September 18, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married to a big baby that acts like he can't do anything without me. I even went on his last job interview and sat in the lobby for moral support. I never liked a whimpy man, and he hasn't always been like this. He lost his confidence when he started having problems with the erectile dysfunction. It took away his swagger and ruined our sex life. I adjusted and never blamed him or made jokes about it. He used to drink a lot, and that's why he couldn't have sex with me. Over time, it became the norm. So now that we're not having sex, I tend to treat him like he's just a roommate.......................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter because we could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Muggle up, but hold on tight. We got it for you.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
I'm tired of yelling at my husband. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm married to a big baby that acts like he
can't do anything without me. I even went on his
last job interview and sat in the lobby for moral support.
I never liked a whimpy man, and he hasn't always
been like this. He lost his confidence when he started
(00:50):
having problems with the rectile dysfunction. It took away his
swagger and ruined our sex life. I adjusted and never
blamed him or made jokes about it. He used to
drink a lot, and that's why he couldn't have sex
with me. Over time, it became the norm. So now
that we're not having sex, I tend to treat him
(01:10):
like he's just a roommate. He ordered dinner for us
last week and he left without my order in the bag.
I had to yell at him to go back to
get my food. He put gas in my car, and
he left my gas cap at the service station.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
A week later, I.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Noticed I had no gas cap when I went to
put more gas in my car. He says, I overreact
to simple things, but this is big. We were at
our son's school for classroom check in and he was
over to the side telling one of the other moms
that our son is still wetting the bed because he's
really anxious about something. I let him have it when
(01:47):
we got in the car. He will never talk to
strangers again about our son if I have anything to
do with it. I'm so tired of yelling at him,
but he just won't do right. I almost want him
to start back drinking, because he's a lot more manly
when he's had a few dirty martinis. By the way,
he didn't get the job even after all of the
(02:08):
coaching I gave him. I think I will be better
off raising my son by myself. Will that help my
husband be more responsible? Well, this is what I have
to say to this. You guys have a real problem here,
and I don't know why you aren't taking this more
seriously because your marriage is in trouble. Your husband needs help,
(02:28):
and there is help out there for his ed get
him a doctor's appointment, you can go with him like
you did for the job interview.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
And you're right.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
He shouldn't be talking to strangers about your son's business.
And you're yelling needs to stop too, because you should
be tired of that. It's not helping. You're reacting to
his mistakes out of frustration. But if you two don't
take this the time to get real serious about this
and try to fix these problems, yes, I will be.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
You will be.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
I believe you will be raising your son by yourself,
like you say, because you already have one foot out
of the door because of all this.
Speaker 5 (03:07):
Steve, can I ask you a couple of questions, Shirley. Yeah,
you said that he has this problem and there's something
he can do about this erectile dysfunction. What what do
you think that is?
Speaker 4 (03:20):
You can go to the dot. I mean I see
commercials about it all the time.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Whatever you guys do to get it back right, take pills,
you know, whatever you have to do. Don't you aren't
there pills out there for that?
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Aren't They aren't there pills out there for that?
Speaker 5 (03:38):
They playing some t you. They got stuff you can
put under your tongue. They got you can chew. They
got nasal spray. Wow, I got a nasal spray out there.
Shoot two shots up in your nose. Ears be hot
at hell though.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
Okay, they got the honey.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Well I heard about that. They got honey. They got
a honey. You take that honey off Thursday. Let me
tell you money. You got this tea? Yeah, they got
a tea? Doog? You could?
Speaker 5 (04:14):
You could just like you know, if you go to dinner,
you just put it in a company bag like you
having a cup of tea.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
You're just a teapad and lawd have mercy.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I can't even believe we're talking about this, but yeah,
you said you had another.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
That's what the strawberry letter is about. So you sent
the man to the doctor. We can get his head
down to the gas station.
Speaker 4 (04:31):
Let me you go to get it done.
