January 31, 2022 • 12 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for 12 years and I have cheated on my husband for the past 5 years. My husband is a bit older than I am, and he can’t always satisfy me like he used to, so I got addicted to stepping out on him. The thrill of the affair is what excited me at first, but then when I realized my husband no longer cared, it became a part of my lifestyle............................................
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Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and if you need
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be yours. You never know. Buckle uppothold on tight. We
(00:23):
got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.
Subject one husband, three men. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been
married for twelve years and I have cheated on my
husband for the past five years. My husband is a
bit older than I am and he can't always satisfy
me like he used to, so I got addicted to
(00:43):
stepping out on him. The thrill of the affair is
what excited me at first, but then when I realized
my husband no longer cared, it became part of my lifestyle.
I just turned forty five and I think I am
going through a midlife crisis because one man isn't enough
and I like them young. I am not sleeping around,
(01:03):
though I have two consistent men on the side that
I have sex with. I didn't want any parts of
an older man anymore. So one of my sidemen is
thirty five and the other one is twenty nine, and
he is my hairstylist. The thirty five year old just
got married and his wife is bipolar and won't take
(01:23):
her medicine, so he wasn't getting any sex at home.
The twenty nine year old is my baby, and he's
very special because I have taught him a lot. I
taught him how to save money, decorate his place, and
how to properly make love to a grown woman. He
is the one that is falling for me, and I
am very fond of him. But if I got divorced,
(01:46):
he wouldn't be my first choice. The thirty five year
old would, so I thought I would shake things up
and tell my husband I'm not happy and we might
need to get a divorce. He said, he's no fool
and can tell I'm getting sex elsewhere, so he'd like
for me to just be respectful if I'm going to
do it, and not let anyone else know what's going on.
(02:06):
That made me suspect. That made me suspect, and now
I'm thinking he might be messing around on me. I
asked him a million times. If he's cheating and he
had a smirk on his face and said no, what
if he lied about having ed and he has a mistress?
Should I confess to see if he will? Please advise?
(02:28):
What do you want us to advise you on? Really,
I really don't think you want an answer. I don't
think you care. I just think you're enjoying your cheating
life so much right now. You haven't cared about your
husband or what he's doing for the last five years.
What's changed the fact that he might be cheating too
mm and the fact that he didn't give you any problem,
(02:51):
any clapback when you said you might want a divorce, Well,
isn't that interesting? I think, my honest opinion is that
you don't give a darn unwear or the other. You
tried to test the waters on divorce, as you say,
and found out that your husband like cool, just be respectful,
not a problem. Who does that anyway? Play with divorce
(03:15):
like that? I mean, you've been cheating on him with
not one but two men. But you say you're not
sleeping around. How could you even put that line in
this letter? You're not sleeping around? That's exactly what you're doing.
What do you think sleeping around is? It's not okay,
and what you're doing is strifling. And now you're feeling
some kind of way because your husband didn't put up
(03:36):
a fight. You need to divorce him because you don't
love him. And you said in the letter you're addicted
to the thrill of an affair and all of that,
and your husband doesn't excite you anymore. What are you
holding on for? I just think you should go ahead,
put each other out of your misery. That way you
can cheat freely, and maybe your husband can be happy
(03:56):
with someone else, because it's certainly not you. Steve Uh again,
we're at one of these letters the subject as one husband,
three men. We're at this letter where I really and
I could tell about Shirley's response, and I'm just gonna
speak freely for Shirley. We really don't give a damn
(04:22):
about you, your problem, this letter, the outcome what you
want us to like? Shirley said, what do you want
us to tell you? What you're just so full of?
You've been married twelve years, you cheated on your husband
the past five already. Don't nobody like you that's listening
(04:44):
to the show right now. So let's just be clear
about that. My husband is a bit older than I am,
and he can't always satisfy me like he used to,
So I got addicted to stepping out on him. This
women sitting, the pre going trick. Sit, you'll behind down
some damn whever. But oh no, the thrill of the
(05:06):
fairs what excited me at first, But then I realized
my husband no longer cared. It became a part of
my lifestyle. I just turned forty five, and you think
I'm going through a midlife crisis because one man isn't
enough and I like him young. I'm not sleeping around,
though I have two consistent men on the side that
(05:28):
I have sex with. She didn't even read the old
lettle up, Shirley said when she responded to this, How
could you even put this in the same sentence. I
have two men, consistent men on the side that I
(05:52):
have sex with. I'm not sleeping around. Well, I'm so confused.
