April 28, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter for Monday, April 28th, 2025: "My 3-Way Love Affair"
A woman writes in because her best friend since she was 7 has been spending all her time with the woman and her husband since the friend broke things off with her fiance. The woman is concerned that her husband is a little too ok with the situation and a little too protective of the friend, now that she has started dating again.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well now it is time for today's Strawberry Letter, and
if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to stevervfm dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Yes, yes, buggle up, hold on tight, We got it
for you. Here it is the Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject my three way love affair. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty year old married woman and
my husband and I have a sister friend that has
been a major part of my life since I was
seven years old. We did everything together, even went to
college the same college and graduated at the same time.
(00:47):
When I got engaged, she got engaged. Our fiancees didn't
get along, so my man would always take my best
decide when she was having an issue with her fiance.
A few weeks after we got engaged, my man and
told me that my besties man was cheating on her.
I was shocked and hurt when I saw the video
of her fiance asleep naked over his side chick's house.
(01:10):
My man and I decided not to tell her anything,
But then my man got really upset with the dude
and went out and went and told my bestie about
the cheating. She was so devastated she stayed with us
for two weeks and called off their engagement. So now
that we're married, she's part of our family. She travels
with my husband, hubby, and I, and she comes for
(01:33):
weekly movie nights at her house. She's dating again, and
when she meets men, she brings them to meet us
so we can pass judgment on them. I've been noticing
lately that my husband is more opinionated than usual, and
none of the guys have been good enough for my bestie.
That's a red flag for me, so I jokingly asked
him if he'd like to clone himself so my bestie
(01:55):
could be with a man just like him. He got
very irritated with me. I've been wondering if something is
going on with him and my bestie. As a test,
I told him that we're going on on an anniversary
trip alone. He said it would be weird to leave
my bestie out. I asked him if we are in
a three way love affair. He laughed it off and said, no,
(02:17):
but does he really care about her feelings? What's going
on here? Well, yeah, he does care about her feelings,
as do you. I mean you called her your sister friend.
You guys have been together since seven years old, So yeah,
he cares about her for sure. And if you ask me,
(02:39):
he's certainly acting like a guilty jealous man when she
brings other men around. I'm very surprised it took you
so long to notice the red flag. I think there
have been several First, and most importantly, when you guys agreed,
when you and your husband agreed not to tell your bestie,
he's the one who told about cheating. That's a major riff, Like,
(03:02):
that's not really what men do. They don't snitch on
each other. Now, he's so concerned about her and who
she dates. You guys have movie nights together and she
travels with you. What your feeling is, right? You know,
it is a three way love affair. Who or what
couple do you know whose husband can behave How your
(03:25):
husband is behaving about her and that there's nothing going on.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Just think about that.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
He's doing way too much when it comes to her
and you need to check them both. You don't have
to catch them in the act or anything like that
to know what's going on. You already suspect them anyway,
So I say you confront them and get it over with. Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Wow, Well, it's interesting. It's an interesting letter. I will
say this about women. Most of the time, what you
feel is real. Most of the time. It's because God
gifted you all with this thing called intuition. He gave
(04:05):
it to you more than he gave it to me.
Women are born with it. You should trust it and
lean on it. So usually what you think or feel
is usually real. You're a forty year old married women.
Your husband and I have a sister, Fred. That's interesting.
That's been a major part of my life since I
was seven. We did everything together. This is very important
(04:30):
in this whole letter. We did everything together. Now pay
attention to y'all. Even went to the same college, graduated
at the same time.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
When I got engaged, she got engaged.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
That's everything, das everything. Our fiances didn't get along, so
my man would always take my besty side when she
he was having an.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Issue with her fiance.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
A few weeks after we got engaged, my man told
me that my besties man was cheating on her. I
was shocked and hurt when I saw the video of
her fiance asleep naked over his side chicks house.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Stop, wait a minute, what? Wait a minute.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
You're saying that your man told you that your besties
man was cheating on her, and then right after that
you said, I'm shocked and hurt when I saw the
video of her fiance a sleep naked over his side
chicks house.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Where your man get the video from?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
You? What did your man get the video from? Now,
let's just do some hood logic. One of two things
was happening. Either the fiance who don't get along, Hello,
(06:14):
the fiances that don't get along?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
He gave your husband the video? Hey, check me.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Out all your husband made the video. Maybe two things
can happen, aby, two things can happen. Hello, Hello, y'all
do everything young? Hello?
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Oh that thought.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour today Strawberry letter, subject
my three way love affair. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Save Harvey Morning Show. You've
heard us talk about the benefits of Globe life insurance.
