March 5, 2025 • 13 mins
Strawberry Letter Subject for Wednesday, March 5th, 2025: “My Boyfriend Has 2 Children By Best Friends”
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
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this one right here, right now, and you never know,
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
All right, thank you, nephew. Subject my boyfriend has two
children by best friends. I'll read that one again. Subject
my boyfriend has two children by best friends. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm dating a man that has sons that are both
four years old. He got two best friends pregnant and
(00:46):
they are all still friends. I've been dating him for
seven months and he just decided to tell me that
he had two children and by females that he was
messing with and they didn't know it. This is a
major red flag for me me but it gets better
because both of his son's moms have tried to talk
me into staying with this man. I feel like I
(01:08):
am entering into a cult. Because I like both of
the women. I really feel like we all could be
close friends. Needless to say, I see why they were
both hooked on my boyfriend because he is heavenly in
bed and it's an out of body experience every time.
He's fit and chocolate, and he's always naked at home.
(01:29):
He's so addictive. I've talked to my moms. I've talked
to the moms, and they take full accountability for having
babies by him. At the same time, he was dating
one friend, so the other one was a side chick.
The first baby mama said she blames herself for telling
her friend that he was so good and for allowing
her to do a threesome with them. The other baby
(01:51):
mama said she'd enjoyed the threesome more than she expected to,
and she knew she was wrong. She kept secretly having
said with her best friend's man, my man is not
to blame for any of it, which is shocking. It's
like one big, happy family. My man said that he
can already tell that I am his soul mate and
(02:12):
he wants to marry me, but we should never have
a threesome. I didn't think that was funny. I do
love his sons, and he wants more children with me.
Do I stay in this crazy cultish relationship as long
as things don't get crazy? Or should I run away
from this?
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Run?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Run, run as fast and as quickly as your feet
can carry you. You said it yourself, this crazy cultish relationship. Okay,
but you sound a little bit like you're getting caught
up in this mess. These people are all in some
sort of open, everything goes type of relationship, and they
want you to become some sort of sister.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Wife with all of this.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Look at all the stuff you're going to have to
take on put up with if you get into this.
He's got two kids, they're both same age, two baby
mamas who were best friends, and you know then they
slept with then the second baby mama slept with the
first her best friend's man. Secretly, you got one man
(03:13):
who slept with both of them, who has babies by
both of them, And you said he's not to blame,
But you did say it was a red flag. Yes,
this is all a red flag, and yes he should
take responsibility. He wasn't forced to sleep with his girlfriend's
best friend and make a baby. He did what he
wanted to do, and he wants to have more kids
(03:34):
with you. Are you kidding me? Please don't introduce him
to any of your friends. That's your socide note, do
not do that while you're still dating him. And why
would you get involved with this? I got to ask you,
do you want to be the third baby mama? Because
I mean, come on, this is all just a little
too friendly, little too convenient, little too cozy, you know,
(03:56):
for you to get mixed a mixed up in I
just say, get out now so you can get with
someone who doesn't have all this drama that these people
come with. It's too much. Your peace of mind is
way more important.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
Steve, I see exactly why this lady wrote us, because
it's something wrong with you, them and him.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
It's something wrong with all y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Gal this letter, it has no redeeming quality in it
at all. And y'all kill me with this. He made
love to me and it was so heavenly. I'm just okay, okay,
that's all it takes.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
That's all you gonna get.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Now you're dating the man that's got sons that are
both four years old. He got two best friends pregnant
and they all still friends.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Nobody in this circle has character.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Nobody in this circle has value yourself, Nobody in this
circle has a.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Decent amount of esteem except to do.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
I've been dating him for seven months and he just
decided to tell me that he had two children and
by females that he was messing with and they didn't
know it.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
So now he thene.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Told you what he do and how he do it.
This letter got run all in it. This letter just
scream and run with everything in it. This is a
major red flag for me. Okay, you know I had
somebody on my talk show one time that said women
should stop collecting red flags. When you see the red flag,
(05:46):
leave it in the ground. What you putting it in
the backseat of the car?
Speaker 4 (05:48):
Fault?
Speaker 3 (05:51):
You know how many women driving around with red flags.
But it gets better because both of his son's moms
have tried to talk me into staying with this man.