Huse now, because see, it's gonna be hard for us
to help you because you don't you don't think there's
a problem. You just said you're not sleeping around, but
(06:14):
you have three men and you haven't consistent sex with
two of them, and if your husband could perform, that
would be three. But you say you're not sleeping around, Well,
what is you doing? What? What is it? What's what's happening?
(06:35):
You know, y'all have redefined everything. Hold on, Hold on,
We'll have part two of Steve's Refunds coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letters, subject
one husband, three men. That we'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening to Steve Morning Show. All right,
(06:56):
come on, Steve, let's recap today's beautiful strawberry letters and
finish up with your response to the subject my husband
through one husband, three men. Don't nobody give a damn
about this lady? In this letter, she'd been married twelve years,
been cheating on her husband for five of the years.
Because he's older than hun he can't satisfy her like
(07:17):
he used to. At the end of the letter, she
says is that he's has he lied about having ed
erectile dysfunction, So you got addicted to stepping out on him.
The thrill of affairs what excited you, and you made
it a part of your lifestyle. When you find out
your husband didn't care. I turned forty five, and I
(07:37):
think I'm going through midlife crisis because one man isn't
enough and I like him young. I'm not sleeping around
though I'd have two consistent men on the side that
I have sex with. But you're not sleeping round? What is?
What is this? What is this? You know? I'm sick
of y'all new people always redefined as so what y'all
(08:01):
doing Now? You got a husband, you got two consistent
me and one thirty five thirty nine, the other one
twenty nine, and you had consistent secuity, but you're not
sleeping round? Is is this called and entanglement? Is that
what this is? I'm trying to understand what it is
(08:25):
because y'all keep redefining stuff that's been the same for
a long time. Y'all stupid, and I'm sicking this stupid
ass letter. I don't want any parts of an older
man anymore. So one of my side me and is
thirty five and the other one is twenty nine, and
he's my half. Style it. The thirty five year old
(08:46):
just got married and his wife is bipolar and won't
take her medicine, so he wasn't getting any sex at home. Well,
what he's just married for. She didn't just become bipolar,
So now what he's married for? And now he telling
you you won't take a man, so they ain't having sex?
What and they just got married lady, Now you're kidding me.
(09:07):
You gotta be stupid. So now and then the twenty
nine year old is my baby, and he's very special
because I've taught him a lot. I taught him how
to has saved money, decorate this place, and how to
properly make love to a grown woman. He's the one
falling for me, and I'm very fond of him. But
(09:27):
if I got divorced, he wouldn't be my first choice.
The thirty five year old, all right, let me let me,
let me walk this back for you, trying to make
some sense of that at your old mass you forty five,
don't neither one of them men, won't you. The twenty
nine year old is falling for you because you can
do some things and teach him some things. As soon
(09:50):
as he gets good at how to make love and
take care of an older woman, and once he get
his house decorated, and he gonna go get him a
young chicken to put in there and ain't fit to
be you the thirty five year old nothing to leave
his bipolar ass wife because she ain't bipolar. They've just
gotten married and they having sex, unlike you think. Ain't
(10:13):
neither one of them, won't she? And don't you know
that both of them know you married? So now, I've
never met a guy that took a married woman that
he was the siding piece of I haven't met him
yet and made her his wife. I haven't met him.
(10:35):
I'm sure they're out there and there are some stories.
But Tommy, have you met one of your boys that's
done this one yet? Junior? You knowing it your partners
to pull this. I got a lot of homeless man,
I'm sixty five. I know a lot of dudes. Man.
I don't know no dude that don't done this though.
(10:56):
I don't know who you think you are, but they ain't.
I all, no, no dude, then pull this move off.
So I thought I would shake things up and tell
my husband I'm not happy. We might need to get
a divorced. He said, he's no fool and can tell
you that you're getting sex ex for us. So he
just liked you to be respectful if I'm gonna do
(11:16):
it and not let anybody know what's going on. That
made me suspect, And now I think he might be
messing around on me. And if he is, so, what
you got two other men that you're consistently having sex
with that you say you're not sleeping round? So I
don't even understand what the suspicion is about. I've asked
(11:39):
him a million times if he's cheating, and he had
a smirk on his face and said no. Now, how
stupid you are, which makes the letter super stupid. What
if he lied about having ed and has a mistress?
Should I could a fest to see if he will?
Who stupid? You? So stupid lady? A lot of stupid
(12:07):
stuff in this letter, but it ain't been to be
that one though. I can tell you that right now.
Ain't no way he's been a confess fool at me
to something that he's not even been busted or accused up.
