November 24, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Monday, November 24th, 2025. Subject: "My Cousin Owns The Carwash"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and
if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
we could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now, and you never know it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Sous rus. Buckle up and hold on tight. We got
it for you here. It is a Strawberry letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you for you. Subject. My cousin owns the car wash.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty nine year old hopeless
romantic and I got married too quickly to a man
that I barely knew. Now all of my family is
in my business, and I'm so disappointed in myself. I
met a man that's from another city, and after we
(00:46):
dated for a few months, he came to visit me
and never left. He quickly got a great job and
he got settled in. He has a friend in town,
so he's usually hanging out with him or he's at work.
I never suspected he was cheating on me until three
days ago when I found out that he's had sex
(01:07):
in his car. My cousin owns a car wash and
he specializes in wheels and detailing leather seats. My husband's
escalade is his pride and joy, so he gets it
washed often. I did not know he was going all
the way across town to get his car washed until
I got a call from my cousin's wife. She said,
(01:28):
my husband has brought his truck to the car wash
a few times, and he's always got interesting stains and
pieces of weave all over the truck. My cousin figured
out that it's my husband after he saw a business
card in the truck. See, my cousin wasn't invited to
my wedding because he is on the ghetto side of
my family, so he didn't know my husband. I just
(01:51):
hate that. Before my cousin's wife called me, she called
my mom and told her that my husband has been
having sex in his truck and getting it cleaned. Afterwards,
I asked my husband about the rumor, and he threatened
to fight my cousin and out him as a liar
and a bad businessman. I assured him that my cousin
(02:11):
is not the one to be played with like that.
If my husband is not cheating, why would he be
so upset. I don't see my cousin hating on my
husband for no reason since my family knows can my
marriage survive this? Well, you really don't have much of
a marriage to survive anything. You know, you guys don't
(02:34):
even spend a lot of time together. You said he's
over at his friend's house or he's over at work.
It sounds like your man is cheating and everyone knows it.
Your family is messy, and you are right. Your cousin's
wife didn't have to bless the business to your mom.
But you said yourself that you barely know this man.
I mean, you barely knew him when you married him.
(02:54):
He's probably doing what he normally did when he was
single in that other town, but you didn't know him then,
so you don't have anything to compare his behavior to.
And when you asked him about it, he didn't deny it.
He didn't say absolutely not, no, he didn't blah blah
blah blah blah. He didn't even try to lie. He
just didn't deny it and said he was going to
(03:15):
give your cousin and beat down. It looks like your
husband is cheating, not if he's cheating, like you wrote
in a letter. Steve, that's what you need to wrap
your mind around. Your marriage is in trouble, and I
don't see how you're going to get past this one.
Let's see what kind of lies we can come up
with for this one, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Well, I don't think it's really got to be no lies,
because I just analyze this letter properly. I mean, let's
go through this. This circumptence times has this circumstance. See
we deal it with circumstance. Okay, watch how we do this.
(03:56):
This woman says that I'm a twenty nine year old
hopeless role man. I got married too quickly to a
man that I barely knew. Now, I don't know if
this is the definition of a hopeless romantic. This is
not what this is. I think this is called crazy.
This may just be crazy. He might not have nothing
to do with you being a hopeless romantic at all,
(04:18):
because you married a man you didn't hardly know what
what what they got to do with it. And I'm
so disappointed in myself. Now, all your family's in your business.
You say, you say you met this man from another city.
Y'all dated a few months came to visit me and
never left. That didn't sound that didn't seem strange to you.
(04:39):
How can a man come from another city visit you
and never go back where he worked, where he lived,
where his house? What's what's his least payment?
Speaker 2 (04:55):
What?
Speaker 3 (04:55):
What's he ain't got no least, no way? What How
you just go visit and then don't go back. That's
not being a hopeless romantic. Something's wrong with this. He
quickly got a great job, okay, settled in, He got
(05:17):
a friend in town. He usually hanging out with him,
or he's at work. Then the lady said, I never
suspected he was cheating on me until three days ago.
