My Best Friend’s Sidepiece Was In My Bed

Dear Steve and Shirley, my roommate has ruined his relationship and mine. I’m in my late 20s and I have been roommates with my best friend since college. We both have steady girlfriends that are sorority sisters and we started dating them around the same time. I’m way more serious about my relationship than he is and I plan to propose to my girl soon. Marriage has not entered his mind and he still acts like he’s in college, messing with lots of other women on the side..............

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Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Few subject my
best friend side piece was in my bed. Dear Stephen Shirley,
my roommate has ruined his relationship and mine in my
late twenties. That's why I am in my late twenties

(01:06):
and I've been roommates with my best friends since college.
We both have steady girlfriends that are sorority sisters, and
we started dating them around the same time. I'm way
more serious about my relationship than he is, and I
plan to propose to my girls soon. Marriage has not
entered his mind, and he still like acts like he's
in college, messing with lots of other women on the side.

(01:28):
It's to the point where I can't have my girlfriends
spend the night at the house because he might have
company over and my girl would tell on him. I've
told him to stop bringing the women to our house
because he's going to get caught. He thinks he's got
it all under control, but he doesn't. Last week, I
helped my brother move into his house and I ended
up staying the night at his place. After we had

(01:50):
a few beers. My roommate called me at two am
and he was nervous. He told me that his girl
popped up at our house and he had one of
his side pieces at the house and she was drunk,
so he laid her on my bed. His girlfriend suspected
he had company, so she stormed in and searched the house.
She found the drunk girl on my bed, passed out.

(02:12):
He told me that his girlfriend assumed the girl was
there for me, and she called my girlfriend to tell
her I'm cheating on her. His girlfriend told my girlfriend
I must have been hiding so she wouldn't see me.
I got up and drove straight to my girlfriend's house
that night. She said, it all makes sense because I

(02:33):
conveniently decided to stay at my brother's house. I have
no way of making her believe me. My roommate won't
help me out, So I'm about to tell his girl
the truth? What should I do in this situation? Well,
by the title, I gotta say this first, I really
thought this letter was going in a little different direction.
But I say to you, tell tell everything. Okay, tell everything.

(02:59):
I'm with you one hundred percent. Since your roommate won't
help you out, tell his girl the truth and tell
your girl the truth. UM, I hope you have some
proof of what you did that day when you say
you helped your brother move and everything you got, you know,
a little tipsy off the beers and you stayed. That
was good and responsible of you. UM, And that would
certainly hope help and give your girlfriend some hope because

(03:21):
she's not trying to hear you, right, now I just
say that you gotta do this. You got to save
your relationship. This is what is most important here, your boy,
your dog, your home, and your friend. Uh. He threw
you away up under the bus and his girl backed
up over your body while you were under there because
she went and told your girlfriend. So the way I

(03:44):
see it, they didn't care about you. The girls believe
the lie that the that your room he told, so
whatever whatever, whatever, everything goes, what they what do they say?
All his love, all his fair and love and war.
I think he was saving himself. His girl was trying
to save your girl. It's a mess that didn't have
to be thanks to your so called player roommate. So

(04:07):
you know, it looks bad for you, unfortunately, because you
weren't there. You were at your brothers, and she said
she thought you were hiding. His girlfriend did so that's
why your girlfriend immediately didn't trust what you said. I
think that you know, guys usually don't tell on each other,
but in this instance, you gotta do what you gotta do.

(04:27):
Girlfriends talk all the time, and that's why she so
easily believed her friend and not you. It's time for
him to grow up, you guys, need to stop being
roommates because this might happen again. Who knows you're serious
with your girl? He's not. And I hope you can
prove to your girlfriend where you were again. But if
you can't, you're gonna have to do a whole whole

(04:49):
lot of begging and pleading and gift buying to get
your girlfriend back. In the meantime, if you can move out,
or if he can move out, move out. I don't
think you guys should be roommates anymore. This is trouble
waiting to happen. Steve, this letter right here didn't even

(05:09):
have to be written. This is a sad, sad case
right here. But let's just start. I'm in the late twenties.
I've been roommates with my best friends since college. You're
in your late twenties and you've been roommates with your
best friends since college. Why why listen to me? Man?

(05:31):
Everything you did in college, everything needs to stay right
there in college. There's nothing you do in college that
you need to carry over into your life after college,
including a roommate. You are too old for roommates. It
don't make no damn sense. And now you know why.

(05:54):
And now you're in a different situation because y'all got
both of y'all dating the same the sisters in the
same sorority. You serious about your girl? He ain't he
still acting like he back in college? You want to
ask your girl to marry you birds of a feather
flock together. That's gonna come back to bite you in

(06:15):
this letter. But it also Man, let you know something, bro,
once you get into your single friends that ain't serious
in the relationships, when you run with them, it's gonna
creep over into yours. Man, it just done this. Now
you can't even have your girlfriend over because he got

(06:37):
so many side pieces at the house. Boy, when I
come back, I'm gonna straighten this whole thing out for you.
All right, Steve, We'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour, subject
my best friend side piece was in my bed. We'll
get back into it right after this. You're listening show,
all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters.

