Keeping it in the Family

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it's that time. Let's buckle up, let's hold
on tight. We got it for your strawberry letta. Yes
we do, nephew subjects keeping it in the family. Dear
Stephen Shirley, please help me. What I want to do
may cause turmoil within the family. Here's the situation. A
young lady and I have a crush on each other.

(00:21):
But she used to be married to someone that was
related to me by marriage. She used to be married
to my stepfather and get follow along with this, Okay,
she used to be married to my stepfather's sister's son.
Got it. Her husband is deceased. Now. Before her husband died,
we had only seen each other three times. After the

(00:43):
third time, we realized we had a connection, so we
kept in touch. We only texted each other on special
occasions and holidays back then. Now we text more frequently
and we enjoy each other's company. We know that we
are not related, but out of respect for the family,
we want to do the right thing. She keeps trying
to hide her feelings, but I can tell she feels

(01:05):
how she feels about me. She also encouraged me to
write this letter to you for your opinion, So should
we move on with our lives, or can we pursue
a relationship to see what happened. We really need your
help with this to to prevent a disaster. Do you
think it would cause a major problem within our family?

(01:26):
Please advise you're right? Uh yeah, I think it just
might cause some turmoil in the family, a major problem.
As you put it. It might raise a few eyebrows.
It might cause a few of your cousins just to
side eye you with their hands on their hips. But
it's not like you're being disrespectful to anyone here. The

(01:46):
husband is deceased and he was not related to you
at all. This is so far down the line this situation.
He was not he he was. This is what he was,
Your stepfather's sister's son. You all are not related at all.
So you need to really decide together if you want
to beat with each other, if you're feeling it, go

(02:08):
for it. Get your relationship tight, figure out what you're
gonna say to people, and all that kind of stuff.
You know, if you choose to do that, then you know,
after your relationship is tied, you've got the friendship going
and everything, then you can start slowly showing up to
family reunions, but you know, it still might make them
a little uncomfortable, but I think eventually they'll come around.

(02:30):
Jay no, no, no, no no no no no no
no no no no, no, no no no. We did
a bit earlier about people who have one hand smaller
than the other. And the reason this happens is because
people in the family get together. And this is what happens.
This is how the kids come out while you got

(02:52):
one foot facing the front and the other foot going
to the back of you. When that's they are, yes,
there are. This is not to be played with, jelly.
This is why you have kids whose eyes are totally crossed,
you know what I mean. They can watch the party
for you because they got cross This is why you
had these kids with the big water here related. This

(03:17):
is why you had the kids with one year bigger
than another years but they can't hear damn thing. Alright,
do not do not play with us, all right, don't
mix these jeans up. Leaving alone. I'm telling you you've
been one. You've been all right, thank you, sir. They're
not related, okay, come on, tell me what you got

(03:39):
a nephew. If we ain't related, we're doing it you
hear me, Let me tell you something. It's all right
to be with your step on tees cousins, baby dadd
and nephew needs to adopted sister. It's all right, all
right to be with your step on tees cousins baby dad,

(04:01):
his nephews needs adopted suster. Ain't nothing wrong with it.
I have been through this before. I was with my
uncle's second wife's daughter in law's twin sisters cousin. We
dated for six months and did the family have mixed emotions? Yames?
But that's alright, love who love you? Let me tell
you something. After your second cousin, everybody is open game.

(04:24):
Do you hear me? Do you hear me? You can't
be a superfine, drop dead gorgeous third cousins. I'm marrying yo. Yes,
I won't you in my life. Yes, to hell with
the family. Will deal with it at the family re union. Yeah,
I married my third cousin. Don't know about to have

(04:45):
third cousins, dudey duty, what's your who your third cousin?
Call him? Don't even have a real night. Already used
to date again, nephew. I dated my uncle's second wife's

(05:09):
daughter in law's twin sisters cousin. That's who I dated,
to Mika, Yes I did. I dated my uncle's second
wife's daughter in law's twin sisters cousin. My name was
to Maka, Yes I did, and it was the greatest

(05:30):
and stay together. Oh no, you know it just it
got it was, I don't know, complicated, complicated, complicated. That's
that's what I'm trying to say. Complic strong. You gotta
be strong, like, yes, yeah, you gotta do all right,
Come on, young one in the group, keeping it in
the fan, tell you what this one la that got me?

