November 2, 2021 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for 6 years and I have 2 children under age 5. I work full time and I tutor children in our home on Mondays and Wednesdays. My husband’s job has him traveling 80% of the time, so that leaves me with the children a lot. Thank heavens I have relatives close by that help me with my children. In August, my husband was out of town for a week and I was stressed out with being a mom and businesswoman......................................
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(00:44):
please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey FM and
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Subject one stressed out Mamma. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been
(01:05):
married for six years and I have two children under
age five. I work full time and I tutor children
in our home. On Mondays and Wednesdays. My husband's job
has him traveling eighty percent of the time, so that
leaves me with the children a lot. Thanks Heavens, I
have relatives close by that can help me with my children.
(01:26):
In August, my husband was out of town for a
week and I was stressed out with being a mom
and a businesswoman. My co workers suggested I get a
sensual massage to help me relax and stay centered. I
decided to try it, and the massu said he would
come to my home. We sat and talked, and he
was engaging and seemed interested in stuff that stresses me out.
(01:49):
Then he told me to take deep breaths and close
my eyes, and he undressed me and guided me to
the massage table and laid me back. When I opened
my eyes, he had taken his clothes off too, and
he was staring into my eyes, right through my soul.
He started massaging every inch of my body and it
(02:10):
was sensual and satisfying. After he finished, he said I
could pay in cash or cash app I booked an
appointment for the next day, and the day after that,
and the day after that. We eventually started having the
best sex in my living room on his massage table.
My marriage has improved since I started seeing him regularly,
(02:32):
but he's expensive and soon I won't be able to
justify it. If my husband looks at our account, I've
asked him for a discount and he says, I'm one
stressed out mama and he has to give me the
full package each time. Do I keep seeing this man
for stress management or should I go see a real therapist? Well,
you know what I think you do know the answer
(02:55):
to that. But in case you need a little help,
will help you out here because this is a lot
and you know this is wrong what you're doing. You
do realize that you're having a whole affair in the
living room of your house that you share with your husband. Okay,
I know he's out of town a lot, but he
does come home at some point. And I don't care
(03:16):
what you call it. I don't care if you call
it a sensual massage entanglement, whatever you call it. You
are having sex with a man that is not your
husband in your house. Okay. You can't justify this. This
is cheating. We all get stressed out from time to time,
but we don't fix it by possibly ruining our marriages
and relationships with a sensual massage having sex in our
(03:39):
living rooms. And I'll come on, Steve and I, we're
not condoning this. We're not condoning your actions. You've put
You've put yourself and your little massus in harm's way
by doing this. The crazy part is you're paying him
and he won't even give you a discount. This is crazy.
I say, stop this before your husband finds out and
(04:02):
kills you both when he opens that living room door.
You know, if you want to distress, take a yoga
class or a meditation class or something. Anyway gets this
man out of your house immediately. Steve one stressed out Mama.
Now when I read this letter. As I was reading it,
I want you all to know that I was going
(04:24):
somewhere else at first. So here's where I went. Dear
Shelly and Steve and Shirley. I've been married for six years.
I have two children under age five. I work full time.
I two the children in our home on Mondays and Wednesdays.
My husband's job has him traveling eighty percent at the time,
(04:47):
so that leaves me with the children a lot. Lord Jesus,
I'm stressed. First things we're gonna do is them other
damn kids that's coming home on Monday and Wednesday. They're
asking to be stupid. I'm not, and to help them
learn the damn thing. Tutoring is over. You can get
half to stretch out your life trying to help these
other people, dumb ass little kids. That ain't your business.
(05:10):
If tutoring kids are stressing you out, stop tutoring everybody
else's kid. Raise your own ignorant children. That is a
hard job raising your own ignorant children. Why do you
have these extra damn kids come in your house on
Monday and Wednesday and you that by yourself can't get
no help. That's why I was going with this letter.
(05:32):
That's where you were going. That Bill's character. It did
it for me, really get an get a D, learned
how to recover. That's what's wrong with these punk ass kids. Now.
You don't let these kids have to recover from nothing
getting them tutors and teaching them how to be good.
