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Speaker 1 (00:25):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject it's always the same
mess with her. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been with my
lady for almost nine years, and she proposed to me
in July. It came out of nowhere because I had
just caught her cheating on me. I was about to
break up with her and she hit me with a proposal.
I haven't told her yes or no because we have
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a lot of unresolved issues. When I first met her,
it was at a strip club. She wasn't a dancer,
but she was dating one, and so was I. We
found out that we were messing with the same girl,
so we all would hook up. I took my girl
out a few times, and we decided we leave the
stripper alone and try to be monogamous. That lasted about
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six months, and I found out she was cheating on
me with a guy she works with. We took a
break and I was dating a lot of other women.
I was in my mid twenties and so was she.
She told me she was ready to settle down again,
so this time we got a place together. I hoped
that she would be faithful to me because I had
gotten tired of threesomes and wild sex CapAids. I took
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on an executive role at work and was ready to
be with her. Every One in my inner circles said
she's not the one to settle down with, but she
was my rock and had been there with me through
a lot of ups and downs. Come to find out,
she's my rock, but she's also a cheater and a liar.
One of my best friends showed me proof of her
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trying to sleep with him, and I got mad at him.
Now that I understand how she really is, I apologize
to him and we're slowly becoming close again. This one
has my heart all twisted up, and I think I
would end up in an open marriage if I agree
to go through with this. How will I know if
she's got all the cheating out of her system? Uh? Okay,
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First of all, you can't marry You cannot marry this woman.
You cannot. Okay, she hasn't gotten all the cheating out.
She just tried to hook up with your boy. No,
and she proposed to you, probably because you caught her cheating.
Like you said, you're never going to trust this woman.
You'll never be able to trust her. That's why you're
writing us now. She is not the one. Listen to
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everyone in your inner circle. They know you too, do
not want the same things out of life. You don't
want to cheat, you want to settle down. She's still
out there, Wilin. Okay, she's a cheater and a liar
and those are your words, so believe them. Don't come
back and let them bite you in the butt again.
She has shown you who she is time after time.
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Please believe her. You can't change her, you can't make
her into the person you want to be. None of that.
This relationship will turn into an even worse disaster. If
you guys, get married, If you're done with all your
wiland like you said, and you want to settle down.
You can't settle with her. She doesn't want that. I
know you must love her. You said that your heart
is all twisted, but you got to think about what
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married life would be with her one heartbreak, one betrayal
after another. Tell her no, tell her no to her proposal.
You're not going to marry her, and please move on.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Steve, Well, it's always the same mess with her as
the subject. Surely made a statement that stuck out in
my mind. She said, you can't marry her because you
all don't want the same thing. Well, I think you do.
I think y'all do want the same thing. That what hell?
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The problem is right here? Everybody you won't, She won't everybody,
she won't. You want everybody you've been with. She got
a guy with lot of y'all got a lot in
common here, man. Sleeping around is huge for y'all. Huge.
You've been with her for nine years. She promoted. She
proposed to you in July after you caught her cheating.
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Who does a dude move? Right there? That is such
a dude move. And she obviously read the book. Act
like a lady, think like a man, because that's exactly
all she doing is thinking like a man. But this
woman you dealing with. Bruh, This is not a long
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letter for me because I don't know how to do it.
Let me, we're gonna do a reenactment when we come back.
I don't even know how to do the reenact because
you all are not made for monogamous relationships. You met
her at a strip club because you was dating a
stripper and she was dating a stripple. Turn out it
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was the same stripple. Then y'all got tired of reasons,
and y'all decided to stay with each other. Okay, now,
how long did that last? You said that lasted about
six months? And then I found out she was cheating
on that she worked with. She got to be in
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bed at all times. She ain't down at the job.
She got to be in the rack. We took a break.
Then I was dating a lot of other women. Now
you and now you back out in the streets. I
was in my mid twenties and so was she. She
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told me she was ready to settle down again. So
this time we got a place together. Who thought this
was a good ass? I did. Y'all got a place together.
Now it's Grand Central Railroad Station, in y'all house, I
can promise you it's some comings and going on in here.
