February 7, 2019 • 14 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in desperate need of advice. I was engaged to be married, but my fiancé and I recently split up after my ex-wife caused a whole lot of problems in our relationship. When my ex heard I was engaged, she called me. I told her that I was extremely happy and excited to get remarried. My ex said that she was happy for me and wished me well, which was a big lie. A few days after we talked, my ex created a new Facebook page, named it “The Thompsons” and posted a bunch of old pics from our wedding and family vacations..........
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Okay, it's a doozy. Here we go. Buckle up and
hold on type. We got it for you here. It
is the Strawberry letter. Subject my ex wife ran my
fiance off. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am in a desperate
need of advice. I was here. I was engaged to
be married, but my fiance and I recently split up
(00:20):
after my ex wife caused a whole lot of problems
in our relationship. When when my ex heard I was engaged,
she called me. I told her that I was extremely
happy and excited to get remarried. My ex said that
she was happy for me and wished me met wished
(00:40):
to me well, which was a big lie at never seen.
A few days after we talked, well, listen and get listen.
Keep listening, keep listening. No, not be okay, keep listening.
I'm trying to ignorant, right, I said she was happy
(01:01):
for me and wished me well. Well. It was a
big he said, it was a big lie. A few
days after we talked, this must be will Smith go ahead,
because they had that great relationship all and people sitting
together talking and stuff home. All right, here we go
a few days after we talked, my ex created a
(01:23):
new Facebook page named it the Thompsons and posted a
bunch of old pictures from our wedding and family vacations.
My fiance's mother saw the Facebook page and showed it
to my fiance, and that's when everything hit the fan.
I told my fiance that, yes, I talked to my
ex because she called me, I didn't call her. I
(01:46):
told my fiance that I had no idea that the
Facebook page existed because I don't deal with my ex
wife at all. My fiance didn't believe me, so she
called my ex, and my ex gave her an earful
of lies. She told my fiance that I still try
to see her and that we are still in love
with each other and talk often. Of course, my fiance
(02:10):
was all confused and didn't know who to believe, so
she called off the wedding and we broke up. My
ex found out about her breakup and claimed she felt
awful about it, so she sent my fiance an email
admitting that she lied about everything and she was sorry
that she interfered. My fiance still doesn't want to marry me,
and we barely talk at all now, even though my
(02:32):
ex admitted she was lying. I'm still suffering from what
she did. Can you please offer some advice on how
I can get my lady back. I cannot stand my
ex wife for this, but I'm going to let God
deal with her. I just want my fiance back. Please help. Yeah, yeah,
this is this is this is funky, funky funky right here,
(02:55):
don't I don't like your ex wife. I'm just gonna
put that out there. Don't like her at all. She's
a starter. She's a very negative person. She doesn't care
who she hurts. Yeah, you know what I mean. She
doesn't care how many lives she destroys, how many lives
she tells, she doesn't care. She's cage, she's tricky, all
(03:16):
of that. It's just so wrong on so many levels
what she did. And you're right, you're right. I'm gonna
go with you when you say you're gonna let God
deal with her, because it's not it's not really about her.
It's not really about her. It's just never about it's
not about your X. This is about your most recent X,
(03:39):
your X fiance. Because there was a problem in your relationship.
There had to be some kind of problem on her
part that you didn't know about. In your relationship a
trust issue. How can she let this X just come
out of nowhere? Do all this stuff make her doubt you? Okay,
(04:00):
and do all these things and believe this woman over
you and you guys are making wedding plans here. Okay. Yeah,
she can be confused, but to just throw it all
away over what she said, especially the woman gave her
an email and said she was lying, but she doesn't
know what to believe. I don't know if you're going
to ever get this woman back. I really don't, because
(04:22):
the trust is broken on her part. She doesn't trust
you because your x X did so much damage, and
you know, I mean, I'm sure you've done everything a
man could do to prove to her that this is
not true. You told her you didn't talk to her,
you don't call her, You told her that you told
her the ex called you. You told her all that
she wasn't buying any of it. I guess there was
(04:45):
too much evidence that she saw with the Facebook page
and the pictures and all of that. The problem I
think is with your most recent X fiance excuse me,
and not trusting you, and not knowing what to believe,
not wanting to go further in this relationship. Steve Shirley,
(05:05):
I agree with you one. I think you've hit it
spot on. Yeah, he in trouble, Yeah yeah, yeah. He
washed up here here on the banks here fish that
then got washed up on shore and it's low tide.