(07:02):
Globe Life has been protecting families for generations. Globe Life
is easy to buy, with rates starting as low as
three dollars and forty nine cents a month. There is
no medical exam, just a simple application. Call Globe Life
today at one eight hundred two five one fifty four hundred,
or visit Globelife radio dot com again, that's one eight
(07:22):
hundred two five one fifty four hundred or Globelife radio
dot com. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The subject is my three way love affair.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Forty you old married woman and her husband. They have
a sister friend. Well it's a husband now, but we're
gonna take you on this journey. And the sister free
have been a major part of this woman's license to
you seven. They do everything together. Keep that in mind.
Even went to the same college, graduated the same time.
When I got engaged, she got engaged. Our fiances didn't
get along. So my man, which is her fiance, the
(07:55):
writer of this letter, would always take my bestie side
when she was having any issue with a field.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Now, a few.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Weeks after everybody got engaged, my man told me that
my besties man was cheating on her. I was shocking
hurt when I saw the video of her fiance a
sleep naked over his side chick's house. I'm confused, where
(08:22):
did your man get this video from? Because they don't
get along, The two fiances don't get along, and the
two fiances don't like each other. He always siding with
the girl. Where did he get the video? Because if
I don't like a dude that we ain't cool, why
would I show him a video of me or sleep
(08:43):
over another chick's house?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
What purpose did that, sir?
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Unless your man was there and took the video?
Speaker 2 (08:51):
You hit him? Cricky? Did you hit him? Cricket? Is
just nothing.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I got your thinking. Ain't us a man? And I
decided not to tell her anything. But then my man
got really upset with the dude and went and told
my bestie about the.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Chief Like Shirley said, what man do that? What man
does that?
Speaker 3 (09:15):
She was so devastated she stayed with us for two
weeks and called off her engagement. So now that we're married,
now y'all married. Now she's part of our family. She
travels with my husband and our husband and I. She
comes for weekly movie nights at our house. Okay, she's
dating again, which means that she ain't got no problem
(09:38):
meeting men. But check this out, and when she meets me,
and she brings them to meet us, so we could
pass judgment on her.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
So it don't take the chick long to meet men
because she ain't got no problem meeting men.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
So I'm assuming that your girl is attractive, and I
think your girl is attractive to your husband, so attractive
that he wants around everywhere. So now y'all traveling together,
y'all doing movie nights at the house. I've been noticing, lady,
(10:11):
that my husband is more opinionated than usual, and none
of the guys have been good enough for my bestie.
That's a red flag for me. I had a lady
on my talk show one time said women should stop
collecting red flags. It's a red flag for a reason.
Stop collecting them. But you don't put this one in
the backseat of the car. So I jokingly asked him,
(10:34):
I'm joke, you know, would you like to clone yourself
so your bessie could be with a man just like him?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
He got irritated with me.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
So I've been wondering if something is going on with
him and my bestie. As a test, I told him
that were going on our anniversary trip alone. He said
it'd be weird to leave your bestie out. I asked
him if we were in a three way love affair.
He laughed at off and said, no, he does really
care about her feeling. What's going on here? Okay, okay, okay,
(11:05):
you ready, you're ready? What you think going on? Because
that's what you wrote the letter for. Usually what women
think and feel is the deal.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
I've said that now.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
The fact that this whole letter took you this long
to write and then your last question is what's going
on here? It's really amazing to me now when he said,
when you told him y'all was going on y'all anniversary
trip alone, and he said it'd be weird to leave
my bestie out? Ask him if we are in a
(11:44):
three way love affairs? Yeah, yeah, that's what you mean,
that's what you want. But you know you got to
be careful what you say and let come out your mouth.
You did say, y'all do everything each other day. Ain't
that what you said? Didn't y'all invite this third party
(12:05):
into y'all's life, and home.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Don't she go on all the trips with y'all and
she eager to go. She'll never say, girl, nigga, y'all
do y'all y'all need some boot time.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
I ain't gonna go up there. It be no third wheel,
because that's what most people say. Girl. Let me sitting
up and having no dinner with y'all and everything, and
I'm the only one. I ain't got no man. Well,
she ain't saying that because she got a man. Yeah,
because when he go down there to get the coffee,
where you think he stopped? When he go to the
(12:40):
gym and the spa on the trip, Well, who you
think at the gym in the spa? His gym work
getting done in that other room. Let me ask you
another question. You ever noticed that the two of y'all
ain't ever alone together. I'm talking about you and your girlfriend.
You ever noticed that? Ah?
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Wow, uh, you have you peak that game.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
When y'all go on the trips, it ain't ever you
and your girl going down for coffee or tea. He
always going somewhere by hisself, but you don't see her.
