March 8, 2018 • 13 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Buckle up and hold on time. We got it on
your thank you alright subject. It is so good I
can't even think straight. Dear Stephen Shirley. Hopefully not this way,
Dear Stephen Shirley. I need some I don't know what
(00:25):
about that right here? Good lord, Well it's a little different, alright.
I I need some real advice here. I've been married
for a year and my wife recently started a new job.
She was enjoying her job, and everything seemed to be
going in the right direction. One weekend, when we were
chilling at home and my wife discussed, confessed that she
(00:49):
is falling for a man at her new job. I
never suspected anything, and I was shocked that she admitted it.
I was very hurt, but she begged me to be
patient and help her work through this. She was truthful
about everything and seemed to be genuinely sorry, so I
said I. I told her we could move past it.
(01:10):
She said she was going to avoid him at work
and it would all be fine. Well. A later, she
came to me and told me that she and the
guy couldn't avoid each other at work, and now they
are in love with each other. She told me that
he lives with his girlfriend, though, so that's keeping them
from being together. I found his girlfriend and met up
(01:31):
with her. She already knew everything and she was not
leaving her man now here. I am all confused because
my wife is still doing her wifely duties at home,
like cooking, cleaning, giving me regular foot massages, and making
good love to me. When she makes love to me,
it seems like she still wants to be with me,
(01:52):
but I can't shake the feeling that she's only here
because she can't be with her coworker boyfriend. I don't
want to be a fool and let her continue to
play house with me. Should I give her an ultimatum?
Or should I wait for this to blow over? Maybe
it's just a workplace fling. I can't even think straight.
What do you think? You know what? I'm gonna be
(02:13):
honest with you. I really thought you were gonna say
that after you contacted his girlfriend, uh, you know, and
you met up with her. You hooked up with her.
I thought that's what you were gonna say, honestly, But
to my surprise, you didn't. So right there, let me
know that you're a good man, You love and you
want your wife you want your wife to yourself at home. Uh.
(02:33):
You you've shown her that by sticking by her after
she told you that she had feelings and she was
in love with her coworker. You stuck by her. The
problem is she's not honoring herself, you or this marriage
or the marriage vows, or she's not sticking with you. Uh.
This is not blowing over like you say. You say
you should wait for this to blow over. This is
(02:53):
getting worse. They're getting deeper involved. She's allowing this man
who already has a woman, who you've met, and she
says she's not leaving him. She's allowed this man to
come between the two of you, to come between your marriage. Um,
and you're going along with it? You know, I say
definitely yes, give her an ultimatum. Tell her it's either
you or him or you're out. She's playing and your
(03:16):
marriage is not a game. See Shirley. Yes, yes, I
can't me and me and you on two different pages
with these letters this week. That's a good thing. Yes,
it's a beautiful thing. I'm and I appreciate the perspective
(03:36):
you took. You took a wholesome You talked about the
marriage and talked about commitment. You talked about honesty. What
is what are we talking about? Let me let me
get you that this letter. It started a new job.
One weekend, we're chilling at home, and my wife confessed
(03:59):
that falling for a man at her job. She came
in and told list to who right there? See that
the opening of this whole letter. My wife confessed that
she's falling for a man at her new job. Who
(04:21):
she tell it to? You can't be talking about me, No,
he's talking about No way you're talking about me. I
never suspected anything, and I was shocked that she admitted it.
I was very hurt, but she begged me to be
patient and help her work through this. What help your
(04:45):
work through what? You're falling in love with a man
on the job. You want me to help you work
through it. I don't give a damn about your job him,
how much it pay, how new and fresh it is,
(05:06):
but you won't me to help you work through it.
We're not working through a damn thing. I'm gonna try
to be patient before I get to the violence of
this letter. But let's try to move on. She says
she was truthful about everything, genuinely sorry, so I told
(05:33):
her we can move past Steve. See well, Steve, um, Yeah,
all right, we're in the middle of this Strawberry letter.
I think we may have lost connection with Steven. We'll
get him back, of course, like we always do. The
(05:54):
subject is it's so good I can't even think straight.
And uh, Steven saying there's no way that this woman
could have come in the house and told him that.
And absolutely, I think we're in agreement here. We're just saying, yeah,
I mean we definitely said my thing cut off, y'all
(06:19):
hear me. No, we didn't hear anything. You've been gone
for a minute. I've been gone for a minute. Yeah,
for a little minute, y'all. Miss what I had to say,
this unbelievable ass let him go back. It was very hurt,
and she begged me to be patient and work help
(06:39):
her work through this. Then she said, be truth about everything.
Seeing Junior. I told her we could move past this.
Who wrote this letter? What man? You know wrote this
damn letter? We come back. I'm a destroy this whole letter.