Let them learn how to fail a couple of times,
cover as straighten your ass out, get you somewhere. You
(05:54):
make it two damn easy. You're tired of getting the
D that Dean is a pass. It means you're doing partly. Parly.
You was failing, Now you're doing partly. That's progress. Let
the ass learn progress. That's what I wanted this letter
to be about. However, stop getting your kids help at school.
(06:17):
So what I set up here. One of my grandkids
got u diagnosed Dick's LEXI let him read it again,
relate if you see, let us backwards read it till
you see it right. That ain't no word respell it repect.
(06:39):
So we'll have part two of Steve's what he calls
his real response coming up in twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subjects once stressed out mama.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
to show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry letter. The subject one stressed out mama. All right,
(07:01):
So if you were here from my last response, or
just gonna go real quicker, because that ain't what it's about.
Lady been married six years, got two kids under fire,
she worked full time and she tore the kids in
their home. That's why she stressed out. In the husband
gold Ladi cent the time I said, you can kill
half to stress by stopped letting them ignorant as kids
in your household money when sins that ain't your words,
stop helping other people's kids. It's hard enough raising your kids.
(07:24):
Their kids just feitna be stupid. It's all the small
I'm saying is you're finn to come down here. I'm
nothing to tu to you through a damn thing. Else
and D's is good at Bill's character, and people look
at me. I know, I was a child who suffered
a lot with this D's and else, I failed a lot,
and I became poorly. When I gotta see, I gotta bike.
I'm telling you my daddy took me through the process.
(07:46):
I gotta see. I got a bike that taught me
to work yourself through some problems. I never once had
a two to win, never went to counseling. This stuff
I got ass whippers was my counseling. Now that we've
got that out the way, here's a real problem. A
co worker suggested that to deal with the stress, she
(08:08):
gets some sensual massages to help her relax and stay center.
So she tried it, and I don't know how she
thought it was a good idea to have a man
as a massus. I keep telling women that ain't what
we do. If we the mussus and you find we're
gonna want something, it's just automatic. If your mussus is
massage and you and you find he gonna won't chill.
(08:30):
So she invites him over to the house. They sat
and talked. He was engaging, He seemed interested in stuff
that stressed me out. Then he told me to take
deep breaths and close my eyes. He undressed me and
guided me to the massage table and laid me back.
What you know much? I don't have put into this
right here and not being a mussus, but check this out.
(08:55):
When I opened my eyes, he had taking his clothes
off too. Let me tell you something that's skilled right there.
Let me tell you something that's hard to do. That's
hard to undress her and you and she don't know
you are undressing that boy got skilled? I say this
first time. I got how you got her clothes off.
She take a deep breath with eyesha, But how you
got yours off too? Boy? You was at work. Congratulations,
(09:16):
dog slick moved A's be a cold tape you could release.
How didn't dress two people and don't nobody know it.
Oh he was anyway, and he started to massage every
inch of my body. So I know what happened. That
That means there was a lot of thumb work involved
with this massage, a lot of loose thumbs. That's our specialty.
Will were giving massages, loose thumbs, thumb work. I'm telling
(09:42):
you it's affecting thumb work. Anyway, This is what happened.
It was sensual and satisfying. And after he finished, I
see said I could pay cash and cash out. Now
in her mind, she don't give a damn how you
want it? I do a bank wire at this point,
because you just did something to me that was so special.
How you want this money? I rob a bank. I
(10:03):
can hold up. It's under my mattress. It could have
got this money anyway. I booked an appointment for the
next day, and the day after that. End of the
day after that. Wow, we eventually started having the best
sex in my living room on his massage table. Oh
he came in the door knowing what this was. It
wasn't even about the massage. It's no more now his
(10:28):
word let her get tricky. My marriage has improved since
I started seeing him regularly. But ladies stopped. Did you
say my marriage has improved since I started seeing him regularly?
Your marriage and improved? You just don't give a damn
no more. Listen to me. Your marriage has not improved.
(10:50):
You just don't give a damn no more. I'll tell
you what this high know, the high effective these massages
is you booked him the next day, the next day,
in the next day, so I guess some kids coming over.