Speaker 5 (04:36):
Hey, listen to me. Stay out the gas stations because
I got a partner. It's some horror stories down at
the black Rhino, black head, all of it. See the
thing about the stuff at the gas station, fellas, that
you can get is not regulated like some of.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
The proofs till you might work. Some of them might not.
Some of them had just straight gunpowder in it.
Speaker 5 (05:05):
Take on their damn pills and your whole life change.
So be careful down there at them gas stations. Dog,
That's all I got to tell you. Oh and also
let me give you another tip on it. Mexico.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
You can go down there.
Speaker 5 (05:22):
You get the whole body of that stuff about twenty dollars.
I got a partner to go down there, right, I
got he right, I got a partner to go down
there and make runs.
Speaker 4 (05:31):
You gotta make a run.
Speaker 5 (05:33):
Yeah, he quit selling dope, Okay, to talk to.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Him, it was a better choice.
Speaker 5 (05:47):
Plus, you know, they started legalizing weed, so that kind
of messed him up a little bit too.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
So he said, man, I got a change.
Speaker 5 (05:53):
Wow. Yeah, he found out by Seattles and Vaga down
there in Mexico. For twenty dollars he gone down there, dollar,
he said, who got about two thousand dollars?
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Anyway, all right, you back to the litter.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
That's the problem with me, and we never share information.
And the reason I wanted to take the first half
of my letter was to just debunk some of these
myths and stuff and help me in now half the
time and the money. Go see your doctor said, But
stay out the gas stations, all right. I tell you
(06:31):
right now, if you have a China Town in your neighborhood.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Go get your hands down there. All right.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
We'll have part two Steve's response to the Strawberry Letter
three minutes after. Yeah, the subject is I'm tired of
yelling at my husband.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
You're listening morning show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap first today's Strawberry letter.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Well, we didn't recap.
Speaker 5 (07:01):
We just went over the things that a man need
to do because this ed thing, he rectile dysfunction, is
sweeping the country and men are having problems earlier in life.
And I just wanted to help you. Stay out them
gas stations, buying black Aad and black Rhino, because you
can get yourself in trouble. There are some new capsules
out there, but to stay out them drugs, stay out
(07:22):
them gas stations, dog get your self some real help,
all right, anyway, now here's a problem. This woman is
tired of yelling at her husband and all his problems.
She says stem for when he starts suffering from ED
and then she thought that that made him feel less,
and so she's been yelling at him. Let me give
(07:43):
you an example. He lost his swagger. He used to
drink a lot, and he couldn't have sex with me.
Over time, it became the norm, so now we're not
having sex. I tend to treat him like he's just
a roommate. He ordered dinner for us last week. He
left my order in the bag and didn't have it
in the bag. He had to yell at him go
get my food. He put gas in my car, left
(08:03):
my gas cap at the service station. A week later.
I knowiced I ain't have no gas cap when I
went to put gas in my car. He said, I'm
overacting the same thing. I yelled at him again. Then
we was at our school classroom check in for our kids.
He was on the side telling He was on the
side telling some lady that they son still with the
(08:26):
bed because he anxious about something. You got in the
car and cust him out again. I bet he'll never
talk to strangers again. I'm so tired of yelling at him,
but he just won't do right. I almost want to
start back to drinking because he's a lot more manly.
By the way, he didn't get the new job or
went to the job interview for him. And I think
after all this coaching I gave him now, I think
(08:48):
I'll be better off raising my son. Will that helped
my husband be more responsible? The title of the letter
is I'm tired of yelling at my husband. You know
why you yelling at him so much? Because he ain't
doing nothing to shut you up?
Speaker 4 (09:04):
Oh okay, man, that's what problem is, all right.
Speaker 5 (09:08):
See, I got something shut you up. All is here hollering.
I'm gonna let you redirect some of this hollow but
it ain't gonna be at me. It's gonna be cause
of me.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
See, you got to redirect this dingle where my food
at having my gas captain quick talking about our son.
