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July 28, 2021 16 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, a year ago I found out that my husband cheated on me with my sister. We were married for 9 years so it was not unusual for him to have a great relationship with my sis. They joked around and would play fight like they did not like each other. All along I thought it was cute and I had no idea that it was foreplay. I caught them in our garage one day, years ago, behind the car and my husband jumped up and told me they were trying to scare me. Boy was I stupid back then..........................

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Happy birthday to our girl, Shirley Strawberry. Today is her birthday.
Get busy girl, Happy birthday. Thank you, Thank you guys.
Which one is it? Though? It's not gonna worry you
all day? Yes, look at Sydney party. Come to dinner
at Sidney figure out her age age right? That is

(00:26):
so rude. That's my friend. I love him all right?
Here we go. Subject. Okay, time now for today's Strawberry letter.
Almost get the all all over that on my birthday.
If you need advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting
and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey
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(00:48):
Who knows this letter could be yours? It could be
write us. We'll try to help you buckle up, but
hold on tight. We got it for you here. It
is a Strawberry letter. Thank enough you. Subject my sister
and my mister, Dear Stephen, Shirley. A year ago I
found out that my husband cheated on me with my sister.

(01:09):
We were married for nine years, so it was not
unusual for him to have a great relationship with my sis.
They joked around and would play fight like they did
not like each other, and all along I thought it
was cute and I had no idea that that was
for play. I caught them in our garage one day
years ago, behind the car, and my husband jumped up

(01:30):
and told me they were trying to scare me. Boy,
was I stupid? Back then I started to hear yes.
I started to hear rumors from other family members about
how close my husband and my sister were, and my
female intuition kicked in. I started monitoring his text messages
and his email, but didn't find anything. Then my nephew

(01:53):
told me about the WhatsApp and how he and his
friends can send private messages on it without his mom
seeing them. I found the app on my husband's phone
and that's where all of the messages were. He had
set up a lunchtime quickie with my sister at her salon,
and little did he know I was coming to. She

(02:16):
has one of those salon suites in a building, so
there's not much privacy in there. I could barely see
them through the blinds, but I saw what I needed
to see. My husband had my sister bent over the
shampoo bowl and I almost passed out. I stayed until
it was over, and when he walked out, I threw

(02:36):
my coffee on him and asked him to move out
of our house as soon as possible. I have not
seen or spoken to my sister in a year. She
and my ex husband still mess around, but I'm happy
and dating. I've forgiven him and my sister. But my
sister can't face me still and talk about what she's

(02:57):
done to me. Life is short? So how do I
get her to talk to me? Please advise? All right?
Let me see, all right, this woman, your sister slept
with your husband on more than one occasion. You saw
her bent over the shampoo bowl with your husband. You're upset,

(03:19):
what you're saying? Yeah, and you're upset because she won't
talk to you. What huh? What do you want to
talk to her about? Why she did it, how she
did it? Why is she still messing around with him?
That's really the only conversation you guys can have at

(03:42):
this point. And look, I definitely believe in forgiveness. I
do and truly commend you for extending the olive branch
to your sister and realizing that life is short. I
just don't get why you think your sister would want
to talk to you. I mean, she's still sleeping with
your ex. You say she's scared to face, but I
think she simply doesn't give a narn about whether you

(04:04):
guys speak or not, or if you are sisters or not.
If she did after you busted them, she would have
stopped seeing them, or tried seeing him, or tried somehow
to make it up to you. She would have tried something.
But it's been a whole year and you've got nothing
from her. It says to me, not that she's scared
like you think, but it says that just because someone

(04:25):
is related to you, like your blood sister in this case,
doesn't mean they won't sleep with your man. So pleasus,
I mean, go on, continue to live your best life
and love your sister from a distance. Steve, the letter
should be my trifling sister and my mister. Yeah, and
that's all it is. I really can't add anything to

(04:48):
what Shirley said. She covered the letter exactly the way
it should be covered. I don't know what you want. Look,
if you let me just go. You said that you
was married nine years ago and you found out your
husband cheated on you with your sister. Okay, now, and

(05:12):
y'all was married nine years, so it was unusual for
him to have a great It wasn't unusual for him
to have great relationship with your sister. They joke around,
it would play flight like they ain't like each other.
That's how kids doing school. Yeah, I act like I
ain't like your R. Von Chuck when I was in
the elementary school. But lord Yvon Chuck, lord ha Mercer girl.

