September 15, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 52 year old married woman but my husband and I have been at odds for a few years because he is a cheater. I never caught him but all of his mannerisms changed and we stopped being intimate. The arguments got so bad that I stopped talking to him altogether and focused more on my kids and my promotion at work.............................................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you
need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEFARVEFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours, lady and gentlemen. Thank you, Steve
(00:28):
subject my own daughter put me on blast. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I'm a fifty two year old married woman, but my
husband and I have been at odds for a few
years because he is a cheater. I never caught him,
but all of his mannerisms changed and we stopped being intimate.
The argument's got so bad that I stopped talking to
(00:50):
him altogether and focus more on my kids and my
promotion at work. I fill the boid in my marriage
with the side piece that happens to work at a
car dealership, and he is as fine as frog here.
He was flirting heavily with me when I bought a
new sub from him. He suggested that we break in
the third row of my new truck, so we did.
(01:13):
For weeks after that I would drive to his job
and we got busy in the third row of my truck.
I'm sure his coworkers knew we were having sex, so
I was taking a big risk because one of them
goes to my church. I didn't care. The sex was
too good and it was so much fun. But after
a month of great sex, it all came to a
(01:34):
screeching halt. On the day of my eight year old
daughter's birthday, I picked up four of her friends for
the party at the skating rink. My daughter got on
the third row of the suv and her friends piled in.
My husband drove his car, and when we got to
the skating rink, my daughter gave her dad a cufflink.
My husband said it wasn't his cufflink, and he looked
(01:56):
directly at me. I walked on. I walked on into
the skating rink and got the girl situated in the
party room. My husband got all up in my face
and asked what I had been doing in my suv
and where the cufflink came from. I ignored him. My
daughter put me on blast. But I don't feel like
(02:16):
I owe him an explanation, or do I should I
come clean? With him. This letter. This letter got me upset,
It really did, because what you're not gonna do, mom,
is blame the baby for you're cheating. You're just not
going to do that. You were messing around in your
truck with a car salesman and you got busted. Period.
(02:40):
The child was absolutely justified in giving the cufflink to
her dad. Of course she thought it was her dad's.
I mean, this is an eight year old daughter, your
eight year old daughter. She doesn't know anything about all
of this. I just think you're wrong, Mom. You didn't
check behind yourself. Your salesman didn't realize he left the cufflink,
and you you just got caught, both of you guys.
(03:02):
You know, basically, that's it, that's all, and it's on you,
no one else but choose. That's proof of your cheating.
You said you never caught your husband. It was just
the fact that his mannerisms change and he cuts you off.
But still no evidence. You know, there was no earring,
lying around, no hair, no underwear, etc. But you, my dear,
(03:24):
left evidence. It was still it's still double standard in
this world concerning men and women, meaning you can't do
what I do, and that's just the way men think.
That's why he was all up in your face about
the cufflink. And you still have no proof. He doesn't
want you cheating on him though, So no, you don't
owe him an explanation. And please know that if you
tell him the truth, your marriage is more than likely over.
(03:48):
Men don't usually stick around when they're women when their
wives and women cheat on them. I really don't see
how this marriage is going to survive the cufflink. And again,
you have no evidence. Ste Well, well, Sirley, did I
just hear you say to a woman what that she
(04:11):
doesn't owe her husband an explanation for cheating? Now, I
just want to double check that out here you heard. Thanks,
thank you a little bit of validation. Thank you so much.
My own dough put me on blast. Fifty two year
old married woman, but your husband didn't hear her? Have
(04:32):
been at odds for some years. Here is the opening line,
because he is a cheater. She said that in the
first opening statement. They have been at odds because he
is a cheater. Next statement right after that, I never
called him. Oh oh oh. We have a loophole in
(04:56):
the contract. We have a get out of jail, a
free card. M we have grounds for dismissal. Wow, we
have unsubstantiated statements. We have all of this that I
(05:16):
would be using right after you said I never called him.
Then he comes to proof she thinks she has, but
all of his mannerisms changed and we stopped being into.
You didn't mention that any of your mannerisms might have changed,
(05:38):
and you didn't mention that maybe you stopped initiating sex.
You just dumped it all on him in this letter.
The argument's got so bad that I stopped talking to him.
Now y'all aren't even talking all together, and focus all
my kids and my promotion at work. Then you said,
(06:02):
I feel avoid in my marriage with a side piece
that happens to work at a car dealership. And he
is the finest frog. Heil our, heil you the cheetah
in the letter. And you know what we what proof
we have and ad mission of guilt. You said this.
