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July 18, 2018 16 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for five years but my husband is missing a P. He provides for the family and he professes his love for me but he does not protect me like he should. Last month a neighbor yelled at our son for going into his yard to get a ball. My husband and I went outside to see what was going on. I politely asked the neighbor not to yell at our child and he began to yell and curse at me. I told my child to go inside so we could deal with the situation. My conversation with this man got heated and he was using every curse word that he could think of.......

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It is the Strawberry Letter, alright. Subject, My husband is

(01:50):
a whimp. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for five years,
but my husband is missing a pe. He provides for
the family, and he prefer us is his love for me,
but he does not protect me like he should. Last month,
a neighbor yelled at our son for going into his
yard to get a ball. My husband and I went

(02:11):
outside to see what was going on. I politely asked
the neighbor not to yell at our child, and he
began to yell and curse at me. I told my
child to go inside so we could deal with the situation.
My conversation with this man got heated, and he was
using every curse word that he could think of. My
husband stood there and didn't say a word. I continued

(02:34):
to argue with the neighbor, and the crazy man lunged
at me like he was going to hit me, but
he missed. I turned towards my husband because I knew,
I just knew he was about to step up and
deal with this man. To my surprise, my husband was
running back towards our front door and to and told

(02:54):
me I needed to get in the house immediately and
leave the neighbor alone. I was oh outdone. The neighbor
laughed in my face and called my husband a little b.
I was seeming mad at my husband, and I asked
him how he could just leave me like that. He
said he was going in the house to call the police.

(03:14):
Since then, I've lost a lot of respect for my husband.
I can't be with a man that doesn't make me
feel safe and secure at all times. I never would
have married him if I had known this. My neighbor
is right, he is a little b. So how do
I get past this? Well? First of all, I don't know,
because um, this letter is wrong and crazy on so

(03:36):
many levels. First of all, the neighbors should not have
been yelling at your child. You were absolutely right. You
and your husband absolutely right for going out there and
and letting him have it. Okay, well you anyway, not
your husband. But let me get this straight. You turned
around and your husband was running back to the house
without you. Huh. That is It's just crazy, That's all

(04:02):
I can tell you. I don't get where your husband
was coming from with this. Yeah, he definitely left you
out there, and he certainly shouldn't have. He should have
never just stood there while the neighbor was disrespecting you
like that and yelling at your son. He should have
stepped up like a real man. And uh, he could
have shut it down. He could have just you know,
stepped in, Uh, took over the situation, checked the neighbor.

(04:25):
Uh for talking to you, crazy, for lunging, lunging at
you and almost hitting you. Uh. Even if he didn't
want to argue with the neighbor, but I don't see
how he didn't want to at this point after yelling,
yelling at his son and lunging at you, he should
have taken you inside with him then called the police
or or how about this, how about this? He could

(04:46):
have whipped the neighbors behind how about that? Right then
and there? All right, it seems like you would have
preferred that, and I think people listening to the show
and listening to this letter would have preferred that as well.
So you need to have a serious come to Jesus meeting,
we to your man and tell him that that was unacceptable.
He needs to step up or step out hardpo Who
who is this man that I'm married to? One now? Yeah, alright,

(05:12):
it's let me just say this. First of all, there
was some that have been set down. All they've been rules.
They've already set this boy. No, that ball not supposed
to going that damn y'ard. He'd been told several damn times,
don't put the ball in the man's in the next
door neighbor, John, don't do it. What are you go

(05:34):
out there and dude, put the ball in the man yard.
Not a wife go out there arguing with the man
with the ball is supposed to be in the yard
in the first damn place. You got two wrongs right
here already. Well it's not already, Schirlett. First of all,
all men ain't fighters. Oh man, for yourself, Chase, I'm

(05:58):
one of them. I'm a rash talker. I'm gonna go
meet you. I'm gonna give you a quick joke. And
then if he if your husband took his ass in
the house, you should have followed the Bible says woman
should follow the man the man. The man went in
the house, he said, I'm do with it, don't need

(06:20):
me get my ass by in front of my son
and my wife. Now I'm missing days from work. I'm
going the house. You are crazy right now, that man
yelled at your son and your wife. Here's what happened.
I get an ass whoopen sitness, man beat my behind.

(06:40):
Now I'm missing days from work. I'm not behind on
my mortgage. Yeah, it sounds like that's exactly what I
would have happened off all, because all I had to
do was turned around and take my back in the
house and shut And why she's standing out there? She

(07:03):
is so wrong. And here's a big When the husband
walked that day, he sizing up real quick, bulling wrong yard.
He had argued wife out the argument man and whoop
my ass. All right, I'm out. I'm going back in

(07:23):
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I wouldn't stay out then with somebody. That's all I

(07:44):
gotta say. Back there, when the man walk let me
go on, my husband and the house. I'll deal with
you later. You gotta protect your family, all right. Listen,
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we are back. We're in the middle of the Strawberry
Letter the subject my husband is a wimp. Let's recap

(08:52):
for your young lady Rode and she's been married for
five years. Her husband, she says, is missing a p.
What is that P? Well, he proved vibes for the family.
He professes his love for the family, but she does
not feel protected by her husband. And here's wife. Last month,
the neighbor yelled at her son because her son's ball
got into his yard, so she and her husband went

(09:14):
outside to see what was going on. She said she
politely asked the neighbor not to yell at her child,
and he began to curse her out. The neighbor did, uh, well,
you know, they got into a to a heated argument.
The neighbor lunged at her almost hit her. Uh. They're
cursing back and forth. The husband's just standing there and
then she turns around. The husband doesn't say a word.

