that's going on, because if she find
out and thank you messing with a man, you gonna
be dead. You ain't got to worry about this marriage counseling.
You ain't gonna make it.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Then you're not gonna make it. You gotta worry about
this wedding. You playing.
Speaker 4 (10:47):
You can stop planning right now. If she find out,
you're not gonna make that web. You're not walking down
no hour now. People gonna march in for you to
view this body. That's what you have. This woman is
not playing with you, Okay, this is this This woman's husband.
She committed her life to this man, and you set
up being casually having sex in.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
The house is your house? That's that's crazy. What is
you doing while his wife was there? Yeah, that's how
I know you dating death? How does that. You know
how fast you got to be doing it? You know
how you're quiet?
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Yeah, and you're stupid for doing that, You really really are.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
Yeah, you're just stupid for doing But big is this
house we do here? You don't need to do nothing.
Keep doing it.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Watch you find out you ain't gonna make it to
the wedding. We need gonna figure pick out these colors,
these flowers, we need to find out we're gonna put
on this obituary.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
You need to find out all of this. A lot
of you got no singing and gonna be singing and
flower bringing the word. You're gonna be the Paul Bearer Paul.
Speaker 4 (11:52):
Bearers right now because you're gonna everybody got a compet
participate in this relationship.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
Hell she on the way.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
You're furnting around with hell yeah yeah, But she says
she loves now. Now here's a question, guys. Can you
be in love with two people at the same time?
She says she loves the two men in her life,
but for different reasons, and each each one of them
is so different in bed.
Speaker 4 (12:22):
If it's like this, you can be in love with
two many years. You can I love my mama and
my wife.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I love that you be in love like that.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
This ain't this, ain't what you're doing. What you're doing, Yeah,
this is yeah. Yeah, And he said clearly to her, uh,
that will never happen. When she asked him to tell
his wife so you know she could get involved, he said,
that will never happen, and if it does, it's going
to end their friendship.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
And you know his wife is not going to be
with us unless she has a side piece herself, and
there's no mention of that in the letter.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
You got to get rid of his wife, sir. She's
the part just messing it all up. We've got for
some Yeah, I mean, it's not gonna.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Work if she's she has to have a side piece,
the wife, you can't help me.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
I know she's allowing us want to sleep with her
husband in her house. And I know I agree with you.
I definitely agree with you on that. Yeah, I said
that she yeah, because she's too calm.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
She's too you know, she's too cool with all.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Of this that's going on.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
All right.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
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