August 12, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show, Tuesday, August 12th, 2025. Subject: "My Wet & Wild Older Man"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARVEFM dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
All you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now. And you never know. This one could be yours.
It could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Buckle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Thank you, neph you subject my wet and wild older man,
Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband is seventy six years old
and I'm sixty. I worked with his daughter years ago
and that's how we met. When we started dating, he
loved having a much younger woman on his arm, but
as he gets older, he's getting more paranoid and asked
(00:50):
if I would ever leave him for a man my age.
I took my wedding vow seriously and he knows I
love him, but he's on my last nerve. He's not
aging well and years of abusing alcohol have finally caught
up with him, making all of his teeth crumble when
he eats crunchy foods.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
He won't get them fixed or.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Get dentures because he hates going to the doctor. He's
been wanting hair implants for years, but he knows we
can't afford that, so he wears his hair twisted and
he uses a lot of hair products every day. It
looks like an old Jerry curl and it hangs long
in the back, and he's.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Bald on the top.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I'd love for him to shave his head and go
visit a dentist. We used to have an active sex life,
but he's been leaking a little urine after he uses
a toilet, and the smell is strong enough to choke
a cat. I secretly put a mattress cover on his
side of the bed because I didn't want to embarrass
him between his stinky hair products getting on me and
(01:53):
the smell of urine. We haven't had sex in a while,
and I'm tired of making up excuses. It literally makes
me gag to think of having sex with him. Now
he still wants it, so something's got to change. The
final straw for me was when he urinated on himself
in Target this past Sunday. God, I didn't make a
(02:15):
big deal out of it. But I had to buy
him a pair of clean shorts. How can he walk
around like nothing's wrong? Would I be low down for
leaving him if he doesn't change? All right? First of all,
I feel for you, I really do, because he's.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Your husband and you love him. You mentioned that in
the letter.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
But he's turning into an old, smelly, unkept, stubborn man
right before your eyes. I mean, he stopped trying. He's
become selfish. He's become lazy. That does not work in
a marriage. If he no longer cares about himself. What
about you, this much younger wife he was so proud
of back in the day. Now he's on himself, refusing
(03:01):
to go to the dentist and get checked out. I mean,
what is it with his teeth crumbling when he eats?
Wouldn't that spur him on to go to the doctor?
I mean, I can appreciate you not wanting to hurt
his feelings, like when he was in Target. You know
you just bought him a clean pair of underwear, but
you know you want to be gentle with him and everything.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
But no, what about you in this regard?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I mean, don't you deserve a husband who takes care
of himself and who gets his regular checkups, dental and otherwise.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Yes, of course you do.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I really don't know anyone who who wants to get
old or who likes going to the dentist or doctor.
But at seventy six, he is older. He really needs
to go. You say it's paranoid, you might leave him
for a younger man. Well, I mean, you know that's
a consideration, but he should be more concerned about himself
and his health and his quality of life and living
(03:53):
and just you know, not getting sick and all of that.
I mean, you can't give up on him either. You
got to let him know that you do, you care
about him. You got to talk to him. You got
to persuade him to go to the dentist or at
the very least, you know, get him some depends. He's
got to do something or I'm sure you're going to
be thinking about your future options. At this rate, he's
(04:14):
just giving you away. He doesn't care. Cleanliness and hygiene
are deal breakers in any relationship, any marriage.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
You guys got to do something. This is crazy, noess, Steve.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Well, I'm first of all, before I start, I just
want to say that my response to this letter. I'm
not here to help you. I just want to put
that out that nice and clear. What are you here
to do? I'm here to just talk about this letter.
(04:50):
Your husband is seventy six and you sixty. You work
with his daughter years ago, and that's how y'all met,
so you probably met him when you when he was sixty. Oh,
the time ain't been kind to him. You know, y'all
started dating, and you know he loved having a younger
(05:12):
woman on his arm. But as he's gotten older, he's
getting more paranoid and asked, would you leave him for
a man my age? And then you know, you said
what you're supposed to say when you're write in. I
took my red and bile seriously, and he know I
love him, but he'll go the letter now. But he
(05:36):
on my last nerve? And why is he on your
last nerve? Well, let's review this because he ain't aging well.