(06:26):
You ain't card heal, but you said this. So now
this letter has turned. When we come back the results
of the leather turney from the Chief Love Office. All right,
hang on, Chief Love Officer, we'll have part two of
your response, Steve coming up at twenty three minutes after
subject of today's Strawberry letter, my own daughter put me
(06:48):
on blast. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to String Show, all right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject my daughter my
own daughter put me on blast. Yeah, this ain't the
problem though. No, it's this fifty year old married woman
(07:10):
that are with her husband because she says her husband's
a Cheatah. Then she turns around and says, I never called.
Then she turned around and said, but all his mannerisms
changed and we stopped being intimate. So now ain't neither
one of y'all initiating sex at the house. You all him,
and the arguments got so bad that I stopped talking
(07:32):
to him all together. So now she ain't even speaking
to her man at the house, and he ain't speaking
to her. Everybody cool with this. You know why everybody
cool with this because everybody doing what they want to do.
I could assure you that because ain't no man coming
in the house, you ain't talking to him and sleeping
with him, and then he ain't going somewhere and talking
and sleeping. Ain't no man walking in no house with
(07:56):
no woman that ain't talking to him or sleeping when
him and he ain't going somewhere else talking and sleeping.
But who you know? Who? You know? Nothing to do that.
I do not let you move on. But then, since
the argument's got so bad, need to stop talking. She
focused on her kids and her promotion at work. Oh no,
you didn't, you said right after that. I feel the
(08:18):
board in my marriage with a side piece that happens
to work at a car dealership, and and he's as
fine as frog hare and he was flirting heavy with
me when I bought a new SUV from it. Oh so,
now the real cheetah in this letter with proof is you,
and the proof is you admitted. I don't know why
you told us this, this stupidity me, but we need
(08:40):
people like you. Don't keep these letters inlive So yeah,
this segment would have been over if it wasn't for stupidity.
He suggested that we break in the third row of
my new truck, so we did for weeks. After that,
I would drive to his job and we got busy
(09:03):
in the third row in my truck. I'm sure his
co workers knew we were having sex. So I was
taking a big risk because one of them go to
my church. So all it too was for somebody to say,
let's break in your third row, so we did. I'll
(09:25):
be damned. I've been taking people at dinning, sending flowers
and notes and boxes with gifts in it, being romantic.
I give me a back row on truck and one
(09:45):
of them go to my church. And I didn't care.
She didn't care. Sex was too good and it was
so much fun. But after month of great sex, it
all came to a speeching hall. On the date my
eight year old daughter's birthday party, I picked up for
her friends for the party at skate and rink. My
daughter got in the third row the suv and her
friends piled in. My husband drove his car. When we
(10:09):
got to the skate and rink, my daughter gave her
dad a cuffley. My husband said it wasn't his comfley,
and he looked directly at me. Well, now why would
he look directly at you? Come on, well, let y'all
ain't talking. Y'all ain't having sex, so y'all ain't doing nothing.
(10:31):
So now he didn't find your baby to found the
couflant in the car, So now now he won't talk
now or now, you won't have a conversation after damn
skating rink, right. I walked into the skate and rink
and got the girls situated in the party room. My
(10:54):
husband got all up in my face and asked me
what I had been doing in my suv and what
a cuffle came from. I ignored him as you shoot
my daughter put me on blast. Well, your daughter didn't
really put your in little blast. Your daughter found the
comflet and know the comflicts is normally she's seen her
(11:17):
daddy with a coufley and go and brought her daddy.
You go your comfley. Because the baby don't know y'all
having mail to issues. She knows something ain't right. But
y'all acting a little strange with each other. Wonder how
come my mom and daddy don't never talk like your
mom with daddy. Yeah, but we already know why because
y'all out there screw and the other people. So y'all
ain't got to talk. You've been on that back row,
(11:39):
that damn truck, just messing it all up. It's losing value.
Your truck is losing value. And even if you take
that same book, same damn truck back to that car
dealership with that same salesman you bought it for. He
ain't he gonna he know that the third seat is damaged.
So now you ain't even gonna get true Blue Book
(12:01):
value for your game because he already No. I'm telling
you this salesman know what's been happening back the Yeah,
should I come clean with him? It's over come clean,
hell Na? What's wrong with you? Stupid? For the first time,
(12:21):
Shirley said. And this is why I'm using this. Shirley,
who adamante always promotes the truth, Shirley who always adam
adamantly promotes being true to the other person. Shirley who
always wants to know why me and lie to set
up here, told this woman not to say nothing. That
(12:44):
is a form of a lie, and I support that.