She don't cause girl says he's going to the gym
I'm gonna come on up now, cause the gym work
getting done in her room. Push up, push ups, sit ups,
pull ups, jumping jacks, lounging climbers.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Yeah, you know, a lot of cardio. Yeah, a lot
of cardio. Knee bings, right, big dovers, a lot of
downward dogs. We're doing yoga.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Cleave us your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram
and Facebook at Steve harveysm dot com, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast
Speaker 2 (13:42):
On Now you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
Well now it is time for today's Strawberry Letter, and
if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to stevervfm dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Yes, yes, buggle up, hold on tight, We got it
for you. Here it is the Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject my three way love affair. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty year old married woman and
my husband and I have a sister friend that has
been a major part of my life since I was
seven years old. We did everything together, even went to
college the same college and graduated at the same time.
(00:47):
When I got engaged, she got engaged. Our fiancees didn't
get along, so my man would always take my best
decide when she was having an issue with her fiance.
A few weeks after we got engaged, my man and
told me that my besties man was cheating on her.
I was shocked and hurt when I saw the video
of her fiance asleep naked over his side chick's house.
(01:10):
My man and I decided not to tell her anything,
But then my man got really upset with the dude
and went out and went and told my bestie about
the cheating. She was so devastated she stayed with us
for two weeks and called off their engagement. So now
that we're married, she's part of our family. She travels
with my husband, hubby, and I, and she comes for
(01:33):
weekly movie nights at her house. She's dating again, and
when she meets men, she brings them to meet us
so we can pass judgment on them. I've been noticing
lately that my husband is more opinionated than usual, and
none of the guys have been good enough for my bestie.
That's a red flag for me, so I jokingly asked
him if he'd like to clone himself so my bestie
(01:55):
could be with a man just like him. He got
very irritated with me. I've been wondering if something is
going on with him and my bestie. As a test,
I told him that we're going on on an anniversary
trip alone. He said it would be weird to leave
my bestie out. I asked him if we are in
a three way love affair. He laughed it off and said, no,
(02:17):
but does he really care about her feelings? What's going
on here? Well, yeah, he does care about her feelings,
as do you. I mean you called her your sister friend.
You guys have been together since seven years old, So yeah,
he cares about her for sure. And if you ask me,
(02:39):
he's certainly acting like a guilty jealous man when she
brings other men around. I'm very surprised it took you
so long to notice the red flag. I think there
have been several First, and most importantly, when you guys agreed,
when you and your husband agreed not to tell your bestie,
he's the one who told about cheating. That's a major riff, Like,
(03:02):
that's not really what men do. They don't snitch on
each other. Now, he's so concerned about her and who
she dates. You guys have movie nights together and she
travels with you. What your feeling is, right? You know,
it is a three way love affair. Who or what
couple do you know whose husband can behave How your
(03:25):
husband is behaving about her and that there's nothing going on.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Just think about that.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
He's doing way too much when it comes to her
and you need to check them both. You don't have
to catch them in the act or anything like that
to know what's going on. You already suspect them anyway,
So I say you confront them and get it over with. Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Wow, Well, it's interesting. It's an interesting letter. I will
say this about women. Most of the time, what you
feel is real. Most of the time. It's because God
gifted you all with this thing called intuition. He gave
(04:05):
it to you more than he gave it to me.
Women are born with it. You should trust it and
lean on it. So usually what you think or feel
is usually real. You're a forty year old married women.
Your husband and I have a sister, Fred. That's interesting.
That's been a major part of my life since I
was seven. We did everything together. This is very important
(04:30):
in this whole letter. We did everything together. Now pay
attention to y'all. Even went to the same college, graduated
at the same time.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
When I got engaged, she got engaged.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
That's everything, das everything. Our fiances didn't get along, so
my man would always take my besty side when she
he was having an.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Issue with her fiance.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
A few weeks after we got engaged, my man told
me that my besties man was cheating on her. I
was shocked and hurt when I saw the video of
her fiance asleep naked over his side chicks house.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Stop, wait a minute, what? Wait a minute.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
You're saying that your man told you that your besties
man was cheating on her, and then right after that
you said, I'm shocked and hurt when I saw the
video of her fiance a sleep naked over his side
chicks house.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Where your man get the video from?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
You? What did your man get the video from? Now,
let's just do some hood logic. One of two things
was happening. Either the fiance who don't get along, Hello,
(06:14):
the fiances that don't get along?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
He gave your husband the video? Hey, check me.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Out all your husband made the video. Maybe two things
can happen, aby, two things can happen. Hello, Hello, y'all
do everything young? Hello?
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Oh that thought.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour today Strawberry letter, subject
my three way love affair. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Save Harvey Morning Show. You've
heard us talk about the benefits of Globe life insurance.
(07:02):
Globe Life has been protecting families for generations. Globe Life
is easy to buy, with rates starting as low as
three dollars and forty nine cents a month. There is
no medical exam, just a simple application. Call Globe Life
today at one eight hundred two five one fifty four hundred,
or visit Globelife radio dot com again, that's one eight
(07:22):
hundred two five one fifty four hundred or Globelife radio
dot com. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The subject is my three way love affair.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Forty you old married woman and her husband. They have
a sister friend. Well it's a husband now, but we're
gonna take you on this journey. And the sister free
have been a major part of this woman's license to
you seven. They do everything together. Keep that in mind.
