My Man Is Bugging Me

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a problem. I met a guy and I consider him a good friend and I want to get to know him better. He has taken me on a few dates and all went well at first. The problem arose after one of our recent dates. After a really good date, we decided we'd pick up some food and go back to his house to chill and eat our food. Well, when we got to his house with our food and he turned the lights on. Boom bam boom roaches....

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I look at a book, live out loud, tight here,
scrubbery little it's oatmeal, Thank you oatmeal? Alright, subject, my
man is bugging me. Uh, Dear Stephen Shirley, I have
a problem. I met a guy and I consider him
a good friend and I want to get to know

(00:20):
him better. He has taken me on a few dates
and all went well at first. The problem arose after
one of our recent dates, after a really good date,
we decided we'd pick up some food and go back
to his house to chill and eat our food. Well,
when we got to his house with our food and

(00:41):
he turned the lights on, boom bam boom. Roaches went
flying from east to west. They were so bad but
down they were so bad they were even crawling on
his dog. I told him, I told him politely that
I was not eating my food there. He sat there,
eating his food and looking at me like I was crazy.

(01:04):
He didn't see that there was a problem. When he
dropped me off at home, I immediately took my clothes
off and as soon as I walked in. I'm not
saying that I'm better than anyone else. I have dealt
with bugs in my home too, but clearly this was
an infestation, This was not normal. This was the last
time I spent time at his house. Now he asked

(01:26):
me why I won't come over. I don't even want
him over at my place because he may bring bugs
with him and spread them to my house. When we
go out together in public, it makes me think he's
not clean and his car is not clean because of
how he keeps his house. I don't want to lose
a good man, but I just can't deal with the bugs.
What should I do? Please help me? Oh my god,

(01:47):
I couldn't do this. I'm just gonna tell you right now.
I could not, and I don't know how you can.
I mean the fact that he's not embarrassed about it,
and that he brought you over his house and there.
My skin is itching right now just thinking about it.
He brought you over there, and um, he didn't see
anything wrong with it. He was looking at you like
you were crazy. I don't get it, and eating food there. No, ma'am, no, ma'am, no,

(02:12):
ma'am um. Not. It's not a situation where where you're
better than he is. Your way cleaner than he is,
for sure, and clean that you know. That's one of
the primary principles of of dating someone. They have to
be clean for having's sakes. Uh. And yeah, I wouldn't
let him over my house because he might bring bugs
over there. I'm sorry. I don't know. I just couldn't.

(02:36):
I couldn't do it. Personally, I couldn't do it. I
don't know how good of a guy he is. I
just don't know for him not to notice this, I
have a problem with this, and I think you should too,
Steve Well, this ladder right here is a very easy
one for me. I've had this experience before. I dated
a woman who lived in a roach infested house with

(03:00):
her mama. I was young, I'm from the hood. I've
seen roaches before. We've had him at our house when
I was young. It was just not an infestation. Everybody,
you know, everybody, everybody had a roach at the house.
Come on, now, you can cut all this out. That's
what you ain't gonna do is let it become an infestation.

(03:21):
You were scared of the roacher's time because they was
the same size as year. You want to tell all
of that, you over that riding roaches, and but but
that's I wanted a roach for Christmas and all that
first you thought they was awesome. That's another story. Yeah,
he wanted a pony, so we got him a roach.

(03:44):
And now you didn't want all that out? Didn't you
just stay out the damn letter? She didn't met this
friend of hus Everything going good, and it went out
on several days, didn't one of you did? He invited over,
They stopped and picked up some food. They come into
the house and they turn the lights on. Boom bam boom.

(04:08):
See that must be your first time seeing roach. Cause
that ain't the sound, it's the scene, POI. Because when
you turn that night on, the ass is rolling. Now
that threw you off. Roaches was flying from east to west.

(04:32):
They were so bad. They was crawling on the dog.
The dog is tired of it. There was so much tail, swishing, pulse.
He didn't killed as many as he couldn't and just
resigned to the fact. Hell, they win, y'all. Just just
don't bite me, y'all, just crawl on me, but don't

(04:53):
but don't bite me. He's so sick with his tail tongue, Paul,
he just stamping. He got four feet. He can't stump
him out. So the dog didn't just mad. Hell, so
he just damn. I told him politely that I was
not eating my food there, and they hear the key.

(05:13):
He said, they eating this food, looking at me like
I'm crazy, because he don't see the problem. It's jett roaches.
It's just roaches. Clear your area out and enjoy your meal.
I've been at the girl's house playing cards, and I
could not understand the number of roaches that was in here.

(05:35):
Lights on day. I ain't none of them running. They
actually stay here. They walk across the table, and I'm
just knocking stuff off with my cards. I'm trying to
shuffle hard so the wind can knock him off as
I'm dealing cards. I'm trying to deal him where I
can knock one off as the card come to you.