But right now, come on, Steve, with part two of
(07:00):
your response to today's Strawberry letter. You yeah, subject, you forgot,
you forgot what something. It's so good, I can't even
think straight. This is he's calling it. It's so good,
I can't even think at the end of this man,
I'm on the mike. This man. This man has a
(07:20):
wife that came to him one weekend. They're chilling at
the house. She confessed she falling for a man on
her new job. Not right off the dribble, she told
this to who It's why I'm confused, because you're you
ain't coming in my house to tell me that you're
falling for a man on a new job. He said,
(07:46):
I was shocked. I never suspected anything, and she admitted
I was very hurt. But she begged me to be
patient and help her work through this. What huge. She
was truthful about everything. It seemed to be generally sorry.
So I told her we could move past it. She
(08:06):
said she was gonna avoid him at work and everything's
gonna be fine here in the crazy part. Well, a
month later she come to me and she told me
she and the guy couldn't avoid each other at work,
and now they are in love with each other whole house.
Is you telling this in in her house? Now? What? No? No, no,
(08:26):
no no no no no shulling, No, no, no, I'm sitting.
Don't give it that nothing off. You're not coming in
my house with some more information about a man. And
what you're telling me is bigger than the information I
got in here. That's not happening. Ship. I'm sorry. You
(08:48):
can get a move on. Path that this her house
to her house. Hell, she told me that. She told
me that he lives with his girl friend though, so
that's keeping them from being together. So now this woman
then mustered up enough guts to tell us sorry as
(09:10):
husband and husband, and the fact that he got a
girlfriend is the only reason. That's the only thing stopping
us from being together. Damn you, the marriage, the vials
all this week got. What's stopping us from being together
is his girlfriend. But how the hell she keeps feeling
comfortable enough to tell this to you? My wife not
(09:34):
that comfortable. And you want me to tell you why
because my wife, No, she can't bring nothing to me
that sounds that he because I didn't do something. M
I'm gonna do something. Now, let me tell you what
I ain't gonna do. What this dude wouldn't did. I
(09:54):
found his girlfriend. This is the husband found this man.
That's in over this. I found his girlfriend and met
up with her. She said she already knew everything and
she was not leaving him. So now here I am confused.
Who was this punk ass? Who is this as dude?
(10:17):
The set up here called this man girlfriend? You want
to meet me, and you know your husband he talking
to my wife. Wait when you're gonna meet him? See
all this meeting and talking, but you ain't going to
the sauce of the problem partner. How you ain't had
this conversation with this dude? You're sleeping with my wife? Man?
(10:39):
What what? But she comfortable enough to tell my punk ass?
I wish my wife would get that damn comfortable. I'll
tell you right now. We're gonna be all over t
m Z. I swear to god we're on TMZ. Come
in here telling about what she gonna do with somebody
else and setting me up with it. Now Here, I
(11:04):
am confused, confused? How weak? This is not a getting weaker,
it's getting weaker. So now here, I am confused, confused. Hey,
are you gonna get mad when you're gonna do something?
When you're gonna somebody asking this left? Come on, boys,
all listen is missing? Man? I met with his girlfriend
(11:27):
white he at h All right, then, I'm confused because
she doing her wife and duties like cooking, clean and
give me regular foot massagery and making good love to me.
When she makes love to me, it seemed like she
still want to be with me, But I can't shake
the feeling. Why are you reading it like that? I'm through?
(11:50):
I'm so damn mad this here, boys, she practicing on
you for What's she's gonna do with the man that
she's not in love with? Is she comfortable enough to
share with you? What kind mad you got? I don't
know what kind of man you are. I don't know
where you're from. I don't know who your daddy was.
I don't know who you made of. I don't know
where your home is at. I don't know where you're blocked.
(12:14):
I don't goun I don't I don't know what that is.
Just need to be in this letter. Be quiet. Surely
you don't tell me what's sat Calm it down, Thank you,
This didn't happen to you. She's only here because she
can't be with her coworker boyfriend. I don't want to
(12:36):
be a fool or let her to continue to play
house with me. You don't want to be a fool,
Well you've been on through the whole lot of while
you wait until we get to the end and let it.
Thank you don't want to be a fool? Should I
give her an ultimatum? Or should I wait for this
to blow over? Blow over? Blow over? Did you say blow? Oh?
(13:03):
But when you think there's going Pardner, this ain't a storm?
Then he he come again with his podcast. Maybe it's
just a workplace fleeing exactly what it is, and she
doing it in front of your face, and she telling
(13:24):
you because she know you ain't gonna do nothing about it.
