September 16, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been messing around with the guy that I worked with. He said he saw something special in me, so he got me transferred to his team. I looked up to his man because of his work ethic and how he commanded the room at our meetings. He is a straight nerd, but there's something about him. It's probably all of the big words he uses, but OMG, he is stuck in the late nineties with his hair, his suits, and even the way he talks. Thank goodness, he's not that way in the bedroom. He's large and in charge there............................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you
need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARBFM dot com and click.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now, and you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Subject A nerd in the boardroom, boss in the bedroom.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been messing around with the guy
that I worked with. He said he saw something special
in me, so he got me transferred to his team.
I looked up to his man, to this man because
of his work ethic and how he commanded the room
at our meetings. He is a straight nerd, but there's
(00:47):
something about him. It's probably all of the big words
he uses, but o MG, he is stuck in the
late nineties with his hair, his suits, and even the
way he talks. Thank goodness, he's not that way in
the bedroom. He's large and in charge there. He has
exactly what it takes to get the job done. And
I love how he plays love songs and lights candles
(01:10):
before we're intimate. He sets the moods before he takes
off his silky boxers, yes silk in quotations. There have
been times when I've stared at him sleeping and wonder
how he can be both a nerd and a superhero.
We've been hooking up on the low for eight months
and no one would ever think we were messing around.
(01:30):
Last week, I put in my two weeks notice because
I got a better job. Since I'm leaving the company,
he said it's time we get serious and date exclusively.
He is forty one and wants to get married and
start a family. I am forty four and I've been
married before, so I don't want to choose another man
that's not the total package. I'm so concerned about how
(01:51):
he looks that I told him our first outing should
be with my friends. We did a group date with
three of my girlfriends and their men. My girls were very,
very judgmental of him. They said that I would get
tired of his nerdy conversation and it might be too
hard to change him. I was thinking new clothes and
a haircut would do it, but they're skeptical. Skeptical. Can
(02:12):
I gradually change a man that's stuck in a time warp?
Would I be a fool to let him go?
Speaker 4 (02:18):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Yes you would, Yes, you would.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
If he's a good man and he treats you well
and he wants to get married and start a family. Yeah,
And from what you say in this letter, he's a
good guy. And having said that, I think one of
the easiest ways. And I don't believe. And you got
to change a man and all that, but it's wardrobe
because that's on the outside and not on the inside.
You're not trying to change his character or anything. You're
(02:42):
just trying to update his style. That's okay. But I
don't want you to mess this up either. I mean,
because it's not what you do, it's how you do it.
I think you should talk to him about it, send
him down and tell him, you know, don't crush his ego.
And from what you said, he seems like a reasonable guy,
so hopefully he'll be resetd of what you have.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
To say to him.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
A lot of women change things about their men outwardly,
the way they wear, the hair and the clothes, that
they wear.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
You won't be the first one to do that.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I just think, you know, don't listen to your girlfriends
and other people haters.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
About your relationship because they don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
This has to be solely your decision, not what they
think with their judgmental attitudes. And don't let your friends
talk you out of a good man. You like this man,
so please don't dump him for some stupid reason and
then see him out with some other women and they're
doing all good and flourishing and everything.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
And then you have regrets. Don't do that, Okay, Steve, I.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Don't see nothing wrong in this letter. You know you've
been messing around with a guy to work with. He
said he's how something specially in you, so he had
you moved over to his team. You looked up to
him because of his work ethic and how he commands
the rooms at the meetings.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
He is a straight nerd.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
But you say something about him, but he's stuck in
the late nineties with his hair, his suits and even
the way he talks. And then you say, but thank goodness,
he ain't that way. In the bedroom. He's large and
in charge there. Okay, He's exactly what you take to
get your job done. He plays love songs and light
candles before we intimate because he owes school, you know,
(04:25):
lighting candles playing music at that that you know that
used to happen a lot. You know, wasn't nothing else.
