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March 17, 2020 16 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have dealt with an older guy off and on for about 7 years and he meets all of my physical needs and we enjoy spending time together. He is 60 years old and he’s never been married and he does not have any children. He told me that I’m the only woman he’s ever been with for this long, because he hates it when women get clingy. I think he is my soulmate, but I’m worried about what goes on in his mind.................

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and if you need
advice on relationship, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Submit
your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. My Girl, Shirley Strawberry is out today.
Mister Harvey will read the letter and we'll respond and

(00:21):
we'll handle it sure a comment comment. Buckle up, hold
on tight hey, hey, hey, hey hey, he told you
on one little damn introdu Hey hey, Shirley called me.
That's all you need to say. Buckle up, hold them
and need all that buck up quarantine. Come on, let

(00:45):
everybody got a buckle up with quarantine. We can't go
on again. Already buckled down, dot ain't got no damn
totally getting using one sheet at a time. Okay, really
get one. His wife gotta yourself blowing on and trying

(01:09):
to heat it up, make it last. Okay, Steve, let's
go significant him. Did this go? Dear Stephen, Shirley. I've
dealt with an older guy off and on for about
seven years. He meets all of my physical needs and

(01:29):
we enjoy spending time together. He's sixty years old and
he's never been married, and he does not have any children,
and he told me I'm the only one that he's
ever been with for this long because he hates it
when women get clinging. I think he is my soul mate,

(01:50):
but I'm worried about what goes on in his mind.
He shares too much info with me, and I feel
like he needs to keep these thoughts to himself. Steve,
I need to know if all men have have think
like my man does. That's exactly what the letters say.
I need to know if all men have think like

(02:10):
my man does. I'm pretty sure she meant if all
men have thoughts like my man does when she wrote
think so I just won't know you. I'll just like
to read it so y'all see what I'm dealing with,
Or if he's just a different breed a man. He
always says he's secure in his manhood and the way
he thinks is normal. One night, we're watching an X

(02:31):
rayed movie and he asked me if I ever use
toys on a man before. I told him heck no,
and I never would. He wanted to debate me on it.
I changed the conversation. Now, whenever we out here comment
on how nice a man is dressed, and stare until

(02:53):
he's out of sight. Women do it all the time
with other women, but do men do it? If we're
watching sports, all boxing match like recently, he will comment
on how cut up the man is, how his muscles
are really defined. It makes me look at him side
out and wonder about him. The most disturbing thing is

(03:14):
he's ever said to me. Happened last week and that's
why I'm writing you. We met for dinner after he
left the gym, and he told me that when he
was getting out the shower at the gym, a big
black guy came in with the biggest package he'd ever seen.
I could not believe he was talking about another man's
package to me. I'm concerned and I need you on

(03:38):
to clarify if this is normal or not? Please help? Yes, Steve,
all right, So you've been kicking it off and on
for seven years with a sixty year old man who
has never been married and does not have any children.
What a sixty year old man is never been married

(04:01):
or no kids? Wow? Anyway, his excuses he doesn't like
clinging women. Okay. Then y'all were watching the next rated
movie and he asked, had you ever used sex? Toys
on the man. You said no, then he wanted to
debate you about it. Okay. Then he comments on how
fly other men dressed, and you're right, You're right when

(04:24):
you said that. Women, we do it too, We say that,
oh she looks cut. We do it all the time.
But I don't know about men. I don't know about
men that I don't think they do that. But okay,
y'all watched the boxing match and he talked about how
fit the athletes were, and you gave him the side eye. Okay,
so let me just say this. You're saying, this is

(04:46):
what is really bothering you That he told you about
a black guy at the gym with the biggest package
he ever seen, and so I'm assuming he is white
because he said he was a black guy. So your
question is is this normal? Well, obviously you know you're
not comfortable with how he is, and you need to

(05:07):
talk to him, your grown woman, you need to talk
to him and say enough is enough. Stop talking about
other guys like you're attracted to them. Now, Remember, though,
he's being honest with you about his feelings and he's
just expressing himself. So you have to ask yourself if
you're not comfortable with how he is and how he's

