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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Starwberry. Let this right here. Subject. My prince Charming turned
out to be a devil with horns. That is the
subject again, My Prince Charming turned out to be a
devil with horns. I'm a thirty nine year old single
mother of two girls, nine and fourteen. I'm educated, beautiful,
(00:24):
and successful and have a good job. I met my
prince Charming online. Went on a few dates. In my life.
I've had missteps mishaps when it comes to men. This
guy was handsome, well educated, and he is every woman's dream.
I was, Oh, this, this, Oh. I was so excited
(00:44):
to finally meet somebody like him, after meeting a couple
of you know, after meeting a couple of freeloaders. He
was my dream come true. My excitement about my Prince
Charming ended when I landed in his bed of hell.
My first concern was his unwillingness to use protection, and
(01:06):
I insisted that since we don't know each other that long,
since we didn't know each other that long, that was
the safest thing to do. I asked him about his status,
and he said he was clean, he had no diseases,
and he was going to show me his status. I
was concerned when I realized that he had secretly removed
the protection during the encounter, and he told me that
(01:28):
he does not like using them. After this day, I
called and told him that I needed to see his
HIV status and he said, yeah, I will send it
to you. As I was waiting impatiently, I noticed that
he was a bit different. I called him and told
him strongly but politely, that I needed to know his status.
(01:50):
That was the last day I ever heard from him.
He stopped calling me. He has He never answered my
calls nor returned them. I called him at work and
he told me not to bother him anymore. I must
leave him alone. Six months later, I tested positive for
h I V. What do I do? Do I sue him?
(02:14):
Do I let him do this to other women? Should
I sit and accept it as my fate? I am devastated.
I look at my girls and cry because I have
betrayed them. I put myself in a compromising situation. What
do I tell them? Steve? I know I failed to
follow your rule of thumb, but I still need your advice. Thanks.
(02:34):
Devastated and betrayed, will be back. Hey, make sure you
join me for Strawberry Letter Live the after show on Facebook.
It'll be live this Thursday at one pm, one thirty pm.
We'll talk about that day's letter. But come on, Steve,
let's hear part two of your response to today's letter.
I know we don't want to deal with this because
(02:55):
it's so deep, but we got to get back to this.
This is a heavy Okay, here's again. I'm my Prince
Charming turned out to be a devil with horns. I'm
thirty nine year old single mother two girls nine and fourteen.
I'm educated, beautiful, and successful to have a good job.
I met my Prince Charming online. Went on a few dates.
(03:17):
In my life. I've had mishaps when it comes to me,
and this guy was handsome, well educated, and he's every
woman's dream. I was so excited to finally meet somebody
like him after meeting a couple of freeloaders. He was
my dream come true. My excitement about my Prince Charming
ended when I landed in his bed of hell. My
first concern was his unwillingness to use protection, and I
(03:38):
insisted that since we don't know each other that long,
that that was that was the safest thing to do.
I asked him about his status, and he said he
was clean, he has no diseases, and he was going
to show me his status. I was concerned when I
realized that he had secretly removed the protection during the encounter,
and he told me that he does not like using
them after this day, I called him and told him
(03:59):
I needed to see his HIV status and he said, yeah,
I'll send it to you is. I was waiting impatiently.
I noticed that he was a bit different. I called
him and told him strongly but politely, that I needed
to know his status. That was the last day ever
heard from him. He stopped calling me. He never answered
my calls nor return them. I called him at work
and he told me not to bother him anymore. I
must leave him alone. Six months later, I tested positive
(04:19):
for HIV. What do I do? Do I sue him?
Do I let him do this to other women? Should
I sit and accept it as my fate? I am devastated.
I look at my girls and cry because I have
betrayed them. I put myself in a compromising situation. What
do I tell them? Steve? I know I failed to
follow your rule of thumb, but still I need your advice. Thanks.
(04:42):
Devastated and betrayed. I'm devastated too. I really am for her,
you know, I mean all I'm gonna do because she
knows all the answers, I'm just gonna give her some
stuff that could possibly help her in terms of websites
that she can go to and you know, get some
help and some more education. UM. Go to AIDS dot gov. Um.
(05:05):
You know they can give you access to US government
HIV and AIDS information about prevention. You know you can
pass that along to your girl, to your children, AIDS education, testing,
treatment and care. A lot of people are living with
AIDS and living with HIV. And there's also AIDS health
dot org. Uh, it's an AIDS healthcare foundation, AIDS Health
(05:26):
dot Org, AIDS dot gov. This is so sad and
about suing. You know, it depends on what states you're in. Well,
here is what I want to say to the ladies.