That's out. They don't come over no more, Tutor, no more.
That's what I thought, because now you're here getting your ass.
(11:12):
Just massage to death every square and chill you and
you're paid forward. Jigger loops up. You saw the special
on HBO. Pimps up? Yeah, you down? You saw the special.
Huh what we're talking about? Pay for it if you wanted.
(11:34):
Prostitution is the oldest profession in the beginning. Now you
got him over here, so good. You're telling this man
you ain't gonna be able to keep this up. If
your husband look at your account. I've asked him for
a discount and he said, you wan't stressed out, mama.
He gotta give you the full package. He's time. How
you gonna get a discount from me. And while I'm
(11:54):
in here providing all this stress free information, you ain't
stressed out no more. You ain't a who to no more.
You ain't you ain't married, no mo I less you
forget everything that's full price. I don't give discounts. I've
got Brad dragged this table out of the trunk of
my car. Not heavy. The table is. I live an apartment.
I gotta pull it down these steps loaded in the car,
(12:17):
get out here to come up in here. Set this
table up in your house. Close all these curtains in
here and stuff step over, hide all these tors and
stuffed These kids got out here because both your kids
is on the fire. I gotta put kids in the
torch up because I gotta get necking there. I can't
be stepping on these legos and all this hill, and
I'm getting here doing too much work. I can't give
you no damn discount. Then I got to climb up
(12:40):
on this table and everything all on you and all
like this hill. Huh. Then you don't want to do right.
Sometime I gotta talk to you in the stuff. I
don't handle discount for you a lot, And I don't
have no advice for this letter in this later I
told you in the beginning just stop having them damn kids,
(13:03):
but you didn't replace them kids with a grown ass mate.
Coming up next Junior in sports Talk. At forty six
minutes after. Right after this, you're listening to this Dave
Harvey Morning Show
With all of the festivities around the corner, we teamed
up with our friends at Goal Series from Pantine to
help you create a new you for the holidays. We've
got your chance to win one thousand and five hundred
dollars to cover a new hairdo plus clothes plus a
haircare gift basket from Goal Series from Pantine. Enter and
(00:21):
get rules at Steve HARVEYFM dot com. No matter how
you work your hair, Goal Series works hard while you
work Wonders works better because it's made better. Get all
the info at Steve HARVEYFM dot com. All right, and
it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If you
need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more,
(00:44):
please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey FM and
click Submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading yours right now.
You never know that one could be yours. M All right,
buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is the strong very letter. All right,
Subject one stressed out Mamma. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been
(01:05):
married for six years and I have two children under
age five. I work full time and I tutor children
in our home. On Mondays and Wednesdays. My husband's job
has him traveling eighty percent of the time, so that
leaves me with the children a lot. Thanks Heavens, I
have relatives close by that can help me with my children.
(01:26):
In August, my husband was out of town for a
week and I was stressed out with being a mom
and a businesswoman. My co workers suggested I get a
sensual massage to help me relax and stay centered. I
decided to try it, and the massu said he would
come to my home. We sat and talked, and he
was engaging and seemed interested in stuff that stresses me out.
(01:49):
Then he told me to take deep breaths and close
my eyes, and he undressed me and guided me to
the massage table and laid me back. When I opened
my eyes, he had taken his clothes off too, and
he was staring into my eyes, right through my soul.
He started massaging every inch of my body and it
(02:10):
was sensual and satisfying. After he finished, he said I
could pay in cash or cash app I booked an
appointment for the next day, and the day after that,
and the day after that. We eventually started having the
best sex in my living room on his massage table.
