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Thank you, nephew. Subject I think my friend is helping
my husband cheat. Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married
for thirteen years to my best friends. We've done everything
together for the last twenty years, and we can darn
near finish each other's sentences. He has been a great
dad for our two dogs, and he will do anything
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for my mom and dad. He also loves my best
friend as much as I do, and they get jealous
and fight over who's really my best friend. She's had
the worst dating experiences and after her last few bad dates,
she came to our house and we popped open a
bottle of wine and listened to some music and smoked weed.
But Lately, our vibe has been off. She and I
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have been going out without my husband. He always says
he has something else to do. She's been inviting me
to all kinds of odd activities that we'd never do,
like a paint and sip party. We've been roller skating,
to a WNBA game, and we went to a stage play,
all without my husband. It's almost like my husband has
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asked my best friend to get me out of the
house so he can go cheat. Once, when I called
my husband and could not reach him, she said that
my husband needs some space, so give him a break.
She should never speak on my husband like that. I
see now that she might be too close to my husband,
and I don't like that. Yesterday, he texted me to
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ask if we'd ordered our food yet. I was at
lunch with my best friend and I hadn't told him
where I was going. He was supposed to be helping
his brother cut down a tree, so how were his
hands free to text me? I am sure that his
text was meant for my best friend. My intuition tells
me that she's running interference. What do you think, am
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I paranoid or what.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
You know?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
If things aren't adding up in your brain and all that,
and your intuition says something is off, then it's off.
You're not paranoid. You gotta trust your instincts here. This
is not normal behavior for a best friend anyway. But
this whole marriage is unusual, to say the least, because
she is so comfortable giving you her unsolicited opinions about
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your marriage. She's all up in your marriage. It's just
too much. Another thing, you said, your husband, how was
he able to text you when he was supposed to
be out helping his brother cut a tree down. Well,
that's no evidence of him cheating.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
What is that?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
I mean, you can't base your sufficient suspicions on something
that flimsy. You have no proof. He could have just
been taking a break at that moment and decided to
call you. You got mad at your bestie for saying
something to you about your husband needing a break, needing
his base, But you created this monster. She couldn't even
be that close to your husband and up around him
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so much, But you allowed this, and now she feels
entitled to say what she says in front of you
and about your marriage. I think she's too comfortable. At first,
you love the attention of them fighting over you and
all that that. You know, who's no, I'm your best friend,
I'm your best friend. But now it's backfired on you.
I think you just need to re establish your boundaries
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with this female friend and your other bestie, who you
say is your husband, and he should understand and fall
in line with you. You're his wife. You've given her equal
status with your husband and all of this, and that's
why this is such a mess. This is craziness. You
have to not let her be so involved. You got
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to get her out of your relationship. This is not
throfle This is not a sister wife situation. She doesn't
belong in your marriage. Get her out, Steve.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
This letter is not about I think my friend is
helping my husband cheap.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
That ain't what this letter is about. This letter is
about three grown people that have formed this ignorant alliance
with one another. Y'all, y'all gotta you know.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Like I always tell married people, the best way to
stay married and stay content is to form a two
handed circle. Well, it's three of y'all in this circle,
and it don't make no damn sense. I don't know
how you thought a marriage can work like this, but
they hear these letters always start off wonderful. I'm married
to my best friend. We've been together for twenty years.
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We can finish each other sentences.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Then here where it.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Let us start taking this weirdness to me. He's been
a great dad to our two dogs.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Listen to me.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Stop with people with dogs. Stop saying that people have
got here man. Stop saying that y'all is mommy and
daddy too. These damn animals. It ain't the same. I
don't care how you feel. It is not the same
having a dog. Ain't close to having no baby. He's
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such a good dad. All you gotta do is put
food in the bowl it with, next some water, walk
his ass every down then and take a scoopa poop
out there.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
You let his ass out the y'all. You ain't even
got to talk to it.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Shut up. Y'all are not real parents. Them is just
your damn dogs.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Let's clear that people with dogs not agree with you.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
I don't give a damn what they agree with. Have
a baby and see if it's the same. Have a
baby and see if it's the same as having a
damn dog. Rest my cape. I bet y'all win. That anyway,
Let's move on. He also loves and he would do
anything for my mom and dad. He also loves my
other best friend in as much as I do, and
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they get jealous and fight over who's really my best friend?
Speaker 2 (06:04):
What you and I've never heard that before in all
my life.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
I ain't never heard no married couple and the husband
and the woman's best friend is fighting.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Over who her best friend. Why you ever heard that before?
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Nope?
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Hell no, That's why you know the rest of this
letter is doomed? Are you all the dumb ass people
in this letter right here, including the one that thinks
that day the damn daddy and them damn dog them
it is not children.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
I'm tired of it, Dave.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
We'll have part two of your response, your angry response,
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
Strawberry letter, subject is my friend helping my husband cheat.
