My Daughter Is Married To A Hobo

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it for you. Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Nephew's subject my
daughter is married to a hobo. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm concerned.
I'm a concerned parent, and I know you're going to
tell me to mind my business, but I can't this time.
I have a twenty nine year old daughter that is
in love with a trifling man. I know you can't

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relate because you're a hard working man like my husband.
My daughter has lived a sheltered life with her father
and I giving her every opportunity available. She graduated from
a prestigious school in the top of her class and
makes six figures. The fact that she's in love with
a hobo is puzzling to her father and I. This

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man won't take a nine to five job because he
doesn't want a boss. He wants to be one. He's
had several failed business ventures, and I know my daughter
is funding all of them. She's told us that we're
old school, and the new generation of married couples believes
in one another's dreams and nothing is impossible. We're not
that old, and we know that money makes the world

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go round. I have stopped paying her credit card bills
after I saw that she charged a bunch of printing
equipment on her Amex so he could start up a
T shirt business. They live in our old home, which
she has done some nice upgrades in. They drive her car,
which her father got for her as a gift after
her husband totaled her other one because he ran a

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red light. It's one thing after the other, and I
don't know if she's pretending to be in love to
spite us, or if she wants out and she doesn't
know how to tell us. I want this hobo to
get it together and be the man that my daughter needs.
My husband send him a few job leads in the
insurance field, and he said he can't work from home
because he's a free spirit. He's not free spirited. He's

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a hobo and she can do better. Is there anything
we can do to reach her? This sounds like just
a case of much was given to your daughter and
nothing was required. I mean, first of all, you got
to stop calling him a hobo. He's a loser, this
guy and a user, and he saw an opportunity and

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your daughter and he took it. You and your husband
have done a great job with educating your daughter and
giving her the tools to make it in this world,
and she's done that. But I think enough is enough.
Now you got to stop giving her things. You're still
spoiling her at twenty nine. I mean, how will her
man ever step up and start providing for her if

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you guys are always there. Not that he would do
that anyway, because every time you present him with an opportunity,
he has an excuse of why he shouldn't do it
or can't do it. He knows you're gonna do for her.
There's no urgency for him to do anything for her.
It has nothing to do with being old school or
new school. He's just trifling and irresponsible. Like you said,

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we see it, she just doesn't see it. The thing is,
he'll never be the man she needs. Doesn't sound like
he's built for it, and anyway, he's not doing it
now at all. So how many failed businesses and business
ventures will it take before he understands that he needs
to go to work until he can figure it out.
The best thing you can do right now is to

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try to make sure your daughter is saving and investing
at least some of her money so she won't give
it all to this loser. Then you got to stay
out of it, you know, and maybe somehow, some way
she'll see that he's not the man for her. He's
never gonna do anything. He is the true definition of
a loser. Steve, Oh, hobo is an interesting word. My

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daughter is married to a hobo. I wouldn't describe him
as that. He's in it. She's enabling this guy who
doesn't somebody he hasn't been around, the same thing that
your daughter grew up looking at a man and a
woman worked together, a man providing she didn't understand that

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that's what it was. She's taken on this role of
a nurturer, and she's gonna pay for it in the
long run. Now, your parents and your daughter twenty nine,
and you know she lived a shelter life, and her
father and I given her every opportunity available. Graduated from
She's just school and top of class, she makes six figures,

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and that she's in love with a hobo that won't
take a nine to five because he doesn't want a boss.
He wants to be one. He's had several fair business ventures,
and you know your daughter's funding him. She told us
that y'all old school and the new generation of married
couples believes that one another's dreams nothing is impossible. Well,

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that's true, that you can believe in one another's dreams,
and nothing is impossible if you're not the right person
for the job. Though, we have a problem, and it
just strikes me from the letter, and I know you
and your husband have noticed this. He doesn't seem to

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show up anywhere in any way doing anything positive. So
it's a carryover effect, y'all. If you're nothing in one
area of your life and you don't work on it,
you will be nothing in other areas until finally you've
mastered the art of being nothing nowhere and everywhere. Now y'all,

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engave a girl everything in her life, gave our AMAX card.
He didn't put a bunch of Prittan equipment on it
so he can start a T shirt business. Boy, you know,
putting how much of my American expression? Because you're gonna
start on what a printing bid where you live in

