June 16, 2021 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 32 year old single man and I started a sexual relationship with a female that hangs out with me and my boys. She’s like one of the boys and we party together, work out together and she travels with us on our annual guys’ trip. She is a good friend and we respect her and her sexual preference. We’ve never talked about her love life, but I assumed she never dated a man before. We’ve been friends since middle school and she has always been a pretty girl........................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Well, guys, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And
if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letters see this here this so we could be
reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
gonna do this one right here, right now. It could
(00:22):
be yours. You never know. All right, ladies and gentlemen,
it's time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend Shirley. Stay.
Thank you my good friend Junior subject one of my
homies is my side piece. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a
thirty two year old single man and I started a
sexual relationship with a female that hangs out with me
(00:43):
and my boys. She's like one of the boys, and
we party together, work out together, and she travels with
us on our annual guys trips. She is a good
friend and we respect her and her sexual preference. We've
never talked about her love life, but I assume she
ever dated a man before. We've been friends since middle
school and she has always been a pretty girl. She's tall,
(01:08):
with nice legs, a six pack and pretty feet. She's
a woman by all means, but she hangs out with
all of us dudes. Four months ago, we all went
to a strip club and we were popping bottles in
our VIP section all night. I was a little more
intoxicated than she was, so she was my designated driver
(01:29):
for the night. She crashed on my couch like she's
done so many other times before. I went to bed,
but in my drunken state, I could not stop thinking
about how pretty she was lying on my couch, and
I imagined how soft her big breaths were. What. I
got up and offered her my bed. She said she
(01:51):
would come to my bed only if I stayed in
it too. She got up and started taking her clothes
off and walked into my bedroom. The rest is history.
I wanted to be sure we did not have sex
just because we were drunk, so I tried it again
the next morning, and she was with it. We have
(02:13):
been secretly having sex for three months because she has
a girlfriend and we're not sure how our other friends
will react. I don't want her, I don't want to
be her secret side piece anymore. Should I have a
talk with her and see where she stands on dating
a man or control my feelings and enjoy the great sex. Wow,
(02:37):
the great sex, he said. Okay, I think you know
you like her way more than a friend. Now, otherwise
you wouldn't care if she remained a secret or not.
You know, for this reason, you've got to talk to her,
and if she feels the same way, she's gonna have
(02:58):
to tell her girlfriend at some point. What's hard to
believe is that for three months, you guys haven't talked
about it at all. Not at all. I mean that
could mean two things. Either she likes things status quo
or she's waiting for you to make the first move. You,
on the other hand, don't want to cut off the
great sex by saying anything that could rock the boat.
(03:21):
You don't want to be the secret side piece anymore,
you say, But you're making the sacrifice for the great sex. Okay,
but it's time. It is time. Now it's been three
months or ninety days, and you know how we feel
about ninety days around here. Steve taught us all about
the ninety day rule. Okay, so again I say it's time.
(03:45):
It's risky, you know, but if you really want her,
go ahead and shoot your shot. I mean, you got
to jump in the deep end. That's the only way
you're going to find out how she really feels about you.
Is it more than a secret side piece? What is
it going to be after that? Steve, let's go thirty
(04:07):
two year old dude. Got this woman that's been one
of the guys for so long, going all the guy trips,
hang out with the dudes, they go to strip club,
they get drunk, she's the designated driver. They drive home
and next thing you know, he's laying in bed drunk
thinking about her breast. And so he gets up and
(04:29):
she's sleeping on the couch like she's done many times.
He offers her the bed. She said she'd take the
bed only if he stayed in it. This is all
we need to know, and this is all he was
(04:52):
hoping for. Now he was laying that couldn't to stop
thinking about how pretty she was laying on the couch.
She's in t active girl. Now remember now she got tall,
she got nice legs, six pack, pretty feet. I got
your dog. I'm here, I'm tall, pretty, nice feet, six pack.
(05:17):
You could just be tall and pretty with defeat. You
don't really need a six pack for me. Because well, Hell,
I don't. Hell, I've learned in my life. I've learned
in my life. You know, they don't need to ask
him somebody to do something you ain't gonna do, you know.
So here we go. Now, she started taking her clothes
(05:42):
off and walked into your bedroom, and the restless history.
I wanted to make sure we did not have sex
just because we was drunk, So I tried it again
the next morning, and lord ha mercy, she was with him. Yeah,
(06:02):
we have been secretly having sex for three months because
she has a girlfriend. And we're not sure how our
other friends will react. So Shirley right there. They have
(06:23):
discussed it to a degree. Yes, how the other friends
will react if they knew it. Now, the problem we
got now is he wants more. And when we come back,
I'm gonna tell you what your options are. Dog. All right,
thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of your response
(06:43):
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject
of today's letter, one of my homies is my side piece.
