My Baby Daddy And His Teenybopper

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We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter
just for you, nephew, Thank you. Subject my baby daddy
and his teeny bopper. All right, there's Stephen Shirley. I'm
a thirty seven year old mother, single mother, and my
twelve year old daughter finally got into the performing arts

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school on the other side of town. When I say
other side of town, you know what I mean. My
daughter is thriving at her new school, and she's invited
to birthday parties and lake houses and things she's never
been exposed to. I'm happy for all of that because
she needed to be supposed to the other way of
life that I can't give her just yet as a

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single mother. The child's support from her daddy isn't enough
to pay for tuition, so she's on scholarship. Her daddy
isn't on board with the school because he said the
teachers are racist, and those students treat our daughter like
she's different because of her hair and skin color. I
don't want him to put those racist thoughts in her head.
But he's a hood rat, and the teenybopper he's dating

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is just as hood rich as he is. He drives
a big, raggedy high end car and it rattles, but
because it's a status car for him, he doesn't care.
He's pulled it up to my daughter's school and she
doesn't want to get in it. He thinks she's ashamed
of him, and I think she is. His girlfriend came

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to her dance recital with a tricolored wig and long
nails with diamonds all over them. I won't even mention
the tiny little dress she had on. My daughter didn't
even want to meet her. This was the first time
I saw her classmates and the parents looked at us
like we were different. I'm not with the racist looks
at all, but I want my daughter's father to get

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himself together and be more presentable and choose better women.
Whoever he dates will be around our daughter. So that's
reason enough for me. Why do grown men like teeny boppers?
And why would he bring this heffa to the school? Okay,
that might be the answer right there. You don't like

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your ex's girlfriend because she's so much younger, and you
don't like the way she dresses in all of that.
But before we get into that, let me just say
this racism is real. We do know that it exists
in the workplace, at the grocery store, at church, everywhere
in school. I'm sure it's in your daughter's school. It
is not a figment of our imagination. But really, this

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letter isn't about racism. You said your daughter is thriving
at this school. You said she has a wonderful social
life with her classmates outside of school, being exposed to
a whole different way of life that you can't give
her because you're a single parent. You can't do that. Yet,
you said that if she wasn't at the school, she
wouldn't be, you know, have the things that she has.

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Right now, Okay, I say, exposure is everything for kids,
and this letter is about your daughter. The problem is, Daddy,
that's the problem. Why would he want to embarrass his
baby girl when she's doing so well. This should only
be about your daughter and her education right now, not
daddy and his girlfriend and all of that. I'm happy

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he's paying child support, but that doesn't give him the
right to make a spectacle of himself at school, at
her recitals and stuff. Her father is not considering the
daughter's feelings at all when he comes to participate in
her school activities. He needs to leave girlfriend at home.
I mean, I just think there's a time and place
where everything and her school activities are not it. I

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think you still, like I said, put your daughter for
all of this. You need to have a serious talk
with your ex. And I'm just afraid he won't hear you. Though.
I'm afraid of that because he's already already doing what
he's gonna do. Steve Well, it ain't that he don't
hear her. It's just that the problem with this whole

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letter is homeboy not gonna change. Homeboy, don't see nothing wrong.
And here's what I want her to remember. Remember you
married him. He ain't done that much change a matter
of fact, The problem is he won't change. So this

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was who you're married. Remember that. Now, let's just keep
that amout now. It's not your fault. None of this
is your fault because I think you're doing an excellent
job as a single mother. I'm really do. I applause
for exposing your daughter. She finally got into that performing
art school on the other side of the town. We
know exactly what you mean, and she's thriving at the

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new school. She gets invited to birthday parties in lake
houses and things she's never been exposed to. See, that's important. See.
You can forget a name, you can forget a moment,
but you can never forget exposure. Exposure is critical in
people's lives, young and old, because exposure you can never

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forget what you were exposed to. Once you get exposed
to the right thing, you don't forget it. The better thing,
you don't forget it. The more expensive thing, you never
forget it. The better tasting thing, you don't forget it.
The better trip, you don't forget it. The better way
of life, you don't forget it. When you get exposed

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to first class seats on an air plane, you don't
forget it. It makes it hard to walk past them.
Seats once you get exposed. So what you're doing for
your daughter is outstanding. It's exposure. It's gonna spark and
ignite a flame in her that nobody will be able
to put out. And you say you're happy for that

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because she needed to be exposed to all the life
that you can't give a jest yet. Well, I beg
your pardon, but you are giving it to it. It
is because of the base that you have created as
a single mother. It is because of the learning environment
that you fostered as a single mother has enabled your
daughter to thrive and be put into these other special programs.