My marriage has improved since I started seeing him regularly,
(02:32):
but he's expensive and soon I won't be able to
justify it. If my husband looks at our account, I've
asked him for a discount and he says, I'm one
stressed out mama and he has to give me the
full package each time. Do I keep seeing this man
for stress management or should I go see a real therapist? Well,
you know what I think you do know the answer
(02:55):
to that. But in case you need a little help,
will help you out here because this is a lot
and you know this is wrong what you're doing. You
do realize that you're having a whole affair in the
living room of your house that you share with your husband. Okay,
I know he's out of town a lot, but he
does come home at some point. And I don't care
(03:16):
what you call it. I don't care if you call
it a sensual massage entanglement, whatever you call it. You
are having sex with a man that is not your
husband in your house. Okay. You can't justify this. This
is cheating. We all get stressed out from time to time,
but we don't fix it by possibly ruining our marriages
and relationships with a sensual massage having sex in our
(03:39):
living rooms. And I'll come on, Steve and I, we're
not condoning this. We're not condoning your actions. You've put
You've put yourself and your little massus in harm's way
by doing this. The crazy part is you're paying him
and he won't even give you a discount. This is crazy.
I say, stop this before your husband finds out and
(04:02):
kills you both when he opens that living room door.
You know, if you want to distress, take a yoga
class or a meditation class or something. Anyway gets this
man out of your house immediately. Steve one stressed out Mama.
Now when I read this letter. As I was reading it,
I want you all to know that I was going
(04:24):
somewhere else at first. So here's where I went. Dear
Shelly and Steve and Shirley. I've been married for six years.
I have two children under age five. I work full time.
I two the children in our home on Mondays and Wednesdays.
My husband's job has him traveling eighty percent at the time,
(04:47):
so that leaves me with the children a lot. Lord Jesus,
I'm stressed. First things we're gonna do is them other
damn kids that's coming home on Monday and Wednesday. They're
asking to be stupid. I'm not, and to help them
learn the damn thing. Tutoring is over. You can get
half to stretch out your life trying to help these
other people, dumb ass little kids. That ain't your business.
(05:10):
If tutoring kids are stressing you out, stop tutoring everybody
else's kid. Raise your own ignorant children. That is a
hard job raising your own ignorant children. Why do you
have these extra damn kids come in your house on
Monday and Wednesday and you that by yourself can't get
no help. That's why I was going with this letter.
(05:32):
That's where you were going. That Bill's character. It did
it for me, really get an get a D, learned
how to recover. That's what's wrong with these punk ass kids. Now.
You don't let these kids have to recover from nothing
getting them tutors and teaching them how to be good.
Let them learn how to fail a couple of times,
cover as straighten your ass out, get you somewhere. You
(05:54):
make it two damn easy. You're tired of getting the
D that Dean is a pass. It means you're doing partly. Parly.
You was failing, Now you're doing partly. That's progress. Let
the ass learn progress. That's what I wanted this letter
to be about. However, stop getting your kids help at school.
(06:17):
So what I set up here. One of my grandkids
got u diagnosed Dick's LEXI let him read it again,
relate if you see, let us backwards read it till
you see it right. That ain't no word respell it repect.
(06:39):
So we'll have part two of Steve's what he calls
his real response coming up in twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subjects once stressed out mama.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
to show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry letter. The subject one stressed out mama. All right,
(07:01):
So if you were here from my last response, or
just gonna go real quicker, because that ain't what it's about.
Lady been married six years, got two kids under fire,
she worked full time and she tore the kids in
their home. That's why she stressed out. In the husband
gold Ladi cent the time I said, you can kill
half to stress by stopped letting them ignorant as kids
in your household money when sins that ain't your words,
stop helping other people's kids. It's hard enough raising your kids.
(07:24):
Their kids just feitna be stupid. It's all the small
I'm saying is you're finn to come down here. I'm
nothing to tu to you through a damn thing. Else
and D's is good at Bill's character, and people look
at me. I know, I was a child who suffered
a lot with this D's and else, I failed a lot,
and I became poorly. When I gotta see, I gotta bike.
I'm telling you my daddy took me through the process.
(07:46):
I gotta see. I got a bike that taught me
to work yourself through some problems. I never once had
a two to win, never went to counseling. This stuff
I got ass whippers was my counseling. Now that we've
got that out the way, here's a real problem. A
co worker suggested that to deal with the stress, she
(08:08):
gets some sensual massages to help her relax and stay center.