Now here's what this whole letter is about. My cousin
owns the car wash. And then I don't know why
she threw this in here. He specializes in wheels and
(05:38):
detail and leather seats, So.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Got a car washed.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Everybody got a car wash, wiping seats and doing wheels.
Everybody with a car wash. Anyway, My husband's escalade is
his pride and joy, so he gets it washed off.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Here's another precarious line. I did not know he was
going all the way across town to get his car washed.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
What what? What difference do that make where he get
his car washed?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
What? Maybe it's because it's a great car wash.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Remember your cousin special lines in Wills I Love.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
He went over there for a specialty.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
And all of this was going good until you got
a call from your cousin's wife and we come back.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
I will tell you what's wrong with this whole letter?
All right, Steve?
Speaker 4 (06:38):
All right?
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Hang on for part two of Steve's response, coming up
at twenty three minutes after the hour today Strawberry letter
subject my cousin owns the car wash. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Shows.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
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your kid and turns curiosity into learning.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
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Speaker 4 (07:13):
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Speaker 1 (07:18):
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Speaker 4 (07:23):
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Speaker 1 (07:25):
And for older kids see Miko three on the Miko
website and Amazon. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap
today's Strawberry letter, the subject my cousin owns the car wash.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Before I do this letter, I've noticed a trend in
Cherle and I's responses to these letters. If a man
is accused of cheating, if a man has circumstantial evidence
about cheating, then my partner in crime, who we are
supposed to give our own opinions and separate, looks at
(07:59):
this ninety eight percent of the time, gonna ride his
to the police station and lock his up for cheat. Absolutely,
And in this letter there was no difference. But I
have several problems with this letter.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
All right. So after she calls.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Herself a romantic, hopeless romantic, meets this guy, she barely news.
Guy leaves town one time, comes to visit her and
never goes back.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
That's odd. He gets a job quickly settles in.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
She's embarrassed by this because now she met him, she
marry a man she hardly knew in the family, all
up in the business, and so everything is going right,
and she had no suspicions of him cheating until three
days ago when he took his car to a car
wash that specializes in wheels and leather seats.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Okay, we got that right.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Now, she gets a call from her cousin's wife.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Now this is where the letter takes a turn.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
She said that my husband bought his truck to the
car wash a few times, and he's always got interesting
stains and pieces of weave all over the truck. This
is what your cousin's wife said. You've never seen the
weave in the truck, and you've never seen any stains. Okay,
that's just a fact. So we're going based on what
(09:15):
your cousin's wife told you.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Now listen to this.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
My cousin figured out that it's my husband's after he
saw a business card in the truck.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Now, and then here we go.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
See, my cousin wasn't invited to my wedding because he's
on the ghetto side of my family, so he didn't
know my husband. This is very important information. She didn't
invite that side of the family because they ghetto. Okay,
then she says, I just hate that before my cousin's
(09:47):
wife called me, she called my mom and told her
that my husband has been having sex in his truck
and getting it cleaned afterwards.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Okay, how she know that?
Speaker 1 (10:00):
I mean, really, the the weave.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Weave that the wife ain't never seen you just said
they get on you and invite them to the wedding.
Now I'm gonna show you something else in here that
gets a little crazy.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
So that's pay that. Because they didn't come from to
the wedding, they didn't.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
Get listen to this.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
I asked my husband about the rumor, and he threatened
to fight my cousin and out him as a liar
and a bad businessman, as he should. I assured him
that my cousin is not the one to be played
with like that. Now this is good information because you
just said you did invite your husband to the wedding
because he ghetto.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
To the wedding because he ghetto, Okay, And so now
this is a fair warner.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
If you go over there and fight the dude that
on the car washing, go get your whoop. That's that's
what this is about you. But now she's saying if
he did, and she why is he doing this? But
I assured him that my cousin is not the one
to be played with. Why would he be so upset.