(09:37):
She turns around and sees her husband running back to
the house, and she's like, what's going on? Where are
you going? He says he's going inside to call the police.
All right. Uh. The neighbor laughed in her face, called
her husband a little bit. Now the wife is upset.
She's steaming mad with her husband. She's asking him how
could he leave her like that? She's saying she lost

(09:57):
a lot of respect for a husband. She wants to
feel saf if and secure with this man at all times,
and she never would have married him if she'd known him. This,
Uh is the neighbor, right? Is her husband a little
b So how does she get past this? I mean,
I gave her several options. I told her that her
husband could have gone over there, checked the neighbor for
talking to her crazy, for lunging at her. And if

(10:20):
the man didn't want to argue her husband, he could have, um,
you know, clearly taken her inside with him, not run
away and then call the police. Or he could have
you know, commenced a whipping. The neighbors behind. Jay, on
the other hand, said the neighbor looked bigger than him,
and when when the wife saw her husband running in
the house, she should have run right behind him because

(10:44):
Joe is Jay is a trash talker and he's a
lover not a fighter. Yeah, alright, So Tommy, it's on you,
all right. Normally, normally I want to have fun, and
at this one actually bothers me because this is family
and this is this is your wife, and this is

(11:05):
your son out there, and you leaving your family hanging
and you running inside. You You didn't punked out on
your kid. You didn't punked out on your You actually
wear the panties in the family. That's what you do. Man,
This is not good. If you can't, if you're not
a fighter, and that's not what you do. Because personally,
y'all already know me, we'd have been fighting in the
front yard. But if that's not who you are, if

(11:26):
you're not a fight, the first thing first, get your
family in the house and make sure they're safe. Then
come back out here and have to try to have
a civil conversation with this man. So y'all don't have
this problem no more. All of this behind a ball
going in the yard is really really stupid. But you
gotta make sure your family is straight. So to the
wife me personally, you need to sit to your husband down.
Y'all need to have a talk, because what happens when

(11:48):
next time that there's an altercation somewhere, not necessarily next door,
but anywhere. You gotta you gotta be assured that your
man gonna stand up and make sure that the family
is okay. And that's not what's happening right here. So
I understand you being in a situation where you're like,
you don't know what to do, and I get it.
You gotta have a talk with your man. He got
a man up. But once you called me the little be,

(12:10):
we're gonna make a U turn. I got to come back.
The little bee pulls me back at the house. Yeah, okay,
but I'm making sure my son is in the house.
I'm making sure my wife is in the house. It might,
of fact, once you learned that my wife, it's a rap,
it's a wrap. Dude, You're not gonna my wife, You're
going to hit a woman too. And as women, you know,

(12:34):
besides love and commitment and all that, the reason we
get married is for security. We want to feel safe.
We want to feel secure. You know with our husband
that protecting protection is a big part of it, all right,
So you need to know that. And he did not
handle that situation well, uh, because you know you're right.
Everyone is in a fighter. Like like Ja said in

(12:57):
his humorous way, everyone isn't a fighter. And if you're not,
take your woman inside with you. Don't leave her outside
to to argue with the neighbor man. We would, we would.
Here's cat something real quick to tell y'all we were
in the Bahamas. Yall know, we went to the Bahamas
few weeks ago, right, take the kids on vacation. One
of them got lifeguards, is telling everybody to get out

(13:19):
of the lazy ripple. And I said, okay, can we
go back to where where we started though, we can
be by things where we got where we went in
at and this dude saying, this is where y'all went
in this. I said, no, man, this is not where
we went in. And then he started arguing with my
wife's and my wife is gone, like this is where
we went on. Then I took over and then she

(13:39):
immediately let me know because she saw me going to
another level. Hey, your kids here, your kids here, you
on your way, You on your way to another level.
Let's stop. This is not that said. We will walk
around so you know, she always has the real me back.
It's not you know, but but and that's the way
it should be. It shouldn't be that your wife by
here being a man at the house. That makes no sense. Yeah, absolutely, yeah,

(14:05):
that's one but that's one way shot it. But when
you see that, you're not gonna win this fight. Take
your ass in the house. She saw him leave. Why
she's still on going with this man? Me? Okay, so

(14:28):
so Jake, So if you're gonna be the neighbor and
I'll be a couple, Okay, you're gonna be the man. Yeah.
Can I be stupid? Not girls? Can I be stupid? Food? Okay?
What the hell is damn bolve during in my yard again?
Uh uh? Well, no, you don't talk to us like that.

(14:51):
I don't wake you here. You get your ball out.
Take you a little pops on the go in the house. Yeah,
tops back that. It's just a baby, baby, baby baby. Okay, baby,
I'm going in the house. You better go in the house.
Take your baby. You won't do I'm in the house.

(15:15):
You're a little old. Be you little old in the house.
You're a little old b Yeah, I'm gonna be in
the house. I'm gonna be a bat in the house. Baby,
come on in here. Take your nupper head wife in
the house. All of that, all of that, we're gonna

(15:37):
be in the house. And then you let me do some. Boy.
If that ball ever boring that yard again, I'm gonna
beat your aunts the boy. Now all right, we gotta go. Guys. Instagram,
what's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at Steve Harvey
f M dot com or my girls. All right, Uh,

(15:57):
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