Will get back into it right after this. You're listening,
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
Subject one of my homies is my side piece. Well,
this guy's been friends with this girl for a number
(07:05):
of years, since middle school. She's very pretty, tall, nice legs,
six packs, pretty feet. But she saw it has relationship,
he assumes with jess women, and so she's days because
she's best been one of the guys traveling with him. Well,
they all went to a strip club one time, they
popping bottles in the VIP section. He had a little
bit more than he should have had to drink. She
(07:28):
was just designated driver. She drove him home. He went
upstairs to bed. She slept on the couch like she
has done many times, but in this drunken state, he claims,
he could not stop thinking of how pretty she was
laying on the couch and was imagining what her big,
pretty breast would be like. Well, I don't you can't
(07:49):
just lay there? She downstairs. So he got up, went
downstairs and offered her the bed. She said she would
take the bed only if he stayed in it. Lord,
Lord Himmers, let the church say a man, Hallelujah glory.
(08:12):
So she takes her clothes off and she walks into
the bedroom. I can only imagine what he's thinking, Oh,
my lord, and they did it so to make sure
that they wasn't because they was drunk. He tried it again.
The next morning she was with it again. Now they've
(08:33):
been secretly having sex for three months now because she
has a girlfriend and we're not sure how other friends
will react, which I'm telling you now means that they've
discussed what they would think if the other friends found out.
Now here dude's problem. I don't want to be her
secret side piece anymore. This that's going on in the
(08:56):
past three months been good. Yeah, he's thing ain't working
for me no more. Man, we needs to go public. Now.
Should I have a talk with her and see where
she stands on dating a man or control my feelings
and enjoy the great sex? Well, here we go. I'm
(09:17):
glad you called me. See, as far as I'm concerned
with that proposal that you're putting forward, you have absolutely
nothing to lose. Let's say you ask her how she feels.
The only thing you have to be prepared for is
for the answer. So you want to go to her
and say you want to see if you want to
(09:39):
talk with her and see where she stands on dating
a man, or control your feelings and enjoy the great sex.
Now supposed she says she prefers women. What you have
to be prepared for that, because she may say I
prefer women, which puts you right back where you at.
Now she's gonna keep her girl for any are just
(10:00):
gonna hear a great sex? What? This is a magic show.
Everybody gets something out of this. You reach you in
the hat, you get a rabbit. You reach you in
the hat, you get a rabbit. You get a rabbit.
You get everybody get a damn rabbit out of this trick.
So now I don't see what the problem is. And
(10:20):
she may just want you to remain on the side,
which again makes you the side piece. But you want more.
And now the part that you didn't mention. And if
I was you, I wouldn't worry about how your friends
would react, because I got news for you. I promise you,
(10:42):
I give you my word. All of them and thought
the same thing. Every last one of them know she
got nice legs, pretty feat six package, sheep pretty all
of them know that they've just been trying to play
the game. Because y'all thirty two, y'all young, I'd have
been an ass to something long time ago. Hey, I
(11:05):
know how you roll. But we we, I mean, we're
good with that. I'm gonna share something with you. All
way way back my early thirties, I've been in love
with four people who had other who were you know,
females who like females and probably foulk and this, well
(11:34):
it's no big deal. There ain't really nothing. I just
you know. They asked me how I felt about it,
and I told them that I was a lasbian too,
that I preferred other women myself, and that's how I
would try to get around. He didn't work. They laughed,
they thought it was very cute joke, but but I
(11:55):
was so dead serious, and I told him they could
refle heard to me that way if they wanted to,
so you know, it didn't work out. They were gorgeous. Uh.
One of them had a girlfriend who was more masculine,
and she approached me one time and said she don't
(12:18):
appreciate that, and if I don't step off, she gonna
do something to me. And uh, well she looked like
she could whoop my ass. So I said, okay, I
stepped off. Okay, it didn't look like I was gonna
be a whoop us, So I stepped off. You know
what I mean. Why we ain't got to fight over
this hit? I ain't that See, it's no stories fighting. Well,
(12:42):
it was not gonna be a fight right here because
it didn't look like a win for me. Because if
she say leave it like it is, then we right
back where we had. He worried about that. He will.
He don't want to be a side piece, no most shit.