You should now, hell Na, you don't owe him no explanation,
quite comfleet. You ain't never been on the third row,
and you don't know whooping back there. Some service man
been back there something, and it is a service man
because he was servicing you. We gotta go post your
(13:06):
comments on the Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on
Instagram and Facebook. Check out The Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
Coming up, more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show. Right
after this, you're listening to The Stave Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you
need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEFARVEFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours, lady and gentlemen. Thank you, Steve
(00:28):
subject my own daughter put me on blast. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I'm a fifty two year old married woman, but my
husband and I have been at odds for a few
years because he is a cheater. I never caught him,
but all of his mannerisms changed and we stopped being intimate.
The argument's got so bad that I stopped talking to
(00:50):
him altogether and focus more on my kids and my
promotion at work. I fill the boid in my marriage
with the side piece that happens to work at a
car dealership, and he is as fine as frog here.
He was flirting heavily with me when I bought a
new sub from him. He suggested that we break in
the third row of my new truck, so we did.
(01:13):
For weeks after that I would drive to his job
and we got busy in the third row of my truck.
I'm sure his coworkers knew we were having sex, so
I was taking a big risk because one of them
goes to my church. I didn't care. The sex was
too good and it was so much fun. But after
a month of great sex, it all came to a
(01:34):
screeching halt. On the day of my eight year old
daughter's birthday, I picked up four of her friends for
the party at the skating rink. My daughter got on
the third row of the suv and her friends piled in.
My husband drove his car, and when we got to
the skating rink, my daughter gave her dad a cufflink.
My husband said it wasn't his cufflink, and he looked
(01:56):
directly at me. I walked on. I walked on into
the skating rink and got the girl situated in the
party room. My husband got all up in my face
and asked what I had been doing in my suv
and where the cufflink came from. I ignored him. My
daughter put me on blast. But I don't feel like
(02:16):
I owe him an explanation, or do I should I
come clean? With him. This letter. This letter got me upset,
It really did, because what you're not gonna do, mom,
is blame the baby for you're cheating. You're just not
going to do that. You were messing around in your
truck with a car salesman and you got busted. Period.
(02:40):
The child was absolutely justified in giving the cufflink to
her dad. Of course she thought it was her dad's.
I mean, this is an eight year old daughter, your
eight year old daughter. She doesn't know anything about all
of this. I just think you're wrong, Mom. You didn't
check behind yourself. Your salesman didn't realize he left the cufflink,
and you you just got caught, both of you guys.
(03:02):
You know, basically, that's it, that's all, and it's on you,
no one else but choose. That's proof of your cheating.
You said you never caught your husband. It was just
the fact that his mannerisms change and he cuts you off.
But still no evidence. You know, there was no earring,
lying around, no hair, no underwear, etc. But you, my dear,
(03:24):
left evidence. It was still it's still double standard in
this world concerning men and women, meaning you can't do
what I do, and that's just the way men think.
That's why he was all up in your face about
the cufflink. And you still have no proof. He doesn't
want you cheating on him though, So no, you don't
owe him an explanation. And please know that if you
tell him the truth, your marriage is more than likely over.
(03:48):
Men don't usually stick around when they're women when their
wives and women cheat on them. I really don't see
how this marriage is going to survive the cufflink. And again,
you have no evidence. Ste Well, well, Sirley, did I
just hear you say to a woman what that she
(04:11):
doesn't owe her husband an explanation for cheating? Now, I
just want to double check that out here you heard. Thanks,
thank you a little bit of validation. Thank you so much.
My own dough put me on blast. Fifty two year
old married woman, but your husband didn't hear her? Have
(04:32):
been at odds for some years. Here is the opening line,
because he is a cheater. She said that in the
first opening statement. They have been at odds because he
is a cheater. Next statement right after that, I never
called him. Oh oh oh. We have a loophole in
(04:56):
the contract. We have a get out of jail, a
free card. M we have grounds for dismissal. Wow, we
have unsubstantiated statements. We have all of this that I
(05:16):
would be using right after you said I never called him.
Then he comes to proof she thinks she has, but
all of his mannerisms changed and we stopped being into.
You didn't mention that any of your mannerisms might have changed,
(05:38):
and you didn't mention that maybe you stopped initiating sex.
You just dumped it all on him in this letter.
The argument's got so bad that I stopped talking to him.
Now y'all aren't even talking all together, and focus all
my kids and my promotion at work. Then you said,
(06:02):
I feel avoid in my marriage with a side piece
that happens to work at a car dealership. And he
is the finest frog. Heil our, heil you the cheetah
in the letter. And you know what we what proof
we have and ad mission of guilt. You said this.
