January 17, 2020 • 16 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a successful executive and my job involves a lot of travel. I have been married for 20 years, but for the last 5 years, my wife has had some medical issues and she’s gained a lot of weight. At first, she tried to keep her weight down, but then she just let herself go and she is not happy with herself so she stopped having sex with me. I did a very selfish thing and started seeing other women when I am on work trips. At one time, I had four different sidepieces in four different states. They are all great women but they don’t hold a candle to my wife, so I knew I was wrong..............
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Well, happy birthday, Steve Harvey. Happy birthday to you. We
love you so yeah, to work with you all these years,
we just appreciate it and we're just grateful and we
love you. It is huh more than grateful. Yeah, yeah,
graciously graciously grateful, grateful, but like gru grateful. Time now
(00:26):
for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need advice on relationships,
on dating, on sex, on parenting, on work, and more,
please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey f M
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter on the air live, just like we're gonna read
this one right here, right now. That's for you, Jay
(00:46):
Anthony Brown, bugle up, hold on tight, we got it
full you here. It is a strawberry letter, all right everyone.
Here's the subject. One of my side pieces is stressing
me out. Stephen Shirley. I am a successful executive and
(01:11):
my job involves a lot of travel. I've been married
for twenty years, but for the last five years, my
wife has had some medical issues and she's gained a
lot of weight. At first, she tried to keep her
weight down, but then she just let herself go and
she's not happy with herself, so she stopped having sex
with me. I did a very selfish thing and started
(01:33):
seeing other women when I am on work trips. At
one time, I had four different side pieces in four
different states. They are all great women, but they don't
hold a candle to my wife, so I knew I
was wrong. Three of them used me for money and
dinners when I was in town, and that was fine
with me. But one of my side pieces fell in
(01:55):
love with me and wanted me to leave my wife
for her. I told her that would never happened, and
she lost it and screamed and cried and stormed out
of my hotel. The next day, she showed up at
my corporate office and told the receptionist she needed to
see me. It was an emergency. She burst into the
conference room and acted a complete fool. You slow down.
(02:21):
Can you read this letter? Okay? All right, okay, I'll
slow it down. Your birthday. It's just a letter. What
the hell is going on this boardroom? Yeah, okay, okay,
(02:45):
I'll slow down. Okay, all right, Uh I did it.
I'll start here. I did a very selfish thing and
started seeing other women while I am on work trip.
I told her you would never have Okay, I like
this line. Three of them used me for money and
dinners when I was in town, and that was fine
(03:06):
with me. But one of my side piece, but one
of my side pieces fell in love with me and
wanted me to leave my wife for her. It's okay,
all right, I told her that would never happen, and
she lost it and screamed and cried and stormed out
(03:27):
of my hotel. The next day, she showed up at
my corporate office and told the receptionist she needed to
see me. It was an emergency. Why she bursted into
(03:50):
the conference room and acted a complete fool and room
into the conference room and acted a complete fool Steven
front of the heads of my company. Damn, let that
marilead for a minute, because all the fellows that Carlo,
(04:15):
they don't they don't have a security that can keep
a crazy woman out. It just don't haven't been Steve. Breathe, guys, breathe. Okay,
my boss is in here. Yeah. Yeah. She burst into
the conference room and acted a complete fool in front
of the heads of my company. They knew she was
(04:36):
not my wife, so they ushered her out and told
me to get my personal affairs in order. Huh uh huh.
I tried to call her, and when I did, I
found out she blocked my number and blocked me from
her social media accounts. She left a note at my
(04:59):
hotel saying that to us she might have to pop
up in my hometown to meet my wife and have
a talk with her. See that's where I was gonna
stop on my own. Uh, hell is you outside? Fortsappear?
(05:24):
All right? I'll continue. I have prayed and prayed about it,
and I think the best thing to do. No, you're
not gonna like this line, Steve. All right, Okay, I've
prayed and prayed about it, and I think the best
thing to do is to tell my wife everything. You
(05:49):
are this letter already ignorant. All right, let me finish.
I've cut back on my side pieces and I just
have one now, any comments, any comments from the fellas?
All right, your wife? They had a crazy, perfect escape
the pyke war. I have talked to my pastor to
get back on track. What do you think I should do?
(06:10):
Should I tell my wife? Or do you think my
side piece was just trying to scare me? Uh? Listen,
I think this crazy blank woman would burst into your
office like this and clown like you said she did.