(05:27):
expressing himself, then you should consider moving on. And that's it,
you know, because he is who he is and you've
been kicking it with him for seven years. We're sixty
years old, all right, cool? Well, yeah, my man should
keep some things to himself. Well, let me tell you
he has. That's what he's been doing. Yeah, yeah, so

(05:52):
he would go, I've dealt with an older golf and own.
He meets all my physical needs. We enjoy streating time together.
He sixty, ain't never been man, ain't got no kids.
Told me I'm the only one he's ever been with
for this loan because he hated when women get cleaning.
He don't like women cleaning on him. He don't like

(06:13):
women clinging on him. Now, it would have been better
if he said he don't like nobody cleaning on him,
but clearly he pulled out women this clinging. Then you,
after all this, you're egnit behind said I think he
my soul mate. Really well, A good thing you wrote

(06:37):
that at the top of the letter, because the rest
of the Let'm f to fix all this for you.
We'll be right back when I was straighten it all
out for you. Steve Harvey Mortar Show, Steve harp In
the Clown, get your Momminy and Rob the radio three
after the hour. You're listening, all right, Steve, Let's recap

(06:58):
today's Strawberry letters. A good at this lady come talking
about her man. She keeps some things to itself. Well,
like I said earlier, this whole letter is obvious to me.
He didn't kept something to itself. That was this older guy.
Y'all been doing it about six seven years. Physically, he's
just wonderful. You enjoyed spending time together. Sixty years old.

(07:18):
He's never been mad. He ain't got no kids. He
told me, I'm the only one he ever been with
this long because he hates it. Here is the letter now,
when women get cleaned. He hates it when women get cleaning.
It would have been better if he'd have said when
people get cleaning, but he designated the word women, so

(07:41):
he don't like it when women get This is a
red flag for you, seeing us how you a woman. Then,
right after he said all of this negative stuff, ain't
never been mad, ain't got no kids. I think he
my soul mate, see you ignorant? Something wrong with you.
But we're deal with that later. But I'm worried about
what goes on it because he shared too much info.

(08:02):
I feel they like to keep these thoughts to himself, Steve.
Now she's specifically talking to me. Now, she says, Steve,
I need to know of all men think like my
man does. Well, I'm gonna tell you right now. Let's
start hell naw, No, let's let's start with hell Na.
And now that now, most men whole goal is to

(08:24):
get a woman to clean on him, at least for
a while. But he don't want a woman to get
clean at all. Let me tell you why your man
is different. I'm sixty three. The majority of my male
friends are sixty in up. The vast majority of them
are sixty in up. Okay, I happen to have been

(08:51):
married three times. He never been mad. I got seven kids,
He got no kids. All my sixty year old friends,
every lads, one of them have been married, most of
them molding wants. All my sixty year old friends, every lad,

(09:14):
one of them got kids. Now I'm thinking to myself,
you might be listening to this letter, going well, Steve,
could it? Because all y'all is hood Nope, what could
it because all y'all is black. Nope. You know why?

(09:35):
It is because all of us is men. We just
damn men, and men do things a certain way, and
when we don't do it is because we ain't certain.
Men do things a certain way, and if we don't

(09:56):
do them a certain way, it's cause we ain't certain.
I like, I just wrote that just now. Yeah, that's profound. Yeah. No,
they got a lot of saying that. He always say
he's securing his manhood and the way he thinks of No.
One night we watched that Traded movie, he asked me
if I ever used toys on the man before? Right there?

(10:16):
What toy you fitting you on me? See? What is you? What?
What is you tickling me with and hitting the switch? What?
You can't even lay nothing on me and hit the switch?
You can't nothing crossed my stomach and hit the squitch.

