December 28, 2023 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 32 year old single man and I started a sexual relationship with a female that hangs out with me and my boys. She’s like one of the boys and we party together, work out together and she travels with us on our annual guys’ trip. She is a good friend and we respect her and her sexual preference. We’ve never talked about her love life, but I assumed she never dated a man before. We’ve been friends since middle school and she has always been a pretty girl........................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Well, guys, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and
if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter.
See this, hear this. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to do
this one right here, right now. It could be yours.
(00:23):
You never know. All right, ladies and gentlemen, it's time
for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend Shirley straw Perry.
Thank you my good friends. Junior subject one of my
homies is my side piece. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a
thirty two year old single man and I started a
sexual relationship with a female that hangs out with me
(00:44):
and my boys. She's like one of the boys, and
we party together, work out together, and she travels with
us on our annual guys trips. She is a good
friend and we respect her and her sexual preference. We've
never talked about her love life, but I assume she
never dated a man before. We've been friends since middle
school and she has always been a pretty girl. She's
(01:08):
tall with nice legs, a six pack, and pretty feet.
She's a woman by all means, but she hangs out
with all of us dudes. Four months ago, we all
went to a strip club and we were popping bottles
in our VIP section all night. I was a little
more intoxicated than she was, so she was my designated
(01:29):
driver for the night. She crashed on my couch like
she's done so many of the times before. I went
to bed, but in my drunken state, I could not
stop thinking about how pretty she was lying on my couch,
and I imagined how soft her big breaths were.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
What.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I got up and offered her my bed. She said
she would come to my bed only if I stayed
in it. Two she got up and started taking her
clothes off and walked into my bedroom. The rest is history.
I wanted to be sure we did not have sex
just because we were drunk, so I tried it again
(02:10):
the next morning, and she was with it. We have
been secretly having sex for three months because she has
a girlfriend and we're not sure how our other friends
will react. I don't want her. I don't want to
be her secret side piece anymore. Should I have a
talk with her and see where she stands on dating
a man, or control my feelings and enjoy the great sex. Wow,
(02:37):
the great sex.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
He said.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Hmm, okay, I think you know you like her way
more than a friend. Now, otherwise you wouldn't care if
she remained a secret or not. You know, for this reason,
you've got to talk to her, and if she feels
the same way, she's going to have to tell her
girlfriend at some point point. What's hard to believe is
(03:02):
that for three months, you guys haven't talked about it
at all, not at all. I mean that could mean
two things. Either she likes things status quo or she's
waiting for you to make the first move. You, on
the other hand, don't want to cut off the great
sex by saying anything that could rock the boat. You
don't want to be the secret side piece anymore, you say,
(03:24):
But you're making the sacrifice for the great sex. Okay,
But it's time. It is time. Now it's been three
months or ninety days, and you know how we feel
about ninety days around here. Steve taught us all about
the ninety day rule. Okay, so again I say it's time.
(03:45):
It's risky, you know, but if you really want her,
Go ahead and shoot your shot. I mean you got
to jump in the deep end. That's the only way
you're going to find out how she really feels about you.
Is it more than a secret side Pece? And what
is it going to be after that?
Speaker 3 (04:02):
Steve, let's go.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
It's thirty two year old dude, got this woman that's
been one of the guys for so long ago on
all the guy trips, hang out with the dudes, they
go to strip club, they get drunk, she's the designated driver.
