June 10, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I have some news to share with you and I need your input. I am a 33 year old woman and I have a female friend that everyone thinks is just a friend, but secretly, she’s my girlfriend. Girlfriend, as in lover. It all started about four years ago when we both were having issues in our love life and we started venting, crying and holding each other. One thing lead to another and it was on! I totally loved the experience and wish I could be with her more, but we live in different cities................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.
If you need advice and relationships, on sex, on dating,
on work, on parenting, and more. Please submit your Strawberry
Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Strawberry a Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one today right now.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Bugala, hold on tight, We got it for you.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It is the Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
All right, let's go. Subject my sister can't have my girlfriend.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I have some news to share with you,
and I need your input. I am a thirty three
year old woman and I have a female friend that
everyone thinks is just a friend, but secretly she's my
girlfriend girlfriend as in lover. It all started about four
(00:45):
years ago when we both were having issues in our
love life and we started venting, crying and holding each other.
One thing led to another, and it was on. I
totally love the experience and wish I could be with
her more, but we live in different cities. We've managed
to be discreet with everything so no one knows anything.
(01:06):
She came to town two weekends ago for my son's
birthday party. And she's spent most of the time laughing
and talking to my younger sister. I was kind of mad,
but I had to play it off because I didn't
want to cause the scene. After the party, I told
my girlfriend that I was a bit jealous, and she
said that it was nothing but light flirting because she
(01:26):
was trying to see if my sister was interested. Well,
after talking to my sister and jokingly asking her what
she and my girlfriend were talking about, my sister considered
it to be more than flirting and she is interested
in my girlfriend. I was furious, but there is nothing
I can do. I didn't even know my sister was
(01:47):
interested in women, but she is. So here's the problem.
We are all scheduled to go to Mexico for the
fourth of July, and I am dreading this trip because
if the two of them get together, I would die.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Oh, I fail to mention that all three of us
are married dot dot dot two men. What shall I
read that line again?
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
I fail to mention that all three of us are
married dot dot dot to men. We've all been married
at least five years. My husband and my girlfriend's husband
are clueless, and now my sister is trying to cheat
on her husband with my girl. Can you help me
sort this out? Should I be jealous or not? Well, okay,
(02:43):
I can try. That's all I can do is try here.
Because this is my job. I'm gonna try. Should you
be jealous? I would definitely say yes you should be
jealous because it does sound like your sister is making
her move and trying to push up on your girl
and your so called girlfriend. Sounds like she's entertaining your
(03:03):
sister's advances. Well, like she put it in the letter,
she was just trying to see if your sister was interested. Well,
your sister made a plane in the letter that she
is interested. Okay, that's pretty clear. The problem in this
letter is all these secrets. It's so many secrets. You
and your sister have secrets, You and your girlfriend have secrets.
(03:24):
You have secrets from all of your husbands. All three
of the girls have secrets from all of their from
all of your husbands. I don't know how long these
secrets are gonna last, because if your sister and your
girlfriend get together, your jealousy is probably going to explode
here because you're already jealous just telling us about it.
You're upset with your sister. Your sister has a lot
(03:45):
of nerve going after your girl, but then because of
the secret, she didn't know it was your girl. You
three are gonna have to get together and work something
out if you want this to continue. And this is crazy?
Did I fail to men that this was crazy? Because
all three of you guys are married to men, and
(04:05):
you're cheating. You're cheating, all right, this is cheating. I
don't care if it's a girl on girl, it's still cheating, okay,
because the three of you guys are married. This is
a mess. I'm trying to help you sort it out.
I don't think I did a very good job.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I just know.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I just know that this is a mess, and you
guys are gonna have to work this out. I don't
think your sister should be pushing up on your girl, though,
and I don't think you should be cheating on your
husband or your girlfriend or your sister. Steve, good luck.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
I'm not even gonna try to straighten this out.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
It's just Sureley, I didn't understand when you said your
sister shouldn't be pushing up on your girl.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yeah, the lady who wrote the letter, Uh huh, her sister.
Her sister is interested in her girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
But yeah, her sister don't know that's her girlfriend. I
know that. So what you mean she shouldn't be pushing
up on.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Her, Well, she shouldn't. She shouldn't be pushing up on her.
She's Yeah, of course she's married.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
You know that. You know what, Shirley, ain't even gonna
you did a good job. I ain't even gonna try
to figure this out. Everybody know this ain't none of
my damn lane. Everybody know I don't know nothing about this.
Everybody know this. Say what I do? Stop this on
(05:29):
It's relationship advice, Steve. That's all you have to look
at it like, well, yeah, that's true. But when it's this,
it's three women that's married to three dudes. But three
three women, yeah, is loving on each other about two? Yeah,
(05:50):
don't none of y'all belong to each other and all
three of y'all belong to somebody else.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
At church? Amen?