Stop now that's stupid, girl. Stop. Thanks. Steve hit us
(12:28):
up on Instagram at Steve Harvey Fm to comment on
today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on demand. Coming up next, it is Sports
Talk with Junior. Right after this, you're listening to the
Steve Harvey Morning Show
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and if you need
advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, am more. Please submit
your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com by clicking
Submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now. You never know, it could
be yours. You never know. Buckle uppothold on tight. We
(00:23):
got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.
Subject one husband, three men. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been
married for twelve years and I have cheated on my
husband for the past five years. My husband is a
bit older than I am and he can't always satisfy
me like he used to, so I got addicted to
(00:43):
stepping out on him. The thrill of the affair is
what excited me at first, but then when I realized
my husband no longer cared, it became part of my lifestyle.
I just turned forty five and I think I am
going through a midlife crisis because one man isn't enough
and I like them young. I am not sleeping around,
(01:03):
though I have two consistent men on the side that
I have sex with. I didn't want any parts of
an older man anymore. So one of my sidemen is
thirty five and the other one is twenty nine, and
he is my hairstylist. The thirty five year old just
got married and his wife is bipolar and won't take
(01:23):
her medicine, so he wasn't getting any sex at home.
The twenty nine year old is my baby, and he's
very special because I have taught him a lot. I
taught him how to save money, decorate his place, and
how to properly make love to a grown woman. He
is the one that is falling for me, and I
am very fond of him. But if I got divorced,
(01:46):
he wouldn't be my first choice. The thirty five year
old would, so I thought I would shake things up
and tell my husband I'm not happy and we might
need to get a divorce. He said, he's no fool
and can tell I'm getting sex elsewhere, so he'd like
for me to just be respectful if I'm going to
do it, and not let anyone else know what's going on.
(02:06):
That made me suspect. That made me suspect, and now
I'm thinking he might be messing around on me. I
asked him a million times. If he's cheating and he
had a smirk on his face and said no, what
if he lied about having ed and he has a mistress?
Should I confess to see if he will? Please advise?
(02:28):
What do you want us to advise you on? Really,
I really don't think you want an answer. I don't
think you care. I just think you're enjoying your cheating
life so much right now. You haven't cared about your
husband or what he's doing for the last five years.
What's changed the fact that he might be cheating too
mm and the fact that he didn't give you any problem,
(02:51):
any clapback when you said you might want a divorce, Well,
isn't that interesting? I think, my honest opinion is that
you don't give a darn unwear or the other. You
tried to test the waters on divorce, as you say,
and found out that your husband like cool, just be respectful,
not a problem. Who does that anyway? Play with divorce
(03:15):
like that? I mean, you've been cheating on him with
not one but two men. But you say you're not
sleeping around. How could you even put that line in
this letter? You're not sleeping around? That's exactly what you're doing.
What do you think sleeping around is? It's not okay,
and what you're doing is strifling. And now you're feeling
some kind of way because your husband didn't put up
(03:36):
a fight. You need to divorce him because you don't
love him. And you said in the letter you're addicted
to the thrill of an affair and all of that,
and your husband doesn't excite you anymore. What are you
holding on for? I just think you should go ahead,
put each other out of your misery. That way you
can cheat freely, and maybe your husband can be happy
(03:56):
with someone else, because it's certainly not you. Steve Uh again,
we're at one of these letters the subject as one husband,
three men. We're at this letter where I really and
I could tell about Shirley's response, and I'm just gonna
speak freely for Shirley. We really don't give a damn
(04:22):
about you, your problem, this letter, the outcome what you
want us to like? Shirley said, what do you want
us to tell you? What you're just so full of?
You've been married twelve years, you cheated on your husband
the past five already. Don't nobody like you that's listening
(04:44):
to the show right now. So let's just be clear
about that. My husband is a bit older than I am,
and he can't always satisfy me like he used to,
So I got addicted to stepping out on him. This
women sitting, the pre going trick. Sit, you'll behind down
some damn whever. But oh no, the thrill of the
(05:06):
fairs what excited me at first, But then I realized
my husband no longer cared. It became a part of
my lifestyle. I just turned forty five, and you think
I'm going through a midlife crisis because one man isn't
enough and I like him young. I'm not sleeping around,
though I have two consistent men on the side that
(05:28):
I have sex with. She didn't even read the old
lettle up, Shirley said when she responded to this, How
could you even put this in the same sentence. I
have two men, consistent men on the side that I
(05:52):
have sex with. I'm not sleeping around. Well, I'm so confused.
Huse now, because see, it's gonna be hard for us
to help you because you don't you don't think there's
a problem. You just said you're not sleeping around, but
(06:14):
you have three men and you haven't consistent sex with
two of them, and if your husband could perform, that
would be three. But you say you're not sleeping around, Well,
what is you doing? What? What is it? What's what's happening?