I don't see my husband hating I don't see my
(11:11):
cousin hating on my husband for no reason, since my
family knows can my marriage survive this? Now, I think
you know that your family on that side is messy,
and this one has speculated they had some stains and
(11:33):
weave in the truck that you've never seen. And now
you ain't invite us to the wedding, so you must
thank you all that in a bag of chips. So
now let me show you that you ain't all that.
And I'm gonna tell your mama he was having sex
in the truck. How you know that what stains?
Speaker 1 (11:52):
But see, just because she didn't see it, does that
mean that it didn't happen?
Speaker 2 (11:57):
But so then you're gonna end your marriage based on
that she has? She has what stains?
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Surely the stains that the cousin saw in the back seat. Yeah,
she didn't specify. She didn't specify because she's messy. Yeah,
they're messy.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
But see, hold up, though, let me ask you something.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
So does the cousin's wife work at the car wash?
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Well it sounds like she does.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Yeah, so if she ain't washing cars, how she knows?
Speaker 3 (12:39):
What's no doubt if he owned the cars car washed
that his wife is out there washing cars. I doubt
that this reeks hate for not being invited to the web.
Give that, y'all ruining your well, Look, you married demand
(13:00):
too soon. Demand might be cheating, but you gonna end
it on this speculation. You should have ended it on
something that you knew and not on hearsay. And if
you take it, if you took this to court, you
would lose. I just want to tell you that because
you have no evidence. You ain't seen no pictures of it,
you ain't went through his phone, you ain't got no
(13:21):
text messages. You getting a DNA report off of forensic science.
Hell for that, ain't even a forensic scientist.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
All right. I don't think the man might not be
cheating at all. Sorry, Shure, and.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
He might be. Sorry, Steve. Leave us your comments on
Today's Letter on Instagram and Steve Harvey FM, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
It's up. This is Chris Rock.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
Hey guys myself, good morning. This is Tony Braxton.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
You already know what timings boy DC on flight. You're
listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Well, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and
if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
we could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now, and you never know it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Sous rus. Buckle up and hold on tight. We got
it for you here. It is a Strawberry letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you for you. Subject. My cousin owns the car wash.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty nine year old hopeless
romantic and I got married too quickly to a man
that I barely knew. Now all of my family is
in my business, and I'm so disappointed in myself. I
met a man that's from another city, and after we
(00:46):
dated for a few months, he came to visit me
and never left. He quickly got a great job and
he got settled in. He has a friend in town,
so he's usually hanging out with him or he's at work.
I never suspected he was cheating on me until three
days ago when I found out that he's had sex
(01:07):
in his car. My cousin owns a car wash and
he specializes in wheels and detailing leather seats. My husband's
escalade is his pride and joy, so he gets it
washed often. I did not know he was going all
the way across town to get his car washed until
I got a call from my cousin's wife. She said,
(01:28):
my husband has brought his truck to the car wash
a few times, and he's always got interesting stains and
pieces of weave all over the truck. My cousin figured
out that it's my husband after he saw a business
card in the truck. See, my cousin wasn't invited to
my wedding because he is on the ghetto side of
my family, so he didn't know my husband. I just
(01:51):
hate that. Before my cousin's wife called me, she called
my mom and told her that my husband has been
having sex in his truck and getting it cleaned. Afterwards,
I asked my husband about the rumor, and he threatened
to fight my cousin and out him as a liar
and a bad businessman. I assured him that my cousin
(02:11):
is not the one to be played with like that.
If my husband is not cheating, why would he be
so upset. I don't see my cousin hating on my
husband for no reason since my family knows can my
marriage survive this? Well, you really don't have much of
a marriage to survive anything. You know, you guys don't
(02:34):
even spend a lot of time together. You said he's
over at his friend's house or he's over at work.
It sounds like your man is cheating and everyone knows it.
Your family is messy, and you are right. Your cousin's
wife didn't have to bless the business to your mom.
But you said yourself that you barely know this man.
I mean, you barely knew him when you married him.