Couldn't put on TikTok, you know. So with what you're
gonna do Netflix, wasn't out, couldn't do that. So yeah,
back back down to these candles in this music. Sorry,
(04:48):
but that's what you like. Then he sets the mood
for it, takes off his silky boxes. Okay, that's cool,
that's old two, all right. Sometimes when he's sleeping, you
look at him. You want how he can be a
nerd and a superhero. Now have you ever thought that
he has to be these two different peoples so he
can survive in this world? Do you think that he's
(05:11):
running the boardroom because he's a nerd. Of course, he
has found a way to be successful in the corporate world,
and the corporate world likes him because they don't put
him in charge there too. Now, y'all been hooking up
on the load for about eight months. Nobody thinks y'all
mess around. So you put it in your two week
(05:33):
notice because you got a better job. Since I'm leaving
the company, he said, it's time for us to get
serious and date exclusively. He's forty one, wants to get
married and start a family. I'm forty four. I've been
married before, so I don't want to choose another man
that's not the total package. Well, now let's stop right here,
(05:54):
seeing as how you divorce. Don't look like you know
how to pick all that good No way that's coming
from somebody and had a couple of them his damn self.
So now I know when you in the bad picking business.
So now you in the bad picking business. But now
you say you don't want another man that ain't the
total package?
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Do you think you're the total package?
Speaker 1 (06:18):
You know?
Speaker 3 (06:18):
You know what I've never heard. I'm gonna say this.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
This is gonna be shocked, and we're gonna go to break.
I've never heard a woman say I've heard women say
he ain't nothing. All my exes was dogs. And when
I've never heard a woman say, you know what, I
ain't about nothing?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
A woman say, you know what is me? I ain't
about nothing?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Part too of Steve's response, coming up at twenty three
minutes after the hour today's Strawberry Letter subject nerd in
the boardroom, boss.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
In the bedroom. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard Morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
Nerd in the boardroom, boss in the bedroom.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Yeah, here's this woman who's messing around with this guy
on the job that's a nerd. He's in the supervisory capacity.
Said he saw some men, so he had him transfer
to their team. Now they've been seeing each other on
the low loaf about eight months. She likes everything about him,
how he commands the boardroom. Think it's because of the
big words he uses and all that. But they've been
in the bedroom. He everything, he is superhero. He's in
(07:25):
charge in there too.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
But now.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
And everything is going right. You know, he's a straight nerd.
But it's something about him. But she don't like the
fact that he's stuck in the late nineties with his
hand his suits. Thank goodness, he ain't that way in
the bedroom. So now he played love songs and light
candles because that's what people used to do, you know,
because we didn't have a lot of other stuff. So
you know, it was all like that. He sets the
(07:53):
mood before he take off his silks. He's silky boxes.
There's been times when I've stared at him sleeping. How
he can be a nerd and a superhero, And I said,
because he has to be that to have the job
he got. He's figured out the way to become successful
in corporate American and that's what he's doing all right now,
y'all been hooking up for about eight weeks. Last week
you put in your notice because you found a better
(08:14):
job since you leaving the company. He said, This time
we get serious and started dating. He forty one, I'm
forty four. He want to get married and start a family.
I've been married, so I don't want to choose another
man that's not the total package. And like I said
before I left, which is what we do. You know
what I've noticed that I have never heard in my life.
I've heard women who have exes who talk about what
(08:36):
was wrong with the men and they wasn't ready, they
wasn't mature, ain't no good man. I can't find a
good man. There's a lot of good men out there.
I've never heard a woman say, you know what, I
ain't about.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Nothing, And you never will you know what it's me
reason I can't keep a man.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
You know, now there are women who can keep them man,
But you know it's women out here who just blame
men for all they woes.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
And it could be you ain't no good man out here.
A lot of good men out here.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
Anyway, here's her problem. So I don't want to choose
another man that's not total package. I'm so concerned about
how he looks. I told him my first outing should
be with my friends. We did a group date and
three of my girlfriends and they men. My girls are
very judgmental of him. They said that I get tired
of this nerdy conversation and it might be too hard
(09:35):
to change him. Your girlfriend and they men, any.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
Of them married? You married.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
Any of them? Me and Ashy your girlfriends to marry him.
Uh so you just had three girlfriends and they men.