He just said he needed water back in desperately because
he died. Yeah, he loved this girl. Shirley is really
(05:26):
spot on. This is the straw that broke the camel's back.
You all have had trust issues before. This was the
one thing she couldn't take. What your ex did was
devastating because your ex formed a Facebook page called the Thompsons.
Here's your problem. The girl mama found out about it.
(05:51):
The girl mama found out about see all people on Facebook.
She'd have done it on Vine, Instagram, Stampa never would
have come to life, but you put it on Facebook.
That's why old ask, people ask. So her mama found it.
(06:15):
This is the basis of all your troubles because her
mama didn't just show it to you. Her mama has
showed it to everybody, and it caused you so much
embarrassment and humiliation. Caused your ex that she can't face
the crowd. So now your question is what do I
(06:37):
do when we come back? I got it for you,
but yeah, the words of Marvin Gaye's song to his
ex wife Janets, you were my wife, my flower, my hopes,
my dreams, And for you to understand what this means,
I shall explain I was still all your jealousies, yes,
(06:57):
and you too, but I forget it all once in
bed with you. But old doll, how could we end
up like this? All right? Marvin here, okay, all right,
and Steve sings us out of this, uh this letter
(07:18):
right here, We'll be back with his second response. Let's
recap today's strawberry letter and get to your response. Uh subject.
My ex wife ran my fiance off. This dude's ex wife,
he found out that he was engaged, called him and
told me that she was happy and excited for me.
(07:39):
And my ex said she was happy for me and
wished me well, he said, which was a big life.
A few days later, we talked my ex. A few
days after we talked, his ex wife created a brand
new Facebook page and called it to Thompson's and posted
a bunch of old picks that they win and family
vacation in this dude's fiances mama saw the Facebook page,
(08:04):
showed it to my fiance. His damn mama see her
damn mama in it. This is why you can't get
your girl back, man, because she under the scrutiny her mama.
Look at this on Facebook, Sister Claire Rees see this.
Er Lane hasn't seen it. I can't go know where
everybody has seen this. Hell, this man advancing you like that,
(08:25):
and now your friends and found out about it because
you took it to your friends and your friends have
been commenting on it. Girl, this is new so now
and then you I don't know why you told her
that child talked. I talked to my ex because she
(08:45):
called when everything hit the fan, I told my fiance that, yes,
I talked to my ex because she called me. I
didn't call her. I told my fiance I had no
idea that the Facebook page existed because I don't deal
with my ex at all. Your fiance didn't believe you, man,
so she called my axe. She called your ex, and
(09:05):
your ex gave her ear full of lies. Oh man,
see hit this? Why you dog that man? Hell hath
no fury? Like a woman scorn now this I thought,
Hell hath no fury like a woman. Scoring I really
thought for years until surely told me last year that
that's not a scripture. And then I wanted to have
(09:26):
a meeting with all the theologians and all of them
to see if we could get it put in. You
can't put nothing in the buckle that. I just think
it's if some order being there, why that ain't there there?
And so they told me I couldn't do that, So
I got off of that. So you're so she told
(09:48):
your ex wife said that y'all still in love, that
you try to see her. See he's a key, still
try to see her. If the girl had something you
seeing her, she wouldn't have said you still try to
see her. She just said I got texts, I got pictures,
because you gotta text, somebody gotta picture. You gotta have
(10:11):
phone records. They don't have that on your dog. She
lied and said I still try to see her. And
then we're still in love with each other and we
talk often. Where the phone records. Of course, my fiance
was all confused and didn't know who to bleeve, so
she called off the wedding and we broke up. She
broke up because of that phone call and her damn mama. No, wait,
(10:34):
what her damn mama mama? Man, man all man, now
you over there trying to explain that she's standing behind
her daughter with her own folk, with her lips perched. Yeah, baby,
(10:55):
of course my fiance, my ex, found out about our
breakup and claim she felt awful about it. So she
sent my fiance an email admitting that she lied about
everything and she was sorry that she interfered. My fiance
still don't want to marry me and we barely talk
it on. See, that's crazy, man. Even though my ex
(11:18):
admitted she was lying, I'm still suffering from what she did.
