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Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. My daughter's husband is the subject. Dear
Stephen Shirley. My daughter got married young and she has
a short attention span. She's almost thirty, and it looks
like she's about to cheat on her husband. She married
a man that's thirty eight, and he's a lot more
settled than she is. My daughter has been talking to
a new guy on the phone, and she told me
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he's smart and funny. I've seen her ignore her husband's
calls when she's on the phone with him, and she
doesn't even know her four year old exists. I asked
if she was having an affair, and she said they
are our platonic friends. The other night, she was supposed
to come pick her son up, and I hadn't heard
from her. She wasn't answering her my calls or texts,
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so reluctantly I called her house and her husband picked up,
and he said he was looking for her too a
few more minutes. A few minutes later, he came to
get the baby, and I could tell he'd been drinking
because he was talkative. He said he thinks my daughter
is cheating on him, and she hasn't had sex with
him in a month. I felt so bad for him,
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so I hugged him. He told me that I felt
real good, and he squeezed my behind with both hands.
I stood there frozen for a second before I pulled
away from him. He apologized and said he'd been drinking,
but then laughed and said, I do feel like silk.
He asked me if I had ever thought about him
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in a romantic way. He said when he first met
my daughter and I, he was initially attracted to me.
I clearly remember that day, and I did think he
was fine af but not for me. I'm only forty
eight and a man ten years younger can't handle me.
It's a good thing my boyfriend called when he did,
because things got heated quickly. I know I need to
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talk to my daughter about her bad behavior, But do
I need to tell her about her husband's behavior too, well,
I mean not if you don't want to blow up
the spot. Because this letter took a hard left. I
mean it really really did, and you're talking about it
got heated quickly and all of this. I mean, were
you into this? You know it sounds kind of like
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you were. So I'm going to tell you this, Mom,
you need to back all the way out of your
daughter's marital issues, telling her husband, telling her about her
husband's behavior. No need to at this point. She doesn't
care what you have to say anyway. I mean, you've
asked her about this other man. She's still doing her thing.
In other words, the only person she's listening to right
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now is her so called toonic friend.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
You said.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
She even ignores calls when it's her husband when she's
talking to this other guy. Your daughter needs to be
concerned about her son. She's taking you for granted because
she knows the baby's safe with you. She can stay
out for days or whatever and not have to worry
about him because you knows you got him. It's very
selfish and irresponsible of her to take advantage of you
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that way. So now you need to get serious and
start telling her, no, you can't babysit. If you miss
the baby, you can go over there and visit him
in her house for a couple of hours, then leave period.
And I would suggest taking your boyfriend too. That might
keep her at home, you know, if you go over there.
The other thing you need to do is never ever
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allow her husband to pick up this baby and drive
anywhere anything like that. Maybe he walked over to your house,
I don't know, but don't do that, especially when he's
clearly been drinking. And please tell him when you get
the opportunity, and no uncertain terms. Should he ever touch
you like that and do what he did squeezing your
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button saying he wanted you first come on, That's never
gonna happen again. It's their marriage. They have to figure
this situation out, get through their own problems. Stay out
of it, mom, she's going to end up resenting you
if you don't, and please stay away from her husband.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Steve chirly Ly shit, wonderful answer.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
You just gay full of hope and optimism and getting
people to do the right things and all that.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
That's wonderful.
Speaker 4 (04:35):
And to the lady who wrote the letter, please listen
to what Shirley told you. Now what I'm about to
tell you. I'm here to tell you about yourself. Now.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
If you can see some help in that, fine, But my.
Speaker 4 (04:50):
Initial approach is not to help you, it's to tell
you the truth.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
Let's start with the truth. You say your.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
Daughter got married young and she has a short attention span.
That's not what she has, and I will prove it
throughout the letter. She doesn't have a short attention span.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
She's not.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
She has a maturity problem and a morality problem. She
has a maturity problem and a morality problem. They ain't
got nothing to do with short attention spans. She ain't
in school, lien, Hey, add this ain't.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
What this is.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
So now she's almost thirty and looked like she's about
to cheat on her husband. She's married to a man
this thirty eight. He's a lot more subtle than she is.
My daughter has been talking to a new guy on
the phone, and she told me he's smart and funny.
I've seen her know her husband's call when he's on
the phone with him, and she doesn't even know her
four year old exists. That's not a short extension stick
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attention span. She has a maturity problem and a moral problem,
and she's not even a good mother or it is.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Just not a really really good person so far in
the letter.
Speaker 4 (06:04):
I ask her if she's having a fairs. She said,
they are in They are plutonic friends. Yeah, well, platonic
whatever that means whatever.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
The key word in that? No second?