But the girls got a problem with them, the dudes didn't,
And it might be too hard to change him. I
was thinking new clothes and a haircut would do it.
What new clothes and haircut could help? But he would
(10:05):
need a good woman to do that. But you're so
worried about what your friends think that you're finna let
the superhero and the nerd go. But they're skeptical. They're skeptical.
Can I gradually change a man that's stuck in the
time warp? I've seen it happened to me.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Yep, do you mean Steve? What are you saying?
Speaker 3 (10:33):
I've seen it? Would change my haircut and my suits.
I saw it. Yeah, I don't even know what you're
tripping for.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
Oh she was smart, though, she waited till she got
in and said, hey, you need to take them big
suits off. Now trying to change ad faught okay, and
farther and now here I am today. Would I be
a fool to let him go? You be a damn
fool to let him. You would be beyond ignorant to
let him go, And he won'ts you. On top of
(11:08):
all this, all he ain't a is a suit and
a haircut. That's all he ain't. You're gonna get tired
of that nerdy conversation. Oh well, I know a lot
of women is tired of these hip conversations. You know,
(11:28):
you can have a man say all the right things
that don't mean none of them. So, lady, I don't
know what you're gonna do. But if you let this
man go, you a stone cold fool. But then again,
maybe is you.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
She'll never say it. Maybe is you she'll.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
He ever thought of why you can't keep a man?
Maybe it's you.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
I know y'all always want to put it on the man,
but I wish y'all would sometimes ess Is there anything
that you could be doing wrong? Is there anything about
you you could change?
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Think about that?
Speaker 3 (12:13):
Could you be too picky?
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Because if you gonta let a man go because he
talk like a nerd and he got an old style
haircut in a suit that you don't like, you're gonna
let him go for that?
Speaker 1 (12:31):
I was gonna ask you one thing, What is he
saying that turns her on so much? In the in
the boardroom? Those big words?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Hey, what do you guys want to do for lunch?
Are you kidding me? Applebee's not interested? How about it?
How about him? Anore?
Speaker 4 (12:51):
You know?
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Look, Hey, how about a more for a new dining experience?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
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That's all it is. It's just words like that.
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It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you
need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARBFM dot com and click.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now, and you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Subject A nerd in the boardroom, boss in the bedroom.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been messing around with the guy
that I worked with. He said he saw something special
in me, so he got me transferred to his team.
I looked up to his man, to this man because
of his work ethic and how he commanded the room
at our meetings. He is a straight nerd, but there's
(00:47):
something about him. It's probably all of the big words
he uses, but o MG, he is stuck in the
late nineties with his hair, his suits, and even the
way he talks. Thank goodness, he's not that way in
the bedroom. He's large and in charge there. He has
exactly what it takes to get the job done. And
I love how he plays love songs and lights candles
(01:10):
before we're intimate. He sets the moods before he takes
off his silky boxers, yes silk in quotations. There have
been times when I've stared at him sleeping and wonder
how he can be both a nerd and a superhero.
We've been hooking up on the low for eight months
and no one would ever think we were messing around.
(01:30):
Last week, I put in my two weeks notice because
I got a better job. Since I'm leaving the company,
he said it's time we get serious and date exclusively.
He is forty one and wants to get married and
start a family. I am forty four and I've been
married before, so I don't want to choose another man
that's not the total package. I'm so concerned about how
(01:51):
he looks that I told him our first outing should
be with my friends. We did a group date with
three of my girlfriends and their men. My girls were very,
very judgmental of him. They said that I would get
tired of his nerdy conversation and it might be too
hard to change him. I was thinking new clothes and
a haircut would do it, but they're skeptical. Skeptical. Can
(02:12):
I gradually change a man that's stuck in a time warp?
Would I be a fool to let him go?
Speaker 4 (02:18):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Yes you would, Yes, you would.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
If he's a good man and he treats you well
and he wants to get married and start a family. Yeah,
And from what you say in this letter, he's a
good guy. And having said that, I think one of
the easiest ways. And I don't believe. And you got
to change a man and all that, but it's wardrobe
because that's on the outside and not on the inside.