(10:41):
We're not fitting to play? No more games is over.
He wanted to debate me on it. I changed because
whenever we out here come in on how nice and
man is dressed and staying till he out of sight,
I ain't never done that, ain't never did Now, I said, Oh, man, boy,
that boy right there. He cleaned. That boy cleaned stare
till he get out of sight. Women do it all

(11:11):
the time with other women, but the when the men
do it too. Now we don't. We're watching sports or boxing, Matt,
he'll come out of hot cut up. The man is, oh, dog, well,
I'm watching bad boy. That boy cut up? That's it.
How his muscles is really different? What is we talking about?
This fall here? Damn fighter? He posted to be cut up.
It's the reason I look like I look, because I

(11:33):
tell jokes. There ain't no fat fighters. You know what
I'm saying. Yeah, it is Tyson Feurd oh Andy Ruiz.
It makes me look at him side and I wonder
about him. But the most deserving thing he ever said
to me last week and now I was why I'm
writing you. We met for dinner and after he left

(11:53):
the Jimmy told me he was getting out the shower
to Jim and the big black guy came in with
the biggest package he'd ever seen. I couldn't believe he
is talking about another man's package for me. I'm concerned.
I need to know you all for this clarity. Is
this normal or not? If I'm talking to my wife,
my girl. Wise, I'm mentioning it another package. Come on, boy,

(12:15):
the only package conversation we have it is about the
one I got. You know what I'm saying now anything,
I'm gonna talk up the package I got. I'm gonna
try to convince you that this is a fad X
UPS box. I'm on boar. It might be just a
little liquor liquor envelope stamp, you know, mail, but I'm

(12:39):
gonna convince you that it's a package. We're gonna we're
gonna discuss it like it had the extra freight charge
for weight. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. I'm
gonna try to get you to think that this is
an Amazon Prime and it took two people to bring

(12:59):
it off the truck. That's what I'm gonna trying to
tell you. I got. I have one more piece of
this letter when we come back, So don't go away,
all right, Well, we'll be back part three at forty
six after the hour. Right after this, you're listening, and
all his comments is about he looking at me and

(13:20):
how they dressed, the want he wanted this girl to
use some toys on him, you know, And then he'd
be talking about how men cut up now here at
the gym last week, big black guy walking with the
biggest package he ever seen in his life? Who is
seeing pet these packages? Right? Where are you at? Where

(13:42):
you keep seeing all these packages? And why are we
discussing another package without not fully exploring the package that
I have to offer, because that's the only package we're
talking about. Me and this package right here will be
very descriptive. You know how many people have to bring
it off the truck up dog two people? This brought

(14:02):
in Amazon Prime, same day to day. Yeah, if if,
if this was we just checking bag. I had to
play extra for weight all my bad over seventy pounds.
But Steve, she asked you, was this normal behavior? Hell no,

(14:24):
it's not normal. Standing at a man and watch him
till he lead a room asking a woman to use
a toy on it? What toy? What? What you know? Look,
I'm sick to I've been around a little bit, you
know what I'm saying. He had some surprises in my life.
I had a girl a long time ago, years ago,
He's talking next. So she reached up on the bed,

(14:45):
had a pink suitcase. He pulled out, unlocked it. All
kinds of stuff felt like that suitcase. I was in
the sweating so hard here, Yeah, I sweating money kid in.
So I'm trying to figure I had never seen none
of this stuff before. I'm trying to act like I
knew what I was doing. And then that cutting stuff on, hurting,
all kinds of stuff with going on it. You know,
I'm just in here. I'm just trying to work through
some of these things. So that's all I know. I

(15:07):
don't know nothing else about. No toy, ain't no toys
for me. I don't want you tickling men handcuff me nothing?
Girl asks me one time? Can I handcuff you? Hell?
You can't handcuff in the jail? No, no, ain't. I
ain't never had fun when I was handcuffed ever. Yeah,
but I've been handcuffed several times. Ain't ever had fun.

(15:28):
It is never good? Say yeah, So no, No, your
man ain't normal. He ain't rather And I got news
for you. Your man like boys. Do you understand that?
Like payo man like men, that's what you're man like?
And the reason he ain't been with nobody is because
ain't nobody feeling to go along with all that? Your

(15:50):
man like me and too. He liked you, but he
liked me and too. And that's why he don't want
no woman cleaning on him. Sixty never been man. No
damn kids because they're all over the place. That's why.
In other words, YO, man, ain't just your man? All right, Well,
we're coming out at the top of the hour. Junior

(16:13):
is here with sports Talk, and I think he's a
little upset, so we'll talk about it at the time.
All the Houston upset, everybody, We're quick. You're listening to
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