September 26, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter, heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show, Friday, September 26th, 2025. Subject: "My Boyfriend Hates The Word No"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like I'm going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Buckle up, hold on tight, We got it for you.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thanking a few subject. My boyfriend hates the word no.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a flight attendant and my schedule
is very demanding because I do international flights. I'm in
town a few days and I'm gone for a few days.
My boyfriend hates that his goodies aren't there for him daily.
He calls it goodies, and you call it cookie. Anyway,
(00:49):
I need him to realize that there's more to life
than his goodies. He hates the word no, so when
I am not in the mood, he pouts. It causes
a lot, a whole shift in our relationship. He uses
it as an excuse to second guess my commitment to him,
so I may never get an engagement ring. We're both
twenty nine, and we've been together for a little over
(01:12):
four years and just moved in together. I know I
can do better, but I'm trying to hold on because
I love this man from his head to his toes,
and I can't see myself growing old with anyone else.
I'm very religious as well, and he's not. He'll go
to church with me, and he's even gone to Bible
study when I'm in town. Excuse me, but I shouldn't
(01:37):
have to force him to go a lot of small
things I ask him to do, he gives me pushback
on them. I've taught him all about etiquette and now
he's able to pick out nice restaurants for us. And
when I tell you that we're compatible everywhere except the bedroom,
I'm so serious. That brings me to why I really
tell him no when he wants my goodies, His goody
(02:00):
goodie isn't all of that. And I have to be
in the mood to put on a show for him,
if you know what I mean. I make up excuses
a lot, and he's on to me. I consider an
oral hookup just as valuable as giving the goodies up,
but he doesn't think so. He wants everything and he
wants it often he really hates when I tell him no.
(02:22):
So how can I enhance the experience for myself so
I can say yes more? Can bad sex get better
over time?
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Well?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
It could be a teachable moment sometimes, But listen, you
got to tell him what the problem is. You have
to tell him that or you're going to be miserable
for the rest of your life if you stay with
this guy. But I say, before you do all that,
you really need to decide if this is what you want.
I know you said you love him from his head
(02:54):
to his toes and all of that. You've been with
him for over four years. You haven't gotten marriage proposal,
and now you guys are living together. You have to
force him to go to church with you. You get
pushback when you ask him to do little things for you,
and he pouts when he can't get what he wants.
That's not compatibility, as you say, that's selfishness. Okay, I've
(03:17):
read this entire letter and I'm still trying to figure
out what you are getting out of this because he
picks nice restaurants. Come on, now, all I see is
bad sex and bad attitude. If you don't give him
his way and what you do isn't good enough for him.
You also said that you know you can do better.
(03:38):
You said that in this letter. Well guess what I
think you can too. So you know what they say,
if you know better, do better. So I think you
need to do better. Don't be stuck on stupid with
this guy. It's time for you to start getting what
you want. You're twenty nine. You have plenty of time,
you know, plenty of time to get a good relationship.
(04:00):
You don't have to be stuck here, Steve Wow.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
My boyfriend hates the word no is the subject, but
he won't give you a reason to say yes.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Let the church.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Say man, Amen, Amen again again we will.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Approach this letter.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
My boyfriend hates the word no in parentheses, but he
won't give you a reason to say yes. Lord, Lord, Lord,
here we are. And you're an international flight attendant. That's
gonna come back into play. International flight attendant. That means
(04:47):
you have an interesting life. You're international, he local, You're
in and out of town. You're an international flight attendant. International,
he local, Yeah, you in and out of town. He
right there all the time, all the time. You see
what's happening in him. And my boyfriend hates that his
(05:11):
goodies aren't there for him daily.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
He calls it goodies, and you call it the cookie.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
Anyway, I need him to realize that there's more in
life than his cookies.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Well, that's gonna be.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
A hard sales, see, because you got a problem. He
hates the word no, and when I'm not in the mood,
he pouts. Now, this pouting is gonna be a problem.
I'm telling you that right now. Just sticking your lips
out and pouting because you can't get your way, that's
a serious sign. And you say it causes a whole
shift in our relationship, And I got news for you,
(05:44):
and it always will. He uses it as an excuse
to second guess my commitment to him, so I may
never get an engagement ring. No, that's called guilt. He
is using the most useless emotion to get what he wants.