You're not trying to change his character or anything. You're
(02:42):
just trying to update his style. That's okay. But I
don't want you to mess this up either. I mean,
because it's not what you do, it's how you do it.
I think you should talk to him about it, send
him down and tell him, you know, don't crush his ego.
And from what you said, he seems like a reasonable guy,
so hopefully he'll be resetd of what you have.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
To say to him.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
A lot of women change things about their men outwardly,
the way they wear, the hair and the clothes, that
they wear.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
You won't be the first one to do that.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I just think, you know, don't listen to your girlfriends
and other people haters.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
About your relationship because they don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
This has to be solely your decision, not what they
think with their judgmental attitudes. And don't let your friends
talk you out of a good man. You like this man,
so please don't dump him for some stupid reason and
then see him out with some other women and they're
doing all good and flourishing and everything.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
And then you have regrets. Don't do that, Okay, Steve, I.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Don't see nothing wrong in this letter. You know you've
been messing around with a guy to work with. He
said he's how something specially in you, so he had
you moved over to his team. You looked up to
him because of his work ethic and how he commands
the rooms at the meetings.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
He is a straight nerd.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
But you say something about him, but he's stuck in
the late nineties with his hair, his suits and even
the way he talks. And then you say, but thank goodness,
he ain't that way. In the bedroom. He's large and
in charge there. Okay, He's exactly what you take to
get your job done. He plays love songs and light
candles before we intimate because he owes school, you know,
(04:25):
lighting candles playing music at that that you know that
used to happen a lot. You know, wasn't nothing else.
Couldn't put on TikTok, you know. So with what you're
gonna do Netflix, wasn't out, couldn't do that. So yeah,
back back down to these candles in this music. Sorry,
(04:48):
but that's what you like. Then he sets the mood
for it, takes off his silky boxes. Okay, that's cool,
that's old two, all right. Sometimes when he's sleeping, you
look at him. You want how he can be a
nerd and a superhero. Now have you ever thought that
he has to be these two different peoples so he
can survive in this world? Do you think that he's
(05:11):
running the boardroom because he's a nerd. Of course, he
has found a way to be successful in the corporate world,
and the corporate world likes him because they don't put
him in charge there too. Now, y'all been hooking up
on the load for about eight months. Nobody thinks y'all
mess around. So you put it in your two week
(05:33):
notice because you got a better job. Since I'm leaving
the company, he said, it's time for us to get
serious and date exclusively. He's forty one, wants to get
married and start a family. I'm forty four. I've been
married before, so I don't want to choose another man
that's not the total package. Well, now let's stop right here,
(05:54):
seeing as how you divorce. Don't look like you know
how to pick all that good No way that's coming
from somebody and had a couple of them his damn self.
So now I know when you in the bad picking business.
So now you in the bad picking business. But now
you say you don't want another man that ain't the
total package?
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Do you think you're the total package?
Speaker 1 (06:18):
You know?
Speaker 3 (06:18):
You know what I've never heard. I'm gonna say this.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
This is gonna be shocked, and we're gonna go to break.
I've never heard a woman say I've heard women say
he ain't nothing. All my exes was dogs. And when
I've never heard a woman say, you know what, I
ain't about nothing?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
A woman say, you know what is me? I ain't
about nothing?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Part too of Steve's response, coming up at twenty three
minutes after the hour today's Strawberry Letter subject nerd in
the boardroom, boss.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
In the bedroom. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard Morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
Nerd in the boardroom, boss in the bedroom.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Yeah, here's this woman who's messing around with this guy
on the job that's a nerd. He's in the supervisory capacity.
Said he saw some men, so he had him transfer
to their team. Now they've been seeing each other on
the low loaf about eight months. She likes everything about him,
how he commands the boardroom. Think it's because of the
big words he uses and all that. But they've been
in the bedroom. He everything, he is superhero. He's in
(07:25):
charge in there too.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
But now.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
And everything is going right. You know, he's a straight nerd.