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her house that y'all gave him, she'd have fixed it up.
He and there, and here's the funny part. All your
husband has given him, uh several leads for insurance job.
He says he can't work from home because he a
free spirit. He's not free spirit, he's a whole bow.
And she could do better? Is that anything we could
do to reach her? When I come back, I'm gonna

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answer that question. And then we're gonna do a reenactment
of me making up excuses why I can't take a job.
You know, all right, Steve, hang on, we'll have part
two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject is my daughter
is married to a hobo. We'll get back into it

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right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject my daughter is
married to a whole bowl. Well, yeah, you got kind
of a problem. Let's go to Lutcal. She's twenty nine.
She's married to a guy that won't work. Your husband

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had offered to give him jobs insurance business. He said
he can't work for nobody because he's a boss himself.
Let me give you the exact words that he can't
work for anybody because he's a free spirit. Being free
costs money. Being captured costs money. You know. She told

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that you all an old school and this is how
the new school families are doing it. Let me just
get on down here to the end of the letter.
He's not a free spirit, he's whole born. She can
do better. Is that anything we could do to reach her?
Here's what I have to say. You can do some
things to reach her, but it'd be a whole lot

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easier to reach him because he ain't at work. Uh
Me and Tommy had a company we started a few
years ago called ride down there dot com and we
created a website if you just wanted us to ride
down now on somebody. And this looks like a perfect

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job for ride down that dot Com because he just
needed he right, she can do better? Is there anything
we can do to reach her or him? Because you
want to you want a man to uh make an adjustment.
All you got to do. He doesn't want to work

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from home because he's a free spirit. And she said,
he's not a free spirit. He's a whole boat. And
she can do better. Is there anything we could do
to reach her? Sometimes you got to reach him, and
the father needs to slide around the daughter and put
some words and some wisdom up in his head away
from the door. Now, when the daughter find out, she

(09:02):
gonna be mad because he gonna tell her because he's
a little punk dude, so he gonna tell her. But
be ready for that. But sometimes you got to help
your daughter out. Look, cause see the husband, y'all ain't
in love with him. And what's the problem that your
daughter got is she in love with him? So she
missing a lot of stuff. Y'all looking upside his head
because y'all ain't in love with him. So you gotta

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ease up on him and just put something on his head.
So now that's the answer to that. How do we
reach her? You might not be able to, but you
can damn sure reach him and just say little stuff
in his ear, like leave her or die. The horrible movie,

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I see your punk ass like if he ball headed,
Like walk up behind him, daddy and just lick his
head and when he turned around, be staying at him
with your head at tilt. Yeah, I'm trying to tell

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you how to get it started. Okay, So that would
scare him, I think so. I think that would scare
him though, when you think, because his problem is he
don't want to do nothing. So ask me any questions
about going to get a job anything. Watch watch what
he doing? Well? Have you looked for anything? Have you
filled out any applications today? Oh? I feel like applications everything? Yeah? Well,

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any prospects, any callbacks? Oh? No? Anybody car? You know
it's a pandemic. Most companies don't even have somebody at
the front answer phones. Well, you can work from home.
I can't do that. I'm too free spirited. Yeah, I
got to be out there end of the streets. You know,

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you do? You know you do not have a car.
You're driving my daughter's car. Get your own car. Oh,
I'm sorry. Man. We married yea to each his own
and own it is each. He quotes scriptures that ain't
even been about it. Man, since callin, when are you

(11:20):
going to contribute to this? Household. You know that's a
cool song because it can't you know when you say
we that's what they made me think of. That was Jim.
Did you like that song? Yeah? Leave in Vogue out
of this. I'm want to know when a you're gonna
contribute to this household and not have it all the

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burden on my daughter. That's my question to you. Oh
but see you you acted like it's a burden on her.
It is it's fifty fifty. Well, well, Hi, it's a
burden if you got fifty. Oh, he's sorry. Do you
understand I've canceled her credit cards because she I noticed

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that she paid money to get your printing equipment for
your You cancel who credit card her? Amax? What is
we gonna do without the credit card? Miss Hazel? I thought,
get a job? Yeah, I think you need to work
from home. M h See that's why a black man

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can't hand nothing, got nothing to do with r pulled
the race card. I pulled the race card on some
all the black people. We all black. Whatever you know,
you don't it, surely don't look like it, and get

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out of my house. We bought this house for her,
not for you. I can tell you right now, lady,
you ain't really hurting my feelings. We see Thank you. Steve.
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