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Amen, Amen, though none of y'all three belong to each other,
but all three of y'all belong to someone else.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Well, in the words of be with us almost sangle,
beal with this song when we come back.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
No, you're not. You're about to get done. That not
the one. I thank you, you know what.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
But you can let me just say this, Steve, you
can handle it. I have confidence in you. We're gonna
we're gonna have part two off you. We come on
coming up at twenty three after the hour subject my
sister can't have my girlfriend. I we'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening morning show. All right,
come on, Steve, you can do this. Let's recap today's letter.
(06:58):
My sister can't have my girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Thirty three year old woman got this friend to hers
that they didn't hear it from everybody that they molding friends.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
They really love us.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
She loved it. The way they be doing it together
is for her. Wish she could do it more, but
they live in separate cities. Got together have a weekend
for her son's birthday party. She spent the whole time
loft laughing and talking to this woman's younger sister, her girl,
her girl. I was kind of mad, but I had
(07:32):
to play it all because I ain't want to cause
a scene. Then after the party, I told my girlfriend
I was a bit jealous, and she said it was
nothing but life flirting because she was trying to see
if my sister was interested. Then I went over there
and started talking my damn sister, jokingly asking to her
and my girlfriend was talking about My sister considered it
(07:52):
molding flirting. Now she interested in my girlfriend. I was
mad as hell, but ain't nothing. I don't even know
my sister was interested in women. Well, I bet she
ain't know you was interested in women either, but she is,
what so is you? So here's the problem. All three
of y'all is the problem. We are all scheduled to
(08:13):
go to Mexico for the fourth of July. Whoa, and
I'm dreading this trip because the two of them getting together.
I would die. Then I failed to mention that all
three of us is married to men, all right now,
so crazy though none of y'all I'm talking about the
(08:34):
three women don't None of y'all belong to each other,
but all of y'all belonged to somebody else. Y'all got husbands,
y'all tripping. So here's my solution for all this. We
got to stop some of this line. I think all
(08:57):
six of y'all put it all out on the table.
What yeah, I think all the women ort to go
to all their husbands as go hey, just so you
know we all care about each other. You might find
out that there's more care in that group. Then you
got stomach for what.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
You might find.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Out that there's more caring in that group, and you
got stomach fault.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Now you running there with that news if you want to,
But you might get some news of your damn own.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
No, man, because I kind of got a feeling that
one of the men might know something. I bet you
one of them men would love to know that y'all
is interested in each other.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I promise you wanted the men want to know.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Why do you say that though?
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Because he gonna want to get involved too? Yeah? I
want to go to Mexico? My else? Yeah where they're
going Mexico? What's the point one for July? I'm available? Yeah,
we open three of a man. When you're a time,
y'all going to play golf? Hurry up? For the course closed?
Speaker 1 (10:11):
So the only.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Damn it, when is y'all going to play golf? Don't
y'all want to go get some drinks?
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Get out of here to hurry them up?
Speaker 3 (10:28):
Girl, I'm so glad they're gone. What y'all want to do. Girl,
let's go get niked getting this swimming pool.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Girl, I'm just chew.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
I thought they never leave. I don't know why these
men up in here all this time? Right here, we
could have been in this damn water. Wow.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Oh man, it's too much, little girl. I missed you
so much. Does not last laughing with you?
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Oh god?
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Oh I see you just got your bottoms on. All right,
Oh that's how we're gonna do this, all right? Be
just up in there.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
How long you think they'll be playing golf? At least
five hour? Girl, I'm gonna be tired. I can five hours, man,
get on my nerves. Then we're gonna have to get
with them tonight. They gonna get the drinking. They gonna
want to do something. I don't feel like them on me.
I why man, he wants to come over here. He
(11:31):
don't be doing nothing. He don't be doing nothing. But
you curlvil and just go out in the ocean. In
the ocean, dog, be there. We ain't got to get
that hairway. Who said something about getting their hair with
(11:55):
you could just hold.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Your head bag? Oh my god, girl, you can.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Just hold your head back. You ain't even got to
get in no walk. See right there on the edge
of that's hot hot?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Can I ask you question what you need?
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Call it?
Speaker 2 (12:13):
How much tequila? Girl?
Speaker 3 (12:16):
We don't drink up all the gave they got died here. Girl,
I don't drink so much tequila. I feel like I'm
Puerto Rican down girl, Puerto Rican. We're in Mexico. Guy,
that's how much tequila.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
I don't know where I'm in.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
I've been down here. Go get that big blue and
white tall bottle over there. They say that's real good
ignorant man. Okay, I'm so tired of these man.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
This is all right. Listen.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
You can email us you guys, or instagram your thoughts
on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM, or you
can check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. You're
listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.
