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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please, baby,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey sm and
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read this one right here, right now, and you never know,

(00:20):
it could be yours.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
It could be Buckle up, hold on tight, we got it.
Fool you.

Speaker 3 (00:26):
Here it is Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 1 (00:29):
Thank you, nephew, I mean, thank you, Thomas Miles. That's
right this week here, Thomas Miles. All right, subject, please
leave me alone in the morning. Please all right. Dear
Stephen Shirley, I'm fifty years old and I've been in
an open relationship with my man for almost twenty years.
Instead of cheating on one another, we do what we

(00:51):
do and keep it one hundred at all times. It
works for us, so people can judge us all they
want to. I get so tired of my man times,
and I'm glad I can go and release my tension elsewhere.
It's not always about sex either. I have a soul
tie with another man and he's just as special as
my live in partner. I have to keep him satisfied

(01:13):
and nurture that relationship, and it's wearing me. Then I
work from home and my live in wakes up at
four point thirty in the morning to start his day.
He's a morning person, meaning he's a type to want
sex when he rolls over every morning. That used to
not be a problem until I started dealing with my
other man more regularly. He also likes sex in the morning,

(01:35):
and when I meet him a few days a week
for breakfast, I sometimes have to forego the sex because
I've already been thoroughly pleased for the day. It has
gotten to the point where I have to ask both
of the men if they.

Speaker 3 (01:47):
Could please leave me alone in the morning.

Speaker 1 (01:51):
It's like the older they got, the more they want sex,
and I'm just the opposite. I enjoy the connections with
them over the sex. I know my live in has
a great woman that he spends the night with sometimes,
so that takes a pressure off of me. But the
other man in my life is only having sex with
me and only me. He is hopeful that I will

(02:11):
come to my senses and be his wife one day soon,
But I'm cool with the arrangement.

Speaker 3 (02:17):
All I need is more peaceful mournings.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
How do I create balance for both relationships without slighting
one of them?

Speaker 3 (02:24):
Please advise?

Speaker 1 (02:26):
Oh okay, this is what you're signed up for, right,
I mean an open relationship.

Speaker 3 (02:32):
This is what you do in open relationships.

Speaker 1 (02:34):
You set out of your own mouth that this works
for you. You've been doing this for twenty years. Twenty years,
that's a very very long time. Who wouldn't be tired. Okay,
here's the thing about life, though, it is ever changing.
You are fifty now, you are changing. You're slowing down
a little bit. Things change, Circumstances change, feelings change. The

(02:57):
only thing that doesn't change are the facts. And the
facts are that you are in an open relationship and
pretty much anything and everything goes in these types of situations.

Speaker 3 (03:07):
You know that.

Speaker 1 (03:08):
But remember you said this works for you. Guess what, No,
it doesn't not anymore. I mean, you can't keep up
with you can't keep up with this unrealistic pace. You
have changed. I told you that it's way too much
for you now. And because you're in an open relationship,

(03:28):
that quote works for you.

Speaker 3 (03:30):
You said it.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
You are allowing, You're allowed to bring other people in.
So you're sleeping with another man now who's wearing you out?
You're getting worn out. You said they just won't leave
you alone in the morning, So for all we know,
you guys are like doing it right now.

Speaker 3 (03:46):
I mean, this is a morning show. I don't even
want to think about that.

Speaker 1 (03:49):
But but really it's always going on in the morning,
so you know, but you know, but you said it
works for you. I say, stop all of this. You
can do that. It's for a change. How much longer
are you gonna put yourself through this? Surely not another
twenty years. I say it's time for you to close
this open relationship.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
Steeve, you better talk serly now.

Speaker 4 (04:14):
You told some truth today, man, I wish I had
thought of that line. You came on. You better tell
the truth. You said it worked for you. No it ain't, No,
it ain't. This ain't working for you. The whole damn letter,
stupid let me opened by just saying this, I don't
care about the letter. I don't care about you, and

(04:36):
I don't care about none of this. Foolish This ain't
this is working. This ain't working for nobody but them.
Stupid foolishness, your old ass. Let me tell you something.
Fifty is old for this foolishness here now, I'm me
tell you that right now. You pulling this at fifty

(04:56):
and been doing it for twenty years, it's old.

Speaker 2 (05:01):
You old, and it thene got old.