But it's something about him. But she don't like the
fact that he's stuck in the late nineties with his
hand his suits. Thank goodness, he ain't that way in
the bedroom. So now he played love songs and light
candles because that's what people used to do, you know,
because we didn't have a lot of other stuff. So
you know, it was all like that. He sets the
(07:53):
mood before he take off his silks. He's silky boxes.
There's been times when I've stared at him sleeping. How
he can be a nerd and a superhero, And I said,
because he has to be that to have the job
he got. He's figured out the way to become successful
in corporate American and that's what he's doing all right now,
y'all been hooking up for about eight weeks. Last week
you put in your notice because you found a better
(08:14):
job since you leaving the company. He said, This time
we get serious and started dating. He forty one, I'm
forty four. He want to get married and start a family.
I've been married, so I don't want to choose another
man that's not the total package. And like I said
before I left, which is what we do. You know
what I've noticed that I have never heard in my life.
I've heard women who have exes who talk about what
(08:36):
was wrong with the men and they wasn't ready, they
wasn't mature, ain't no good man. I can't find a
good man. There's a lot of good men out there.
I've never heard a woman say, you know what, I
ain't about.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Nothing, And you never will you know what it's me
reason I can't keep a man.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
You know, now there are women who can keep them man,
But you know it's women out here who just blame
men for all they woes.
Speaker 3 (09:06):
And it could be you ain't no good man out here.
A lot of good men out here.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
Anyway, here's her problem. So I don't want to choose
another man that's not total package. I'm so concerned about
how he looks. I told him my first outing should
be with my friends. We did a group date and
three of my girlfriends and they men. My girls are
very judgmental of him. They said that I get tired
of this nerdy conversation and it might be too hard
(09:35):
to change him. Your girlfriend and they men, any.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
Of them married? You married.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
Any of them? Me and Ashy your girlfriends to marry him.
Uh so you just had three girlfriends and they men.
But the girls got a problem with them, the dudes didn't,
And it might be too hard to change him. I
was thinking new clothes and a haircut would do it.
What new clothes and haircut could help? But he would
(10:05):
need a good woman to do that. But you're so
worried about what your friends think that you're finna let
the superhero and the nerd go. But they're skeptical. They're skeptical.
Can I gradually change a man that's stuck in the
time warp? I've seen it happened to me.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Yep, do you mean Steve? What are you saying?
Speaker 3 (10:33):
I've seen it? Would change my haircut and my suits.
I saw it. Yeah, I don't even know what you're
tripping for.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
Oh she was smart, though, she waited till she got
in and said, hey, you need to take them big
suits off. Now trying to change ad faught okay, and
farther and now here I am today. Would I be
a fool to let him go? You be a damn
fool to let him. You would be beyond ignorant to
let him go, And he won'ts you. On top of
(11:08):
all this, all he ain't a is a suit and
a haircut. That's all he ain't. You're gonna get tired
of that nerdy conversation. Oh well, I know a lot
of women is tired of these hip conversations. You know,
(11:28):
you can have a man say all the right things
that don't mean none of them. So, lady, I don't
know what you're gonna do. But if you let this
man go, you a stone cold fool. But then again,
maybe is you.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
She'll never say it. Maybe is you she'll.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
He ever thought of why you can't keep a man?
Maybe it's you.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
I know y'all always want to put it on the man,
but I wish y'all would sometimes ess Is there anything
that you could be doing wrong? Is there anything about
you you could change?
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Think about that?
Speaker 3 (12:13):
Could you be too picky?
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Because if you gonta let a man go because he
talk like a nerd and he got an old style
haircut in a suit that you don't like, you're gonna
let him go for that?
Speaker 1 (12:31):
I was gonna ask you one thing, What is he
saying that turns her on so much? In the in
the boardroom? Those big words?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Hey, what do you guys want to do for lunch?
Are you kidding me? Applebee's not interested? How about it?
How about him? Anore?
Speaker 4 (12:51):
You know?
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Look, Hey, how about a more for a new dining experience?
Speaker 1 (12:55):
You can come in on Today's Strubberry letter on Instagram
and Facebook and Steve Barby.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
That's all it is. It's just words like that.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
It's just also check out the.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
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