That's because they know your stupid behind can help him
make these childs suppose payments. Misery loves company. You ever
(06:13):
heard that saying before? It's so true.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
We dumb.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Let's see if you dumb too. I feel like I'm
entering into a cult because I like both of the
women and I really feel like we could all be
close friends. You stupid, You're so damn stupid. You're so
damn stupid. That's the dumbest damn thing.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
What you're stupid, Steve.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter subject
my boyfriend has two children by best friends. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey
Morning Show.
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Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is my boyfriend has two children by best friends.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
You were this letter so ignorant. Right here?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
You dating a man that's got sons and both of
them four years old, they babies, mamas was best friends
and they all still.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
Cool with each other. He decided to tell you that
that he had these.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Two kids by females that he was messing with and
they didn't know it.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
This is a major red flag for me. But it gets.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Better because both of his sons moms have tried to
talk me into staying with this man, like I said,
because they know you can help him make these childs
support payments. And how they get your numbers? And why
are you talking to them? I feel like I'm enter
into a cult because I like both of the women,
(08:22):
and I really feel like we could all be close friends.
What close friends for what? You ain't got no friends nowhere?
You'll know nobody else. And don't you understand that these
people have a very warped sense of what friendship is?
What are you getting yourself into? What are you thinking about?
(08:46):
Needless to say, I see why they both hooked on
my boyfriend.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Your boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
You need another definition of that too, because he is
heavenly in bed and it's an outer body experience every
time he's fit and chocolate, and he's always naked at home.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Where does he work? He got jobs? One? What do
you do for a living?
Speaker 3 (09:15):
What does he do for y'all other than give y'all
this out of body heavily experienced? But he ever bought
you anything, He ever took you anywhere?
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Have either one of these friends been on vacation?
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Does he have any redeeming quality except he always.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Naked at the house.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
What's wrong with all of y'all? I've talked to the
moms and they take full accountability. Was a little late
for that, for having babies by him at the same
time he was dating one friend, so the other one
was a side check here. How stupid is the first
(10:01):
baby mama said she blames herself for telling her friend
that he was so good and for allowing her to
do a threesome with them. The other baby mama said
she enjoyed the threesome more than she expected to, and
she knew she was wrong when she kept secretly having
(10:22):
sex with her best friend's man. You know, is anybody
here this damn My man is not to blame for
any of them. Your man, he ain't to blame for
none of us. He got everybody president? Now, how he
(10:45):
in the cliff? He ain't to blame. How do you
girls get pregnant? Which was shocking. It's like one big,
happy family.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
It's not.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
It's dysfunctional. It's confusing, it's a hell bound mess. It's
all this is. My man said that he can already
tell that I'm his soulmate and he wants to marry me.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
But we should never have a three son n word.
You know. I just don't have nothing to say about
this dude except in words. What are you doing on bruh?
What I can already tell you my soul man?
Speaker 3 (11:32):
You don't think he can said this before while he
all shiny and black walking around the room ass naked.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
You don't think he said this before she's caught up.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
I didn't think that was funny. But I do love
his sons, his sons, and he wants children with me,
with you.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Do?
Speaker 3 (11:56):
I stay in this crazy culture relationship as long as
things don't.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Don't get crazy. They already crazy. See that. What's wrong
with y'all?
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Y'all don't know it's already crazy.
Speaker 4 (12:10):
It has nowhere to go except crazy. Uh?
Speaker 3 (12:14):
If this if this appears to be not crazy to you,
meaning if this appears to be not problematic right now,
and it is a lot of problems.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
In this, but you don't see them.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
So if this is what you call normally, it doesn't
appear to be problematic, what you gonna do when the
problem starts happening because they coming? Or should I run
away from this? First of all, you don't have a boyfriend.
He don't belong to you. And I'm going to teach
you something else. You will never be first. I tell
(12:52):
this to people all the time. You meet a man,
it's got a lot of key and you come along
and let me tell you something. You can never be first.
You will always be behind them kids. If he got
six kids, the six baby mamas, you fit to be
number thirteen on the list because all them kids gonna
(13:17):
come first, and the laws says that yeah, and all
them baby mamas gonna have a say so because they
are the mothers. So get in line, you number thirteen,
Like right now, you number five. I said, want you
to know that you are number five. You will never
be higher than five.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and
Facebook at Steve BARBFM and check us out on the
Strubbery Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app, you're listening
to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
All right, thank you, nephew. Subject my boyfriend has two
children by best friends. I'll read that one again. Subject
my boyfriend has two children by best friends. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm dating a man that has sons that are both
four years old. He got two best friends pregnant and
(00:46):
they are all still friends. I've been dating him for
seven months and he just decided to tell me that
he had two children and by females that he was
messing with and they didn't know it. This is a
major red flag for me me but it gets better
because both of his son's moms have tried to talk
me into staying with this man. I feel like I
(01:08):
am entering into a cult. Because I like both of
the women. I really feel like we all could be
close friends. Needless to say, I see why they were
both hooked on my boyfriend because he is heavenly in
bed and it's an out of body experience every time.