(06:59):
Subject my best friend's side piece was in my bed
late twenties with the roommate mistake number one. Everything. Here's
the rule, y'all, Everything that you did in college should
have been left in college. None of your college behaviors
should be carried over after those days are over. It
will not last. I know people who've done it. I

(07:20):
know people who are still doing it. It don't ever work,
all right. So now you got a serious relationship with
your girl here a relationship with his girl. Both y'all's
girls is in the same sorority you want to ask
your girl to marry, marrying you. He outed doing what
he want to do, chicks all over the place, to
the point where he bringing so many stray babes to

(07:41):
the house. You can't even bring your girl over for
fear that she gonna see one of these side pieces
and then tell on him. No, you didn't talk to
him about it. He told you he got it all
under control. You go over your brother's house to help
him move. You have some beards. You spend the night
at your brother's house. Two o'clock in the morning, your boy,
your boy now gives you a call to tell you nervously,

(08:02):
Hey man, one of my side pieces was over here
and my girl was coming. I laid across your bed. Okay,
nice move, but you know I understand that move. But
his girlfriend suspected he had company, so she stormed in

(08:22):
and searched the house. Now she find a drunk girl
on your bed, passed out. He told me that his
girlfriend assumed the girl was there for me. He told
me his girlfriend, his girlfriend assumed that the girl was
there for you. And you know why because your boy
laid her on your bed. This don't even add up

(08:42):
right now, he already throwing you away. Man. Then your girl,
his girlfriend jumps on the phone called your girlfriend told
her about the girl on the bed, and you must
be in the house, hiding so so she wouldn't see you.
Then you got up and drove straight to your girlfriend's

(09:05):
house that night. Now, she said, it all makes sense
because I conveniently decided to stay at my brother's house.
Well that's kind of stupid, because if you was at
your brother's house, why would the girl be over there
by herself, passed out drunk. See your girl believing her
girl over you, and I have no way of making
her believe me. My roommate won't help me out, So
I'm about to tell his girl the truth? Or should

(09:26):
I do in this situation? All right? Now, higgo to lesson.
You got to learn See, first of all, you can't
eat this by yourself, and your boy shouldn't expect you to.
But he's not really your boy. You have lost your
friend because he's not your friend, because a real friend

(09:47):
wouldn't do this to another friend. So now what you're
supposed to do? See, the best way to do this
is to get your boy on the phone with your
girl or y'all all needed to house, have his girl
there and sit down and say this is what really happened.
I'm not losing the girl that I love over something

(10:08):
you did, and you should explain it to all of them.
I do it, man, because you're gonna lose the check
of your dreams over your board. Now here's the other
lesson that learned. Women, mind your damn business. See if
you stormed your ass in the house to check your man,
but you suspected he had a woman in there, what

(10:30):
made you stop suspecting that his woman was in there
just because you saw her drunk tale on the bed? Ladies,
mind your business. Now you all up in this other
relationship that ain't got nothing to do with this man.
Now you don't broke up this happy relationship because your
man ain't due too you see what I'm saying. So

(10:52):
now why you got to call her? See y'all so
busy with this woman cold that the woman colde then
backfire now because you're miserable. They're not happy. Now your
girl can't be happy because you're trifling because you're gonna
tell her about her man. And then the lie. He
must have been in the house hiding from me. Anybody

(11:13):
got to hide from you. You know why he ain't
gonna hide from you because he wasn't now. And you
know why he wasn't now because he had to be
there because you're stupid, and your man know you stupid.
That's why he put the drunk girl in the boy's
bed and knew you was gullible enough to believe it,
because he'd been sneaking chicks around on you the whole
damn time. That's why you ran your ass in that
house suspecting he had another woman over there, because you

(11:37):
know that's true. But you've been trying to have some
relationship instead of a good relationship, and now you to
mess up your girl's relationship. Ladies behind your piers. That's
for other lesson in this No no, ain't no nice.
Try Sherley. See, you didn't want to say it because
you be tripping. But that's the truth of the matter.

(11:58):
This man relationship with this girl is messed up over
because she she want to believe what she saw, because
she don't want to believe what she felt. She walked
in the house with the suspicion that the man was
hiding the chicken. Then when he found the chicken, she
she she gullible and believed it. Ladies, mag you damn
nice try. It's not gonna happen. But nice try, Okay, Well,

(12:21):
not guess what not not guess what. I'm gonna tell
you something else. See when the truth come out, them
two girls gonna fall out, right, No, it's not gonna
see all right, we gotta move on though, Okay, because
you ain't feel fine, I'm saying, nice try. You know
it's not gonna happen. I agree with you. We should

(12:43):
mind her own business. But in your response, I did.
I told him to tell everything. I did. They're out
for them girls. I did, Steve, you didn't hear me.
She don't be trying to contr Sometimes I don't state
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