My Neighbor's Daughter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 52 year old widower. I lost my wife 4 years ago and I’ve recently started dating again. I live in a great neighborhood and my neighbors have been very supportive while I’m adjusting to being single. I’m really cool with one of my college buddies that lives around the corner from me. He has grown kids and he and his wife own a gas station. They are essential workers so they aren’t home a lot.................

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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(00:24):
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is a necessity. Thank you. Subject my neighbor's daughter. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty two year old widower. I
lost my wife four years ago and I've recently started
dating again. I live in a great neighborhood and my
neighbors have been very supportive while I'm adjusting to being single.

(00:48):
I'm really cool with one of my college buddies that
lives around the corner from me. He has grown kids
and he and his wife own a gas station. They
are a central workers, so they aren't at home a lot.
He had mentioned that their daughter is staying with them
during the pandemic, and I happened to run into her
one day while I was out jogging. I hadn't seen

(01:09):
her in years, so I had no idea who she was.
We greeted each other and that was it. The next
day I went jogging again, hoping to run into her. Well,
I did, and when I saw her, she said she
was glad to see me again too. I told her
I was a widower, and she told me that she
was back in town for a month or two. She's

(01:30):
thirty and gorgeous, and she likes to jog and biker
shorts so that all of her assets are always out.
I never had such an awesome and instant physical attraction
to a woman. It blew my mind. I'm really starting
to develop feelings for her, and we've spent almost every
afternoon together. Now I'm wondering if it's time to come

(01:52):
clean and stop hiding our relationship from her parents. It's
a tricky situation, but I didn't know this girl when
she was growing up, and I'm not really that close
to her parents. We would love to have their blessings
before we're intimate. She is grown, but still terrified of
what her parents will do and say. How should I
approach this subject? Please? Advise. Wow, first of all, sorry

(02:18):
for your loss, and yeah, I gotta tell you this
is a big problem. I think this is a problem.
You may not think so right now, because the heart
loves what it loves and wants what it wants and
all of that. But didn't you say this was your
college buddy's daughter. I mean you said also that she's

(02:40):
thirty and grown and all of that. But just think
about it. I mean, would you be so cool and
and everything if your college buddy that you're so cool
with was doing your daughter. I mean, just put yourself
in his position once he finds out. And what about this?
You put this in the letter. In the beginning of

(03:01):
the letter, you said you guys were cool. You know,
he lives around the corner, he and his wife. They
have a business, their essential workers in their gas station.
You know, you said all of that. But by the
end of the letter, now you're saying you're not really
that close to her parents and you didn't know her
growing up. But is that really true? I mean, I
think you guys, meaning of course you and her parents

(03:23):
are pretty tight, and you're now you're just trying to,
you know, say you're not that close, so you can
justify your feelings for their daughter, and you know the
fact that you're trying to get with her, So you're
kind of changing up a little bit because you want
to get with the daughter because she wears biker shorts
and all her assets are always out and all that.
You know what, I think you're gonna have to leave

(03:44):
her alone. I think you're asking for trouble in this situation.
That's your friend's daughter. I don't think he's gonna be
happy about you dating his daughter, and I think you
need to move on. Plenty of women out there, plenty
of good women picks someone else. Steve, y'all know that
I'm not good at this type of letter, So before

(04:07):
I say something, I want to apologize up front for
anything that I might say. Yeah, I'm just saying this, Carseo,
just strawberry letter. I ain't on therapists. I ain't go
to school for this, you know I ain't. I'm trying
to help you, but if I can't, you know what
you want me to do. So once I find out

(04:29):
I can't help you, I don't know what to tell you.
Then I go to what I do know, which is
my comedy. He it is you live in a great neighborhood.
You a witherer. I lost my wife four years ago.
Oh I see, oh, oh see, I didn't hear that.
Oh so you this lady. Okay, she already gay. Oh okay,

(04:53):
that's oh that's different. Four years ago and I haven't
started dating again. So you know you lost her four
years ago? Oh, wid that means she died. Okay. I
just thought like she y'all went to the mall and
then you can't find her. Um huh what I just
just misread. I lost my wife four years ago, which
and I didn't you know who widow were parted. It

(05:16):
wasn't quite coming up with that. You know, y'all had
went to the malls and got lost and you ain't
found what there was. Yeah, for years. I just stopped
looking after a while. You know, I'm I'm adjusting to
being single, and I'm really cool with one of my

(05:37):
college buddies. Yeah, I'm gonna quit looking after that, because
you know, especially if I'm jogging and I see somebody, fine,
you know, she ain't been homing or where I was anyway. Uh.
I lived round the corner from college buddy that stayed
around the corner from me. He got these grown ass kids,
and he and his wife on the gas station. They