If you need advice and relationships, on sex, on dating,
on work, on parenting, and more. Please submit your Strawberry
Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Strawberry a Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one today right now.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Bugala, hold on tight, We got it for you.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It is the Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
All right, let's go. Subject my sister can't have my girlfriend.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I have some news to share with you,
and I need your input. I am a thirty three
year old woman and I have a female friend that
everyone thinks is just a friend, but secretly she's my
girlfriend girlfriend as in lover. It all started about four
(00:45):
years ago when we both were having issues in our
love life and we started venting, crying and holding each other.
One thing led to another, and it was on. I
totally love the experience and wish I could be with
her more, but we live in different cities. We've managed
to be discreet with everything so no one knows anything.
(01:06):
She came to town two weekends ago for my son's
birthday party. And she's spent most of the time laughing
and talking to my younger sister. I was kind of mad,
but I had to play it off because I didn't
want to cause the scene. After the party, I told
my girlfriend that I was a bit jealous, and she
said that it was nothing but light flirting because she
(01:26):
was trying to see if my sister was interested. Well,
after talking to my sister and jokingly asking her what
she and my girlfriend were talking about, my sister considered
it to be more than flirting and she is interested
in my girlfriend. I was furious, but there is nothing
I can do. I didn't even know my sister was
(01:47):
interested in women, but she is. So here's the problem.
We are all scheduled to go to Mexico for the
fourth of July, and I am dreading this trip because
if the two of them get together, I would die.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Oh, I fail to mention that all three of us
are married dot dot dot two men. What shall I
read that line again?
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:18):
I fail to mention that all three of us are
married dot dot dot to men. We've all been married
at least five years. My husband and my girlfriend's husband
are clueless, and now my sister is trying to cheat
on her husband with my girl. Can you help me
sort this out? Should I be jealous or not? Well, okay,
(02:43):
I can try. That's all I can do is try here.
Because this is my job. I'm gonna try. Should you
be jealous? I would definitely say yes you should be
jealous because it does sound like your sister is making
her move and trying to push up on your girl
and your so called girlfriend. Sounds like she's entertaining your
(03:03):
sister's advances. Well, like she put it in the letter,
she was just trying to see if your sister was interested. Well,
your sister made a plane in the letter that she
is interested. Okay, that's pretty clear. The problem in this
letter is all these secrets. It's so many secrets. You
and your sister have secrets, You and your girlfriend have secrets.
(03:24):
You have secrets from all of your husbands. All three
of the girls have secrets from all of their from
all of your husbands. I don't know how long these
secrets are gonna last, because if your sister and your
girlfriend get together, your jealousy is probably going to explode
here because you're already jealous just telling us about it.
You're upset with your sister. Your sister has a lot
(03:45):
of nerve going after your girl, but then because of
the secret, she didn't know it was your girl. You
three are gonna have to get together and work something
out if you want this to continue. And this is crazy?
Did I fail to men that this was crazy? Because
all three of you guys are married to men, and
(04:05):
you're cheating. You're cheating, all right, this is cheating. I
don't care if it's a girl on girl, it's still cheating, okay,
because the three of you guys are married. This is
a mess. I'm trying to help you sort it out.
I don't think I did a very good job.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I just know.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I just know that this is a mess, and you
guys are gonna have to work this out. I don't
think your sister should be pushing up on your girl, though,
and I don't think you should be cheating on your
husband or your girlfriend or your sister. Steve, good luck.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
I'm not even gonna try to straighten this out.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
It's just Sureley, I didn't understand when you said your
sister shouldn't be pushing up on your girl.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Yeah, the lady who wrote the letter, Uh huh, her sister.
Her sister is interested in her girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
But yeah, her sister don't know that's her girlfriend. I
know that. So what you mean she shouldn't be pushing
up on.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Her, Well, she shouldn't. She shouldn't be pushing up on her.
She's Yeah, of course she's married.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
You know that. You know what, Shirley, ain't even gonna
you did a good job. I ain't even gonna try
to figure this out. Everybody know this ain't none of
my damn lane. Everybody know I don't know nothing about this.
Everybody know this. Say what I do? Stop this on
(05:29):
It's relationship advice, Steve. That's all you have to look
at it like, well, yeah, that's true. But when it's this,
it's three women that's married to three dudes. But three
three women, yeah, is loving on each other about two? Yeah,
(05:50):
don't none of y'all belong to each other and all
three of y'all belong to somebody else.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
At church? Amen?