They drive home and next thing you know, he's laying
in bed drunk thinking about her breast. And so he
(04:28):
gets up and she's sleeping on the couch like she's
done many times. He offers her.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
The bed.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
She said she'd take the bed only if he stayed
in it. This is all we need to know, and
this is all he was hoping for. Now he was
laying at couldn't stop thinking about how pretty she was
laying on the couch.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
He's some attractive girl. Now remember now she got tall, she.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Got nice legs, six pack, pretty feet, I got your dog.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
I'm in.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I'm in tall, pretty, nice feet, six pack. You could
just be tall and pretty with the feet. You don't
really need a six pack for me because wall.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Hell, I don't help. I've learned in my life. I've
learned in my life.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You know, they don't need to ask them somebody to
do something you ain't gonna do, you know.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
So here we go.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Now, she started taking her clothes off and walked into
your bedroom, and the rest is history.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
I wanted to make sure we did.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Not have sex just because we was drunk, so I
tried it again the next morning, and Lord have mercy,
she was with it. Yeah. We have been secretly having
sex for three months because she has a girlfriend, and
(06:16):
we're not sure how our other friends will react.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
So Shirley right there. They have discussed it to a degree.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Yeah, how the other friends will react if they knew it? Now,
the problem we got now is he wants more. And
when we come back, I'm gonna tell you what your
options are.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Dog.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Subject of today's letter, one of my homies is my
side piece. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, come on
Steve Let's recap Today's Strawberry Letter, subject to one of
(07:00):
my homies is my side piece.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well, this guy's been friends with this girl for a
number of years, since middle school. She's very pretty, tall,
nice leg, six packs, pretty feet, but she has relationship
she assumes with just women, and so she's days. But
she's best been one of the guys traveling with him. Well,
they all went to a strip club one time, they
(07:23):
popping bottles in the VIP section.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
He went upstairs to bed.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
She slept on the couch like she has done many times,
but in this drunken state, he claims, he could not
stop thinking of how pretty she was laying on the
couch and was imagining what her big, pretty breast would
be like. Well, I don't you can't just lay as
she downstairs. So he got up, went downstairs and offered
(07:49):
her the bed. She said she would take the bed
only if he stayed in it.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Lord Lord heimber.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Let the church say Amen, Hallelujah, glow red. So she
takes her clothes off and she walks into the bedroom.
I can only imagine what he's thinking, Oh, my lord,
And they did it so to make sure that they
(08:22):
wasn't because they was drunk. He tried it again.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
The next morning, she was with it again.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Now they've been secretly having sex for three months now
because she has a girlfriend and we're not sure how
other friends will react, which I'm telling you now means
that they've discussed what they would think if the other
friends found out. Now here's dude's problem. I don't want
to be her secret side piece anymore. That's going on
(08:52):
the past three months been good? All this side he's saying,
ain't working for me. No more.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Man needs to go public.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Now should I have a talk with her and see
where she stands on dating a man or control my
feelings and enjoy the great sex?
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Well, here we go. I'm glad you called me.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
See, as far as I'm concerned with that proposal that
you're putting forward, you have absolutely nothing to lose.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Let's say you ask her how she feels.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
The only thing you have to be prepared for is
for the answer. So you want to go to her
and say you want to see if you want to
have to talk with her and see where she stands
on dating a man, or control your feelings and enjoy
the great sex. Now supposed she says she prefers women.
What you have to be prepared for that, yep, because
(09:48):
she may say I prefer women, which puts you right
back where you at.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Now.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
She gonna keep her girl for any of y'all just
gonna have great sex. Tada what this imagine show? Everybody
gets somebody this. You reach in the hat, you get
a rabbit. You reach in the hat, you get a rabbit.
You get a rabbit. Everybody get a damn rabbit out
of this trick. So now I don't see what the
(10:15):
problem is. And she may just want you to remain
on the side, which again makes you the side peace.
But you want more. And now the part that you
didn't mention. And if I was you, I wouldn't worry
about how your friends would react, cause I got news
(10:37):
for you. I promise you, I'll give you my word.
All of them then thought the same thingt it. Every
last one of them know she got nice legs, pretty feet,
six packs, she pretty all of them know that.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
They just been trying to play the game. Because y'all
thirty two, y'all young.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
I'd have been an ass or something time ago. Hey,
I know how you roll, but we we I mean,
we're good with that. I'm gonna share something with you.
All way way back my early thirties. M I've been
(11:16):
in love with four people who had other who were
you know, females who like females, and probably four.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
And well it's no big deal. It ain't really nothing.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
I just you know, they asked me how I felt
about it, and I told them that I was a
lesbian two that I preferred other women myself, and that's
how I try to get around it worked.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
It didn't work. They laughed.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
They thought it was a very cute joke, but but I.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
Was so dead serious.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
And I told them they could refer to me that
way if they wanted my goodness.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
So you know, it didn't work out. They were gorgeous. Uh.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
One of them had a girlfriend who was more masculine,
and she approached me one time and said she don't
appreciate that, and if I don't step off, she gonna
do something to me. And well, she looked like she
could whoop my ass. So I said, okay, I stepped off. Okay,
(12:31):
it didn't look like I was gonna be able to
whoop her, so I stepped off.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
You know, I mean, why we ain't got to fight
over this here. I ain't that.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Well. It was not gonna be a fight right here
because it didn't look like a win for me because
she say leave it like it is, then we right
back where we had. He ain't worried about that.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
He will. He don't want to be the side peace,
no motion, All right, take us out.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Thank you. Steve. Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter
and Steve ParvE them on Instagram and Facebook. Check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. You're listening to The
Harvey Morning Show.