I can't even think straight. What do you think somebody
in this letter got to get their ass? And I
think you the dude, because he's still got the girlfriend
and your woman and ain't nobody attacking him? Get out
(13:45):
of here. That's why me and Tommy created Ride down
There dot com. You're listening
Buckle up and hold on time. We got it on
your thank you alright subject. It is so good I
can't even think straight. Dear Stephen Shirley. Hopefully not this way,
Dear Stephen Shirley. I need some I don't know what
(00:25):
about that right here? Good lord, Well it's a little different, alright.
I I need some real advice here. I've been married
for a year and my wife recently started a new job.
She was enjoying her job, and everything seemed to be
going in the right direction. One weekend, when we were
chilling at home and my wife discussed, confessed that she
(00:49):
is falling for a man at her new job. I
never suspected anything, and I was shocked that she admitted it.
I was very hurt, but she begged me to be
patient and help her work through this. She was truthful
about everything and seemed to be genuinely sorry, so I
said I. I told her we could move past it.
(01:10):
She said she was going to avoid him at work
and it would all be fine. Well. A later, she
came to me and told me that she and the
guy couldn't avoid each other at work, and now they
are in love with each other. She told me that
he lives with his girlfriend, though, so that's keeping them
from being together. I found his girlfriend and met up
(01:31):
with her. She already knew everything and she was not
leaving her man now here. I am all confused because
my wife is still doing her wifely duties at home,
like cooking, cleaning, giving me regular foot massages, and making
good love to me. When she makes love to me,
it seems like she still wants to be with me,
(01:52):
but I can't shake the feeling that she's only here
because she can't be with her coworker boyfriend. I don't
want to be a fool and let her continue to
play house with me. Should I give her an ultimatum?
Or should I wait for this to blow over? Maybe
it's just a workplace fling. I can't even think straight.
What do you think? You know what? I'm gonna be
(02:13):
honest with you. I really thought you were gonna say
that after you contacted his girlfriend, uh, you know, and
you met up with her. You hooked up with her.
I thought that's what you were gonna say, honestly, But
to my surprise, you didn't. So right there, let me
know that you're a good man, You love and you
want your wife you want your wife to yourself at home. Uh.
(02:33):
You you've shown her that by sticking by her after
she told you that she had feelings and she was
in love with her coworker. You stuck by her. The
problem is she's not honoring herself, you or this marriage
or the marriage vows, or she's not sticking with you. Uh.
This is not blowing over like you say. You say
you should wait for this to blow over. This is
(02:53):
getting worse. They're getting deeper involved. She's allowing this man
who already has a woman, who you've met, and she
says she's not leaving him. She's allowed this man to
come between the two of you, to come between your marriage. Um,
and you're going along with it? You know, I say
definitely yes, give her an ultimatum. Tell her it's either
you or him or you're out. She's playing and your
(03:16):
marriage is not a game. See Shirley. Yes, yes, I
can't me and me and you on two different pages
with these letters this week. That's a good thing. Yes,
it's a beautiful thing. I'm and I appreciate the perspective
(03:36):
you took. You took a wholesome You talked about the
marriage and talked about commitment. You talked about honesty. What
is what are we talking about? Let me let me
get you that this letter. It started a new job.
One weekend, we're chilling at home, and my wife confessed
(03:59):
that falling for a man at her job. She came
in and told list to who right there? See that
the opening of this whole letter. My wife confessed that
she's falling for a man at her new job. Who
(04:21):
she tell it to? You can't be talking about me, No,
he's talking about No way you're talking about me. I
never suspected anything, and I was shocked that she admitted it.
I was very hurt, but she begged me to be
patient and help her work through this. What help your
(04:45):
work through what? You're falling in love with a man
on the job. You want me to help you work
through it. I don't give a damn about your job him,
how much it pay, how new and fresh it is,
(05:06):
but you won't me to help you work through it.
We're not working through a damn thing. I'm gonna try
to be patient before I get to the violence of
this letter. But let's try to move on. She says
she was truthful about everything, genuinely sorry, so I told
(05:33):
her we can move past Steve. See well, Steve, um, Yeah,
all right, we're in the middle of this Strawberry letter.
I think we may have lost connection with Steven. We'll
get him back, of course, like we always do. The
(05:54):
subject is it's so good I can't even think straight.
And uh, Steven saying there's no way that this woman
could have come in the house and told him that.
And absolutely, I think we're in agreement here. We're just saying, yeah,
I mean we definitely said my thing cut off, y'all
(06:19):
hear me. No, we didn't hear anything. You've been gone
for a minute. I've been gone for a minute. Yeah,
for a little minute, y'all. Miss what I had to say,
this unbelievable ass let him go back. It was very hurt,
and she begged me to be patient and work help
(06:39):
her work through this. Then she said, be truth about everything.
Seeing Junior. I told her we could move past this.
Who wrote this letter? What man? You know wrote this
damn letter? We come back. I'm a destroy this whole letter.