All right, take us out, Thank you, Steve Poster comments
on Today's Rberry Letter and Steve Harvey FM on Instagram
and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
(13:05):
Junior Sports Talk coming up at forty six minutes after.
Right after this, you're listening to this Dame Harvey Morning
Show
Well, guys, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And
if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letters see this here this so we could be
reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
gonna do this one right here, right now. It could
(00:22):
be yours. You never know. All right, ladies and gentlemen,
it's time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend Shirley. Stay.
Thank you my good friend Junior subject one of my
homies is my side piece. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a
thirty two year old single man and I started a
sexual relationship with a female that hangs out with me
(00:43):
and my boys. She's like one of the boys, and
we party together, work out together, and she travels with
us on our annual guys trips. She is a good
friend and we respect her and her sexual preference. We've
never talked about her love life, but I assume she
ever dated a man before. We've been friends since middle
school and she has always been a pretty girl. She's tall,
(01:08):
with nice legs, a six pack and pretty feet. She's
a woman by all means, but she hangs out with
all of us dudes. Four months ago, we all went
to a strip club and we were popping bottles in
our VIP section all night. I was a little more
intoxicated than she was, so she was my designated driver
(01:29):
for the night. She crashed on my couch like she's
done so many other times before. I went to bed,
but in my drunken state, I could not stop thinking
about how pretty she was lying on my couch, and
I imagined how soft her big breaths were. What. I
got up and offered her my bed. She said she
(01:51):
would come to my bed only if I stayed in
it too. She got up and started taking her clothes
off and walked into my bedroom. The rest is history.
I wanted to be sure we did not have sex
just because we were drunk, so I tried it again
the next morning, and she was with it. We have
(02:13):
been secretly having sex for three months because she has
a girlfriend and we're not sure how our other friends
will react. I don't want her, I don't want to
be her secret side piece anymore. Should I have a
talk with her and see where she stands on dating
a man or control my feelings and enjoy the great sex. Wow,
(02:37):
the great sex, he said. Okay, I think you know
you like her way more than a friend. Now, otherwise
you wouldn't care if she remained a secret or not.
You know, for this reason, you've got to talk to her,
and if she feels the same way, she's gonna have
(02:58):
to tell her girlfriend at some point. What's hard to
believe is that for three months, you guys haven't talked
about it at all. Not at all. I mean that
could mean two things. Either she likes things status quo
or she's waiting for you to make the first move. You,
on the other hand, don't want to cut off the
great sex by saying anything that could rock the boat.
(03:21):
You don't want to be the secret side piece anymore,
you say, But you're making the sacrifice for the great sex. Okay,
but it's time. It is time. Now it's been three
months or ninety days, and you know how we feel
about ninety days around here. Steve taught us all about
the ninety day rule. Okay, so again I say it's time.
(03:45):
It's risky, you know, but if you really want her,
go ahead and shoot your shot. I mean, you got
to jump in the deep end. That's the only way
you're going to find out how she really feels about you.
Is it more than a secret side piece? What is
it going to be after that? Steve, let's go thirty
(04:07):
two year old dude. Got this woman that's been one
of the guys for so long, going all the guy trips,
hang out with the dudes, they go to strip club,
they get drunk, she's the designated driver. They drive home
and next thing you know, he's laying in bed drunk
thinking about her breast. And so he gets up and
(04:29):
she's sleeping on the couch like she's done many times.
He offers her the bed. She said she'd take the
bed only if he stayed in it. This is all
we need to know, and this is all he was
(04:52):
hoping for. Now he was laying that couldn't to stop
thinking about how pretty she was laying on the couch.
She's in t active girl. Now remember now she got tall,
she got nice legs, six pack, pretty feet. I got
your dog. I'm here, I'm tall, pretty, nice feet, six pack.
(05:17):
You could just be tall and pretty with defeat. You
don't really need a six pack for me. Because well, Hell,
I don't. Hell, I've learned in my life. I've learned
in my life. You know, they don't need to ask
him somebody to do something you ain't gonna do, you know.
So here we go. Now, she started taking her clothes
(05:42):
off and walked into your bedroom, and the restless history.
I wanted to make sure we did not have sex
just because we was drunk, So I tried it again
the next morning, and lord ha mercy, she was with him. Yeah,
(06:02):
we have been secretly having sex for three months because
she has a girlfriend. And we're not sure how our
other friends will react. So Shirley right there. They have
(06:23):
discussed it to a degree. Yes, how the other friends
will react if they knew it. Now, the problem we
got now is he wants more. And when we come back,
I'm gonna tell you what your options are. Dog. All right,
thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of your response
(06:43):
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject
of today's letter, one of my homies is my side piece.