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I hope she will be faithful to me because I
had gotten tired of threesomes and wild sex coupais. I
know that's right. And let me tell you something. She
is doing the damn most because when the dude say
he tied the threesomes and while sex coupaid. If you
in now, girl, you in now with the Jordan of
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sexual activity. You in there with the greatest of all time.
Ladies in German.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Yeah, of your response coming up at twenty three minutes
after today's Strawberry letter, subject it's always the same mess
with her. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening morning show, All right, Steve, come on, let's
recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is it's always the
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same messed with her.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
This poor man that wrote this letter in dating a
woman for nine years. They met at a strip club.
They was dating the same stripple.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Then she has her to marry him because she cheated
on him with a guide work. They broke up a
little bit. He started dating a lot of women. She
was back out there in them streets you, I'm exhausted.
Then she told me she was ready to settle down again.
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And then they went and got a place together. They
opened up Grand Central Station at the house. Uh so
the Holiday Inn Express was now their new home. So
they they uh they got a house and it turned
out to be an airbnb and at a hotel and
Jeans motor lodging. They end up selling room for uh
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about an hour. That's when you noticed happened to popping
off at this hotel. We got hourly rates. And anyway,
he said he got tired of threesomes and wild sex coupage.
You know, something going on when the dude get tied.
So now he wants to This is ridiculous, out of y'all.
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He took an executive role at work, so he executive now.
And then he said that he was ready to be
with her, but everybody in the circle telling her him
she's not the one to settle down with. Now. Guess
what came out of all this. This is what threw
me in this hole. Guess what he said after that.
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But she is my rock, Oh mate, boy boy, you
need a new posaurus and dictionary. You cannot be calling
her your rock. She come to find out. She is
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my rock, but she's also a cheatah and a liar. Yeah, boy,
you need some new rocks. I ain't gonna not there anyway.
She's not your rock now. I don't know if this
term is acceptable on the radio, but I'm gonna have
to tell you what you have here. Though she's not
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your rock, she's a thought. A thought now for those
of you old people that don't know what a thought
is this, now here's what it stands for. That blank
over there, fought that blank over there any but one
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blank start with the h going there. That's all I
need to say. That's the Strawberry letter. Thank you all
for listening this moment her please and bro, don't I
don't understand man. So then one of your best friends
showed you proof of her trying to sleep with him.
You got mad at him. Now I understand how she realized.
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I apologize to him, and we slowly becoming close again.
What you mean by that? Though?
Speaker 1 (10:22):
He and his friend are slowly getting becoming close.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Oh I thought they had broke up too. I shouldn't say.
It's just well, y'all see with the same strip woods,
the same friends. Anyway, this woman was my has my
heart all twisted up? And I think I would end
up in an open marriage if I agreed to go
through with this. How will I know if she's got
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all the cheating out of her system. She don't. She
don't have no cheating out her sister her. Okay, I'm
gonna do something I never am. Y'all be a man
that's concerned. I'm gonna give you the answers of a cheating,
lying cheater who happens to be a woman. Ask me
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any question you want, any question. I'm gonna show you
how a woman who cheats in lies answers the question.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Is it true you tried to get with my boy?
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Hell?
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Nah?
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Boy? Hell no? You know I don't even like other men.
When you met me, was I with him? Uh uh?
I know you were with the girl that we both
got with. Yeah, but I don't even like other men. God,
you crazy, except for that dude in my job, just
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because I slept with one man in my job. Now,
I want your friends.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
To well, baby, I thought you were supposed to be
my rock.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
I am your rock. Who you know who you know
hit harder than me?
Speaker 3 (11:54):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Wow? Wow? How many times have you cheated on me.
Be honest.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Let's have an honest conversation. Okay, I have forgiven it,
just that one just at one time, one time.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
That's it. Yeah, what is it gonna be like if
we get married? What is it gonna be like? Oh,
it's gonna be beautiful.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
No cheating.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Why don't be beautiful? You're gonna have my grain headaches,
worry about me. I'm gonna drive you crazy, but that's
what you said. Ooh, I'd be driving you crazy, and
I'm just why would I cheat on you. I'm gonna
just gonna bring them by the house you decide.
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