But right now, come on, Steve, with part two of
(07:00):
your response to today's Strawberry letter. You yeah, subject, you forgot,
you forgot what something. It's so good, I can't even
think straight. This is he's calling it. It's so good,
I can't even think at the end of this man,
I'm on the mike. This man. This man has a
(07:20):
wife that came to him one weekend. They're chilling at
the house. She confessed she falling for a man on
her new job. Not right off the dribble, she told
this to who It's why I'm confused, because you're you
ain't coming in my house to tell me that you're
falling for a man on a new job. He said,
(07:46):
I was shocked. I never suspected anything, and she admitted
I was very hurt. But she begged me to be
patient and help her work through this. What huge. She
was truthful about everything. It seemed to be generally sorry.
So I told her we could move past it. She
(08:06):
said she was gonna avoid him at work and everything's
gonna be fine here in the crazy part. Well, a
month later she come to me and she told me
she and the guy couldn't avoid each other at work,
and now they are in love with each other whole house.
Is you telling this in in her house? Now? What? No? No, no,
(08:26):
no no no no no shulling, No, no, no, I'm sitting.
Don't give it that nothing off. You're not coming in
my house with some more information about a man. And
what you're telling me is bigger than the information I
got in here. That's not happening. Ship. I'm sorry. You
(08:48):
can get a move on. Path that this her house
to her house. Hell, she told me that. She told
me that he lives with his girl friend though, so
that's keeping them from being together. So now this woman
then mustered up enough guts to tell us sorry as
(09:10):
husband and husband, and the fact that he got a
girlfriend is the only reason. That's the only thing stopping
us from being together. Damn you, the marriage, the vials
all this week got. What's stopping us from being together
is his girlfriend. But how the hell she keeps feeling
comfortable enough to tell this to you? My wife not
(09:34):
that comfortable. And you want me to tell you why
because my wife, No, she can't bring nothing to me
that sounds that he because I didn't do something. M
I'm gonna do something. Now, let me tell you what
I ain't gonna do. What this dude wouldn't did. I
(09:54):
found his girlfriend. This is the husband found this man.
That's in over this. I found his girlfriend and met
up with her. She said she already knew everything and
she was not leaving him. So now here I am confused.
Who was this punk ass? Who is this as dude?
(10:17):
The set up here called this man girlfriend? You want
to meet me, and you know your husband he talking
to my wife. Wait when you're gonna meet him? See
all this meeting and talking, but you ain't going to
the sauce of the problem partner. How you ain't had
this conversation with this dude? You're sleeping with my wife? Man?
(10:39):
What what? But she comfortable enough to tell my punk ass?
I wish my wife would get that damn comfortable. I'll
tell you right now. We're gonna be all over t
m Z. I swear to god we're on TMZ. Come
in here telling about what she gonna do with somebody
else and setting me up with it. Now Here, I
(11:04):
am confused, confused? How weak? This is not a getting weaker,
it's getting weaker. So now here, I am confused, confused. Hey,
are you gonna get mad when you're gonna do something?
When you're gonna somebody asking this left? Come on, boys,
all listen is missing? Man? I met with his girlfriend
(11:27):
white he at h All right, then, I'm confused because
she doing her wife and duties like cooking, clean and
give me regular foot massagery and making good love to me.
When she makes love to me, it seemed like she
still want to be with me, But I can't shake
the feeling. Why are you reading it like that? I'm through?
(11:50):
I'm so damn mad this here, boys, she practicing on
you for What's she's gonna do with the man that
she's not in love with? Is she comfortable enough to
share with you? What kind mad you got? I don't
know what kind of man you are. I don't know
where you're from. I don't know who your daddy was.
I don't know who you made of. I don't know
where your home is at. I don't know where you're blocked.
(12:14):
I don't goun I don't I don't know what that is.
Just need to be in this letter. Be quiet. Surely
you don't tell me what's sat Calm it down, Thank you,
This didn't happen to you. She's only here because she
can't be with her coworker boyfriend. I don't want to
(12:36):
be a fool or let her to continue to play
house with me. You don't want to be a fool,
Well you've been on through the whole lot of while
you wait until we get to the end and let it.
Thank you don't want to be a fool? Should I
give her an ultimatum? Or should I wait for this
to blow over? Blow over? Blow over? Did you say blow? Oh?
(13:03):
But when you think there's going Pardner, this ain't a storm?
Then he he come again with his podcast. Maybe it's
just a workplace fleeing exactly what it is, and she
doing it in front of your face, and she telling
(13:24):
you because she know you ain't gonna do nothing about it.
I can't even think straight. What do you think somebody
in this letter got to get their ass? And I
think you the dude, because he's still got the girlfriend
and your woman and ain't nobody attacking him? Get out
(13:45):
of here. That's why me and Tommy created Ride down
There dot com. You're listening
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