HIV and AIDS is no longer the death centers that
it used to be. They have treatment for you, They
have medicines for you. There are people who are living
(05:50):
long lives who are HIV. And you know that there's
a gratefulness in that you tested positive HIV. If you
take care of yourself. From this point on, you can
live a long life. I know people personally friends of
(06:10):
mine who are HIV who are living very productive lives,
and I mean very productive lives. One of them is
very famous and he played basketball. I'll rest my case.
So at least you found out early. That's the good part.
(06:33):
You have two beautiful daughters. You have to do your
part now to stay here for them. So let's get
about the business now of what you have to do.
There is a fight involved. But because you are educated, intelligent, bright,
you have fight in you go go get in this fight,
(06:56):
don't give up. So yeah, that answers the question that
she asked. Should I sit and accept it as my No, no, no,
it's listen, it's not your fate. It's a challenge. Now
you can accept this as a challenge or you can
accept it as your fate. It's not your fate. Faith
sounds so final. So no, no, no, no, no, you
(07:16):
are HIV positive. Okay, all right, let's get bitter, let's
get busy, let's get with it. Let's do what the
others have done who have fought this and is surviving
and living. There is no cure for AIDS, but that
is treatment now that enables you to to And I
(07:36):
hope I'm saying this wrong, and I please, please, I don't.
I don't mean any offense to anybody because I don't.
I don't want to say this wrong. I think that
if you're just HIV and it's not turned into age yet,
that there is a lot of treatment for that that
you can stave off the HIV from turning into age.
(07:57):
Once again, I hope I did not say anything to
offend anybody. I'm just trying to recall in memory what
I've heard my friends say, so I hope that's I
hope I'm not offending anybody because I noticed a delicate
subject and in our community it's devastating. You are smart enough,
(08:17):
ma'am who you went and got tested, You were concerned enough,
you got you gotta move put on you with old
boy up in there. Uh. And the online thing, yeah,
well online, I ain't really. You don't understand you can
meet somebody online, but even when you meet a person online,
you still got to go through them the one two
(08:38):
threes of how to get to know a person, whether
you meet him online or you meet him at Church's
supposed to turn him in. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah,
you gotta turn him in. And you gotta protect other women. Yeah,
you have to do that. You gotta put him straight
on notice and blast. You can't let it because if
this is the game he playing, that's ugly, all right, Steve,
You know we gotta go email us or instagram us
your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at my Girl. Surely
Starwberry. Let this right here. Subject. My prince Charming turned
out to be a devil with horns. That is the
subject again, My Prince Charming turned out to be a
devil with horns. I'm a thirty nine year old single
mother of two girls, nine and fourteen. I'm educated, beautiful,
(00:24):
and successful and have a good job. I met my
prince Charming online. Went on a few dates. In my life.
I've had missteps mishaps when it comes to men. This
guy was handsome, well educated, and he is every woman's dream.
I was, Oh, this, this, Oh. I was so excited
(00:44):
to finally meet somebody like him, after meeting a couple
of you know, after meeting a couple of freeloaders. He
was my dream come true. My excitement about my Prince
Charming ended when I landed in his bed of hell.
My first concern was his unwillingness to use protection, and
(01:06):
I insisted that since we don't know each other that long,
since we didn't know each other that long, that was
the safest thing to do. I asked him about his status,
and he said he was clean, he had no diseases,
and he was going to show me his status. I
was concerned when I realized that he had secretly removed
the protection during the encounter, and he told me that
(01:28):
he does not like using them. After this day, I
called and told him that I needed to see his
HIV status and he said, yeah, I will send it
to you. As I was waiting impatiently, I noticed that
he was a bit different. I called him and told
him strongly but politely, that I needed to know his status.
(01:50):
That was the last day I ever heard from him.
He stopped calling me. He has He never answered my
calls nor returned them. I called him at work and
he told me not to bother him anymore. I must
leave him alone. Six months later, I tested positive for
h I V. What do I do? Do I sue him?
(02:14):
Do I let him do this to other women? Should
I sit and accept it as my fate? I am devastated.
I look at my girls and cry because I have
betrayed them. I put myself in a compromising situation. What
do I tell them? Steve? I know I failed to
follow your rule of thumb, but I still need your advice. Thanks.
(02:34):
Devastated and betrayed, will be back. Hey, make sure you
join me for Strawberry Letter Live the after show on Facebook.
It'll be live this Thursday at one pm, one thirty pm.
We'll talk about that day's letter. But come on, Steve,
let's hear part two of your response to today's letter.
I know we don't want to deal with this because
(02:55):
it's so deep, but we got to get back to this.
This is a heavy Okay, here's again. I'm my Prince
Charming turned out to be a devil with horns. I'm
thirty nine year old single mother two girls nine and fourteen.
