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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. How we could be reading your
letter on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now. You never know, it
could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
You never know.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
it you here it is Proudberry Letter. Thank you. Nephew's
subject my husband found the wrong gift. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I've been married to an interesting man for nineteen years
and we have a daughter that's a freshman in college.
He works two jobs by choice because he gives my
daughter any and everything she asks for. He stops spoiling
(00:43):
me years ago, and I'm jealous. Since he works a lot,
I have plenty of time alone. It's true that an
idle mind is the devil's workshop. And out of sheer boredom,
I started flirting with an old acquaintance on Facebook. He
knows I'm married and he's MAO. So we both are
bored and wanted someone else to talk to. He asked
(01:04):
me where I worked, and I told him, but I
didn't mention that I'm working remotely right now. This past Friday,
he dropped a small red box off at my office,
and the receptionist called me to come pick it up.
She said, quote, a man that's not your husband dropped
off something for you that was nothing butt shade. But
I went right up to my office and got my gift.
(01:27):
The box contained some small red lingerie and one hundred
dollars cash with a sweet card. When I got home,
I slid the box under my bed. When my husband
came home, I was in bed. He was getting undressed
and he took his wedding band off and it rolled
under the bed. He saw the box and looked at me, smiling.
(01:47):
He opened it and started getting giddy. He thought it
was his Valentine's present. So I had to play it
off and put the lingerie on. It was way too
small for me, and it almost cut my circulation off.
I couldn't wait for him to rip it off. I
had to go through two rounds of bad sex. But
he was so happy. I want my hundred dollars back,
and I want to tell him another man gave me
(02:09):
that gift because he sent our daughter flowers for Valentine's
and he didn't give me any. Should I tell him
just to make him jealous? No, you should not, and
especially you shouldn't be jealous of your daughter. I mean,
you know, making him think that the gift was for
him was the only option you had at the time,
because that could have gotten really ugly, but not as
(02:32):
ugly as it already is. I mean, I'm surprised you're
still sleeping with him. You have so much, so many
complaints about him. You stayed in there for not one,
but two rounds of bad sex, you say, so, so
how long are you going to put up with that?
You got nothing for Valentine's Day, but he got the money,
the sexy undies, and he got sex with you twice.
(02:52):
You said he stopped spoiling you years ago. You did
not tell us why why did that stop? I mean,
other than he's working two jobs. Now you're thinking it's
to spoil your daughter, and you're jealous of that. He's
not married to his daughter. He's married to you, and
the idea that you're no longer number one in his
life should be unacceptable to you. You left a lot
(03:14):
out in this letter. You guys have grown very far apart.
Now you're thinking about cheating with someone from your past
that you met off Facebook. I mean, that's not going
to solve your marital issues. You're looking for attention. Your
husband sounds coolest to your needs as far as that's concerned,
and that has to change because your marriage is already
(03:35):
in trouble you're thinking about. I know you say you
want someone to talk to, but that's how it starts. Okay,
that is how it starts. Those thoughts become actions. If
you still want your marriage to work, I think you
guys need to get in some sort of marriage counseling
or therapy right away.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Asafie Shirley absolutely brilliant answer. I agree one hundred percent
with every single thing you said well said, which leaves
me nowhere to go in this letter except to dig
and find uh little gems of ignorance that may be
(04:16):
typed in this letter some swere. So come on with
me as I take you through the mind of the
person who writes a letter like this. Even the subject
my husband found the wrong gift, even the way he found.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
It was just, oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Uh, where you hear the gift was? Oh my goodness,
how you hire a gift under a damn ben? Who
do that?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
What is he faue?
Speaker 3 (04:45):
What is he folk? He don't go into the bed?
How who hides the gift? Who do that? Anyway, You've
been married to an interesting man nineteen years old, got
a daughter's freshman in college. He works two jobs by
choice because it gives my my daughter any and everything
she asked for. So now the rest of the letter
(05:07):
is to penalize the man for being a great father.