(05:54):
He said? She said, U. She used to be married
to my stepfather sister son. Her husband is deceased. Now
pull the hoom, dad. We had only seen each other
three times. What you have been? Killed him? W do
you think killed the man? She said it now, we
had only seen each other before her husband, Dad, We

(06:14):
had only seen each other three times. What you think
killed the husband? And it's always in threes to always
they was folding around for they had to be fool
around for that. Yeah, that's what killed him. When he

(06:34):
fouled out. It was who wasn't Timm? Who was it?
Who was it was? Uh? Your step auntie's cousin's baby,
and dad is nephew's niece adopted sister. Who Now, when
he walked in the room and saw him, that's what
killed him, said, I'll be damned. It's my brother's cousins

(06:58):
third whatever. Yeah, the people are not related, not related.
Why was he at the funeral crying harder than anybody?

(07:20):
The casts hard down? All right? If you have some issues,
some relationship issues, please send your letter. Email us your
letter at Steve Harvey dot com. Okay, want more letters?

(07:44):
All right, we'll be back with part two. We have
some more on this letter. It's called keeping it in
the Family. We'll be back, all right. You're listening to
Steve Harvey Show. All right, here we are back on
this strawberry letter. Part two subjects keeping it in the family. Ly. Uh,
this was written by a young man. I'm assuming he
said what he wanted to do may cause some turmoil

(08:06):
within the family. Uh. He and this young lady have
a crush on each other. But the problem is she
she used to be married, the young lady to someone
that was related to him by marriage. You hear that
Jay related to him by marriage? No blood, no blood.
She used to be married to his stepfather's sister's son.

(08:29):
Her husband is deceased now okay, the stepfather's sister's son
that was her husband, he's no longer living. Before her
husband died, they had seen each other three times. After
the third time, they realized they had a connection, so
we kept in touch, he says. They only texted each
other on special occasions and holidays back then. Now they

(08:51):
text more frequently and they enjoy each other's company. We
know that they're not related, but out of respect for
the family, they still have respect for the family. They
want to do the right thing. She keeps trying to
hide her feelings, he says, but I can tell how
she feels about me. She also encouraged me to write
this letter because she wanted our opinions. So should we

(09:14):
move on with our lives or Candy? Hug your brother,
your brother. You need to go and then hug your brother.
Your brother needs love. It it's not her brother's her
stepfather's sisters being wrong. If you had your brother, brother
needs a love. Hug your cousin hugging. They're trying to

(09:41):
fix her life, Carlin, Hug him, Hug him tight, Hug him.
With the love that you have brother, kiss your stepbrother cousin,
kiss him stepfather's sister's marriage. Tell a second cousin already
hit for Growing up, didn't you always have a crush

(10:01):
on your cousins? Everybody had a crush and they're everybody did,
but you know not, you knew not to cross that line.
I would have asked that. She'd said, go look at
your second cousin. You think they intimate. Well, let's see.

(10:26):
She keeps trying to hide her feelings, but I can
tell how she feels about me. Um, I think they're
one hand any guinea. I think they've already done that.
They didn't done it? What are you talking about? But
but out of respect for the family, they want to
do the right thing. I can only go by when

(10:47):
they did it. Was they doing the right thing? They
im Toma. He had candles, rolls, pedals, all that lights
low and she walked in the room and family reunion
playing come each other on special occasions, and they should

(11:07):
do it again, and do it again, do it again.
Now they're texting more frequently. Well, you couldn't get something
out of and now we enjoy each other's company. Yeah,
don't say nothing to me. When your kids have to
wear baseball caps on. They're not related. There's no blood.

(11:33):
There's no blood between them. Okay, there's no blood. Don't
don't have no kids, that's all. Don't have no children,
not related, and tell me you did it before, so stop.
He got away with it. I'm said again. It was
my uncle's second wife's daughter in law's twin, sister's cousin. Okay.

(11:59):
I think that's a pretty good distance away, Shirley. All right,
and so is this okay? So is this? We're moving on, Guys,
go to Instagram with your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter.
At my girl, Shirley, you're listening to the Steve Harvey
Morning Show.