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Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
Is my friend helping my husband cheat is the subject?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Well, listen to me. That ain't really what this letter
is about. This is about this odd of lines. You
have this three handed circle, y'all informed in your marriage
that is going back by, as Shirley says, and then
you talk about I always tell her how good of
a man he is. We've been together twenty years. He
we damn they finish each other's sentence, says he's been
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a great dand to eye two dogs. Let's just let's
stuff saying this right now. Okay, I don't want everybody
listen to me because you have dogs that don't mean
your ass and his parents he ain't even close. And
you can ask anybody that's got real kids. Damn them
dogs talking about y'all his parents. You ain't got nothing
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for his ass. He eat off the float, he licked hisself.
All you need is a bowl of water and some food.
If you go overen up door and let his ass
out of y'all, you ain't got to check on him.
See how I feel. You ain't got to talk to him.
He don't want no new nikes, He ain't ask for
no ephod.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
It ain't the same. That's it's a damn dog. I'm
so mad at that.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
Anyway, he loves my mom and dad, but he loves
my best friend as much as I do, and they
get jealous and fight over who's really my best friend? Now,
listen to me, y'all, you ain't never heard that before?
Or what man is sitting up arguing with his wife's
girlfriend who her best friends?
Speaker 4 (08:57):
Right?
Speaker 3 (08:58):
This is weird, then, she said, and she has the
worst dating experiences, and after her last few bad.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Days, damn, so she just out there.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
She came to our house and we popped open a
bottle of wine, listened to some music, and smoked weed.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
But lately our vibe has been off.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
She and I been going out without my husband. He
always say he got something else to do. She been
inviting me to all kinds of odd activities that we
never do, like a painting sip. Was just at the
house drinking wine and weed? Why that sounds so out
the question? You would just at a house, DrAk a
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whole damn bottle of wine and a sack of weed.
Now you're trying to figure out how the sip a
painting sip? Otter damn question? Somebody lying? Did we been
roller skating? What? And we went to a w NBA game?
Now they can hoop out there, them girls can hoop.
I love him, so I can't say no more. We
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went to a stage play all all without my husband. Well,
if I was your husband, I don't want to go
to damn stage play either. So what that ain't nothing new?
Nobody want to.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Go down here? All the all fellow.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
West Side study. We sure get a damn singing in
a swing. I can't standing that kind of stuff. I'm
half ass acting over after talking all loud walls moving
on stage That ain't no real wall, and I saw
you moving. That's why I can't go to play. It's
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almost like it's it's almost like my husband and asked
my best friend to get me out the house so
he can go cheating. Once when I called my husband
and couldn't reach him, she said, my husband needs some space,
so give him a break.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
She would she should never speak on my husband like that? Why? What?
Speaker 1 (10:50):
What?
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Why not?
Speaker 3 (10:52):
Why she come over your house drank wine, smoke weed?
She come over there and tell y'all all about her dates,
y'all all about who the best who the best friend?
And all this hill She should never speak on.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
My hus or why now? And now?
Speaker 3 (11:06):
I think she might be too close to my hus
I don't like that. Yesterday he texted me to ask
if we'd ordered our food. Yet I was at lunch
with my best friend and I hadn't told him where
I was going. Now wait a minute, Now, you was
at lunch with which one of your best friends? Because
this sounded like somebody knew, Oh, she with the girl,
and I hadn't told him I was going. He was
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supposed to be helping his brother. Now listen to this.
He's supposed to be helping his brother cut.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Down the tree. So how was his hands free to
text me? You ever seen nobody cut the tree down?
You ain't gonna stand there hold the tree with two hands.
He was cutting the tree down. They wasn't pushing the
tree down. The hair wrong with you. They was cutting
the tree. Yeah, you know, you do know they got
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electric saws. Right now.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
You just saw we take a while, and I'm gonna
tell you right now, wasn't a big ass tree. Because
I'm telling you right now, you go out there and
try to cut that big ass be down at your house,
you gotta mess around.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Ain't gonna have no house no more.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Because if you don't get that tree to fall the
right down. Wait, your ass got a problem. I don't
think nobody was cutting the damn tree down. I'm sure
his text was meant for my best friend. I don't
even understand where that came from. So he texts me,
but I'm sure the text was for my best friend.
My tuition tells me that she's running in a fields.
What do you think? Am my paranoid of what?
Speaker 2 (12:25):
I think?
Speaker 3 (12:25):
You're real paranoid. And just to make you even more paranoid,
here I go. Guess what I think. I think your
best friend is screwing your husband. That's what I think.
I think. That's why they can't be around each other
no more. That's what I think. I think, because he
can't go to the sipping simp, sipping weeds, smoke whatever
the hell you go and paint on each other and
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stuff that was that rollers roller blade and sitting up
at the Naab game. He can't do none of that
because he's sleeping with your damn friend and he ain't
gonna be able to hide. And when the last time
you heard an argument about who was your best friend?
But what they found out ain't neither one of.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Them your friends.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
They're each other's best friend.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
You done let your best friend get all up in.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Your house too much?
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah, all right, now that's what I think.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
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