Speaker 5 (09:40):
I see you the night, baby, yelling because.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
You gonna quit yelling at me. I'm gonna make you
yell cause of me. You're going to the gas they.
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Homeboy, you have got to get yourself some medical attention
and listen to me. Men out there, I don't care
how severe your case is. They have a solution, but
you have got to get to your urologists. Every man
(10:18):
at forty years old should get a urologist to help
you handle these changes.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
Okay, now.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Listen to me. If you do want a couple suggestions.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
I ain't doctor related.
Speaker 5 (10:42):
Got to get down to Chinatown, that's all I could
tell you.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
They got it.
Speaker 5 (10:50):
You got to get one of them old men. Get
one of them old men down there in Chinatown. Pull
him to the side.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Yeah, what do you say to him?
Speaker 5 (11:01):
I prefer one that don't speak good English because I
need a young dude to translate, because they know my
old people know a lot and once you explain it
to him, they understand.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
And let me tell you something.
Speaker 5 (11:17):
If he go in the back, if he go in
the back, come back out with something.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Take it.
Speaker 5 (11:24):
Take it, he said, may show you at home when
you take it. Don't do it in because don't take
it in the car. If you stay more than fifteen
minutes from the house, You're gonna tell your car. You're
gonna tell your car, because is gonna be like driving
(11:49):
the car behind the tree. I'm telling you you have
got to be at the house when that little Chinese
man come out in the back room. I'm telling you
right now, take it. It's either gonna be in a
tea bag or a powder They don't really do pills
more herb specialists, powder, tea bag, saff Yeah. Sometimes I'm
(12:25):
just trying to done.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
I just don't know.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
This is what men don't do, and men got to
start doing because women, y'all talk.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
To each other. Girl, you have this problem, you know
what you'll do.
Speaker 5 (12:35):
Men we get to pride. So I just took up
a whole break to help men. Go help yourself. You
don't have a China town in your in your city.
Drive to the nearest city that got but they got
in there. It's in the back.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
On Instagram and Facebook, on the free iHeartRadio app coming
up next to the Junior and sports talk right crazy.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Now take water with it, because if you don't it,
it's well your thoughts.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
You're listening to the Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter because we could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Muggle up, but hold on tight. We got it for you.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
I'm tired of yelling at my husband. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm married to a big baby that acts like he
can't do anything without me. I even went on his
last job interview and sat in the lobby for moral support.
I never liked a whimpy man, and he hasn't always
been like this. He lost his confidence when he started
(00:50):
having problems with the rectile dysfunction. It took away his
swagger and ruined our sex life. I adjusted and never
blamed him or made jokes about it. He used to
drink a lot, and that's why he couldn't have sex
with me. Over time, it became the norm. So now
that we're not having sex, I tend to treat him
(01:10):
like he's just a roommate. He ordered dinner for us
last week and he left without my order in the bag.
I had to yell at him to go back to
get my food. He put gas in my car, and
he left my gas cap at the service station.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
A week later, I.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Noticed I had no gas cap when I went to
put more gas in my car. He says, I overreact
to simple things, but this is big. We were at
our son's school for classroom check in and he was
over to the side telling one of the other moms
that our son is still wetting the bed because he's
really anxious about something. I let him have it when
(01:47):
we got in the car. He will never talk to
strangers again about our son if I have anything to
do with it. I'm so tired of yelling at him,
but he just won't do right. I almost want him
to start back drinking, because he's a lot more manly
when he's had a few dirty martinis. By the way,
he didn't get the job even after all of the
(02:08):
coaching I gave him. I think I will be better
off raising my son by myself. Will that help my
husband be more responsible? Well, this is what I have
to say to this. You guys have a real problem here,
and I don't know why you aren't taking this more
seriously because your marriage is in trouble. Your husband needs help,
(02:28):
and there is help out there for his ed get
him a doctor's appointment, you can go with him like
you did for the job interview.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
And you're right.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
He shouldn't be talking to strangers about your son's business.