He's fit and chocolate, and he's always naked at home.
(01:29):
He's so addictive. I've talked to my moms. I've talked
to the moms, and they take full accountability for having
babies by him. At the same time, he was dating
one friend, so the other one was a side chick.
The first baby mama said she blames herself for telling
her friend that he was so good and for allowing
her to do a threesome with them. The other baby
(01:51):
mama said she'd enjoyed the threesome more than she expected to,
and she knew she was wrong. She kept secretly having
said with her best friend's man, my man is not
to blame for any of it, which is shocking. It's
like one big, happy family. My man said that he
can already tell that I am his soul mate and
(02:12):
he wants to marry me, but we should never have
a threesome. I didn't think that was funny. I do
love his sons, and he wants more children with me.
Do I stay in this crazy cultish relationship as long
as things don't get crazy? Or should I run away
from this?
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Run?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Run, run as fast and as quickly as your feet
can carry you. You said it yourself, this crazy cultish relationship. Okay,
but you sound a little bit like you're getting caught
up in this mess. These people are all in some
sort of open, everything goes type of relationship, and they
want you to become some sort of sister.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
Wife with all of this.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Look at all the stuff you're going to have to
take on put up with if you get into this.
He's got two kids, they're both same age, two baby
mamas who were best friends, and you know then they
slept with then the second baby mama slept with the
first her best friend's man. Secretly, you got one man
(03:13):
who slept with both of them, who has babies by
both of them, And you said he's not to blame,
But you did say it was a red flag. Yes,
this is all a red flag, and yes he should
take responsibility. He wasn't forced to sleep with his girlfriend's
best friend and make a baby. He did what he
wanted to do, and he wants to have more kids
(03:34):
with you. Are you kidding me? Please don't introduce him
to any of your friends. That's your socide note, do
not do that while you're still dating him. And why
would you get involved with this? I got to ask you,
do you want to be the third baby mama? Because
I mean, come on, this is all just a little
too friendly, little too convenient, little too cozy, you know,
(03:56):
for you to get mixed a mixed up in I
just say, get out now so you can get with
someone who doesn't have all this drama that these people
come with. It's too much. Your peace of mind is
way more important.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
Steve, I see exactly why this lady wrote us, because
it's something wrong with you, them and him.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
It's something wrong with all y'all.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Gal this letter, it has no redeeming quality in it
at all. And y'all kill me with this. He made
love to me and it was so heavenly. I'm just okay, okay,
that's all it takes.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
That's all you gonna get.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Now you're dating the man that's got sons that are
both four years old. He got two best friends pregnant
and they all still friends.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Nobody in this circle has character.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Nobody in this circle has value yourself, Nobody in this
circle has a.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Decent amount of esteem except to do.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
I've been dating him for seven months and he just
decided to tell me that he had two children and
by females that he was messing with and they didn't
know it.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
So now he thene.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Told you what he do and how he do it.
This letter got run all in it. This letter just
scream and run with everything in it. This is a
major red flag for me. Okay, you know I had
somebody on my talk show one time that said women
should stop collecting red flags. When you see the red flag,
(05:46):
leave it in the ground. What you putting it in
the backseat of the car?
Speaker 4 (05:48):
Fault?
Speaker 3 (05:51):
You know how many women driving around with red flags.
But it gets better because both of his son's moms
have tried to talk me into staying with this man.
That's because they know your stupid behind can help him
make these childs suppose payments. Misery loves company. You ever
(06:13):
heard that saying before? It's so true.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
We dumb.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Let's see if you dumb too. I feel like I'm
entering into a cult because I like both of the
women and I really feel like we could all be
close friends. You stupid, You're so damn stupid. You're so
damn stupid. That's the dumbest damn thing.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
What you're stupid, Steve.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter subject
my boyfriend has two children by best friends. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey
Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
This message is brought to you by Pfizer. Let's talk hell.