Speaker 4 (06:18):
Yeah, well, the key word in platonic is tonic, and
tonic always means something tonic. Always remember that about plutonic,
that means it's something in there.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
We have to take altonic relationship. Okay, whatever you want.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
To call me, it's platonic. Okay, listen, we're coming back
with part two of the Strawberry Letter and Steve's Steve's
second half you don't want to miss as well. The
subject is my daughter's husband. We'll get back into it
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Speaker 1 (07:30):
Come on Steve Let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject
is my daughter's husband.
Speaker 4 (07:37):
Well, this woman wrote this letter about this thirty year
old daughter. She says that she has a short attention
spand we find out in the letter she has a
maturity problem, a morals problem, and she's just not a
good mother. Doesn't seem like a nice person to me.
She's married to a man, her daughter that's thirty. She's
married to a man that's thirty eight. He's more settled.
My daughter's been talking to a new guy on the
phone that he describes as smart and funny. She ignores
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her husband calls whenever she's on the phone, and she
doesn't even know.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Her for you old exists, I asked her.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
The mother asked the daughter, she's having a fair and
she said they in a platonic relationship. Plutonic is what
is spelled he l platonic were having a disagreement about that. Shirley,
of course knows the proper pronunciation of it, but I
know the meaning of it.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
See.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
Knowing how a word is pronounced and what it means,
it's two different things. Key word in here is tonic,
tonic mean that's something in it. So if you in
a platonic, a plutonic relationship with a man or woman,
the key word is tonic tonic, mean that something in it,
or else what you're having in fault? Talking to me anyway,
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The other night, she was supposed to come pick up
her son, and I hadn't heard from it. She wouldn't
answer the cause and text, so she reluctantly called her house.
Her husband picked up the phone, said he was looking
forward to a few minutes later he can't to get
the baby. And I could tell he been drinking because
he was talking to him. He said, he thinks your
daughter is cheating on him, and he ain't had sex
(09:08):
with her in the month. See now all of this
gets blamed on drinking. But I'm gonna show you something
about this in a minute.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Now.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
If she wasn't answering the phone for nobody texts, phone
calls us, she was in the plutonic relationship.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
This is where she was. It is spelled p l
u t o. Pluto is a Disney.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Character, but if you put tonic on the end of it,
that means he is some see Pluto. Was it a
plutonic relationship with Daisy Duck? But guess what though, But
y'all didn't know behind the scenes were he was doing daze.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
He's getting it in, But Daisy.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
What ain't.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
Charlie just said it like there always something Donald didn't know,
just like the husband in this now that don't know anyway,
and said that his daughter been cheating on him and
she ain't had sex with him in the month.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
I felt so bad for him, so I hugged him.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
He told me I felt good, and he squeezed my
behind with both hands. I stood that frozen for a
second before I pulled away from him. He apologized and
said he'd been drinking, and then laughed and said I
felt like si, okay, let's quit blaming everything on drinking.
First of all, he wasn't drinking that much because he
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drove over to the house. He wasn't drinking that much
because you was willing to put your grandbaby in the car,
wouldn't even let him drive hunks. He wasn't drinking that
much because he was cuffing you off.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
WHOA, see what all this got to do with.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
Because I've done all this stuff without a sip. So
let's put blame in this on drinking, because now let's
get into what you said. He asked me if I
had ever thought about him in a romantic way, because
he said when we first met my daughter and he
was initially attracted to me. Then you said, I clearly
remember that day and I did think he was fine.
(11:22):
Al okay, lady, where'd that comes from? You didn't even
have to put that in the letter. But you know
when he grabbed you, it took you, It froze you,
and it took you several moments to push away. Then
you said, I'm only forty eight and a man ten
years younger can't handle me. That's not true, Oh lord, lady,
(11:45):
that's not true. You forty eight and a man thirty
eight can't handle you.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
That's not true. I did thirty eight before hello had
a forty eight year old boy. Let me tell you something.
I was twenty three one time.
Speaker 4 (12:04):
Yeah, yeah, grown woman, good and gronk taught me some things.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
But after I learned it, though, whoo.
Speaker 4 (12:16):
Oh dog yeah, because the cookback ability I had at
twenty three was incredible. Oh you got me, But give
me five minutes to watch this hill.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
I could could. I did multiple shows in the night.
It was easy.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
That's why when I became a stand up, to do
four shows in the night wasn't nothing from me because
I had been there four five shows. I was usually
performing multiple times in the night. Anyway, A good thing
my boyfriend called when he did, because things heat it
up quickly. I know I need to talk to my
daughter about her bad behavior, but I need to do
I need to tell her about.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Her husband's behavior too.
Speaker 4 (12:56):
Well, then hold on, now you're also gonna have to
tell her about your behavior, because you did mention some
bad behavior of your own in here. You did think
he was fine af and you did say if your
boyfriend had not called, things was heating up really quickly,
so you was entertaining the conversation and all of is here.
So now you could talk to your daughter. But I
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think the whole family kind of a little bit tricky,
and I think the dude, the thirty eight year old
know it. So please write us back after you have
an affair with this boy that came home.
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