Can you please offer some advice I can get my
lady back. I cannot stand my ex wife for this,
but I'm going to let God deal with her. I
just want my fiance back, all right, dag here you go.
First of all, I want you to take this notion
to her. If she said try to see her, what's
(11:41):
prevented her from seeing her? If she say, y'all still
in love with each other, your ex would see you,
but she didn't. Also, Man, phone records exist. Pull up
your phone records, man, and show you ain't had no
conversations with this woman extensive. So excuse me. See you're
(12:02):
saying he needs proof to show if he has a
physical evidence. Okay, we're trying to get your girl back.
She gonna love the fact that you worked as hard
to research. See a thirty second phone call. You can't
arrange nothing in thirty seconds. That's hey, what you're doing. Hey, look,
I ain't got time. I want to talk to you
to click. See a lot of times they call you
(12:24):
play it off, you understand. So you gotta get your
phone records and then where the text messages. And you
can't arrange nothing, no more on the LOWLO without texting.
You can't do it, though, So get your get your records,
and get to texting. Now. Once you do that, you
gotta present your case. Hey man, you got it, you
(12:46):
got you gotta get on your stomach, even though you
didn't do nothing wrong. You want your girl back. Now,
here's what young dudes don't like to do. I don't
know how old you are, but you've got some kind
of sense because you said I'm gonna let God do
with that. So you got some kind of sens You
got to get to your girl, and you gotta refresh
(13:07):
her memory of what you gotta Michael Jackson, Huh, you
gotta remember the time we fell in love, Remember the
time when we first met girl. You got to get
to Michael Jackson, this girl which to remember on the
phone and the beach? Do you and me? What about?
(13:29):
What about roll that tongue? You got to get it down. Boy. Well,
I'm just gonna throw a little something minute. Okay, what
provided she hasn't moved on already? Oh no, hey, men,
do it? You said that earlier? No, on another Strawberry
(13:49):
letter somewhere else. No fiance, she did not yet? Okay,
not yet? Plug Plus, women get hurt like that, they'd
been a little bit. You know, I've heard did you
guys say the best way to get over someone is
to get under someone else? I've heard that on this show.
You don't repeat what we say. You don't do that
from the guys who do as I say, not as
(14:18):
I do. Evidence. She's out, all right, guys, we gotta
get out of here. You can email us or instagram
us your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
f M. You're listening to the Steve Morning Show.
Okay, it's a doozy. Here we go. Buckle up and
hold on type. We got it for you here. It
is the Strawberry letter. Subject my ex wife ran my
fiance off. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am in a desperate
need of advice. I was here. I was engaged to
be married, but my fiance and I recently split up
(00:20):
after my ex wife caused a whole lot of problems
in our relationship. When when my ex heard I was engaged,
she called me. I told her that I was extremely
happy and excited to get remarried. My ex said that
she was happy for me and wished me met wished
(00:40):
to me well, which was a big lie at never seen.
A few days after we talked, well, listen and get listen.
Keep listening, keep listening. No, not be okay, keep listening.
I'm trying to ignorant, right, I said she was happy
(01:01):
for me and wished me well. Well. It was a
big he said, it was a big lie. A few
days after we talked, this must be will Smith go ahead,
because they had that great relationship all and people sitting
together talking and stuff home. All right, here we go
a few days after we talked, my ex created a
(01:23):
new Facebook page named it the Thompsons and posted a
bunch of old pictures from our wedding and family vacations.
My fiance's mother saw the Facebook page and showed it
to my fiance, and that's when everything hit the fan.
I told my fiance that, yes, I talked to my
ex because she called me, I didn't call her. I
(01:46):
told my fiance that I had no idea that the
Facebook page existed because I don't deal with my ex
wife at all. My fiance didn't believe me, so she
called my ex, and my ex gave her an earful
of lies. She told my fiance that I still try
to see her and that we are still in love
with each other and talk often. Of course, my fiance
(02:10):
was all confused and didn't know who to believe, so
she called off the wedding and we broke up. My
ex found out about her breakup and claimed she felt
awful about it, so she sent my fiance an email
admitting that she lied about everything and she was sorry
that she interfered. My fiance still doesn't want to marry me,
and we barely talk at all now, even though my
(02:32):
ex admitted she was lying. I'm still suffering from what
she did. Can you please offer some advice on how
I can get my lady back. I cannot stand my
ex wife for this, but I'm going to let God
deal with her. I just want my fiance back. Please help. Yeah, yeah,
this is this is this is funky, funky funky right here,
(02:55):
don't I don't like your ex wife. I'm just gonna
put that out there. Don't like her at all. She's
a starter. She's a very negative person. She doesn't care
who she hurts. Yeah, you know what I mean. She
doesn't care how many lives she destroys, how many lives
she tells, she doesn't care. She's cage, she's tricky, all
(03:16):
of that. It's just so wrong on so many levels
what she did. And you're right, you're right. I'm gonna
go with you when you say you're gonna let God
deal with her, because it's not it's not really about her.
