Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you
need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now. You never know.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
It could be yours. It could be yours. Buggle up,
held on type. We got it for you. Here it
is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject my boyfriend puts his friends first.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been dating a man for almost
two years and he has a lot of female friends.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I hung out with all of.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Them, and at first I tried to act like a
team player, but I see he has no respect for
boundaries in this relationship. He has a lot of house parties,
or his friends will come over and do impromptu cookouts
no matter what we have planned. He drops everything to
entertain them. He calls and invites females over to his
house whenever he's having a get together. I've told him
(01:02):
that his single friends are going to cause him to
be a single man too. Fast forward to last weekend
and he and I went out Friday night, and we
didn't make plans for Saturday, so I got up and went.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
To the mall.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
As I left out, he told me that he wanted
to have a cookout, something small. I went to the mall,
then home to take a nap, and then to my
boyfriend's house. There were new girls there that I had
never met, and one of them greeted me as if
I as if she was a lady of the house.
My boyfriend ran over to intervene because he knows me.
(01:35):
Three females were in his kitchen, cooking and making drinks
and very comfortable in his home. The cutest one yelled
when her song came on, and she ran out to
the patio to dance with my man. She told him
that was their song from college, and he told her
that he played the song just for her. Of course,
he said I was blowing things out of proportion. After
(01:58):
I quietly cursed him out in the laundry room, he
tried to assure me that they all went to college
together and it's innocent. He asked if two of the
girls could crash at his house. I said no, and
he said he had already told them they could and
he didn't want to be rude. Is this all just
innocent fun or is he playing me for a fool?
(02:20):
In my face? Wow, this guy is not your boyfriend.
You called him your man and everything, but guess what,
he's everybody's man. He's everybody's boyfriend all his college girlfriends.
You're not number one in his life. You're not a
priority in his life. These women are way too familiar
(02:40):
to be considered just.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
His college friends.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
He had a past with a few of them.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
You can believe that.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
They're saying things like oo, I saw a song and
then dancing with him, running out to dance with him
on the patio, sleeping over and stuff, and acting like
they're the ladies of the house. They're all in the
kitchen when you suppose that girlfriend comes in. They don't
even know you, let alone respect you. I mean, you know, yeah,
you said you hung out with them, but they don't
(03:09):
seem to have a clue who you really are in
its life. Because guess what, he hasn't told him about you.
He didn't claim you in front of them when he
had a perfect opportunity. Okay, this is not looking good
for you and him and this relationship going forward, and
you need to let him know that. But of course
he will dismiss your feelings and tell you you're blowing
(03:30):
things out of proportion. Again, you may as well be
one of the random chicks at the barbecue for all
it matters, because he's done nothing to show you or
them otherwise. After two years, this is what it is.
I mean, you're just one of the girls to him.
So I suggest to you that you don't waste another
second of your time with him and move on. Let
(03:51):
him have his female friends. He's not worth it. You
deserve to be special to someone, just not him.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Steve. I'm just I'm amazed. I'm just simply amazed. Hell,
I don't know how many times I said on this show,
but y'all write these letters to this show. You already
know what I've said on this topic before. I've said
it over and over. I'm assuming that people write into
(04:19):
the show because they're fans of the show and they
watch and they listen to the show. And I assume
that people write into a Distrawberry letter because they know
that we give out our different takes and advice on
these letters.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
It's not always advice.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Sometimes it's just my take now surely does between the
two of us, try to offer the most advice. I
sometimes just give you my take because sometimes I don't
think you need advice. I just think you just need
to hear your stupid letter read back to you. That's
how I feel about it. Sometimes. To me, sometimes I
(04:54):
just take it to you type you set that right
and just take the time out. This letter right here
is coming from I'm a person who's obviously listened to
the show before, and so now I gotta tell you.
We've gone over this, So here we go again. My
boyfriend puts his friends first. Just Stephen Shirl. I've been
dating a man for almost two years and he has
(05:15):
a lot of female friends. Stop right there, let's just
go over this line right here. I'm dating a man
that has a lot of female friends.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I have told you.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Every opportunity I get on this show that men are
incapable of having female friends that they have been attracted
to or are currently attracted to. We are incapable of that.
I ain't gonna tell you no more, but it looks
(05:49):
like I have to tell you again because this is
what this led about.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Right here.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
You don't believe fat meat, greasy, well let me pull
the greecee out to paying for you.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
I hang out with.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
All of them, and at first I tried to act
like a team player, but I see he has no
respect for boundaries in this relationship.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
You help, ma'am.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
You know why he don't have no respect for the
boundaries in the relationship because you don't have any boundaries. See,
you went along with all of this. You condone it.
You hang out with all of them. See, you can't
put the velvet rope up and then don't expect nobody
to step over. You gotta have barb wild fence if
you serious. But you got a little velvet rope with
(06:30):
the clip on it. Anybody take that off. He don't
respect the boundaries because you don't have any.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
When we come back, it's some more of the same,
all right, Steve.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour Strawberry letter subject my
boyfriend puts his friends first. We'll get back into it.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Do you think astronauts fight over elbow room?
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Probably because advanced tech doesn't always mean more space until
now introduce it the Hondai Ionic nine, a three row
electric suv with over three hundred miles of range, ultra
fast charging capability, and lots of space.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
The all new Hondai Ionic nine face.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
And an ev Visit Hondai USA dot com for more details.