He's making you feel guilty because he's trying to manipulate
(06:08):
you into what you want. As somebody told me one time,
that guilt is the most useless emotion. It only serves
the purpose of a person trying to apply it. It
does you no good to feel guilty. You don't feel
good about it. It doesn't motivate you nothing. It's just
guilt and he's laying it on you in heaps and
doses because he want what he wants. Now, he got
(06:30):
you thinking you ain't gonna get no engagement ring. I
got news for you. You might not need you or
a truth will come out when we come back.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
All right, hold on, Steve, We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after My
boyfriend hates the word no is a strawberry letter subject
for today. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to receive Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
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Speaker 1 (07:29):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject my boyfriend hates the word no.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Yeah, your boyfriend hate the word no, but he ain't
given you a reason to say yes. That's the whole
thing of this letter. You're a flight attendant. That means
you're international. You do international flights. He local, you go
on a lot. He always there. Your boyfriend hates that
you're not there with the cookie all the time.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
So now when you do come home, he wants it.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Now you're trying to convince him that cookies and sex
is not the most important things in life, that there's
more to it. But it's gonna be a hard sale
because that's what he wants. And when he don't get it,
he pouts and it causes a shift in your relationship,
and it always will. Now here's the key to this letter.
He used it as an excuse to second guess my
(08:21):
commitment to him, so I may never get an engagement
rad so. And the reason I'm saying so is because
of the information afterwards. But he's applying guilt to you
to make you feel guilty so he can manipulate you
into getting what he wants now, y'all both twenty nine.
(08:41):
You've been together for a little over four years, and
you just moved in together. All this is critical information.
You just moved in together. I know I can do better,
Lord Jesus, Lord Jesus, I know I can do better.
See that's cause you international, you meeting me in all
(09:01):
over the world. People on your flight hitting on you,
talking to you. Pilots want to get at you.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
You know you out of town.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Everybody out the country want to get at you. You
land locally at hats Field, they want to get at you.
You land at La Guardia. They won't at you. You
get a Florida app for what they.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Want to holler at you.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
You know what I'm saying, You a lax stay up
on you and you dealing with the cooking master back
of the house, just sitting there.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Just won't won't cook it, Oh, won't, won't cook it.
Don't go on it.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
But I'm trying to hold on because I love this
man from his head to his toes, and I can't
see myself growing old with anyone else.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
I'm confused.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
I'm really confused because you can do better, but you
love him, his head tone.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
You can't see yourself growing old with anybody else.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
But then right after this, you say, I'm very religious
as well, and he's not.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
So let's talk about how religious you are.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
He'll go to church with me, and he's even going
to Bible study while I'm in town. But I shouldn't
have to force him to go. Well, you do if
he's not religious, that's what you have to do.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
And then.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
A lot of small things I ask him to do,
he gives me pushback on him. And this is the
man you can't live without. You can't see what's been
the rest of your life. He don't go to church.
Little stuff, he gives you pushback. Now you're ready for this.
I've taught him all the adequate and how he's able
to pick out nice restaurants for us. When I tell
him that we're compatible everywhere except the bedroom. When I
(10:39):
tell you that we're compatible everywhere except the bedroom, I'm
so serious. See you done told us y'all compatible everywhere
with the bedroom. But you ain't bought it up to
him because you don't want.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
To hurt him.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
He brings that brings me to why I really tell
him no? When he watched my goodies. His goodie ain't
that good at all. And I have to be in
the mood to put on the show for him, if
you know what I mean. Now, listen to this. I
make up excuses a lot, and he's on to me.
I consider an oral hook up just as valuable as
(11:12):
giving the goodies up, but he does not think so.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Okay, so let's get this together. You're very religious. You
moved in with the.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Man without being married. Y'all been living together. You fake orgasms.
You want to do half sexual acts and consider it
the whole sexual act. Okay, so let me get this right, y'all.
You real religious, but you live together. You fake orgasms,
(11:45):
you want to do half acts and consider them whole acts.
But he don't like that, and now he can't produce
no results in the bedroom. His goodies ain't good at all.
So that's what And now you real religious? Thank you
for making notice. I want to go to your church.
And so anyway, he wants everything, and he wants it often,
(12:08):
but he ain't giving you nothing, and he wants you
to take nothing all the time. But you said you
can do better. What is it you love about him?
Till his head to his toe? You justin got used
to him and he can't even do nothing. His good
is ain't even good. So now your boyfriend hate to
say no, but he don't want to give you a
reason to say yes. So how can I enhance the
(12:31):
experience for myself so I can say yes more? Can
bad sex get better over time? How can you enhance
the experience for yourself? It's gonna have to be with
somebody else, right, and then here go to bad news.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Can bad sex get better over time? I ain't never
seen it.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
Now, I ain't never seen it.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
It's bad sex. It's stay bad sex.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
You just have to read and lord your expectation and
how much fun is that gonna be?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Jip hand something you go. I could have had a
V eight ahead.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
I would rather have the props, Law, and you just
wasted fineness.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Yeah, you just cute and ain't got nothing to go
with him? All right? Good Law.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on demand. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning
Show
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like I'm going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Buckle up, hold on tight, We got it for you.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thanking a few subject. My boyfriend hates the word no.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a flight attendant and my schedule
is very demanding because I do international flights. I'm in
town a few days and I'm gone for a few days.