Oh he looking a bit of seventy six plus five. Yeah,
he got eighty one rode all over his He ain't
(06:00):
doing good and he ain't even fighting good. He don't
even know what to do. See because he been he
spent years abusing alcohol and finally caught up with him
and the number one complain it makes all his teeth
to crumble when he eats crunchy food. I'm gonna stop
(06:21):
right here, because when I get into this subject can
tell you what's really happening I need. So let's just
leave off right here.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Uncrunchy foods all his teeth crumble when he eats crunching food.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
We come back. I'll explain all this to you.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Keep it right there, Coming up, Part two of Steve's
response to today's Strawberry letter, My wet and wild older Man.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
We're coming back in twenty three minutes after the hour.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Right after this, you're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Get to the Hyundai Getaway Sales event and get away
with the deal so right it almost feels wrong right now.
Get huge savings on our popular models, including our venture
ready SUV's like the Hyndai Santa Fe, or go all
electric with America's most awarded EV lineup like the Ionic
(07:19):
five or Ionic six. Get down to your local Hondai
dealer and get away with a great deal only during
the Hondai Getaway Sale event. Visit Hyundai USA dot com
for details.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Come on Steve Let's recap today's Strawberry Letter, the subject
my wedding wild older man.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
All right, we're back, food, we're back. And this woman
has she's sixty, she's got a husband of seventy six.
And the problem with it is he's paranoid thinking she's
gonna lead him for a man her age, which is
another sixty year old. And she honors her wedding vows,
(07:57):
but he'd all start on her last nerve. And why
is he getting on her last nerve? Because he ain't
aging with no He got seventy six wrote all over
his And when you've been abusing alcohol as he has,
(08:20):
it's seventy six plus five or six more. He had
been an eighty one eighty two right now, and he
looking now, then got so bad that alcohol and caught
up to it, making all his teeth to crumble when
he eats crunching food. Let's start right here. So you
(08:44):
with your man, y'all up in the morning and y'all eating,
Guess what a bawl of cap'n crunch. Guess what you
can't get no more crunching food? And it's sad on
the box, captain crunch. Why the hell did y'all buy that?
You know, good way he supposed to get oat meal,
But now y'all is in here buying cap'n crunt. He
(09:06):
a oat meal, man, cream of wheat, Marto meal at best,
tappy oak stuff you can mask with your tongue and swaps.
He ain't eating cap'n crunch now, he don't even know it.
But his teeth is crumbling. Na nah, he eating his
teeth with the cap'n crunch ah, because they crumbling. Why
(09:28):
he eats, you don't stop eating, So now you chewing teeth.
You don't even know what's going on.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
That's what that meant.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
His just falling apart, and every time he finished, he
got less and less of a smile. He grinting at
you now and now it ain't even jack of landing
no more he grinning at you. He just looked like
jagged headed. All his teeth is different sizes across the
(10:00):
front and the bottom. They don't even line up, no motives.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Because he chewed him up with the car.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Because he chewed him up with the cap'n crunch. Seal,
y'all know, good hell? Where he o oat meal and
Marto meal for me? Now?
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Then?