Will get back into it right after this. You're listening,
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
Subject one of my homies is my side piece. Well,
this guy's been friends with this girl for a number
(07:05):
of years, since middle school. She's very pretty, tall, nice legs,
six packs, pretty feet. But she saw it has relationship,
he assumes with jess women, and so she's days because
she's best been one of the guys traveling with him. Well,
they all went to a strip club one time, they
popping bottles in the VIP section. He had a little
bit more than he should have had to drink. She
(07:28):
was just designated driver. She drove him home. He went
upstairs to bed. She slept on the couch like she
has done many times, but in this drunken state, he claims,
he could not stop thinking of how pretty she was
laying on the couch and was imagining what her big,
pretty breast would be like. Well, I don't you can't
(07:49):
just lay there? She downstairs. So he got up, went
downstairs and offered her the bed. She said she would
take the bed only if he stayed in it. Lord,
Lord Himmers, let the church say a man, Hallelujah glory.
(08:12):
So she takes her clothes off and she walks into
the bedroom. I can only imagine what he's thinking, Oh,
my lord, and they did it so to make sure
that they wasn't because they was drunk. He tried it again.
The next morning she was with it again. Now they've
(08:33):
been secretly having sex for three months now because she
has a girlfriend and we're not sure how other friends
will react, which I'm telling you now means that they've
discussed what they would think if the other friends found out.
Now here dude's problem. I don't want to be her
secret side piece anymore. This that's going on in the
(08:56):
past three months been good. Yeah, he's thing ain't working
for me no more. Man, we needs to go public. Now.
Should I have a talk with her and see where
she stands on dating a man or control my feelings
and enjoy the great sex? Well, here we go. I'm
(09:17):
glad you called me. See, as far as I'm concerned
with that proposal that you're putting forward, you have absolutely
nothing to lose. Let's say you ask her how she feels.
The only thing you have to be prepared for is
for the answer. So you want to go to her
and say you want to see if you want to
(09:39):
talk with her and see where she stands on dating
a man, or control your feelings and enjoy the great sex.
Now supposed she says she prefers women. What you have
to be prepared for that, because she may say I
prefer women, which puts you right back where you at.
Now she's gonna keep her girl for any are just
(10:00):
gonna hear a great sex? What? This is a magic show.
Everybody gets something out of this. You reach you in
the hat, you get a rabbit. You reach you in
the hat, you get a rabbit. You get a rabbit.
You get everybody get a damn rabbit out of this trick.
So now I don't see what the problem is. And
(10:20):
she may just want you to remain on the side,
which again makes you the side piece. But you want more.
And now the part that you didn't mention. And if
I was you, I wouldn't worry about how your friends
would react, because I got news for you. I promise you,
(10:42):
I give you my word. All of them and thought
the same thing. Every last one of them know she
got nice legs, pretty feat six package, sheep pretty all
of them know that they've just been trying to play
the game. Because y'all thirty two, y'all young, I'd have
been an ass to something long time ago. Hey, I
(11:05):
know how you roll. But we we, I mean, we're
good with that. I'm gonna share something with you. All
way way back my early thirties, I've been in love
with four people who had other who were you know,
females who like females and probably foulk and this, well
(11:34):
it's no big deal. There ain't really nothing. I just
you know. They asked me how I felt about it,
and I told them that I was a lasbian too,
that I preferred other women myself, and that's how I
would try to get around. He didn't work. They laughed,
they thought it was very cute joke, but but I
(11:55):
was so dead serious, and I told him they could
refle heard to me that way if they wanted to,
so you know, it didn't work out. They were gorgeous. Uh.
One of them had a girlfriend who was more masculine,
and she approached me one time and said she don't
(12:18):
appreciate that, and if I don't step off, she gonna
do something to me. And uh, well she looked like
she could whoop my ass. So I said, okay, I
stepped off. Okay, it didn't look like I was gonna
be a whoop us, So I stepped off. You know
what I mean. Why we ain't got to fight over
this hit? I ain't that See, it's no stories fighting. Well,
(12:42):
it was not gonna be a fight right here because
it didn't look like a win for me. Because if
she say leave it like it is, then we right
back where we had. He worried about that. He will.
He don't want to be a side piece, no most shit.
All right, take us out, Thank you, Steve Poster comments
on Today's Rberry Letter and Steve Harvey FM on Instagram
and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
(13:05):
Junior Sports Talk coming up at forty six minutes after.
Right after this, you're listening to this Dame Harvey Morning
Show
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