Well, guys, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and
if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter.
See this, hear this. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to do
this one right here, right now. It could be yours.
(00:23):
You never know. All right, ladies and gentlemen, it's time
for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend Shirley straw Perry.
Thank you my good friends. Junior subject one of my
homies is my side piece. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a
thirty two year old single man and I started a
sexual relationship with a female that hangs out with me
(00:44):
and my boys. She's like one of the boys, and
we party together, work out together, and she travels with
us on our annual guys trips. She is a good
friend and we respect her and her sexual preference. We've
never talked about her love life, but I assume she
never dated a man before. We've been friends since middle
school and she has always been a pretty girl. She's
(01:08):
tall with nice legs, a six pack, and pretty feet.
She's a woman by all means, but she hangs out
with all of us dudes. Four months ago, we all
went to a strip club and we were popping bottles
in our VIP section all night. I was a little
more intoxicated than she was, so she was my designated
(01:29):
driver for the night. She crashed on my couch like
she's done so many of the times before. I went
to bed, but in my drunken state, I could not
stop thinking about how pretty she was lying on my couch,
and I imagined how soft her big breaths were.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
What.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
I got up and offered her my bed. She said
she would come to my bed only if I stayed
in it. Two she got up and started taking her
clothes off and walked into my bedroom. The rest is history.
I wanted to be sure we did not have sex
just because we were drunk, so I tried it again
(02:10):
the next morning, and she was with it. We have
been secretly having sex for three months because she has
a girlfriend and we're not sure how our other friends
will react. I don't want her. I don't want to
be her secret side piece anymore. Should I have a
talk with her and see where she stands on dating
a man, or control my feelings and enjoy the great sex. Wow,
(02:37):
the great sex.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
He said.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Hmm, okay, I think you know you like her way
more than a friend. Now, otherwise you wouldn't care if
she remained a secret or not. You know, for this reason,
you've got to talk to her, and if she feels
the same way, she's going to have to tell her
girlfriend at some point point. What's hard to believe is
(03:02):
that for three months, you guys haven't talked about it
at all, not at all. I mean that could mean
two things. Either she likes things status quo or she's
waiting for you to make the first move. You, on
the other hand, don't want to cut off the great
sex by saying anything that could rock the boat. You
don't want to be the secret side piece anymore, you say,
(03:24):
But you're making the sacrifice for the great sex. Okay,
But it's time. It is time. Now it's been three
months or ninety days, and you know how we feel
about ninety days around here. Steve taught us all about
the ninety day rule. Okay, so again I say it's time.
(03:45):
It's risky, you know, but if you really want her,
Go ahead and shoot your shot. I mean you got
to jump in the deep end. That's the only way
you're going to find out how she really feels about you.
Is it more than a secret side Pece? And what
is it going to be after that?
Speaker 3 (04:02):
Steve, let's go.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
It's thirty two year old dude, got this woman that's
been one of the guys for so long ago on
all the guy trips, hang out with the dudes, they
go to strip club, they get drunk, she's the designated driver.
They drive home and next thing you know, he's laying
in bed drunk thinking about her breast. And so he
(04:28):
gets up and she's sleeping on the couch like she's
done many times. He offers her.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
The bed.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
She said she'd take the bed only if he stayed
in it. This is all we need to know, and
this is all he was hoping for. Now he was
laying at couldn't stop thinking about how pretty she was
laying on the couch.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
He's some attractive girl. Now remember now she got tall, she.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Got nice legs, six pack, pretty feet, I got your dog.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
I'm in.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I'm in tall, pretty, nice feet, six pack. You could
just be tall and pretty with the feet. You don't
really need a six pack for me because wall.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Hell, I don't help. I've learned in my life. I've
learned in my life.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You know, they don't need to ask them somebody to
do something you ain't gonna do, you know.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
So here we go.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Now, she started taking her clothes off and walked into
your bedroom, and the rest is history.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
I wanted to make sure we did.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Not have sex just because we was drunk, so I
tried it again the next morning, and Lord have mercy,
she was with it. Yeah. We have been secretly having
sex for three months because she has a girlfriend, and
(06:16):
we're not sure how our other friends will react.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
So Shirley right there. They have discussed it to a degree.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Yeah, how the other friends will react if they knew it? Now,
the problem we got now is he wants more. And
when we come back, I'm gonna tell you what your
options are.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Dog.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Subject of today's letter, one of my homies is my
side piece. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, come on
Steve Let's recap Today's Strawberry Letter, subject to one of
(07:00):
my homies is my side piece.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well, this guy's been friends with this girl for a
number of years, since middle school. She's very pretty, tall,
nice leg, six packs, pretty feet, but she has relationship
she assumes with just women, and so she's days. But
she's best been one of the guys traveling with him. Well,
they all went to a strip club one time, they
(07:23):
popping bottles in the VIP section.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
He went upstairs to bed.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
She slept on the couch like she has done many times,
but in this drunken state, he claims, he could not
stop thinking of how pretty she was laying on the
couch and was imagining what her big, pretty breast would
be like. Well, I don't you can't just lay as
she downstairs. So he got up, went downstairs and offered
(07:49):
her the bed. She said she would take the bed
only if he stayed in it.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Lord Lord heimber.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Let the church say Amen, Hallelujah, glow red. So she
takes her clothes off and she walks into the bedroom.