But there's more to it. As Shirley said, he stopped
spoiling me years ago, and I'm jealous something happened years
ago that you're not putting in this letter. Demand just stopped?
And did he turn his attention to someone who was
(05:30):
more appreciative. Did someone starts saying, thank you, daddy, while
you're wonderful. Did somebody go you're the best dad any
girl could ever have. Did you stop saying you were
the best husband, thank you for all of your hard work. No,
you're just married to an interesting man. Then, as you said,
since he works a lot, you've got plenty of time alone.
(05:52):
And now here we go. An idle mind is the
devil's workshop and out of sheer bought him. I started
flirting with an all acquaintance on Facebook. You do understand
that this entire letter is really looking like your fault
because your husband working two jobs and spoiling your daughter,
showing her how a man should treat her, giving her
(06:14):
an example of what love looks like from the eyes
of a daughter through watching her father and you taking
it as he stops spoiling me. I'm jealous, I'm bored.
I'm flirting on Facebook. Facebook then ended a lot of marriages.
Get ready for yours to be gone too.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Just hold that thought right now. We got to take
a break right here. We'll have part two of your
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's Strawberry Letter subjects I know you just got into it.
Today's Strawberry Letter, my husband found the wrong gift. We'll
get right back to it right after this. Hey, this
(06:54):
is your girl Shirley's Strawberry And according to research, a
major challenge that many employe your's face is the pressure
to hire fast. Well, if you're an employer who can relate,
Zip Recruiter has figured out how to solve this very problem.
It's smart technology, finds qualified candidates quickly. Zip recruiter is
the hiring site employers prefer the most based on G two.
(07:18):
You can invite top candidates for your job. To apply,
go to ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry to try it
for free. That's ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry. All right,
come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject
my husband found the wrong gift.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Everything about this letter is crazy. This woman is married
to what she claims as an interesting man who has
a freshman daughter in college. To both of them, he's
spoiling her. He's got two jobs, she says, to give
the daughter in and everything she hasks for. He stops
spoiling me years ago, and I'm jealous. Well there, she says,
since he works a lot, she got pled the time
(08:00):
by myself. And then she says that it's true that
an idle mind is the devil's playground. So she started
flirting with an old acquaintance on Facebook. Facebook and ended
a lot of marriages, and this is fit to be
another one. He knows I'm married and he's married too,
so we both are bored and wanted someone else to
(08:21):
talk to lady, everything you're saying is like somebody going
so what, because you know all you doing is justifying
the dirt that you've done. Oh, this is a letter
field with justification. He asked me where I worked, and
(08:41):
I told him. Now, let me tell you something. This
has been going on for a while now because you
jumped from they want somebody else to talk to to.
He asked me where I worked, and I told it,
but I didn't mention that I'm working remotely right now.
So on this past Friday, he dropped all box office
(09:01):
excuse me. He dropped a small red box off at
her office, and the receptions called me to pick it up,
and she said, a man that's not your husband dropped
off something for you that was nothing but shade what
you want to lady, sir, that ain't the lady ain't
being messy or shady. This is a fact. A man
(09:26):
dropped a red box off up here where you don't
work at no more. And it wasn't your husband. But
I went right up to my office and got my gift.
That'll show my husband buying this girl all this stuff.
That girl is your daughter, damn, so now I show her.
(09:50):
I went right on up there to get my gift.
The box contained some small red lingerie and one hundred
dollars cash.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
I'll be dead, that's all it takes, right.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
The thought that I didn't put into all these gifts
over the years with my wife, all of the stuff
I didn't spent money on. All I really had to
do was get a little bity red pair launy rate,
cut her blood off, and put one hundred dollars in
the box. Beam boy, that's it. When you married, and
(10:30):
you know she married, all you need is a small
ass box with one hundred dollars in the man get
out of here. And then she said with a sweet card.