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Amen, Amen, though none of y'all three belong to each other,
but all three of y'all belong to someone else.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Well, in the words of be with us almost sangle,
beal with this song when we come back.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
No, you're not. You're about to get done. That not
the one. I thank you, you know what.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
But you can let me just say this, Steve, you
can handle it. I have confidence in you. We're gonna
we're gonna have part two off you. We come on
coming up at twenty three after the hour subject my
sister can't have my girlfriend. I we'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening morning show. All right,
come on, Steve, you can do this. Let's recap today's letter.
(06:58):
My sister can't have my girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Thirty three year old woman got this friend to hers
that they didn't hear it from everybody that they molding friends.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
They really love us.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
She loved it. The way they be doing it together
is for her. Wish she could do it more, but
they live in separate cities. Got together have a weekend
for her son's birthday party. She spent the whole time
loft laughing and talking to this woman's younger sister, her girl,
her girl. I was kind of mad, but I had
(07:32):
to play it all because I ain't want to cause
a scene. Then after the party, I told my girlfriend
I was a bit jealous, and she said it was
nothing but life flirting because she was trying to see
if my sister was interested. Then I went over there
and started talking my damn sister, jokingly asking to her
and my girlfriend was talking about My sister considered it
(07:52):
molding flirting. Now she interested in my girlfriend. I was
mad as hell, but ain't nothing. I don't even know
my sister was interested in women. Well, I bet she
ain't know you was interested in women either, but she is,
what so is you? So here's the problem. All three
of y'all is the problem. We are all scheduled to
(08:13):
go to Mexico for the fourth of July. Whoa, and
I'm dreading this trip because the two of them getting together.
I would die. Then I failed to mention that all
three of us is married to men, all right now,
so crazy though none of y'all I'm talking about the
(08:34):
three women don't None of y'all belong to each other,
but all of y'all belonged to somebody else. Y'all got husbands,
y'all tripping. So here's my solution for all this. We
got to stop some of this line. I think all
(08:57):
six of y'all put it all out on the table.
What yeah, I think all the women ort to go
to all their husbands as go hey, just so you
know we all care about each other. You might find
out that there's more care in that group. Then you
got stomach for what.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
You might find.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Out that there's more caring in that group, and you
got stomach fault.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Now you running there with that news if you want to,
But you might get some news of your damn own.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
No, man, because I kind of got a feeling that
one of the men might know something. I bet you
one of them men would love to know that y'all
is interested in each other.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I promise you wanted the men want to know.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Why do you say that though?
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Because he gonna want to get involved too? Yeah? I
want to go to Mexico? My else? Yeah where they're
going Mexico? What's the point one for July? I'm available? Yeah,
we open three of a man. When you're a time,
y'all going to play golf? Hurry up? For the course closed?
Speaker 1 (10:11):
So the only.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Damn it, when is y'all going to play golf? Don't
y'all want to go get some drinks?
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Get out of here to hurry them up?
Speaker 3 (10:28):
Girl, I'm so glad they're gone. What y'all want to do. Girl,
let's go get niked getting this swimming pool.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Girl, I'm just chew.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
I thought they never leave. I don't know why these
men up in here all this time? Right here, we
could have been in this damn water. Wow.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Oh man, it's too much, little girl. I missed you
so much. Does not last laughing with you?
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Oh god?
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Oh I see you just got your bottoms on. All right,
Oh that's how we're gonna do this, all right? Be
just up in there.
Speaker 3 (11:10):
How long you think they'll be playing golf? At least
five hour? Girl, I'm gonna be tired. I can five hours, man,
get on my nerves. Then we're gonna have to get
with them tonight. They gonna get the drinking. They gonna
want to do something. I don't feel like them on me.
I why man, he wants to come over here. He
(11:31):
don't be doing nothing. He don't be doing nothing. But
you curlvil and just go out in the ocean. In
the ocean, dog, be there. We ain't got to get
that hairway. Who said something about getting their hair with
(11:55):
you could just hold.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Your head bag? Oh my god, girl, you can.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Just hold your head back. You ain't even got to
get in no walk. See right there on the edge
of that's hot hot?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Can I ask you question what you need?
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Call it?
Speaker 2 (12:13):
How much tequila? Girl?
Speaker 3 (12:16):
We don't drink up all the gave they got died here. Girl,
I don't drink so much tequila. I feel like I'm
Puerto Rican down girl, Puerto Rican. We're in Mexico. Guy,
that's how much tequila.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
I don't know where I'm in.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
I've been down here. Go get that big blue and
white tall bottle over there. They say that's real good
ignorant man. Okay, I'm so tired of these man.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
This is all right. Listen.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
You can email us you guys, or instagram your thoughts
on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM, or you
can check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. You're
listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
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