I think she's capable of doing anything. All right, I'm
gonna I'm gonna shorten my answer and say I think
(06:32):
you should tell your wife everything. I know Steve's not
gonna agree with that. The world now stru letter at
twenty three after the hour. One of my side pieces
is stressing me out. We'll be back right after this.
(06:53):
You're listening, all right, Steve, this is a crazy letter.
We need to recap this one subject. One of my
side pieces is stressing me out. Breathe, breathe, breathe need
to be said. Ye ain't a lot of weight, try
(07:16):
to keep her weight down. She just let herself go.
She ain't happy with herself, but she decided to stop
having sick with me. Then the man did a very
noble thing. He said in the letter, I did a
very selfish thing. See this man know he wrongs. So
he said, I did a very selfish thing. Don't try
to make him he no, Shirley, he know he wrong.
(07:44):
This ain't no hero move. He had four different side
pieces and four different st Will you be quiet. We
know what he got, and he got him because he
did a selfish move, he said, with selfish but what
are you going? She stopped having sex with him. She stopped,
(08:05):
and I started to seeing other women on work trip.
One at one time, I had four different side pieces
in four different states. That's foe and folk. Yeah, we know,
that's a box. That's where you turn. They at every side.
That's the life of completion. There you go, and they
(08:30):
are all great women, but they don't hold a candle
to my wife. He's going back to make himself appear
human and agonizing over his decision. They are all great women,
but they don't hold a caundle to my wife. So
I knew I was wrong. Three of them used me
for money and dinners when I was in town, and
that was fine with me. We know what the deal is.
(08:54):
Just Bill Withers wrote a song, you just keep on
using me and you come on, Bill, my friend. They
feel it is all pointing duty. But anyway, one of
my side pieces fell in love with me and wanted
me to leave my wife for her. I told her
(09:16):
that would never happen. You should have said, let's think
about this, but now what dad had never happened. Now
you can't tell a crazy person facts. You have to
say how she was traced. Oh, yes he did, and
she lost it, screamed and cried, stormed out the hotel room.
(09:36):
Next day, here she goes, she didn't bought her ass
down to my damn job. Stone came into the corporate office,
told her reception she needed to see me. It was
an emergency. I don't know who this help. I don't
know who this reception is. We didn't hide. She let
her talk about she and now now she'd have bought
(09:59):
her he's ass in this conference room after the complete
food in front of the heads of my company. They
knew she was not my wife, so they had her
rush it out and told me to get my personal
affairs in order. Ye folk, look at cause this food
that came down to your job. I beat damn because
(10:21):
he trying to call it and do like your bosses,
saying get your personal fans in order, try to call her.
Found out she'd have blocked your number, blocked you from
all her social media accounts. She left a note at
your hotel saying she might have to pop in on
my hometown to meet my wife and have a talk
with her. Let me explain something to you, who see
(10:47):
you gonna you're gonna have to talk with who you
see See, let me you didn't been in there and
talk to these damn bosses that didn't go good from
you find't going ahead and talking my wife. Nah, this
is where sinner man drags the Lord in it. I
have prayed and prayed about it. You wasn't praying when
(11:10):
you were screwing him, but now didn't turn left? You
need the Lord? Now? Well the Lord knew you didn't
need him then. Oh so now since you made these decisions,
we have to live with these decisions. I have prayed
and prayed about it, and I think the best see
(11:32):
his is the keyword. I think the best thing to
do is tell my wife everything. Yes, where did you
start thinking? You ain't been thinking in this whole left
You wasn't thinking. You wasn't thinking when you let her
(11:53):
in that damn conference room. You wasn't thank You wasn't
thinking when you're stupid ass, tona that would never happen.
But you shouldn't have said it that. You can't. You
gotta let him down easier than that. If you're gonna
be a not all a sudden, your dumb ass, do
start thinking and guess what. You're stupid ass and thought
of I think I should go back in and tell
(12:15):
my wife everything. You're so damn stupid. That's why she
on your job, because you stupid, and you're gonna try
to fix it. I cut back on my side pieces
and I just got one knob. Yeah, ain't supposed to
(12:37):
have none? Right then you did this guy even dumb.
I've talked to my pastor to get back on track.
All right, listen, we gotta get out of here, Steve.