You just you easy, you easy, You get excited about
little or nothing because you want to. When I got home,
(10:50):
I slid the box under my bed. Excuse me, you
slid the box under y'all's bed.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Tick o.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
The good part. When my husband came home, I was
in bed. He was getting undressed, and he took his
wedding band off and it rolled under the bed.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I bet there ain't that how you get busted always
on some dumb stuff.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
He took the wedding band off and it just so
had clickly it hit the float and rolled under the
bed when my husband and then he saw the box
and looked at me smiling. He opened it and started
getting giddy because he thought it was his Valentine's President. Well,
(11:34):
I don't know how that is, because fellas, what the
last time you got a president on Valentine That home?
Speaker 2 (11:40):
I ain't got miss going on, dud. I ain't never
expected nothing. I've been down so dang. How old is
he here? In his eighties or something? When the hell
did we start getting Valentine's Day guess? Anyway?
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Uh, it was. I had to play it off and
put the lingerie on. It was way too small for
me and it almost cut my circulation off. I couldn't
wait for him to rip it off. I had to
go through two rounds of bad sex, but he was
so happy. I want my hundred dollars back, and I
want to tell him another man gave me that gift
(12:16):
because he sent our daughter flowers for Valentine's and he
didn't give me any Now, the dumbest line in this
whole letter is you want to tell your husband. Let
me understand this, okay, that another man gave you that
gift because your husband sent your daughter flowers for Valentine's
(12:40):
Day and didn't give you any. So your snapback for
that is, I'm gonna tell him that another man sent
this red box up to my job. I went up
there and picked it up. Is too small for me,
but I put it on just to deceive you. You
ripped it off and you took my one hundred dollars.
I want one hundred dollars back. Should I tell him
(13:02):
just to make him jealous? Lady, This ain't finna make
him jealous. This wind to cause a whole lot of that.
Jealousy gonna be your least of words in the police
report when y'all feel it out, jealousy. It's gonna be
other things in the police report, like assault and battery, oh,
receiving stolen property. It's gonna be a lot of stuff
(13:27):
in this police report, but jealousy won't be in there.
That's the dumbest thing you could do.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Lord.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Have me post your comments, Thank you, Steve Boscher. Comments
then Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram
and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. How we could be reading your
letter on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now. You never know, it
could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
You never know.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
it you here it is Proudberry Letter. Thank you. Nephew's
subject my husband found the wrong gift. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I've been married to an interesting man for nineteen years
and we have a daughter that's a freshman in college.
He works two jobs by choice because he gives my
daughter any and everything she asks for. He stops spoiling
(00:43):
me years ago, and I'm jealous. Since he works a lot,
I have plenty of time alone. It's true that an
idle mind is the devil's workshop. And out of sheer boredom,
I started flirting with an old acquaintance on Facebook. He
knows I'm married and he's MAO. So we both are
bored and wanted someone else to talk to. He asked
(01:04):
me where I worked, and I told him, but I
didn't mention that I'm working remotely right now. This past Friday,
he dropped a small red box off at my office,
and the receptionist called me to come pick it up.
She said, quote, a man that's not your husband dropped
off something for you that was nothing butt shade. But
I went right up to my office and got my gift.
(01:27):
The box contained some small red lingerie and one hundred
dollars cash with a sweet card. When I got home,
I slid the box under my bed. When my husband
came home, I was in bed. He was getting undressed
and he took his wedding band off and it rolled
under the bed. He saw the box and looked at me, smiling.
(01:47):
He opened it and started getting giddy. He thought it
was his Valentine's present. So I had to play it
off and put the lingerie on. It was way too
small for me, and it almost cut my circulation off.
I couldn't wait for him to rip it off. I
had to go through two rounds of bad sex. But
he was so happy. I want my hundred dollars back,
and I want to tell him another man gave me
(02:09):
that gift because he sent our daughter flowers for Valentine's
and he didn't give me any. Should I tell him
just to make him jealous? No, you should not, and
especially you shouldn't be jealous of your daughter. I mean,
you know, making him think that the gift was for
him was the only option you had at the time,
because that could have gotten really ugly, but not as
(02:32):
ugly as it already is. I mean, I'm surprised you're
still sleeping with him. You have so much, so many
complaints about him. You stayed in there for not one,
but two rounds of bad sex, you say, so, so
how long are you going to put up with that?