My boyfriend hates that his goodies aren't there for him daily.
He calls it goodies, and you call it cookie. Anyway,
(00:49):
I need him to realize that there's more to life
than his goodies. He hates the word no, so when
I am not in the mood, he pouts. It causes
a lot, a whole shift in our relationship. He uses
it as an excuse to second guess my commitment to him,
so I may never get an engagement ring. We're both
twenty nine, and we've been together for a little over
(01:12):
four years and just moved in together. I know I
can do better, but I'm trying to hold on because
I love this man from his head to his toes,
and I can't see myself growing old with anyone else.
I'm very religious as well, and he's not. He'll go
to church with me, and he's even gone to Bible
study when I'm in town. Excuse me, but I shouldn't
(01:37):
have to force him to go a lot of small
things I ask him to do, he gives me pushback
on them. I've taught him all about etiquette and now
he's able to pick out nice restaurants for us. And
when I tell you that we're compatible everywhere except the bedroom,
I'm so serious. That brings me to why I really
tell him no when he wants my goodies, His goody
(02:00):
goodie isn't all of that. And I have to be
in the mood to put on a show for him,
if you know what I mean. I make up excuses
a lot, and he's on to me. I consider an
oral hookup just as valuable as giving the goodies up,
but he doesn't think so. He wants everything and he
wants it often he really hates when I tell him no.
(02:22):
So how can I enhance the experience for myself so
I can say yes more? Can bad sex get better
over time?
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Well?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
It could be a teachable moment sometimes, But listen, you
got to tell him what the problem is. You have
to tell him that or you're going to be miserable
for the rest of your life if you stay with
this guy. But I say, before you do all that,
you really need to decide if this is what you want.
I know you said you love him from his head
(02:54):
to his toes and all of that. You've been with
him for over four years. You haven't gotten marriage proposal,
and now you guys are living together. You have to
force him to go to church with you. You get
pushback when you ask him to do little things for you,
and he pouts when he can't get what he wants.
That's not compatibility, as you say, that's selfishness. Okay, I've
(03:17):
read this entire letter and I'm still trying to figure
out what you are getting out of this because he
picks nice restaurants. Come on, now, all I see is
bad sex and bad attitude. If you don't give him
his way and what you do isn't good enough for him.
You also said that you know you can do better.
(03:38):
You said that in this letter. Well guess what I
think you can too. So you know what they say,
if you know better, do better. So I think you
need to do better. Don't be stuck on stupid with
this guy. It's time for you to start getting what
you want. You're twenty nine. You have plenty of time,
you know, plenty of time to get a good relationship.
(04:00):
You don't have to be stuck here, Steve Wow.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
My boyfriend hates the word no is the subject, but
he won't give you a reason to say yes.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Let the church.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Say man, Amen, Amen again again we will.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Approach this letter.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
My boyfriend hates the word no in parentheses, but he
won't give you a reason to say yes. Lord, Lord, Lord,
here we are. And you're an international flight attendant. That's
gonna come back into play. International flight attendant. That means
(04:47):
you have an interesting life. You're international, he local, You're
in and out of town. You're an international flight attendant. International,
he local, Yeah, you in and out of town. He
right there all the time, all the time. You see
what's happening in him. And my boyfriend hates that his
(05:11):
goodies aren't there for him daily.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
He calls it goodies, and you call it the cookie.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
Anyway, I need him to realize that there's more in
life than his cookies.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Well, that's gonna be.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
A hard sales, see, because you got a problem. He
hates the word no, and when I'm not in the mood,
he pouts. Now, this pouting is gonna be a problem.
I'm telling you that right now. Just sticking your lips
out and pouting because you can't get your way, that's
a serious sign. And you say it causes a whole
shift in our relationship, And I got news for you,
(05:44):
and it always will. He uses it as an excuse
to second guess my commitment to him, so I may
never get an engagement ring. No, that's called guilt. He
is using the most useless emotion to get what he wants.