(05:56):
I'm doing everything. I'm in here fighting. Was she oh
love for me? Back then? Top knock? Now she was fine.
I was dealing with it. So now you said there
and he looked at you like you're crazy. He didn't
see that was a problem. Then he dropped me off
at home. I immediately took my clothes off as soon

(06:18):
as I walked in. I got some mistake too late.
You gotta get them clothes off our side. Listen to me.
My friend used to pick me up over the girls
before I got in the car. He's a man. Come on, now,
you shake down down. I can't hand. I know she

(06:42):
fined one love, but you can't hand. He wrote, just
up in this car. So I was standing there with
a Maxi coat on, just shaking. I got bail bottoms on,
just shaking platform shoes on the apple. I'm just shaking.
You have got to start shaking these clothes as soon

(07:04):
as you dropped you off. Don't go inside because they
in there. They coming. Roaches is coming. Quit sitting in
his car. Theyre in there. They in the car. They
look for other places. They know it's infested. They there.

(07:25):
Roaches don't like living in infested places, like living in
the hood. Here, somewhere else. We're gonna have part two
Steve's response coming up in after the hour. Hey, come on,
let's get to part two of like You're response to
today's Strawberry letter, subject to my man is bugging me

(07:47):
see key word bugging. We ain't got to get over this.
She dad, the dude has got a roach infestation at
his house. She don't know what to do. These roaches
is everywhere. The roaches are so bad they're crawling on
the dog. The dog then gave h he ain't got
no pads on the bottom of his pause. He's been
stalking bottom of this pause. Is he just been up

(08:11):
in the he'd embarked them. They don't even they're not
moved by him anymore. The reason when he cut the
lights on, they started running everywhere is because that he
don't stay there enough. What do you mean you're gonna

(08:34):
have to do like this girl family did? They was
in there so much that the roach is no longer ran.
You're gonna have to You've heard the old saying if
you can't beat them, join him. You can't beat the
infestation because y'are fighting me with the wrong stuff. Black
flag does nothing for interestation. It is killing only on

(08:58):
direct contact. And you gotta wait till the roach flip
over there spraying on on the side. If you don't
do that, black flag don't do nothing for the roach.
You have to put something in that house that really
does roaches wrong. What is that with sign that in

(09:18):
it gets riddle? Roaches? Won't that hurt the dog? The
dog won't out anyway. I can promise you your dog
is looking for the quickest out he can take. He
don't mind. He can go to dog Heaven and live
a much better Locke. He has a reward in it

(09:40):
for him. Hell, he ain't no cat. He noticed it.
Take me, Lord, take me now. You don't think he
laying there with the roaches on him going, come on, Lord,
take me now. Listen to me. Exterminator, that's what you're saying.
You can get exterminator. But you if if his house

(10:01):
is connected to another home, this is where you get
rid of roaches. You gotta bring exterminator in there weekly
for four months. The driveway on both sides of the
house must be destroyed. What because that's the connection to
the other house. Listen to me after destroy the drive

(10:27):
away concrete Steve. Yeah, because they're coming from next door.
They didn't tunnel. If you don't destroy that driveway and
people stay next door, they got them too. You must
kill the route. No, I don't know, like I know
the driveway. You have got to destroy the driveway. My

(10:49):
father knew this. He said he knew gonna he Willy
Williamson had they was coming over because we kept a
clean house. So my mom couldn't understand why we was
having a roaches. My daddy say they're probably coming up
under the driveway. She said, slick, you got to do something.
My daddy went out there and destroyed the dry I'm

(11:11):
talking about cause he got tired of coming home and
my mamma run broach, I'm gonna flow that damn driving. Yeah,
me and my brothers out there. But jackhamildon everything. Jack,
I'm nine years old with a Jack Cam. I don't
even know what I'm doing. Just lean on it. Got
got got, got got got got got got got got.

(11:35):
This is true. This is a true star. My daddy
destroyed or damn drive away from the William cow oh Man.
That boy said he was just in the jacket man.
Then when he put the dirt back in there, he
makes sufuric acid in the dirt so they get shick

(11:57):
next time. He's crazy. Then we asked fall to the
driveway were just two weeks? Yeah, my dad had a
parking station when this gun. So I only Cardo come
up missing after hood. It's creative a marriage department. Yeah,

(12:21):
want to ask you if you were going back to
stand start with this story, if you were the structured
ro and love was hot. I've never heard anything like
this before. It was a two week station on the
side of the street. Danny got to leep on the

(12:41):
floor and now my dad is sleeping on the porch
when he's good. So I don't nobody stealing down station
because you got the tools in it. You don't understand
has roach. And my daddy's on the set of Float
when he can't sleep because let's prey. She called my

(13:05):
dad because of the Williams Williams roll down. Seriously, I've
never heard this in my life. Crazy. My mother complained
about to my daddy got tired. He said, I'm about
here to take out the damn my daddy. Man. There

(13:27):
was people throwing up the street, Mr Harvey, what is
you doing? Get away from here. I was not safe.
You know, acid and the new fad acid. And that's
so when they started turning in there, I asked getting
sick because he knew that's where they were coming from.
He didn't like Mr Williams. That's what it was. And

(13:49):
the dog wanted to die. Oh my god, they're bloody
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