Speaker 3 (10:15):
He got that he ain't gonna get him fixed and
go get denturre because he hate going to the doctor. Okay,
most old dudes don't. He been wonting have implants for years,
but he knows we can't afford that him hand plants
his highest hels. What he done did He just started
wearing his hand and twist that. When you need haird
(10:36):
plants and plugs and you decide to twist the little
bit of half you got from overhead, his hair looked
like a desert with tumbleweed on you. It looked like
an aerial view of a desert with tumbleweeds over That
means it's twist had nine is. You can put a
(10:56):
franc on it. Between each one of his twists. You
can put yo, you can make a franker print. You
put a thumb between each one of his twist. Now
his whole flack's upping up there looking like hulking because
he balled in the top and it's long round the side,
(11:17):
so ain't no hand the top. He looked like a
monk in the top, and he got long braids down
the side. He looked like hunk hoolgy. He need a
head band but he don't know that shit. Now on
top of all that, he looked like old Jared call
(11:40):
where he fighting this activator at it's beyond me. He
is CBS and Walmart talking about where the pro line
section that, and how the hell y'all ain't got no
more care free were baking no more. He'd have wrote
the lusty silk people and can't get a response his cock.
That call just old just crying stove sitting up in here.
(12:09):
You got to speard extra time shaking sitting up in here,
old just sitting up in here, peeing. And then once
you stop, you steal peeling. You need to stop. You
go to a urologist, get you some help, get your
prostate checked because it just swollen. Now you're sitting up
(12:29):
in here just peeing, and then you thank you through
peeing and you still peeing on yourself. And get you
some black pants could wear in them cackis because khakis
is a dead giveaway. At least get you some black pants.
So when you're leak it ain't nobody got to know it.
You coming back to the bathroom, standing at the table
down there, Dennis and everybody know you the peed on
(12:50):
yourself sitting up in here now now you're talking about
now the year and is so strong it can chump
the cat. That's because of money, been eat eating penicillin,
cottic green and drinking Hennessy. That's strong urine. That ain't baby.
It ain't even urine no more. That's at that age
(13:13):
where it's just a I can't even call it urine
no more. He didn't urinate it. He's said natan he
and there just fine stuff in the tarnic. He's so
strong when you use the bathroom in the tarnic. The
water stink did Sunday he urinated on her self in Target.
(13:34):
We ain't got time to talk about that.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
She got him some new shirts.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Please leave us your comments on today's Strawberry letter on
Instagram and Steve Harvey, he've.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Been that Target that took a picture of He ain't
coming in that next week. I'll tell you that. Right now,
you're
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARVEFM dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
All you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now. And you never know. This one could be yours.
It could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Buckle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Thank you, neph you subject my wet and wild older man,
Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband is seventy six years old
and I'm sixty. I worked with his daughter years ago
and that's how we met. When we started dating, he
loved having a much younger woman on his arm, but
as he gets older, he's getting more paranoid and asked
(00:50):
if I would ever leave him for a man my age.
I took my wedding vow seriously and he knows I
love him, but he's on my last nerve. He's not
aging well and years of abusing alcohol have finally caught
up with him, making all of his teeth crumble when
he eats crunchy foods.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
He won't get them fixed or.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Get dentures because he hates going to the doctor. He's
been wanting hair implants for years, but he knows we
can't afford that, so he wears his hair twisted and
he uses a lot of hair products every day. It
looks like an old Jerry curl and it hangs long
in the back, and he's.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Bald on the top.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I'd love for him to shave his head and go
visit a dentist. We used to have an active sex life,
but he's been leaking a little urine after he uses
a toilet, and the smell is strong enough to choke
a cat. I secretly put a mattress cover on his
side of the bed because I didn't want to embarrass
him between his stinky hair products getting on me and
(01:53):
the smell of urine. We haven't had sex in a while,
and I'm tired of making up excuses. It literally makes
me gag to think of having sex with him. Now
he still wants it, so something's got to change. The
final straw for me was when he urinated on himself
in Target this past Sunday. God, I didn't make a
(02:15):
big deal out of it. But I had to buy
him a pair of clean shorts. How can he walk
around like nothing's wrong? Would I be low down for
leaving him if he doesn't change? All right? First of all,
I feel for you, I really do, because he's.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Your husband and you love him. You mentioned that in
the letter.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
But he's turning into an old, smelly, unkept, stubborn man
right before your eyes. I mean, he stopped trying. He's
become selfish. He's become lazy. That does not work in
a marriage. If he no longer cares about himself. What
about you, this much younger wife he was so proud
of back in the day. Now he's on himself, refusing
(03:01):
to go to the dentist and get checked out. I mean,
what is it with his teeth crumbling when he eats?