(06:35):
You know, y'all have redefined everything. Hold on, Hold on,
We'll have part two of Steve's Refunds coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letters, subject
one husband, three men. That we'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening to Steve Morning Show. All right,
(06:56):
come on, Steve, let's recap today's beautiful strawberry letters and
finish up with your response to the subject my husband
through one husband, three men. Don't nobody give a damn
about this lady? In this letter, she'd been married twelve years,
been cheating on her husband for five of the years.
Because he's older than hun he can't satisfy her like
(07:17):
he used to. At the end of the letter, she
says is that he's has he lied about having ed
erectile dysfunction, So you got addicted to stepping out on him.
The thrill of affairs what excited you, and you made
it a part of your lifestyle. When you find out
your husband didn't care. I turned forty five, and I
(07:37):
think I'm going through midlife crisis because one man isn't
enough and I like him young. I'm not sleeping around
though I'd have two consistent men on the side that
I have sex with. But you're not sleeping round? What is?
What is this? What is this? You know? I'm sick
of y'all new people always redefined as so what y'all
(08:01):
doing Now? You got a husband, you got two consistent
me and one thirty five thirty nine, the other one
twenty nine, and you had consistent secuity, but you're not
sleeping round? Is is this called and entanglement? Is that
what this is? I'm trying to understand what it is
(08:25):
because y'all keep redefining stuff that's been the same for
a long time. Y'all stupid, and I'm sicking this stupid
ass letter. I don't want any parts of an older
man anymore. So one of my side me and is
thirty five and the other one is twenty nine, and
he's my half. Style it. The thirty five year old
(08:46):
just got married and his wife is bipolar and won't
take her medicine, so he wasn't getting any sex at home. Well,
what he's just married for. She didn't just become bipolar,
So now what he's married for? And now he telling
you you won't take a man, so they ain't having sex?
What and they just got married lady, Now you're kidding me.
(09:07):
You gotta be stupid. So now and then the twenty
nine year old is my baby, and he's very special
because I've taught him a lot. I taught him how
to has saved money, decorate this place, and how to
properly make love to a grown woman. He's the one
falling for me, and I'm very fond of him. But
(09:27):
if I got divorced, he wouldn't be my first choice.
The thirty five year old, all right, let me let me,
let me walk this back for you, trying to make
some sense of that at your old mass you forty five,
don't neither one of them men, won't you. The twenty
nine year old is falling for you because you can
do some things and teach him some things. As soon
(09:50):
as he gets good at how to make love and
take care of an older woman, and once he get
his house decorated, and he gonna go get him a
young chicken to put in there and ain't fit to
be you the thirty five year old nothing to leave
his bipolar ass wife because she ain't bipolar. They've just
gotten married and they having sex, unlike you think. Ain't
(10:13):
neither one of them, won't she? And don't you know
that both of them know you married? So now, I've
never met a guy that took a married woman that
he was the siding piece of I haven't met him
yet and made her his wife. I haven't met him.
(10:35):
I'm sure they're out there and there are some stories.
But Tommy, have you met one of your boys that's
done this one yet? Junior? You knowing it your partners
to pull this. I got a lot of homeless man,
I'm sixty five. I know a lot of dudes. Man.
I don't know no dude that don't done this though.
(10:56):
I don't know who you think you are, but they ain't.
I all, no, no dude, then pull this move off.
So I thought I would shake things up and tell
my husband I'm not happy. We might need to get
a divorced. He said, he's no fool and can tell
you that you're getting sex ex for us. So he
just liked you to be respectful if I'm gonna do
(11:16):
it and not let anybody know what's going on. That
made me suspect, And now I think he might be
messing around on me. And if he is, so, what
you got two other men that you're consistently having sex
with that you say you're not sleeping round? So I
don't even understand what the suspicion is about. I've asked
(11:39):
him a million times if he's cheating, and he had
a smirk on his face and said no. Now, how
stupid you are, which makes the letter super stupid. What
if he lied about having ed and has a mistress?
Should I could a fest to see if he will?
Who stupid? You? So stupid lady? A lot of stupid
(12:07):
stuff in this letter, but it ain't been to be
that one though. I can tell you that right now.
Ain't no way he's been a confess fool at me
to something that he's not even been busted or accused up.
Stop now that's stupid, girl. Stop. Thanks. Steve hit us
(12:28):
up on Instagram at Steve Harvey Fm to comment on
today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on demand. Coming up next, it is Sports
Talk with Junior. Right after this, you're listening to the
Steve Harvey Morning Show
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