EPA estimated rings for Oing nine based on fully charged
batteries for comparison purpose only.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Actual range will vary based on several factors.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
All right, come on, Steve. Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
My boyfriend puts his friends first.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Here's another letter about a woman with a man that
has female friends.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
And it done created a problem. I done told y'all
all and over and over on this show.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
See, I don't care if you agree with Uncle Steve,
agree with what I'm saying. Jesus, facts and the proof
keep coming in in all these letters. This man has
female friends that ain't what we're capable of doing. But okay,
let's try it. And he has a lot of female friends.
I hang out with all.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Of them, So once again, you condone this.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
At first, I try to act like a team player,
but I see he has no respect for boundaries in
his relationship. Once again, he has no boundaries for the
relationship because you don't have any boundaries in the relationship.
See you remember you said you hang out with all
of them. You've been going along with this. He has
a lot of house parties, and his friends come over
and do impromptu cookouts. Okay, so now you got a
(08:29):
man that's got some women that can pop eye and
just start cooking at his house that you're hoping one
day becomes y'all's house yellow and they do impromptuo cookouts
no matter what we have planing. That's interesting. He drops
everything to entertain them. Oh you mean he's prioritized these
fine female friends over you. Oh okay, I'm sorry. Maybe
(08:53):
I didn't make myself clear about this. He calls and
invites females over to his house whenever he's having to
get together. Told him that his single friends are gonna
cause him to be a single man too, But it
ain't because you're still with him. So nice bluff, lady.
But he keeps calling your bluff. You know why, because
he keeps calling these women and you ain't gonna do
(09:16):
a thing about it. Fast forward to last weekend, and
he and I went out Friday night and we didn't
make plans for Saturday.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
So I got up, went to the mall.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
As I left out, I went, I was told that
he wanted.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
To have a cookout, something small.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
So I went to the mall, then home to take
a nap, and then I went over to my boyfriend's house.
That were new girls there. Surprised, Why not have some
new girls there? You ain't having problem with the old ones.
You give me an inch, I'll take a yard. You
give me a little rope. I'm gonna start pulling a
lot of boats in with the rope. So now some
(09:52):
new girls at the house. Oh, I never met, and
one of them greeted me, is if she was the
lady at the house.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
She didn't greet you, asked the lady at the house
as she was.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
She was in her mind at that particular moment, lady
at the house. She didn't even know who you was.
Hey girl, how you doing? Welcome?
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Come on in.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
We all set up in the back. You look as
stupid you at the house taking naps. My boyfriend ran
over the intervening because he knows me know what. No,
all he got to do is smove it over with you,
and he gonna make you lick this up and like
it too. That's what he know about you. Let me
run over here and make her lick this and like
this too. And that's just what he did too. Three
(10:31):
females were in the kitchen, cooking and making drinks, and
very comfortable in his home.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
That's because they've been there before.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
The cutest one yell when her song came on and
she ran to the patio to dance with my man.
She told him that was their song from college. He
told her he played that song just for her. How
many times I got to tell you we can't be
friends with no fine women.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I told you that not out there dancing on the
patio to that song. He played it.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Just for her.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
That's our song. Who did you say, ran out there?
They're cute? Test one? I told you they ain't what
we do.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
Of course, he said, I was blowing things out of proportion.
After I quietly cursed him out in the launder room.
See do you do all your business behind closed doors?
He in your face all up front. You do all
the cussing in the launder room quietly If you want
to he out on the patio and dancing with the
music turn up. You see the difference between y'all two,
(11:33):
you try to respect him. He ain't got none for you.
He tried to sure me that they all went to
college together, and it was in innocent. They did all
go to college together. I don't know even the one
they had the favorite song.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
They were.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Screw it, it's not innocent, okay.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
He asked if two of the girls could crack. He
go to google two of the girls could crash at
his house? I said no, He said he already told
him they could, and he ain't wanna be rude. Wait
a minute, hold up, what so you don't understand how
stupid are you?
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Lady?
Speaker 3 (12:11):
Let me ask you just how stupid you are? You
are always an after thought. Yeah, y'all can stay over here. Hey, babies,
they don't care if they stay over here. No, well,
I know they told me they could do that because
it's his house.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
It's not y'all's house.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
He'd have told him they can stay. So now all
y'all gonna be in there sleeping together. Wait a minute,
year went over, You done went along with the cookouts.
Let me see if I can pressed this button a
little bit. You didn't mind the girls come over. So
guess what I got some new girls coming over. You
see what I'm saying. I'm gonna keep pressing this button
(12:49):
because I'm gonna make you lick it and like it,
which I'm capable of doing, and you're gonna go along
with it.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
Now here's a question.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
It's just just all innocent funnels playing me for a
fool in my face. Here's what I want you to do,
young lady. I want you to go over to a
mirror in your house. I want you to look in
that mirror, and I want you to realize something that
the face you see is the food. Thank you so
(13:23):
made Margine.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Some girls that's coming up?
Speaker 1 (13:25):
All on you tell friends, all right, leave your comments
on today's Monica.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Can't come over here, Yes, you can't over here.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Your comments on Today's letters on Instagram, at Steve Harvey FM,
and check out Today's Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show