Wouldn't that spur him on to go to the doctor?
I mean, I can appreciate you not wanting to hurt
his feelings, like when he was in Target. You know
you just bought him a clean pair of underwear, but
you know you want to be gentle with him and everything.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
But no, what about you in this regard?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I mean, don't you deserve a husband who takes care
of himself and who gets his regular checkups, dental and otherwise.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Yes, of course you do.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
I really don't know anyone who who wants to get
old or who likes going to the dentist or doctor.
But at seventy six, he is older. He really needs
to go. You say it's paranoid, you might leave him
for a younger man. Well, I mean, you know that's
a consideration, but he should be more concerned about himself
and his health and his quality of life and living
(03:53):
and just you know, not getting sick and all of that.
I mean, you can't give up on him either. You
got to let him know that you do, you care
about him. You got to talk to him. You got
to persuade him to go to the dentist or at
the very least, you know, get him some depends. He's
got to do something or I'm sure you're going to
be thinking about your future options. At this rate, he's
(04:14):
just giving you away. He doesn't care. Cleanliness and hygiene
are deal breakers in any relationship, any marriage.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
You guys got to do something. This is crazy, noess, Steve.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Well, I'm first of all, before I start, I just
want to say that my response to this letter. I'm
not here to help you. I just want to put
that out that nice and clear. What are you here
to do? I'm here to just talk about this letter.
(04:50):
Your husband is seventy six and you sixty. You work
with his daughter years ago, and that's how y'all met,
so you probably met him when you when he was sixty. Oh,
the time ain't been kind to him. You know, y'all
started dating, and you know he loved having a younger
(05:12):
woman on his arm. But as he's gotten older, he's
getting more paranoid and asked, would you leave him for
a man my age? And then you know, you said
what you're supposed to say when you're write in. I
took my red and bile seriously, and he know I
love him, but he'll go the letter now. But he
(05:36):
on my last nerve? And why is he on your
last nerve? Well, let's review this because he ain't aging well.
Oh he looking a bit of seventy six plus five. Yeah,
he got eighty one rode all over his He ain't
(06:00):
doing good and he ain't even fighting good. He don't
even know what to do. See because he been he
spent years abusing alcohol and finally caught up with him
and the number one complain it makes all his teeth
to crumble when he eats crunchy food. I'm gonna stop
(06:21):
right here, because when I get into this subject can
tell you what's really happening I need. So let's just
leave off right here.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Uncrunchy foods all his teeth crumble when he eats crunching food.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
We come back. I'll explain all this to you.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Keep it right there, Coming up, Part two of Steve's
response to today's Strawberry letter, My wet and wild older Man.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
We're coming back in twenty three minutes after the hour.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Right after this, you're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Get to the Hyundai Getaway Sales event and get away
with the deal so right it almost feels wrong right now.
Get huge savings on our popular models, including our venture
ready SUV's like the Hyndai Santa Fe, or go all
electric with America's most awarded EV lineup like the Ionic
(07:19):
five or Ionic six. Get down to your local Hondai
dealer and get away with a great deal only during
the Hondai Getaway Sale event. Visit Hyundai USA dot com
for details.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Come on Steve Let's recap today's Strawberry Letter, the subject
my wedding wild older man.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
All right, we're back, food, we're back. And this woman
has she's sixty, she's got a husband of seventy six.
And the problem with it is he's paranoid thinking she's
gonna lead him for a man her age, which is
another sixty year old. And she honors her wedding vows,
(07:57):
but he'd all start on her last nerve. And why
is he getting on her last nerve? Because he ain't
aging with no He got seventy six wrote all over
his And when you've been abusing alcohol as he has,
(08:20):
it's seventy six plus five or six more. He had
been an eighty one eighty two right now, and he
looking now, then got so bad that alcohol and caught
up to it, making all his teeth to crumble when
he eats crunching food. Let's start right here. So you
(08:44):
with your man, y'all up in the morning and y'all eating,
Guess what a bawl of cap'n crunch. Guess what you
can't get no more crunching food? And it's sad on
the box, captain crunch. Why the hell did y'all buy that?