I'll tell you what you can do. Okay. On Today's
(12:59):
Strawberry Letter Steve Harvey FM or Instagram and Facebook, and
don't forget to check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on
demand now coming up at forty six minutes after the hour.
Part three of This Strawberry Letter. Steve has more to say.
Subject one of my side pieces is stressing me out.
I love that subject, I love the title. We'll be
back right after this you're listening to All right, Steve,
(13:27):
We're back. This Strawberry Letter is too good. Subject one
of my side pieces is stressing me out? What you
got this man? And gotten this fan with this woman?
Sheet and trip came down to his job screaming at
the top of her loans, and basked him, the bosson,
to pull him to the side, and said, hey, get
your personal fans in office in order, you know, being here. Well,
(13:49):
that ain't your wife all up here in the conference
rooms in a minute, We ain't gonna slanting. She got
a leopard she came down there with a leopard dress on.
Ain't nothing offense about her, smith, because she's been crying
(14:13):
in the car on the way down to make up
all over her face, got the wig shifted, got them
side burns in the front of her head. Looked like
she got a Michael Jackson a little cutely que in
the front of his hand. Now she came up in
your job. Now you think for a minute that she
ain't gonna have a problem going to your wife house.
You ain't gonna talk to your pass Who do you
(14:38):
think that is? One? Oh? But aren't do you have
any idea what's going on in the hallway though? No? Oh? No,
you know you know, boss. Let me tell you something,
mister mclowner. There's a lot of divils in the world.
Half No, Heavenly Father, dear Lord, Jesus, Father, God help
(15:10):
me in your name, Lord, I come to you with
all grace and mercy and favor, realizing that I've been
but I ask Jesus removed, Strike her down, Lord and
moved take her, take her pulse from her. Lord, put
her a heavenly father, just her left side, shut her.
(15:33):
Let Lord, Jesus, if you don't do something now, she
coming in here. God, if you could just cripple just
one time. It don't have to be permanent, but just
drop her to her knees from she opened her confidence
though I name, Oh Father, God help me. She's gonna
(15:58):
come in here. She will come in here. I mean,
there's miss Charmagne outside. All right. I think that's all
on the Strawberry Letter on the weekend too. Hey, you
(16:21):
know me, all right, we'll be back with that pimping.
Pimping is up next with his NFL playoff Pigs coming
up at the top of the hour, right after the Charmaine.
You're listening to the Day Morning Show.
Well, happy birthday, Steve Harvey. Happy birthday to you. We
love you so yeah, to work with you all these years,
we just appreciate it and we're just grateful and we
love you. It is huh more than grateful. Yeah, yeah,
graciously graciously grateful, grateful, but like gru grateful. Time now
(00:26):
for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need advice on relationships,
on dating, on sex, on parenting, on work, and more,
please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey f M
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter on the air live, just like we're gonna read
this one right here, right now. That's for you, Jay
(00:46):
Anthony Brown, bugle up, hold on tight, we got it
full you here. It is a strawberry letter, all right everyone.
Here's the subject. One of my side pieces is stressing
me out. Stephen Shirley. I am a successful executive and
(01:11):
my job involves a lot of travel. I've been married
for twenty years, but for the last five years, my
wife has had some medical issues and she's gained a
lot of weight. At first, she tried to keep her
weight down, but then she just let herself go and
she's not happy with herself, so she stopped having sex
with me. I did a very selfish thing and started
(01:33):
seeing other women when I am on work trips. At
one time, I had four different side pieces in four
different states. They are all great women, but they don't
hold a candle to my wife, so I knew I
was wrong. Three of them used me for money and
dinners when I was in town, and that was fine
with me. But one of my side pieces fell in
(01:55):
love with me and wanted me to leave my wife
for her. I told her that would never happened, and
she lost it and screamed and cried and stormed out
of my hotel. The next day, she showed up at
my corporate office and told the receptionist she needed to
see me. It was an emergency. She burst into the
conference room and acted a complete fool. You slow down.
(02:21):
Can you read this letter? Okay? All right, okay, I'll
slow it down. Your birthday. It's just a letter. What
the hell is going on this boardroom? Yeah, okay, okay,
(02:45):
I'll slow down. Okay, all right, Uh I did it.
I'll start here. I did a very selfish thing and
started seeing other women while I am on work trip.