(02:54):
He's probably doing what he normally did when he was
single in that other town, but you didn't know him then,
so you don't have anything to compare his behavior to.
And when you asked him about it, he didn't deny it.
He didn't say absolutely not, no, he didn't blah blah
blah blah blah. He didn't even try to lie. He
just didn't deny it and said he was going to
(03:15):
give your cousin and beat down. It looks like your
husband is cheating, not if he's cheating, like you wrote
in a letter. Steve, that's what you need to wrap
your mind around. Your marriage is in trouble, and I
don't see how you're going to get past this one.
Let's see what kind of lies we can come up
with for this one, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Well, I don't think it's really got to be no lies,
because I just analyze this letter properly. I mean, let's
go through this. This circumptence times has this circumstance. See
we deal it with circumstance. Okay, watch how we do this.
(03:56):
This woman says that I'm a twenty nine year old
hopeless role man. I got married too quickly to a
man that I barely knew. Now, I don't know if
this is the definition of a hopeless romantic. This is
not what this is. I think this is called crazy.
This may just be crazy. He might not have nothing
to do with you being a hopeless romantic at all,
(04:18):
because you married a man you didn't hardly know what
what what they got to do with it. And I'm
so disappointed in myself. Now, all your family's in your business.
You say, you say you met this man from another city.
Y'all dated a few months came to visit me and
never left. That didn't sound that didn't seem strange to you.
(04:39):
How can a man come from another city visit you
and never go back where he worked, where he lived,
where his house? What's what's his least payment?
Speaker 2 (04:55):
What?
Speaker 3 (04:55):
What's he ain't got no least, no way? What How
you just go visit and then don't go back. That's
not being a hopeless romantic. Something's wrong with this. He
quickly got a great job, okay, settled in, He got
(05:17):
a friend in town. He usually hanging out with him,
or he's at work. Then the lady said, I never
suspected he was cheating on me until three days ago.
Now here's what this whole letter is about. My cousin
owns the car wash. And then I don't know why
she threw this in here. He specializes in wheels and
(05:38):
detail and leather seats, So.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Got a car washed.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Everybody got a car wash, wiping seats and doing wheels.
Everybody with a car wash. Anyway, My husband's escalade is
his pride and joy, so he gets it washed off.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Here's another precarious line. I did not know he was
going all the way across town to get his car washed.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
What what? What difference do that make where he get
his car washed?
Speaker 2 (06:14):
What? Maybe it's because it's a great car wash.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Remember your cousin special lines in Wills I Love.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
He went over there for a specialty.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
And all of this was going good until you got
a call from your cousin's wife and we come back.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
I will tell you what's wrong with this whole letter?
All right, Steve?
Speaker 4 (06:38):
All right?
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Hang on for part two of Steve's response, coming up
at twenty three minutes after the hour today Strawberry letter
subject my cousin owns the car wash. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Shows.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
Meko Mini Plus, the small AI robot that talks to
your kid and turns curiosity into learning.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
And the deal is big right now at Costco. It's
seventy nine ninety nine originally one nine ninety nine.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
Screenlight, super fun and built for reading, math, science, and
creative storytelling.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
I deal for ages five to ten. Price and availability
may vary.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Get Mico Mini Plus today at Costco.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
And for older kids see Miko three on the Miko
website and Amazon. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap
today's Strawberry letter, the subject my cousin owns the car wash.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Before I do this letter, I've noticed a trend in
Cherle and I's responses to these letters. If a man
is accused of cheating, if a man has circumstantial evidence
about cheating, then my partner in crime, who we are
supposed to give our own opinions and separate, looks at
(07:59):
this ninety eight percent of the time, gonna ride his
to the police station and lock his up for cheat. Absolutely,
And in this letter there was no difference. But I
have several problems with this letter.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
All right. So after she calls.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Herself a romantic, hopeless romantic, meets this guy, she barely news.