So she tried it, and I don't know how she
thought it was a good idea to have a man
as a massus. I keep telling women that ain't what
we do. If we the mussus and you find we're
gonna want something, it's just automatic. If your mussus is
massage and you and you find he gonna won't chill.
(08:30):
So she invites him over to the house. They sat
and talked. He was engaging, He seemed interested in stuff
that stressed me out. Then he told me to take
deep breaths and close my eyes. He undressed me and
guided me to the massage table and laid me back.
What you know much? I don't have put into this
right here and not being a mussus, but check this out.
(08:55):
When I opened my eyes, he had taking his clothes
off too. Let me tell you something that's skilled right there.
Let me tell you something that's hard to do. That's
hard to undress her and you and she don't know
you are undressing that boy got skilled? I say this
first time. I got how you got her clothes off.
She take a deep breath with eyesha, But how you
got yours off too? Boy? You was at work. Congratulations,
(09:16):
dog slick moved A's be a cold tape you could release.
How didn't dress two people and don't nobody know it.
Oh he was anyway, and he started to massage every
inch of my body. So I know what happened. That
That means there was a lot of thumb work involved
with this massage, a lot of loose thumbs. That's our specialty.
Will were giving massages, loose thumbs, thumb work. I'm telling
(09:42):
you it's affecting thumb work. Anyway, This is what happened.
It was sensual and satisfying. And after he finished, I
see said I could pay cash and cash out. Now
in her mind, she don't give a damn how you
want it? I do a bank wire at this point,
because you just did something to me that was so special.
How you want this money? I rob a bank. I
(10:03):
can hold up. It's under my mattress. It could have
got this money anyway. I booked an appointment for the
next day, and the day after that. End of the
day after that. Wow, we eventually started having the best
sex in my living room on his massage table. Oh
he came in the door knowing what this was. It
wasn't even about the massage. It's no more now his
(10:28):
word let her get tricky. My marriage has improved since
I started seeing him regularly. But ladies stopped. Did you
say my marriage has improved since I started seeing him regularly?
Your marriage and improved? You just don't give a damn
no more. Listen to me. Your marriage has not improved.
(10:50):
You just don't give a damn no more. I'll tell
you what this high know, the high effective these massages
is you booked him the next day, the next day,
in the next day, so I guess some kids coming over.
That's out. They don't come over no more, Tutor, no more.
That's what I thought, because now you're here getting your ass.
(11:12):
Just massage to death every square and chill you and
you're paid forward. Jigger loops up. You saw the special
on HBO. Pimps up? Yeah, you down? You saw the special.
Huh what we're talking about? Pay for it if you wanted.
(11:34):
Prostitution is the oldest profession in the beginning. Now you
got him over here, so good. You're telling this man
you ain't gonna be able to keep this up. If
your husband look at your account. I've asked him for
a discount and he said, you wan't stressed out, mama.
He gotta give you the full package. He's time. How
you gonna get a discount from me. And while I'm
(11:54):
in here providing all this stress free information, you ain't
stressed out no more. You ain't a who to no more.
You ain't you ain't married, no mo I less you
forget everything that's full price. I don't give discounts. I've
got Brad dragged this table out of the trunk of
my car. Not heavy. The table is. I live an apartment.
I gotta pull it down these steps loaded in the car,
(12:17):
get out here to come up in here. Set this
table up in your house. Close all these curtains in
here and stuff step over, hide all these tors and
stuffed These kids got out here because both your kids
is on the fire. I gotta put kids in the
torch up because I gotta get necking there. I can't
be stepping on these legos and all this hill, and
I'm getting here doing too much work. I can't give
you no damn discount. Then I got to climb up
(12:40):
on this table and everything all on you and all
like this hill. Huh. Then you don't want to do right.
Sometime I gotta talk to you in the stuff. I
don't handle discount for you a lot, And I don't
have no advice for this letter in this later I
told you in the beginning just stop having them damn kids,
(13:03):
but you didn't replace them kids with a grown ass mate.
Coming up next Junior in sports Talk. At forty six
minutes after. Right after this, you're listening to this Dave
Harvey Morning Show
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