I told her you would never have Okay, I like
this line. Three of them used me for money and
dinners when I was in town, and that was fine
(03:06):
with me. But one of my side piece, but one
of my side pieces fell in love with me and
wanted me to leave my wife for her. It's okay,
all right, I told her that would never happen, and
she lost it and screamed and cried and stormed out
(03:27):
of my hotel. The next day, she showed up at
my corporate office and told the receptionist she needed to
see me. It was an emergency. Why she bursted into
(03:50):
the conference room and acted a complete fool and room
into the conference room and acted a complete fool Steven
front of the heads of my company. Damn, let that
marilead for a minute, because all the fellows that Carlo,
(04:15):
they don't they don't have a security that can keep
a crazy woman out. It just don't haven't been Steve. Breathe, guys, breathe. Okay,
my boss is in here. Yeah. Yeah. She burst into
the conference room and acted a complete fool in front
of the heads of my company. They knew she was
(04:36):
not my wife, so they ushered her out and told
me to get my personal affairs in order. Huh uh huh.
I tried to call her, and when I did, I
found out she blocked my number and blocked me from
her social media accounts. She left a note at my
(04:59):
hotel saying that to us she might have to pop
up in my hometown to meet my wife and have
a talk with her. See that's where I was gonna
stop on my own. Uh, hell is you outside? Fortsappear?
(05:24):
All right? I'll continue. I have prayed and prayed about it,
and I think the best thing to do. No, you're
not gonna like this line, Steve. All right, Okay, I've
prayed and prayed about it, and I think the best
thing to do is to tell my wife everything. You
(05:49):
are this letter already ignorant. All right, let me finish.
I've cut back on my side pieces and I just
have one now, any comments, any comments from the fellas?
All right, your wife? They had a crazy, perfect escape
the pyke war. I have talked to my pastor to
get back on track. What do you think I should do?
(06:10):
Should I tell my wife? Or do you think my
side piece was just trying to scare me? Uh? Listen,
I think this crazy blank woman would burst into your
office like this and clown like you said she did.
I think she's capable of doing anything. All right, I'm
gonna I'm gonna shorten my answer and say I think
(06:32):
you should tell your wife everything. I know Steve's not
gonna agree with that. The world now stru letter at
twenty three after the hour. One of my side pieces
is stressing me out. We'll be back right after this.
(06:53):
You're listening, all right, Steve, this is a crazy letter.
We need to recap this one subject. One of my
side pieces is stressing me out. Breathe, breathe, breathe need
to be said. Ye ain't a lot of weight, try
(07:16):
to keep her weight down. She just let herself go.
She ain't happy with herself, but she decided to stop
having sick with me. Then the man did a very
noble thing. He said in the letter, I did a
very selfish thing. See this man know he wrongs. So
he said, I did a very selfish thing. Don't try
to make him he no, Shirley, he know he wrong.
(07:44):
This ain't no hero move. He had four different side
pieces and four different st Will you be quiet. We
know what he got, and he got him because he
did a selfish move, he said, with selfish but what
are you going? She stopped having sex with him. She stopped,
(08:05):
and I started to seeing other women on work trip.
One at one time, I had four different side pieces
in four different states. That's foe and folk. Yeah, we know,
that's a box. That's where you turn. They at every side.
That's the life of completion. There you go, and they
(08:30):
are all great women, but they don't hold a candle
to my wife. He's going back to make himself appear
human and agonizing over his decision. They are all great women,
but they don't hold a caundle to my wife. So
I knew I was wrong. Three of them used me
for money and dinners when I was in town, and
that was fine with me. We know what the deal is.
(08:54):
Just Bill Withers wrote a song, you just keep on
using me and you come on, Bill, my friend. They
feel it is all pointing duty. But anyway, one of
my side pieces fell in love with me and wanted
me to leave my wife for her. I told her
(09:16):
that would never happen. You should have said, let's think
about this, but now what dad had never happened. Now
you can't tell a crazy person facts. You have to
say how she was traced. Oh, yes he did, and
she lost it, screamed and cried, stormed out the hotel room.