(05:59):
ain't home, and and he mentioned his daughter staying with them,
doing the pandemic. Now, having to run into her one
day while I was out jogging, I ain't seen it
in years, so I had no idea who she was.
We greeted each other and that was it. Next day
I went jogging, hoping to run into again. I did.
I saw she was glad to see me again. I
told him I was a widder, and she told me

(06:19):
she was back in town for a month or two.
She thirty and gorgeous. She likes your jog, getting back
a shorts. All her assets is all the way out
now in this the pandemic. Right, yeah, y'all jogging mighty close?
All right, don't sound like a six foot away job
to me. Hold on a minute, crime man, we'll have

(06:39):
part two of Steve's three Months. It's coming up in
twenty three minutes after the hour. The subject today is
my neighbor's daughter. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening morning show, All right, Steve, come on, let's
recap today's strawberry letters. Subject my name's daughter. Yeah, so

(07:03):
like I said, you know, the fifties year year old
dude lost his wife somehow. I didn't quite get that
in the beginning. I thought they was at a mall
and they was holding hands, and she got away from
him and he was in the mall getting peggy. You've
seen a little short lady with black leather, and I thought,

(07:25):
I thought this wasn't but that was a deaf heire,
not a lost I just thought that she just quit
looking for after four years. Anyway, he said, I'm adjusted
to be a single wife. Yeah, I ain't know how
I was. I really cool with one of my college
buddies that stayed around in the corner, and they got

(07:46):
these grown kids, and then so they had sent your
worked day ain't home. He mentioned the daughter was staying
with him doing the pandemic, and I happened to run
into her one day while I was jogging. I hadn't
seen her in years, so I had no idea who
she was. So y'all spoke to each other and that
was it. Next day, you out running and you hope

(08:06):
that you run into it while I did, And when
I saw she said she was glad to see me
again too. I told her I was a widower, and
she told me she was back in town for a
month or two. She is thirty, lord, gorgeous. She liked
to jog in biker shouts. Oh yeah, six all out.

(08:30):
I've never had an awesome and instant physical attraction to
a woman. It blew my mind. I started developing feelings
for her. We spent almost every afternoon together. Now I'm
wonder if it's time to come clean and stop hiding
our relationship from her parents. What, dude, you feel to

(08:56):
go to your boy that you went to college with
and tell him that you had met his daughter and
y'all hit, y'all kicking it now? He say, it's a
tricky situation. But I didn't know this girl when she
was growing up, and I ain't really that close to
her parents. Now you don't know the dude, Yeah see

(09:18):
see he was a real cool buddy around the corner
in college. Yeah this I asked for me, Dog, you
feel to get you feel? To get stumped now, and
I really we would love to have their blessings before
we're into it. Okay, dog, you you brought you fifty two,

(09:42):
you lost your wife. You ain't said if you got
kids or nothing. You're gonna go to this dude, and
we won't say blessings. Anybody feel to bless this dog?
Get dog, dog, parents don't bless this now you you
grow only she grown. You can do what you want
to do, but ain't you ain't gonna get no blessing

(10:03):
with this dog. Blessing. You're gonna get taught a lesson,
but there ain't gonna be no blessing. She is grown,
but still terrified of what her parents will do in satan.
Well it's an older man. Y'all then talked about it.
They know that her parents know you. How should I

(10:26):
approach this subject? Please advisee dog, you got to be
out your rabbit ass mind. Dog, you're gonna go tell
this dude that you you you're sleeping with his baby
and you think you're gonna be all right with his partner. Dog.
Me and time we got daughters on this show. We're
not fitling to be cool with you, dog, We're not

(10:50):
fitting to be cool with you. I was never cool
with none of them dudes. My daughter's been bought by
not a naring one of them, and to two of
them got married. All the rest of them is on
my sugar honey iced tea lists and as soon as

(11:10):
I can do something about it, I am trust and beliegue. Oh,
trust and beliege. Once you get on that list with me, Steve,
I got something for you. I'm not playing with your
monkey ass. So he's not gonna be playing with you.
You're gonna get your ass when you deserve it. Yes,
literally do dog? You think he was crying four years ago?

(11:32):
You were you waiting? He started woman when he lost
his wife at the Mary. Yeah, yeah, man, this this
ain't I'm the dog. Plenty of women out there. You
can't take this to this man and expected to go

(11:54):
no other way. Sept wrong. He's not gonna want you
to look at his daughter like that. I know she fine,
she thirty, I know she gorgeous. I bet she is. Man,
you want to date again, dog, date something else you
ain't in love. You to develop feelings for her, that's

(12:18):
called LUs partner, that's right. What do you have to
offer this girl? Many you're gonna get your ass. Whoop,
partner that this ain't gonna go good? Move it along. Yeah,
And he's still at that age where he in the
ass whipping range, too slow, fighting hands. It's gonna be

(12:38):
a slow fight. But the dudes in their fifties they
still got hands, So try do partner yo and sixties,
we damn show got hands. You just ain't got no
business with him up though. All right, well, thank you
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