And you're yelling needs to stop too, because you should
be tired of that. It's not helping. You're reacting to
his mistakes out of frustration. But if you two don't
take this the time to get real serious about this
and try to fix these problems, yes, I will be.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
You will be.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
I believe you will be raising your son by yourself,
like you say, because you already have one foot out
of the door because of all this.
Speaker 5 (03:07):
Steve, can I ask you a couple of questions, Shirley. Yeah,
you said that he has this problem and there's something
he can do about this erectile dysfunction. What what do
you think that is?
Speaker 4 (03:20):
You can go to the dot. I mean I see
commercials about it all the time.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Whatever you guys do to get it back right, take pills,
you know, whatever you have to do. Don't you aren't
there pills out there for that?
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Aren't They aren't there pills out there for that?
Speaker 5 (03:38):
They playing some t you. They got stuff you can
put under your tongue. They got you can chew. They
got nasal spray. Wow, I got a nasal spray out there.
Shoot two shots up in your nose. Ears be hot
at hell though.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
Okay, they got the honey.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Well I heard about that. They got honey. They got
a honey. You take that honey off Thursday. Let me
tell you money. You got this tea? Yeah, they got
a tea? Doog? You could?
Speaker 5 (04:14):
You could just like you know, if you go to dinner,
you just put it in a company bag like you
having a cup of tea.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
You're just a teapad and lawd have mercy.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I can't even believe we're talking about this, but yeah,
you said you had another.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
That's what the strawberry letter is about. So you sent
the man to the doctor. We can get his head
down to the gas station.
Speaker 4 (04:31):
Let me you go to get it done.
Speaker 5 (04:36):
Hey, listen to me. Stay out the gas stations because
I got a partner. It's some horror stories down at
the black Rhino, black head, all of it. See the
thing about the stuff at the gas station, fellas, that
you can get is not regulated like some of.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
The proofs till you might work. Some of them might not.
Some of them had just straight gunpowder in it.
Speaker 5 (05:05):
Take on their damn pills and your whole life change.
So be careful down there at them gas stations. Dog,
That's all I got to tell you. Oh and also
let me give you another tip on it. Mexico.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
You can go down there.
Speaker 5 (05:22):
You get the whole body of that stuff about twenty dollars.
I got a partner to go down there, right, I
got he right, I got a partner to go down
there and make runs.
Speaker 4 (05:31):
You gotta make a run.
Speaker 5 (05:33):
Yeah, he quit selling dope, Okay, to talk to.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Him, it was a better choice.
Speaker 5 (05:47):
Plus, you know, they started legalizing weed, so that kind
of messed him up a little bit too.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
So he said, man, I got a change.
Speaker 5 (05:53):
Wow. Yeah, he found out by Seattles and Vaga down
there in Mexico. For twenty dollars he gone down there, dollar,
he said, who got about two thousand dollars?
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Anyway, all right, you back to the litter.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
That's the problem with me, and we never share information.
And the reason I wanted to take the first half
of my letter was to just debunk some of these
myths and stuff and help me in now half the
time and the money. Go see your doctor said, But
stay out the gas stations, all right. I tell you
(06:31):
right now, if you have a China Town in your neighborhood.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Go get your hands down there. All right.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
We'll have part two Steve's response to the Strawberry Letter
three minutes after. Yeah, the subject is I'm tired of
yelling at my husband.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
You're listening morning show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap first today's Strawberry letter.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Well, we didn't recap.
Speaker 5 (07:01):
We just went over the things that a man need
to do because this ed thing, he rectile dysfunction, is
sweeping the country and men are having problems earlier in life.
And I just wanted to help you. Stay out them
gas stations, buying black Aad and black Rhino, because you
can get yourself in trouble. There are some new capsules
out there, but to stay out them drugs, stay out
(07:22):
them gas stations, dog get your self some real help,
all right, anyway, now here's a problem. This woman is
tired of yelling at her husband and all his problems.