I can only imagine what he's thinking, Oh, my lord,
And they did it so to make sure that they
(08:22):
wasn't because they was drunk. He tried it again.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
The next morning, she was with it again.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Now they've been secretly having sex for three months now
because she has a girlfriend and we're not sure how
other friends will react, which I'm telling you now means
that they've discussed what they would think if the other
friends found out. Now here's dude's problem. I don't want
to be her secret side piece anymore. That's going on
(08:52):
the past three months been good? All this side he's saying,
ain't working for me. No more.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Man needs to go public.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Now should I have a talk with her and see
where she stands on dating a man or control my
feelings and enjoy the great sex?
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Well, here we go. I'm glad you called me.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
See, as far as I'm concerned with that proposal that
you're putting forward, you have absolutely nothing to lose.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Let's say you ask her how she feels.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
The only thing you have to be prepared for is
for the answer. So you want to go to her
and say you want to see if you want to
have to talk with her and see where she stands
on dating a man, or control your feelings and enjoy
the great sex. Now supposed she says she prefers women.
What you have to be prepared for that, yep, because
(09:48):
she may say I prefer women, which puts you right
back where you at.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Now.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
She gonna keep her girl for any of y'all just
gonna have great sex. Tada what this imagine show? Everybody
gets somebody this. You reach in the hat, you get
a rabbit. You reach in the hat, you get a rabbit.
You get a rabbit. Everybody get a damn rabbit out
of this trick. So now I don't see what the
(10:15):
problem is. And she may just want you to remain
on the side, which again makes you the side peace.
But you want more. And now the part that you
didn't mention. And if I was you, I wouldn't worry
about how your friends would react, cause I got news
(10:37):
for you. I promise you, I'll give you my word.
All of them then thought the same thingt it. Every
last one of them know she got nice legs, pretty feet,
six packs, she pretty all of them know that.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
They just been trying to play the game. Because y'all
thirty two, y'all young.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
I'd have been an ass or something time ago. Hey,
I know how you roll, but we we I mean,
we're good with that. I'm gonna share something with you.
All way way back my early thirties. M I've been
(11:16):
in love with four people who had other who were
you know, females who like females, and probably four.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
And well it's no big deal. It ain't really nothing.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
I just you know, they asked me how I felt
about it, and I told them that I was a
lesbian two that I preferred other women myself, and that's
how I try to get around it worked.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
It didn't work. They laughed.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
They thought it was a very cute joke, but but I.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
Was so dead serious.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
And I told them they could refer to me that
way if they wanted my goodness.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
So you know, it didn't work out. They were gorgeous. Uh.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
One of them had a girlfriend who was more masculine,
and she approached me one time and said she don't
appreciate that, and if I don't step off, she gonna
do something to me. And well, she looked like she
could whoop my ass. So I said, okay, I stepped off. Okay,
(12:31):
it didn't look like I was gonna be able to
whoop her, so I stepped off.
Speaker 3 (12:34):
You know, I mean, why we ain't got to fight
over this here. I ain't that.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Well. It was not gonna be a fight right here
because it didn't look like a win for me because
she say leave it like it is, then we right
back where we had. He ain't worried about that.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
He will. He don't want to be the side peace,
no motion, All right, take us out.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Thank you. Steve. Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter
and Steve ParvE them on Instagram and Facebook. Check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. You're listening to The
Harvey Morning Show.
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