I'm educated, beautiful, and successful to have a good job.
I met my Prince Charming online. Went on a few dates.
(03:17):
In my life. I've had mishaps when it comes to me,
and this guy was handsome, well educated, and he's every
woman's dream. I was so excited to finally meet somebody
like him after meeting a couple of freeloaders. He was
my dream come true. My excitement about my Prince Charming
ended when I landed in his bed of hell. My
first concern was his unwillingness to use protection, and I
(03:38):
insisted that since we don't know each other that long,
that that was that was the safest thing to do.
I asked him about his status, and he said he
was clean, he has no diseases, and he was going
to show me his status. I was concerned when I
realized that he had secretly removed the protection during the encounter,
and he told me that he does not like using
them after this day, I called him and told him
(03:59):
I needed to see his HIV status and he said, yeah,
I'll send it to you is. I was waiting impatiently.
I noticed that he was a bit different. I called
him and told him strongly but politely, that I needed
to know his status. That was the last day ever
heard from him. He stopped calling me. He never answered
my calls nor return them. I called him at work
and he told me not to bother him anymore. I
must leave him alone. Six months later, I tested positive
(04:19):
for HIV. What do I do? Do I sue him?
Do I let him do this to other women? Should
I sit and accept it as my fate? I am devastated.
I look at my girls and cry because I have
betrayed them. I put myself in a compromising situation. What
do I tell them? Steve? I know I failed to
follow your rule of thumb, but still I need your advice. Thanks.
(04:42):
Devastated and betrayed. I'm devastated too. I really am for her,
you know, I mean all I'm gonna do because she
knows all the answers, I'm just gonna give her some
stuff that could possibly help her in terms of websites
that she can go to and you know, get some
help and some more education. UM. Go to AIDS dot gov. Um.
(05:05):
You know they can give you access to US government
HIV and AIDS information about prevention. You know you can
pass that along to your girl, to your children, AIDS education, testing,
treatment and care. A lot of people are living with
AIDS and living with HIV. And there's also AIDS health
dot org. Uh, it's an AIDS healthcare foundation, AIDS Health
(05:26):
dot Org, AIDS dot gov. This is so sad and
about suing. You know, it depends on what states you're in. Well,
here is what I want to say to the ladies.
HIV and AIDS is no longer the death centers that
it used to be. They have treatment for you, They
have medicines for you. There are people who are living
(05:50):
long lives who are HIV. And you know that there's
a gratefulness in that you tested positive HIV. If you
take care of yourself. From this point on, you can
live a long life. I know people personally friends of
(06:10):
mine who are HIV who are living very productive lives,
and I mean very productive lives. One of them is
very famous and he played basketball. I'll rest my case.
So at least you found out early. That's the good part.
(06:33):
You have two beautiful daughters. You have to do your
part now to stay here for them. So let's get
about the business now of what you have to do.
There is a fight involved. But because you are educated, intelligent, bright,
you have fight in you go go get in this fight,
(06:56):
don't give up. So yeah, that answers the question that
she asked. Should I sit and accept it as my No, no, no,
it's listen, it's not your fate. It's a challenge. Now
you can accept this as a challenge or you can
accept it as your fate. It's not your fate. Faith
sounds so final. So no, no, no, no, no, you
(07:16):
are HIV positive. Okay, all right, let's get bitter, let's
get busy, let's get with it. Let's do what the
others have done who have fought this and is surviving
and living. There is no cure for AIDS, but that
is treatment now that enables you to to And I
(07:36):
hope I'm saying this wrong, and I please, please, I don't.
I don't mean any offense to anybody because I don't.
I don't want to say this wrong. I think that
if you're just HIV and it's not turned into age yet,
that there is a lot of treatment for that that
you can stave off the HIV from turning into age.
(07:57):
Once again, I hope I did not say anything to
offend anybody. I'm just trying to recall in memory what
I've heard my friends say, so I hope that's I
hope I'm not offending anybody because I noticed a delicate
subject and in our community it's devastating. You are smart enough,
(08:17):
ma'am who you went and got tested, You were concerned enough,
you got you gotta move put on you with old
boy up in there. Uh. And the online thing, yeah,
well online, I ain't really. You don't understand you can
meet somebody online, but even when you meet a person online,
you still got to go through them the one two
(08:38):
threes of how to get to know a person, whether
you meet him online or you meet him at Church's
supposed to turn him in. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah,
you gotta turn him in. And you gotta protect other women. Yeah,
you have to do that. You gotta put him straight
on notice and blast. You can't let it because if
this is the game he playing, that's ugly, all right, Steve,
You know we gotta go email us or instagram us
your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at my Girl. Surely
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