You may not know about numa cocco disease, but if
you're fifty years old or nineteen or older with certain
medical conditions like diabetes, you're at risk and it can
turn your plans big or small, into a hospital visit.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
So get vaccinated.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
It's one action you can take to help protect against
numacaco pneumonia and invasive numacacco disease. Keeping's on everything you
looking forward to, even if it's just the podcast schedule
a shot at vaxsassists dot com.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
That's vasassists dot com.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is my boyfriend has two children by best friends.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
You were this letter so ignorant. Right here?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
You dating a man that's got sons and both of
them four years old, they babies, mamas was best friends
and they all still.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
Cool with each other. He decided to tell you that
that he had these.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Two kids by females that he was messing with and
they didn't know it.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
This is a major red flag for me. But it gets.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Better because both of his sons moms have tried to
talk me into staying with this man, like I said,
because they know you can help him make these childs
support payments. And how they get your numbers? And why
are you talking to them? I feel like I'm enter
into a cult because I like both of the women,
(08:22):
and I really feel like we could all be close friends.
What close friends for what? You ain't got no friends nowhere?
You'll know nobody else. And don't you understand that these
people have a very warped sense of what friendship is?
What are you getting yourself into? What are you thinking about?
(08:46):
Needless to say, I see why they both hooked on
my boyfriend.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Your boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
You need another definition of that too, because he is
heavenly in bed and it's an outer body experience every
time he's fit and chocolate, and he's always naked at home.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Where does he work? He got jobs? One? What do
you do for a living?
Speaker 3 (09:15):
What does he do for y'all other than give y'all
this out of body heavily experienced? But he ever bought
you anything, He ever took you anywhere?
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Have either one of these friends been on vacation?
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Does he have any redeeming quality except he always.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Naked at the house.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
What's wrong with all of y'all? I've talked to the
moms and they take full accountability. Was a little late
for that, for having babies by him at the same
time he was dating one friend, so the other one
was a side check here. How stupid is the first
(10:01):
baby mama said she blames herself for telling her friend
that he was so good and for allowing her to
do a threesome with them. The other baby mama said
she enjoyed the threesome more than she expected to, and
she knew she was wrong when she kept secretly having
(10:22):
sex with her best friend's man. You know, is anybody
here this damn My man is not to blame for
any of them. Your man, he ain't to blame for
none of us. He got everybody president? Now, how he
(10:45):
in the cliff? He ain't to blame. How do you
girls get pregnant? Which was shocking. It's like one big,
happy family.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
It's not.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
It's dysfunctional. It's confusing, it's a hell bound mess. It's
all this is. My man said that he can already
tell that I'm his soulmate and he wants to marry me.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
But we should never have a three son n word.
You know. I just don't have nothing to say about
this dude except in words. What are you doing on bruh?
What I can already tell you my soul man?
Speaker 3 (11:32):
You don't think he can said this before while he
all shiny and black walking around the room ass naked.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
You don't think he said this before she's caught up.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
I didn't think that was funny. But I do love
his sons, his sons, and he wants children with me,
with you.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Do?
Speaker 3 (11:56):
I stay in this crazy culture relationship as long as
things don't.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Don't get crazy. They already crazy. See that. What's wrong
with y'all?
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Y'all don't know it's already crazy.
Speaker 4 (12:10):
It has nowhere to go except crazy. Uh?
Speaker 3 (12:14):
If this if this appears to be not crazy to you,
meaning if this appears to be not problematic right now,
and it is a lot of problems.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
In this, but you don't see them.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
So if this is what you call normally, it doesn't
appear to be problematic, what you gonna do when the
problem starts happening because they coming? Or should I run
away from this? First of all, you don't have a boyfriend.
He don't belong to you. And I'm going to teach
you something else. You will never be first. I tell
(12:52):
this to people all the time. You meet a man,
it's got a lot of key and you come along
and let me tell you something. You can never be first.
You will always be behind them kids. If he got
six kids, the six baby mamas, you fit to be
number thirteen on the list because all them kids gonna
(13:17):
come first, and the laws says that yeah, and all
them baby mamas gonna have a say so because they
are the mothers. So get in line, you number thirteen,
Like right now, you number five. I said, want you
to know that you are number five. You will never
be higher than five.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and
Facebook at Steve BARBFM and check us out on the
Strubbery Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app, you're listening
to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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