Even went to the same college, graduated the same time.
When I got engaged, she got engaged. Our fiances didn't
get along. So my man, which is her fiance, the
(07:55):
writer of this letter, would always take my bestie side
when she was having any issue with a field.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Now, a few.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Weeks after everybody got engaged, my man told me that
my besties man was cheating on her. I was shocking
hurt when I saw the video of her fiance a
sleep naked over his side chick's house. I'm confused, where
(08:22):
did your man get this video from? Because they don't
get along, The two fiances don't get along, and the
two fiances don't like each other. He always siding with
the girl. Where did he get the video? Because if
I don't like a dude that we ain't cool, why
would I show him a video of me or sleep
(08:43):
over another chick's house?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
What purpose did that, sir?
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Unless your man was there and took the video?
Speaker 2 (08:51):
You hit him? Cricky? Did you hit him? Cricket? Is
just nothing.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I got your thinking. Ain't us a man? And I
decided not to tell her anything. But then my man
got really upset with the dude and went and told
my bestie about the.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Chief Like Shirley said, what man do that? What man
does that?
Speaker 3 (09:15):
She was so devastated she stayed with us for two
weeks and called off her engagement. So now that we're married,
now y'all married. Now she's part of our family. She
travels with my husband and our husband and I. She
comes for weekly movie nights at our house. Okay, she's
dating again, which means that she ain't got no problem
(09:38):
meeting men. But check this out, and when she meets me,
and she brings them to meet us, so we could
pass judgment on her.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
So it don't take the chick long to meet men
because she ain't got no problem meeting men.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
So I'm assuming that your girl is attractive, and I
think your girl is attractive to your husband, so attractive
that he wants around everywhere. So now y'all traveling together,
y'all doing movie nights at the house. I've been noticing, lady,
(10:11):
that my husband is more opinionated than usual, and none
of the guys have been good enough for my bestie.
That's a red flag for me. I had a lady
on my talk show one time said women should stop
collecting red flags. It's a red flag for a reason.
Stop collecting them. But you don't put this one in
the backseat of the car. So I jokingly asked him,
(10:34):
I'm joke, you know, would you like to clone yourself
so your bessie could be with a man just like him?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
He got irritated with me.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
So I've been wondering if something is going on with
him and my bestie. As a test, I told him
that were going on our anniversary trip alone. He said
it'd be weird to leave your bestie out. I asked
him if we were in a three way love affair.
He laughed at off and said, no, he does really
care about her feeling. What's going on here? Okay, okay, okay,
(11:05):
you ready, you're ready? What you think going on? Because
that's what you wrote the letter for. Usually what women
think and feel is the deal.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
I've said that now.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
The fact that this whole letter took you this long
to write and then your last question is what's going
on here? It's really amazing to me now when he said,
when you told him y'all was going on y'all anniversary
trip alone, and he said it'd be weird to leave
my bestie out? Ask him if we are in a
(11:44):
three way love affairs? Yeah, yeah, that's what you mean,
that's what you want. But you know you got to
be careful what you say and let come out your mouth.
You did say, y'all do everything each other day. Ain't
that what you said? Didn't y'all invite this third party
(12:05):
into y'all's life, and home.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Don't she go on all the trips with y'all and
she eager to go. She'll never say, girl, nigga, y'all
do y'all y'all need some boot time.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
I ain't gonna go up there. It be no third wheel,
because that's what most people say. Girl. Let me sitting
up and having no dinner with y'all and everything, and
I'm the only one. I ain't got no man. Well,
she ain't saying that because she got a man. Yeah,
because when he go down there to get the coffee,
where you think he stopped? When he go to the
(12:40):
gym and the spa on the trip, Well, who you
think at the gym in the spa? His gym work
getting done in that other room. Let me ask you
another question. You ever noticed that the two of y'all
ain't ever alone together. I'm talking about you and your girlfriend.
You ever noticed that? Ah?
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Wow, uh, you have you peak that game.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
When y'all go on the trips, it ain't ever you
and your girl going down for coffee or tea. He
always going somewhere by hisself, but you don't see her.
She don't cause girl says he's going to the gym
I'm gonna come on up now, cause the gym work
getting done in her room. Push up, push ups, sit ups,
pull ups, jumping jacks, lounging climbers.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Yeah, you know, a lot of cardio. Yeah, a lot
of cardio. Knee bings, right, big dovers, a lot of
downward dogs. We're doing yoga.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Cleave us your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram
and Facebook at Steve harveysm dot com, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast
Speaker 2 (13:42):
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