It's not really about her. It's just never about it's
not about your X. This is about your most recent X,
(03:39):
your X fiance. Because there was a problem in your relationship.
There had to be some kind of problem on her
part that you didn't know about. In your relationship a
trust issue. How can she let this X just come
out of nowhere? Do all this stuff make her doubt you? Okay,
(04:00):
and do all these things and believe this woman over
you and you guys are making wedding plans here. Okay. Yeah,
she can be confused, but to just throw it all
away over what she said, especially the woman gave her
an email and said she was lying, but she doesn't
know what to believe. I don't know if you're going
to ever get this woman back. I really don't, because
(04:22):
the trust is broken on her part. She doesn't trust
you because your x X did so much damage, and
you know, I mean, I'm sure you've done everything a
man could do to prove to her that this is
not true. You told her you didn't talk to her,
you don't call her, You told her that you told
her the ex called you. You told her all that
she wasn't buying any of it. I guess there was
(04:45):
too much evidence that she saw with the Facebook page
and the pictures and all of that. The problem I
think is with your most recent X fiance excuse me,
and not trusting you, and not knowing what to believe,
not wanting to go further in this relationship. Steve Shirley,
(05:05):
I agree with you one. I think you've hit it
spot on. Yeah, he in trouble, Yeah yeah, yeah. He
washed up here here on the banks here fish that
then got washed up on shore and it's low tide.
He just said he needed water back in desperately because
he died. Yeah, he loved this girl. Shirley is really
(05:26):
spot on. This is the straw that broke the camel's back.
You all have had trust issues before. This was the
one thing she couldn't take. What your ex did was
devastating because your ex formed a Facebook page called the Thompsons.
Here's your problem. The girl mama found out about it.
(05:51):
The girl mama found out about see all people on Facebook.
She'd have done it on Vine, Instagram, Stampa never would
have come to life, but you put it on Facebook.
That's why old ask, people ask. So her mama found it.
(06:15):
This is the basis of all your troubles because her
mama didn't just show it to you. Her mama has
showed it to everybody, and it caused you so much
embarrassment and humiliation. Caused your ex that she can't face
the crowd. So now your question is what do I
(06:37):
do when we come back? I got it for you,
but yeah, the words of Marvin Gaye's song to his
ex wife Janets, you were my wife, my flower, my hopes,
my dreams, And for you to understand what this means,
I shall explain I was still all your jealousies, yes,
(06:57):
and you too, but I forget it all once in
bed with you. But old doll, how could we end
up like this? All right? Marvin here, okay, all right,
and Steve sings us out of this, uh this letter
(07:18):
right here, We'll be back with his second response. Let's
recap today's strawberry letter and get to your response. Uh subject.
My ex wife ran my fiance off. This dude's ex wife,
he found out that he was engaged, called him and
told me that she was happy and excited for me.
(07:39):
And my ex said she was happy for me and
wished me well, he said, which was a big life.
A few days later, we talked my ex. A few
days after we talked, his ex wife created a brand
new Facebook page and called it to Thompson's and posted
a bunch of old picks that they win and family
vacation in this dude's fiances mama saw the Facebook page,
(08:04):
showed it to my fiance. His damn mama see her
damn mama in it. This is why you can't get
your girl back, man, because she under the scrutiny her mama.
Look at this on Facebook, Sister Claire Rees see this.