You got nothing for Valentine's Day, but he got the money,
the sexy undies, and he got sex with you twice.
(02:52):
You said he stopped spoiling you years ago. You did
not tell us why why did that stop? I mean,
other than he's working two jobs. Now you're thinking it's
to spoil your daughter, and you're jealous of that. He's
not married to his daughter. He's married to you, and
the idea that you're no longer number one in his
life should be unacceptable to you. You left a lot
(03:14):
out in this letter. You guys have grown very far apart.
Now you're thinking about cheating with someone from your past
that you met off Facebook. I mean, that's not going
to solve your marital issues. You're looking for attention. Your
husband sounds coolest to your needs as far as that's concerned,
and that has to change because your marriage is already
(03:35):
in trouble you're thinking about. I know you say you
want someone to talk to, but that's how it starts. Okay,
that is how it starts. Those thoughts become actions. If
you still want your marriage to work, I think you
guys need to get in some sort of marriage counseling
or therapy right away.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Asafie Shirley absolutely brilliant answer. I agree one hundred percent
with every single thing you said well said, which leaves
me nowhere to go in this letter except to dig
and find uh little gems of ignorance that may be
(04:16):
typed in this letter some swere. So come on with
me as I take you through the mind of the
person who writes a letter like this. Even the subject
my husband found the wrong gift, even the way he found.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
It was just, oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Uh, where you hear the gift was? Oh my goodness,
how you hire a gift under a damn ben? Who
do that?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
What is he faue?
Speaker 3 (04:45):
What is he folk? He don't go into the bed?
How who hides the gift? Who do that? Anyway, You've
been married to an interesting man nineteen years old, got
a daughter's freshman in college. He works two jobs by
choice because it gives my my daughter any and everything
she asked for. So now the rest of the letter
(05:07):
is to penalize the man for being a great father.
But there's more to it. As Shirley said, he stopped
spoiling me years ago, and I'm jealous something happened years
ago that you're not putting in this letter. Demand just stopped?
And did he turn his attention to someone who was
(05:30):
more appreciative. Did someone starts saying, thank you, daddy, while
you're wonderful. Did somebody go you're the best dad any
girl could ever have. Did you stop saying you were
the best husband, thank you for all of your hard work. No,
you're just married to an interesting man. Then, as you said,
since he works a lot, you've got plenty of time alone.
(05:52):
And now here we go. An idle mind is the
devil's workshop and out of sheer bought him. I started
flirting with an all acquaintance on Facebook. You do understand
that this entire letter is really looking like your fault
because your husband working two jobs and spoiling your daughter,
showing her how a man should treat her, giving her
(06:14):
an example of what love looks like from the eyes
of a daughter through watching her father and you taking
it as he stops spoiling me. I'm jealous, I'm bored.
I'm flirting on Facebook. Facebook then ended a lot of marriages.
Get ready for yours to be gone too.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Just hold that thought right now. We got to take
a break right here. We'll have part two of your
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's Strawberry Letter subjects I know you just got into it.
Today's Strawberry Letter, my husband found the wrong gift. We'll
get right back to it right after this. Hey, this
(06:54):
is your girl Shirley's Strawberry And according to research, a
major challenge that many employe your's face is the pressure
to hire fast. Well, if you're an employer who can relate,
Zip Recruiter has figured out how to solve this very problem.
It's smart technology, finds qualified candidates quickly. Zip recruiter is
the hiring site employers prefer the most based on G two.