(05:38):
That girl had platts in her hand dog. They had
some Bretts blue and yellow. Oh it might be my birthday,
but I've never had platts. Okay, so now figure it out.

(05:59):
Come on. I didn't know what to do with a
girl when I was eight, but I just wanted huh,
what did you want? I mean, I had eight. I
wanted huh. You know, you know, I wanted her like
I wanted a bike. You know, Well that was different.

(06:20):
Shouldn't have said bike. I wanted her like I wanted
a new baseball glove. I just wanted her to be
my friend. Anyway, you were alive, did she Oh? God,
oh she did. I was stuttering so I couldn't get yeah.

(06:40):
All right, Well, hang on, Steve, we'll have part two
of today's Strawberry Letter My sister and my mister at
twenty three minutes after the hour, and we will get
Steve part two right after this. You're listening, all right,
Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject
my sister and my mis stir well, your sister, your

(07:02):
trifling sisters mess around with your husband. You found out
y'all were together nine years and it was wasn't unusual
for them to be close. So you say they would
play fighting, act like they ain't like each other. You
thought it was cute. You had no idea was for play.
Then one day you called him in the garage behind

(07:22):
the car and your husband jumped U told they was
trying to scare me? Or was I stupid? Back then,
what is y'all doing back behind the contrast that you
know they back then they kissing real hard behind the
car boot. We tried to scare you, You called us God,

(07:44):
let's go back in here, girl. So I started hearing
rumors from other family members about how close they were,
and your female tuition kicked in way too damn ly.
I started monitoring his text message and we couldn't find that. Then,
you know, if you told you about who's happened. Now
he and his friends can send private messages without his

(08:05):
mama seeing. So you found the app on your husband's phone,
and that's why all the messages were. He had said
a bunch time quickie with my sister at her salon,
and little did he know I was coming to She
got one of them salon sweets in a building, so
there ain't much privacy, and now I could barely see
them through the blinds. When I saw what I need

(08:25):
to see, my husband had my sister bent over the
shampoo bowl and I almost passed out. You did, but
I stayed there until it was over because he was
bringing it. I mean I stayed until it was over,

(08:48):
and when he walked out, I threw my coffee on him.
That's good if the coffee was hot, but that depends
on how long she was over that shampoo bowl, because
your coffee might have been cold and did had that
much effect. So, and I think it was cold because
you ain't mentioned nothing about him going blind and nothing
like that, which I'm pretty sure was your whole gold

(09:08):
Wait a minute, said it was cold, Yeah, I think
it cold was cold because they was on that shampool
bow for a long after time. It wasn't as quick
as you thought it was. Gon Be coaching. Coffee was
cold because when you throw the coffee on him, he didn't.
He didn't run a holla or nothing. He just stood there.
He thought it was ice coffee from start Bull because

(09:31):
she had been She had been all over that shampoo
bow he putting near work. And so then anyway, and
I ask him to move out of our house as
soon as possible. Now I've not seen us spoken to
my sister in a year. She and my ex husband,
so you didn't got a divorce, still mess around, but
I'm happy in Dayton. I forgiving him and my sister.

(09:52):
But my sister still can't face me and talk about
what she's done to me. Life is short, So how
do I get her to talk to me? So you
want to talk about she can't face you and talk
about what she's done to me, So you want to
confront her about it, which I do definitely understand because
I would want to know too what the hell you
was thinking. But we're gonna talk after after I get

(10:15):
mine in though, Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna get something in
before we talk. And so I don't really understand. I
agree with Shirley, what's what you want to talk to
it for? But Shirley said, forgiveness is a good thing.
I'm not gonna forgive you right away because of what

(10:35):
it was. Yeah, so and you saw it the Yeah,
that shampoo bowl. You can't even going in and get
your head done no more. You can't even going that
damn salon them the blind you were sneaking looking in
just a chair. He had his foot on. Give us

(10:59):
the visual. Yeah, see when you went there at that
shampoo bold and she had her head on that side
with the loop in it. She had her head and
that her thought was on that. And he had one
of his knees up in that chair facing the ball
because he was going for leverage. And he was in there.