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So don't down play your role, sister. He's a bad girl. Congratulations.
All single mothers are doing everything and they're proud to
make their children have a better life. We get back,
I'll tell you the rest of it, all right, All right,
hang on. Part two of Steve's Strawberry Letter. Response is
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
title my baby Daddy and his teeny Bopper. We'll get

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back into it right after this. You're listening, all right,
Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter. The subject
my baby Daddy and his teeny bopper. Yeah, well, this
single mother who has done an outstanding job raising this girl,
this daughter of hers, has been accepted in this performing
arts school on the other side of the town. And

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it's not being exposed to all types of things that
she wouldn't going out to lake house parties and getting
invited to different things. That she's happy. And the girl
is not only happy, she's thriving at the school, doing
really well. And she said, and I'm happy for all
that because she needed to be exposed to the other
way of life that I can't give a jest yet

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as a single mother. But I want to stop you
for one second here and let me talk to you
and all other single mothers. Get your head up, because
it wasn't for you providing the atmosphere for her to thrive.
It wasn't for you providing her the atmosphere to qualify
to get on the other side of town. If it
wasn't for your love and supporting sacrifice, your daughter wouldn't

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be living in an environment that will allow her to
exhale to even make it to the other side. First
of all, congratulations, chief. Now the child support from her
daddy isn't enough to pay tuition, so she's on scholarships.
Her daddy ain't on board with the school because he
say the teachers are racist, and those students street our
daughters like she's different because of her hands, skin color. Okay, true, Okay,

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now that you got that out the way, all this
you're talking true? Now, Okay, Now what Your daughter ain't
the first person gonna see racism, and this ain't her
last time looking at it. And everybody at the school
ain't racist. All the teachers ain't racist. Sorry, that maybe
one up, damn, you know, but they're not not all

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of them. They're inviting your daughter to places, they're accepting her.
Now they're looking at her different because I had her skin.
So you know how many times that's gonna happen. Ask
any adult black person how I feel to be the
only one in the office, How I feel to be
the only one in the department, the only one on
the elevator, the only one on the bus hide field,

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the only one on the floor hide field. Because we
do it every day and we've been doing it. Your
daughter ain't gonna get sheltered and protected from that, because
that's what the other side is. It's more of them
than us, So deal with him, or just welcome to

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the United States of America. It is what it is.
But your daughters thrived and she'll be just fine now.
And I don't want him put those racist thoughts in
her head. But he's a hood rat, and a teeny
bop that he's dating is just as hood rich as
he is. Well, let's try to remember that you married

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the hood rat. This is your choice. You made the decision.
As all of us, we make mistakes in life. Now
we're dealing with it. And now he drives a big
raggedy I in card. It rattles, but because it's a
status call for him, he don't care. I had one
of them. I had. I had a nineteen eighty one

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gray market Mercedes that a dude gave to me as
part of a deal with a comedy club. It was tainted, beautiful,
It was blue with a cream and tear. It had
a fire singuisher under the seat. That's how you know
it's gray market. I couldn't get insurance on it because
America don't insure gray market cars. Gray market caused me

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and cars that come from overseas. That's a great market car.
You can't get admissions test. You can't get none of that.
Though I had a great market nineteen eighty one, big
body being lord, I couldn't tell me nothing, but it
leaked hydraulic fluid. So every morning that I came out,
it was flat on the ground. I had to put

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four quartz a hydraulic fluid in it just to cut
it on and get it to raise up so I
can dry that. What her daddy's cart is doing about
to school? Oh it's rattling that he drives a big
rated cars to standing and he don't care. He's pulling
up to my daughter school and she don't want to
get in it. Oh hell, here, I ain't going. He

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got realms on it, loud ass music, it's been raised up,
he got twenty folds on it. Daddy right. He thinks
she's ashamed of him, and I think she is too.
She she ashamed of the daddy and what he drives.

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This girlfriend came to her dance recital with a tricolor
wig on here we go, Here we go, green, pink, orange,
and blood. So now this wig looks like his knee
on what I recommend one color? Let's just go with

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one color. It can be blonde. You could go with burgundy,
you can go with auburn. You can pick any color.
But Jeff one, once you try color, it's been to
be shocking. It's like the little it's like the little
baby to walk around in at Easter with that neon
green Easter dress on, and it just looked like the

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little dress is walking up in the front by myself.
And then the first time I saw her, classmates and
plants looked at us like we was different. Well, you know,
come on there, you're there with a tricolored wig on,
long ass niggles with diamonds on, and little booty shirt
boot boot booty dress on. You know how they're gonna
look at you. It just ain't appropriate for school. Had
nothing to do with you being black. It's just an

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inappropriate outfit the way up to the school. Whoever he
dates will be around our daughter. Why to grow me
and day Tina Bob because he hood rat You married
an You knew that all right. He was the best
thing you had and you couldn't hang on to us.
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