(06:26):
You ain't card heal, but you said this. So now
this letter has turned. When we come back the results
of the leather turney from the Chief Love Office. All right,
hang on, Chief Love Officer, we'll have part two of
your response, Steve coming up at twenty three minutes after
subject of today's Strawberry letter, my own daughter put me
(06:48):
on blast. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to String Show, all right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject my daughter my
own daughter put me on blast. Yeah, this ain't the
problem though. No, it's this fifty year old married woman
(07:10):
that are with her husband because she says her husband's
a Cheatah. Then she turns around and says, I never called.
Then she turned around and said, but all his mannerisms
changed and we stopped being intimate. So now ain't neither
one of y'all initiating sex at the house. You all him,
and the arguments got so bad that I stopped talking
(07:32):
to him all together. So now she ain't even speaking
to her man at the house, and he ain't speaking
to her. Everybody cool with this. You know why everybody
cool with this because everybody doing what they want to do.
I could assure you that because ain't no man coming
in the house, you ain't talking to him and sleeping
with him, and then he ain't going somewhere and talking
and sleeping. Ain't no man walking in no house with
(07:56):
no woman that ain't talking to him or sleeping when
him and he ain't going somewhere else talking and sleeping.
But who you know? Who? You know? Nothing to do that.
I do not let you move on. But then, since
the argument's got so bad, need to stop talking. She
focused on her kids and her promotion at work. Oh no,
you didn't, you said right after that. I feel the
(08:18):
board in my marriage with a side piece that happens
to work at a car dealership, and and he's as
fine as frog hare and he was flirting heavy with
me when I bought a new SUV from it. Oh so,
now the real cheetah in this letter with proof is you,
and the proof is you admitted. I don't know why
you told us this, this stupidity me, but we need
(08:40):
people like you. Don't keep these letters inlive So yeah,
this segment would have been over if it wasn't for stupidity.
He suggested that we break in the third row of
my new truck, so we did for weeks. After that,
I would drive to his job and we got busy
(09:03):
in the third row in my truck. I'm sure his
co workers knew we were having sex. So I was
taking a big risk because one of them go to
my church. So all it too was for somebody to say,
let's break in your third row, so we did. I'll
(09:25):
be damned. I've been taking people at dinning, sending flowers
and notes and boxes with gifts in it, being romantic.
I give me a back row on truck and one
(09:45):
of them go to my church. And I didn't care.
She didn't care. Sex was too good and it was
so much fun. But after month of great sex, it
all came to a speeching hall. On the date my
eight year old daughter's birthday party, I picked up for
her friends for the party at skate and rink. My
daughter got in the third row the suv and her
friends piled in. My husband drove his car. When we
(10:09):
got to the skate and rink, my daughter gave her
dad a cuffley. My husband said it wasn't his comfley,
and he looked directly at me. Well, now why would
he look directly at you? Come on, well, let y'all
ain't talking. Y'all ain't having sex, so y'all ain't doing nothing.
(10:31):
So now he didn't find your baby to found the
couflant in the car, So now now he won't talk
now or now, you won't have a conversation after damn
skating rink, right. I walked into the skate and rink
and got the girls situated in the party room. My
(10:54):
husband got all up in my face and asked me
what I had been doing in my suv and what
a cuffle came from. I ignored him as you shoot
my daughter put me on blast. Well, your daughter didn't
really put your in little blast. Your daughter found the
comflet and know the comflicts is normally she's seen her
(11:17):
daddy with a coufley and go and brought her daddy.
You go your comfley. Because the baby don't know y'all
having mail to issues. She knows something ain't right. But
y'all acting a little strange with each other. Wonder how
come my mom and daddy don't never talk like your
mom with daddy. Yeah, but we already know why because
y'all out there screw and the other people. So y'all
ain't got to talk. You've been on that back row,
(11:39):
that damn truck, just messing it all up. It's losing value.
Your truck is losing value. And even if you take
that same book, same damn truck back to that car
dealership with that same salesman you bought it for. He
ain't he gonna he know that the third seat is damaged.
So now you ain't even gonna get true Blue Book
(12:01):
value for your game because he already No. I'm telling
you this salesman know what's been happening back the Yeah,
should I come clean with him? It's over come clean,
hell Na? What's wrong with you? Stupid? For the first time,
(12:21):
Shirley said. And this is why I'm using this. Shirley,
who adamante always promotes the truth, Shirley who always adam
adamantly promotes being true to the other person. Shirley who
always wants to know why me and lie to set
up here, told this woman not to say nothing. That
(12:44):
is a form of a lie, and I support that.
You should now, hell Na, you don't owe him no explanation,
quite comfleet. You ain't never been on the third row,
and you don't know whooping back there. Some service man
been back there something, and it is a service man
because he was servicing you. We gotta go post your
(13:06):
comments on the Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on
Instagram and Facebook. Check out The Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.
Coming up, more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show. Right
after this, you're listening to The Stave Harvey Morning Show.
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