(11:20):
And then he had in one hand was on that
water hole, that one single nozzle that just fray and
he was just refreshing himself every nine but down off
the shelf, though, girl, there was so much luster curl
on that day offlow girl, I had luster curl in there,

(11:42):
having pro line because you know that the old damn
pro line. And there someone and and and some clown
raw and then they had a look some of that
blue job Burgermont, you know, they was by, and then
somebody had this was a beauty shop. Yeah, there's a

(12:03):
beauty shop. This ain't no salon the old ass people
in the hill. He felt a little burning on his
baby finger because the baby finger had got got in
that Saffa eight and he suf eate just burning. And
he thought he had touched that flat on, but it

(12:25):
was that damn Suffa eight. Stupid. And then she turned
around because he was going too good. She turned around
and swung at him, but she had her hand in
some gloves Maine, and that look off got in his eye.
He thought he had a head rag on. He know
what to do? Oh crazy? We gotta go. Post your

(12:48):
comments on today's Strubberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on
Instagram and Facebook, and please check out the Strubberry Letter
podcast one demand of coming up at forty six minutes
after the hour. I don't think I don't think he's
done Part three, girl Strawberry Letter. Mister, he's got more
in this beauty shop. We'll be back right after this.

(13:09):
You're listening show, all right, Steve. Here we are back
in part three of this this letter. I want y'all
to know this was not salon. This was a beauty shop. Yes, yes, yeah,
this is a beauty shop. They older, and she went
on there looking at them blinds and where she saw

(13:31):
when her sister was in that shampoo bowl just getting hammered.
My Hank. Hank was in there, Hank and henry Etta
was in there, and Henrietta, Henrietta is the sister he had.
Henrietta been over that shampoo bowl. I ain't saying what
they were doing, but Henrietta had tied her head up

(13:54):
since she knew he was coming down. Now. She had
put her head rag on cause she couldn't get her
half sweated out because she had another client coming in
at four fifteen. So they was meeting at two third
because it was supposed to be a quickie, but she
Hank don't know how to do nothing quick. So they've
been there about forty minutes. That's why she wrapped her

(14:14):
head up, you know, because she got that short cut
and she tried to keep it right and everything. So
they was in there and a couple of things had
started to happening real bad because Hank had hurt his
knee while he was doing his business back there because
you know, this dude named Waverley, he still got a curl,
This old man named Waverley, he still got a curl.

(14:37):
And so he had them little bitty pink rollers and
one of them was in the flow. Hank got on
that little last pink roller and his leg went out, yeah,
and he fell up under that shelt. And when he
fell he knocked over Bla Baba Saul Bob saw. That's

(15:02):
that stuff that being men's shop that you that blue
stuff that you put the comb in, that's a disinfected
and that got in his eye. He knocked at Barba
sall over and got in his eye. Damn. They're like liniment.
So he was in the floor Holly, and so she

(15:23):
thought it was cause she was really doing something special
at that time. Oh okay, But he had fell in
the flow. But Hank was still connected to her even
when he fell in the floor, because Hank Hank something else. Girl,
hain't this And the sister looking at she said in

(15:47):
the letter, she almost passed out, Yes she did, because
she couldn't believe her sister was getting Hank, because she
thought she was the only one wad Hank. But hain't
too much man for one woman, but not enough for two.
You know that's to be with a song. You know,
I want, I want to do it in the Hasslon No,
I want. You're Hot, Tommy, Alright, alright, coming up at

(16:13):
the top of the hour, we'll have more of the
Steve Harvey Morning Show right after this. It's my birthday.
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