Guy leaves town one time, comes to visit her and
never goes back.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
That's odd. He gets a job quickly settles in.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
She's embarrassed by this because now she met him, she
marry a man she hardly knew in the family, all
up in the business, and so everything is going right,
and she had no suspicions of him cheating until three
days ago when he took his car to a car
wash that specializes in wheels and leather seats.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Okay, we got that right.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Now, she gets a call from her cousin's wife.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Now this is where the letter takes a turn.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
She said that my husband bought his truck to the
car wash a few times, and he's always got interesting
stains and pieces of weave all over the truck. This
is what your cousin's wife said. You've never seen the
weave in the truck, and you've never seen any stains. Okay,
that's just a fact. So we're going based on what
(09:15):
your cousin's wife told you.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Now listen to this.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
My cousin figured out that it's my husband's after he
saw a business card in the truck.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Now, and then here we go.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
See, my cousin wasn't invited to my wedding because he's
on the ghetto side of my family, so he didn't
know my husband. This is very important information. She didn't
invite that side of the family because they ghetto. Okay,
then she says, I just hate that before my cousin's
(09:47):
wife called me, she called my mom and told her
that my husband has been having sex in his truck
and getting it cleaned afterwards.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Okay, how she know that?
Speaker 1 (10:00):
I mean, really, the the weave.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Weave that the wife ain't never seen you just said
they get on you and invite them to the wedding.
Now I'm gonna show you something else in here that
gets a little crazy.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
So that's pay that. Because they didn't come from to
the wedding, they didn't.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
Get listen to this.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
I asked my husband about the rumor, and he threatened
to fight my cousin and out him as a liar
and a bad businessman, as he should. I assured him
that my cousin is not the one to be played
with like that. Now this is good information because you
just said you did invite your husband to the wedding
because he ghetto.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
To the wedding because he ghetto, Okay, And so now
this is a fair warner.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
If you go over there and fight the dude that
on the car washing, go get your whoop. That's that's
what this is about you. But now she's saying if
he did, and she why is he doing this? But
I assured him that my cousin is not the one
to be played with. Why would he be so upset.
I don't see my husband hating I don't see my
(11:11):
cousin hating on my husband for no reason, since my
family knows can my marriage survive this? Now, I think
you know that your family on that side is messy,
and this one has speculated they had some stains and
(11:33):
weave in the truck that you've never seen. And now
you ain't invite us to the wedding, so you must
thank you all that in a bag of chips. So
now let me show you that you ain't all that.
And I'm gonna tell your mama he was having sex
in the truck. How you know that what stains?
Speaker 1 (11:52):
But see, just because she didn't see it, does that
mean that it didn't happen?
Speaker 2 (11:57):
But so then you're gonna end your marriage based on
that she has? She has what stains?
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Surely the stains that the cousin saw in the back seat. Yeah,
she didn't specify. She didn't specify because she's messy. Yeah,
they're messy.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
But see, hold up, though, let me ask you something.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
So does the cousin's wife work at the car wash?
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Well it sounds like she does.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Yeah, so if she ain't washing cars, how she knows?
Speaker 3 (12:39):
What's no doubt if he owned the cars car washed
that his wife is out there washing cars. I doubt
that this reeks hate for not being invited to the web.
Give that, y'all ruining your well, Look, you married demand
(13:00):
too soon. Demand might be cheating, but you gonna end
it on this speculation. You should have ended it on
something that you knew and not on hearsay. And if
you take it, if you took this to court, you
would lose. I just want to tell you that because
you have no evidence. You ain't seen no pictures of it,
you ain't went through his phone, you ain't got no
(13:21):
text messages. You getting a DNA report off of forensic science.
Hell for that, ain't even a forensic scientist.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
All right. I don't think the man might not be
cheating at all. Sorry, Shure, and.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
He might be. Sorry, Steve. Leave us your comments on
Today's Letter on Instagram and Steve Harvey FM, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
It's up. This is Chris Rock.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
Hey guys myself, good morning. This is Tony Braxton.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
You already know what timings boy DC on flight. You're
listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.