He's making you feel guilty because he's trying to manipulate
(06:08):
you into what you want. As somebody told me one time,
that guilt is the most useless emotion. It only serves
the purpose of a person trying to apply it. It
does you no good to feel guilty. You don't feel
good about it. It doesn't motivate you nothing. It's just
guilt and he's laying it on you in heaps and
doses because he want what he wants. Now, he got
(06:30):
you thinking you ain't gonna get no engagement ring. I
got news for you. You might not need you or
a truth will come out when we come back.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
All right, hold on, Steve, We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after My
boyfriend hates the word no is a strawberry letter subject
for today. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to receive Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
It's time to level up your audio and exploring LG's
lineup of x Boom portable speakers. We're talking ultra doable
speakers with better life that powers your hustle. Plus all
the speakers on order resistant so you can listen and
vibe out worry free. But here's the real flex. For
a limited time, LG is offering you twenty five percent
off of x boom Grab or x Boom Bounce on
(07:20):
LG dot com. Use the code fall twenty five at
checkout and tell them Junior sent you. The future sound
is now with lg X boom.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject my boyfriend hates the word no.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Yeah, your boyfriend hate the word no, but he ain't
given you a reason to say yes. That's the whole
thing of this letter. You're a flight attendant. That means
you're international. You do international flights. He local, you go
on a lot. He always there. Your boyfriend hates that
you're not there with the cookie all the time.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
So now when you do come home, he wants it.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Now you're trying to convince him that cookies and sex
is not the most important things in life, that there's
more to it. But it's gonna be a hard sale
because that's what he wants. And when he don't get it,
he pouts and it causes a shift in your relationship,
and it always will. Now here's the key to this letter.
He used it as an excuse to second guess my
(08:21):
commitment to him, so I may never get an engagement
rad so. And the reason I'm saying so is because
of the information afterwards. But he's applying guilt to you
to make you feel guilty so he can manipulate you
into getting what he wants now, y'all both twenty nine.
(08:41):
You've been together for a little over four years, and
you just moved in together. All this is critical information.
You just moved in together. I know I can do better,
Lord Jesus, Lord Jesus, I know I can do better.
See that's cause you international, you meeting me in all
(09:01):
over the world. People on your flight hitting on you,
talking to you. Pilots want to get at you.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
You know you out of town.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Everybody out the country want to get at you. You
land locally at hats Field, they want to get at you.
You land at La Guardia. They won't at you. You
get a Florida app for what they.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Want to holler at you.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
You know what I'm saying, You a lax stay up
on you and you dealing with the cooking master back
of the house, just sitting there.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Just won't won't cook it, Oh, won't, won't cook it.
Don't go on it.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
But I'm trying to hold on because I love this
man from his head to his toes, and I can't
see myself growing old with anyone else.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
I'm confused.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
I'm really confused because you can do better, but you
love him, his head tone.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
You can't see yourself growing old with anybody else.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
But then right after this, you say, I'm very religious
as well, and he's not.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
So let's talk about how religious you are.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
He'll go to church with me, and he's even going
to Bible study while I'm in town. But I shouldn't
have to force him to go. Well, you do if
he's not religious, that's what you have to do.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
And then.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
A lot of small things I ask him to do,
he gives me pushback on him. And this is the
man you can't live without. You can't see what's been
the rest of your life. He don't go to church.
Little stuff, he gives you pushback. Now you're ready for this.
I've taught him all the adequate and how he's able
to pick out nice restaurants for us. When I tell
him that we're compatible everywhere except the bedroom. When I
(10:39):
tell you that we're compatible everywhere except the bedroom, I'm
so serious. See you done told us y'all compatible everywhere
with the bedroom. But you ain't bought it up to
him because you don't want.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
To hurt him.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
He brings that brings me to why I really tell
him no? When he watched my goodies. His goodie ain't
that good at all. And I have to be in
the mood to put on the show for him, if
you know what I mean. Now, listen to this. I
make up excuses a lot, and he's on to me.
I consider an oral hook up just as valuable as
(11:12):
giving the goodies up, but he does not think so.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Okay, so let's get this together. You're very religious. You
moved in with the.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Man without being married. Y'all been living together. You fake orgasms.
You want to do half sexual acts and consider it
the whole sexual act. Okay, so let me get this right, y'all.
You real religious, but you live together. You fake orgasms,
(11:45):
you want to do half acts and consider them whole acts.
But he don't like that, and now he can't produce
no results in the bedroom. His goodies ain't good at all.
So that's what And now you real religious? Thank you
for making notice. I want to go to your church.
And so anyway, he wants everything, and he wants it often,
(12:08):
but he ain't giving you nothing, and he wants you
to take nothing all the time. But you said you
can do better. What is it you love about him?
Till his head to his toe? You justin got used
to him and he can't even do nothing. His good
is ain't even good. So now your boyfriend hate to
say no, but he don't want to give you a
reason to say yes. So how can I enhance the
(12:31):
experience for myself so I can say yes more? Can
bad sex get better over time? How can you enhance
the experience for yourself? It's gonna have to be with
somebody else, right, and then here go to bad news.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Can bad sex get better over time? I ain't never
seen it.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
Now, I ain't never seen it.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
It's bad sex. It's stay bad sex.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
You just have to read and lord your expectation and
how much fun is that gonna be?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Jip hand something you go. I could have had a
V eight ahead.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
I would rather have the props, Law, and you just
wasted fineness.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Yeah, you just cute and ain't got nothing to go
with him? All right? Good Law.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on demand. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
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