She says stem for when he starts suffering from ED
and then she thought that that made him feel less,
and so she's been yelling at him. Let me give
(07:43):
you an example. He lost his swagger. He used to
drink a lot, and he couldn't have sex with me.
Over time, it became the norm, so now we're not
having sex. I tend to treat him like he's just
a roommate. He ordered dinner for us last week. He
left my order in the bag and didn't have it
in the bag. He had to yell at him go
get my food. He put gas in my car, left
(08:03):
my gas cap at the service station. A week later.
I knowiced I ain't have no gas cap when I
went to put gas in my car. He said, I'm
overacting the same thing. I yelled at him again. Then
we was at our school classroom check in for our kids.
He was on the side telling He was on the
side telling some lady that they son still with the
(08:26):
bed because he anxious about something. You got in the
car and cust him out again. I bet he'll never
talk to strangers again. I'm so tired of yelling at him,
but he just won't do right. I almost want to
start back to drinking because he's a lot more manly.
By the way, he didn't get the new job or
went to the job interview for him. And I think
after all this coaching I gave him now, I think
(08:48):
I'll be better off raising my son. Will that helped
my husband be more responsible? The title of the letter
is I'm tired of yelling at my husband. You know
why you yelling at him so much? Because he ain't
doing nothing to shut you up?
Speaker 4 (09:04):
Oh okay, man, that's what problem is, all right.
Speaker 5 (09:08):
See, I got something shut you up. All is here hollering.
I'm gonna let you redirect some of this hollow but
it ain't gonna be at me. It's gonna be cause
of me.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
See, you got to redirect this dingle where my food
at having my gas captain quick talking about our son.
Speaker 5 (09:40):
I see you the night, baby, yelling because.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
You gonna quit yelling at me. I'm gonna make you
yell cause of me. You're going to the gas they.
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Homeboy, you have got to get yourself some medical attention
and listen to me. Men out there, I don't care
how severe your case is. They have a solution, but
you have got to get to your urologists. Every man
(10:18):
at forty years old should get a urologist to help
you handle these changes.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
Okay, now.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Listen to me. If you do want a couple suggestions.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
I ain't doctor related.
Speaker 5 (10:42):
Got to get down to Chinatown, that's all I could
tell you.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
They got it.
Speaker 5 (10:50):
You got to get one of them old men. Get
one of them old men down there in Chinatown. Pull
him to the side.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Yeah, what do you say to him?
Speaker 5 (11:01):
I prefer one that don't speak good English because I
need a young dude to translate, because they know my
old people know a lot and once you explain it
to him, they understand.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
And let me tell you something.
Speaker 5 (11:17):
If he go in the back, if he go in
the back, come back out with something.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
Take it.
Speaker 5 (11:24):
Take it, he said, may show you at home when
you take it. Don't do it in because don't take
it in the car. If you stay more than fifteen
minutes from the house, You're gonna tell your car. You're
gonna tell your car, because is gonna be like driving
(11:49):
the car behind the tree. I'm telling you you have
got to be at the house when that little Chinese
man come out in the back room. I'm telling you
right now, take it. It's either gonna be in a
tea bag or a powder They don't really do pills
more herb specialists, powder, tea bag, saff Yeah. Sometimes I'm
(12:25):
just trying to done.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
I just don't know.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
This is what men don't do, and men got to
start doing because women, y'all talk.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
To each other. Girl, you have this problem, you know
what you'll do.
Speaker 5 (12:35):
Men we get to pride. So I just took up
a whole break to help men. Go help yourself. You
don't have a China town in your in your city.
Drive to the nearest city that got but they got
in there. It's in the back.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
On Instagram and Facebook, on the free iHeartRadio app coming
up next to the Junior and sports talk right crazy.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Now take water with it, because if you don't it,
it's well your thoughts.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
You're listening to the Harvey Morning Show.
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!