You know, good way he supposed to get oat meal,
But now y'all is in here buying cap'n crunt. He
(09:06):
a oat meal, man, cream of wheat, Marto meal at best,
tappy oak stuff you can mask with your tongue and swaps.
He ain't eating cap'n crunch now, he don't even know it.
But his teeth is crumbling. Na nah, he eating his
teeth with the cap'n crunch ah, because they crumbling. Why
(09:28):
he eats, you don't stop eating, So now you chewing teeth.
You don't even know what's going on.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
That's what that meant.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
His just falling apart, and every time he finished, he
got less and less of a smile. He grinting at
you now and now it ain't even jack of landing
no more he grinning at you. He just looked like
jagged headed. All his teeth is different sizes across the
(10:00):
front and the bottom. They don't even line up, no motives.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Because he chewed him up with the car.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Because he chewed him up with the cap'n crunch. Seal,
y'all know, good hell? Where he o oat meal and
Marto meal for me? Now?
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Then?
Speaker 3 (10:15):
He got that he ain't gonna get him fixed and
go get denturre because he hate going to the doctor. Okay,
most old dudes don't. He been wonting have implants for years,
but he knows we can't afford that him hand plants
his highest hels. What he done did He just started
wearing his hand and twist that. When you need haird
(10:36):
plants and plugs and you decide to twist the little
bit of half you got from overhead, his hair looked
like a desert with tumbleweed on you. It looked like
an aerial view of a desert with tumbleweeds over That
means it's twist had nine is. You can put a
(10:56):
franc on it. Between each one of his twists. You
can put yo, you can make a franker print. You
put a thumb between each one of his twist. Now
his whole flack's upping up there looking like hulking because
he balled in the top and it's long round the side,
(11:17):
so ain't no hand the top. He looked like a
monk in the top, and he got long braids down
the side. He looked like hunk hoolgy. He need a
head band but he don't know that shit. Now on
top of all that, he looked like old Jared call
(11:40):
where he fighting this activator at it's beyond me. He
is CBS and Walmart talking about where the pro line
section that, and how the hell y'all ain't got no
more care free were baking no more. He'd have wrote
the lusty silk people and can't get a response his cock.
That call just old just crying stove sitting up in here.
(12:09):
You got to speard extra time shaking sitting up in here,
old just sitting up in here, peeing. And then once
you stop, you steal peeling. You need to stop. You
go to a urologist, get you some help, get your
prostate checked because it just swollen. Now you're sitting up
(12:29):
in here just peeing, and then you thank you through
peeing and you still peeing on yourself. And get you
some black pants could wear in them cackis because khakis
is a dead giveaway. At least get you some black pants.
So when you're leak it ain't nobody got to know it.
You coming back to the bathroom, standing at the table
down there, Dennis and everybody know you the peed on
(12:50):
yourself sitting up in here now now you're talking about
now the year and is so strong it can chump
the cat. That's because of money, been eat eating penicillin,
cottic green and drinking Hennessy. That's strong urine. That ain't baby.
It ain't even urine no more. That's at that age
(13:13):
where it's just a I can't even call it urine
no more. He didn't urinate it. He's said natan he
and there just fine stuff in the tarnic. He's so
strong when you use the bathroom in the tarnic. The
water stink did Sunday he urinated on her self in Target.
(13:34):
We ain't got time to talk about that.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
She got him some new shirts.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Please leave us your comments on today's Strawberry letter on
Instagram and Steve Harvey, he've.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Been that Target that took a picture of He ain't
coming in that next week. I'll tell you that. Right now,
you're
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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