(07:18):
You can invite top candidates for your job. To apply,
go to ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry to try it
for free. That's ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry. All right,
come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject
my husband found the wrong gift.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Everything about this letter is crazy. This woman is married
to what she claims as an interesting man who has
a freshman daughter in college. To both of them, he's
spoiling her. He's got two jobs, she says, to give
the daughter in and everything she hasks for. He stops
spoiling me years ago, and I'm jealous. Well there, she says,
since he works a lot, she got pled the time
(08:00):
by myself. And then she says that it's true that
an idle mind is the devil's playground. So she started
flirting with an old acquaintance on Facebook. Facebook and ended
a lot of marriages, and this is fit to be
another one. He knows I'm married and he's married too,
so we both are bored and wanted someone else to
(08:21):
talk to lady, everything you're saying is like somebody going
so what, because you know all you doing is justifying
the dirt that you've done. Oh, this is a letter
field with justification. He asked me where I worked, and
(08:41):
I told him. Now, let me tell you something. This
has been going on for a while now because you
jumped from they want somebody else to talk to to.
He asked me where I worked, and I told it,
but I didn't mention that I'm working remotely right now.
So on this past Friday, he dropped all box office
(09:01):
excuse me. He dropped a small red box off at
her office, and the receptions called me to pick it up,
and she said, a man that's not your husband dropped
off something for you that was nothing but shade what
you want to lady, sir, that ain't the lady ain't
being messy or shady. This is a fact. A man
(09:26):
dropped a red box off up here where you don't
work at no more. And it wasn't your husband. But
I went right up to my office and got my gift.
That'll show my husband buying this girl all this stuff.
That girl is your daughter, damn, so now I show her.
(09:50):
I went right on up there to get my gift.
The box contained some small red lingerie and one hundred
dollars cash.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
I'll be dead, that's all it takes, right.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
The thought that I didn't put into all these gifts
over the years with my wife, all of the stuff
I didn't spent money on. All I really had to
do was get a little bity red pair launy rate,
cut her blood off, and put one hundred dollars in
the box. Beam boy, that's it. When you married, and
(10:30):
you know she married, all you need is a small
ass box with one hundred dollars in the man get
out of here. And then she said with a sweet card.
You just you easy, you easy, You get excited about
little or nothing because you want to. When I got home,
(10:50):
I slid the box under my bed. Excuse me, you
slid the box under y'all's bed.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Tick o.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
The good part. When my husband came home, I was
in bed. He was getting undressed, and he took his
wedding band off and it rolled under the bed.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I bet there ain't that how you get busted always
on some dumb stuff.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
He took the wedding band off and it just so
had clickly it hit the float and rolled under the
bed when my husband and then he saw the box
and looked at me smiling. He opened it and started
getting giddy because he thought it was his Valentine's President. Well,
(11:34):
I don't know how that is, because fellas, what the
last time you got a president on Valentine That home?
Speaker 2 (11:40):
I ain't got miss going on, dud. I ain't never
expected nothing. I've been down so dang. How old is
he here? In his eighties or something? When the hell
did we start getting Valentine's Day guess? Anyway?
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Uh, it was. I had to play it off and
put the lingerie on. It was way too small for
me and it almost cut my circulation off. I couldn't
wait for him to rip it off. I had to
go through two rounds of bad sex, but he was
so happy. I want my hundred dollars back, and I
want to tell him another man gave me that gift
(12:16):
because he sent our daughter flowers for Valentine's and he
didn't give me any Now, the dumbest line in this
whole letter is you want to tell your husband. Let
me understand this, okay, that another man gave you that
gift because your husband sent your daughter flowers for Valentine's
(12:40):
Day and didn't give you any. So your snapback for
that is, I'm gonna tell him that another man sent
this red box up to my job. I went up
there and picked it up. Is too small for me,
but I put it on just to deceive you. You
ripped it off and you took my one hundred dollars.
I want one hundred dollars back. Should I tell him
(13:02):
just to make him jealous? Lady, This ain't finna make
him jealous. This wind to cause a whole lot of that.
Jealousy gonna be your least of words in the police
report when y'all feel it out, jealousy. It's gonna be
other things in the police report, like assault and battery, oh,
receiving stolen property. It's gonna be a lot of stuff
(13:27):
in this police report, but jealousy won't be in there.
That's the dumbest thing you could do.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Lord.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Have me post your comments, Thank you, Steve Boscher. Comments
then Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram
and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
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