(09:36):
Next day, here she goes, she didn't bought her ass
down to my damn job. Stone came into the corporate office,
told her reception she needed to see me. It was
an emergency. I don't know who this help. I don't
know who this reception is. We didn't hide. She let
her talk about she and now now she'd have bought
(09:59):
her he's ass in this conference room after the complete
food in front of the heads of my company. They
knew she was not my wife, so they had her
rush it out and told me to get my personal
affairs in order. Ye folk, look at cause this food
that came down to your job. I beat damn because
(10:21):
he trying to call it and do like your bosses,
saying get your personal fans in order, try to call her.
Found out she'd have blocked your number, blocked you from
all her social media accounts. She left a note at
your hotel saying she might have to pop in on
my hometown to meet my wife and have a talk
with her. Let me explain something to you, who see
(10:47):
you gonna you're gonna have to talk with who you
see See, let me you didn't been in there and
talk to these damn bosses that didn't go good from
you find't going ahead and talking my wife. Nah, this
is where sinner man drags the Lord in it. I
have prayed and prayed about it. You wasn't praying when
(11:10):
you were screwing him, but now didn't turn left? You
need the Lord? Now? Well the Lord knew you didn't
need him then. Oh so now since you made these decisions,
we have to live with these decisions. I have prayed
and prayed about it, and I think the best see
(11:32):
his is the keyword. I think the best thing to
do is tell my wife everything. Yes, where did you
start thinking? You ain't been thinking in this whole left
You wasn't thinking. You wasn't thinking when you let her
(11:53):
in that damn conference room. You wasn't thank You wasn't
thinking when you're stupid ass, tona that would never happen.
But you shouldn't have said it that. You can't. You
gotta let him down easier than that. If you're gonna
be a not all a sudden, your dumb ass, do
start thinking and guess what. You're stupid ass and thought
of I think I should go back in and tell
(12:15):
my wife everything. You're so damn stupid. That's why she
on your job, because you stupid, and you're gonna try
to fix it. I cut back on my side pieces
and I just got one knob. Yeah, ain't supposed to
(12:37):
have none? Right then you did this guy even dumb.
I've talked to my pastor to get back on track.
All right, listen, we gotta get out of here, Steve.
I'll tell you what you can do. Okay. On Today's
(12:59):
Strawberry Letter Steve Harvey FM or Instagram and Facebook, and
don't forget to check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on
demand now coming up at forty six minutes after the hour.
Part three of This Strawberry Letter. Steve has more to say.
Subject one of my side pieces is stressing me out.
I love that subject, I love the title. We'll be
back right after this you're listening to All right, Steve,
(13:27):
We're back. This Strawberry Letter is too good. Subject one
of my side pieces is stressing me out? What you
got this man? And gotten this fan with this woman?
Sheet and trip came down to his job screaming at
the top of her loans, and basked him, the bosson,
to pull him to the side, and said, hey, get
your personal fans in office in order, you know, being here. Well,
(13:49):
that ain't your wife all up here in the conference
rooms in a minute, We ain't gonna slanting. She got
a leopard she came down there with a leopard dress on.
Ain't nothing offense about her, smith, because she's been crying
(14:13):
in the car on the way down to make up
all over her face, got the wig shifted, got them
side burns in the front of her head. Looked like
she got a Michael Jackson a little cutely que in
the front of his hand. Now she came up in
your job. Now you think for a minute that she
ain't gonna have a problem going to your wife house.
You ain't gonna talk to your pass Who do you
(14:38):
think that is? One? Oh? But aren't do you have
any idea what's going on in the hallway though? No? Oh? No,
you know you know, boss. Let me tell you something,
mister mclowner. There's a lot of divils in the world.
Half No, Heavenly Father, dear Lord, Jesus, Father, God help
(15:10):
me in your name, Lord, I come to you with
all grace and mercy and favor, realizing that I've been
but I ask Jesus removed, Strike her down, Lord and
moved take her, take her pulse from her. Lord, put
her a heavenly father, just her left side, shut her.
(15:33):
Let Lord, Jesus, if you don't do something now, she
coming in here. God, if you could just cripple just
one time. It don't have to be permanent, but just
drop her to her knees from she opened her confidence
though I name, Oh Father, God help me. She's gonna
(15:58):
come in here. She will come in here. I mean,
there's miss Charmagne outside. All right. I think that's all
on the Strawberry Letter on the weekend too. Hey, you
(16:21):
know me, all right, we'll be back with that pimping.
Pimping is up next with his NFL playoff Pigs coming
up at the top of the hour, right after the Charmaine.
You're listening to the Day Morning Show.
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