Er Lane hasn't seen it. I can't go know where
everybody has seen this. Hell, this man advancing you like that,
(08:25):
and now your friends and found out about it because
you took it to your friends and your friends have
been commenting on it. Girl, this is new so now
and then you I don't know why you told her
that child talked. I talked to my ex because she
(08:45):
called when everything hit the fan, I told my fiance that, yes,
I talked to my ex because she called me. I
didn't call her. I told my fiance I had no
idea that the Facebook page existed because I don't deal
with my ex at all. Your fiance didn't believe you, man,
so she called my axe. She called your ex, and
(09:05):
your ex gave her ear full of lies. Oh man,
see hit this? Why you dog that man? Hell hath
no fury? Like a woman scorn now this I thought,
Hell hath no fury like a woman. Scoring I really
thought for years until surely told me last year that
that's not a scripture. And then I wanted to have
(09:26):
a meeting with all the theologians and all of them
to see if we could get it put in. You
can't put nothing in the buckle that. I just think
it's if some order being there, why that ain't there there?
And so they told me I couldn't do that, So
I got off of that. So you're so she told
(09:48):
your ex wife said that y'all still in love, that
you try to see her. See he's a key, still
try to see her. If the girl had something you
seeing her, she wouldn't have said you still try to
see her. She just said I got texts, I got pictures,
because you gotta text, somebody gotta picture. You gotta have
(10:11):
phone records. They don't have that on your dog. She
lied and said I still try to see her. And
then we're still in love with each other and we
talk often. Where the phone records. Of course, my fiance
was all confused and didn't know who to bleeve, so
she called off the wedding and we broke up. She
broke up because of that phone call and her damn mama. No, wait,
(10:34):
what her damn mama mama? Man, man all man, now
you over there trying to explain that she's standing behind
her daughter with her own folk, with her lips perched. Yeah, baby,
(10:55):
of course my fiance, my ex, found out about our
breakup and claim she felt awful about it. So she
sent my fiance an email admitting that she lied about
everything and she was sorry that she interfered. My fiance
still don't want to marry me and we barely talk
it on. See, that's crazy, man. Even though my ex
(11:18):
admitted she was lying, I'm still suffering from what she did.
Can you please offer some advice I can get my
lady back. I cannot stand my ex wife for this,
but I'm going to let God deal with her. I
just want my fiance back, all right, dag here you go.
First of all, I want you to take this notion
to her. If she said try to see her, what's
(11:41):
prevented her from seeing her? If she say, y'all still
in love with each other, your ex would see you,
but she didn't. Also, Man, phone records exist. Pull up
your phone records, man, and show you ain't had no
conversations with this woman extensive. So excuse me. See you're
(12:02):
saying he needs proof to show if he has a
physical evidence. Okay, we're trying to get your girl back.
She gonna love the fact that you worked as hard
to research. See a thirty second phone call. You can't
arrange nothing in thirty seconds. That's hey, what you're doing. Hey, look,
I ain't got time. I want to talk to you
to click. See a lot of times they call you
(12:24):
play it off, you understand. So you gotta get your
phone records and then where the text messages. And you
can't arrange nothing, no more on the LOWLO without texting.
You can't do it, though, So get your get your records,
and get to texting. Now. Once you do that, you
gotta present your case. Hey man, you got it, you
(12:46):
got you gotta get on your stomach, even though you
didn't do nothing wrong. You want your girl back. Now,
here's what young dudes don't like to do. I don't
know how old you are, but you've got some kind
of sense because you said I'm gonna let God do
with that. So you got some kind of sens You
got to get to your girl, and you gotta refresh
(13:07):
her memory of what you gotta Michael Jackson, Huh, you
gotta remember the time we fell in love, Remember the
time when we first met girl. You got to get
to Michael Jackson, this girl which to remember on the
phone and the beach? Do you and me? What about?
(13:29):
What about roll that tongue? You got to get it down. Boy. Well,
I'm just gonna throw a little something minute. Okay, what
provided she hasn't moved on already? Oh no, hey, men,
do it? You said that earlier? No, on another Strawberry
(13:49):
letter somewhere else. No fiance, she did not yet? Okay,
not yet? Plug Plus, women get hurt like that, they'd
been a little bit. You know, I've heard did you
guys say the best way to get over someone is
to get under someone else? I've heard that on this show.
You don't repeat what we say. You don't do that
from the guys who do as I say, not as
(14:18):
I do. Evidence. She's out, all right, guys, we gotta
get out of here. You can email us or instagram
us your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
f M. You're listening to the Steve Morning Show.
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