Speaker 4 (05:04):
That's an age limit for all this ignorant mess you
doing so stupid behind. I can't stand people like this,
and then gone right in on the National show like
we got some help for you. We ain't doing this. Well,
know what to tell you? Everybody in no damn open relationship,
you're in a situation.

Speaker 2 (05:24):
That ain't no relationship.

Speaker 4 (05:27):
Relationships is when you have relations with people and you
can relate to them. You relating to everybody so stupid
behind and you set up in here and you got
this man that y'all stay with, and you get tired
of him sometime. Okay, there you go. I thought it
was working for you, and I can go over release
my tension elsewhere else. Well, now it ain't always about sex.
Well what are you over that release?

Speaker 2 (05:49):
Huh?

Speaker 4 (05:50):
When you go to release your tension and it ain't
about sex, tell me what it is.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
But y'all over there playing dominoes what.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
You was wrong?

Speaker 4 (06:01):
And then you say I have a soul tie with
another man, and he's just as special as my living
in partner.

Speaker 2 (06:07):
What soul tied? Y'all having sex? This ain't no soul tie.

Speaker 4 (06:14):
It's the same thing you got as you live in.
All y'all see and who y'all want to see? And
now you tied? You know why cause you own you
old and woa out they your old tail.

Speaker 2 (06:31):
I have to say that it ain't even fresh tale
no more. You just wow.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
Out old tale of your response coming up, Steve at
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Speaker 3 (06:47):
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Speaker 1 (07:25):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

Speaker 3 (07:27):
The subject is please leave me alone in the morning.

Speaker 2 (07:32):
Recap this pigment ass letter.

Speaker 4 (07:35):
This old ass woman that wrote in she fifties, and
I'm not saying fifties old, but for this type of
thing right here, this hole.

Speaker 2 (07:43):
You too old for this.

Speaker 4 (07:45):
You should have tried this in your twenties, but oh no,
you've been doing it for twenty years.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
You just hold.

Speaker 4 (07:53):
Ragged ass letter. You can call in here with this
ragged ass story. Now you want me and Shelley to
help you, hear Steven Sherrell, leave our name off the
payment from now call us with this foolishness. We don't
know how to help you through this here. We ain't
in no relationship like that. I'm in a real relationship.
My relationship closed off. Seal got nails in the coffin,

(08:17):
worter up at the door. It's a tight can't get
nothing else in here. You're sitting up in here being
twenty years with the same man. Y'all do what y'all
want to do. He got somebody and then you sometimes
your man get on your nerves and you know you're
gonna talk about it so people can.

Speaker 2 (08:32):
Judge us all they want.

Speaker 4 (08:34):
Well, okay, well here comes some more judging, because he
wrote in now here comes some more damn judge.

Speaker 2 (08:43):
I get so tired of my man at time.

Speaker 4 (08:45):
Well okay, so I got glad I can go somewhere
and release my attention.

Speaker 2 (08:49):
So you gonna go somewhere in hair set. That's what
this here.

Speaker 4 (08:53):
It's not always about sex, yes it is. What else
is you doing over there to release? Where's you going
over that washed dishes?

Speaker 1 (09:03):
What?

Speaker 2 (09:04):
What is you out there taking out the garbage? How
you releasing? What you're washing his car for it?

Speaker 3 (09:10):
You just a lie card.

Speaker 4 (09:12):
You over there having sex with this man and then
sitting in there talking about I have a soul tie
with another man and he's just as special as my
living in partner. Now, Lord, have mercy, make up your
rabbit ass.

Speaker 2 (09:24):
Man.

Speaker 4 (09:26):
You gotta live in partner and a soul tie with
a man that's just as special as your live in partner.

Speaker 2 (09:33):
Hen you come sitting up in here.

Speaker 4 (09:34):
I got to keep him satisfied, to nurture that relationship,
and it's wearing me thin.

Speaker 2 (09:39):
No, theyin't thin out. Then wore your ass out.

Speaker 4 (09:42):
You ain't reped being no more, can't keep this up,
you fit it. I work from home and my live
in wakes up at four thirty in the morning start
his day here a morning person, and he got to
have that type of sex to wont when he roll
over every morning. Okay, And then that used to not
be a problem. Then you started dealing with your other

(10:02):
man on the regular. And he likes sex too in
the morning. And when I meet him a few days
a week for breakfast, I sometimes had to forego to
sex because he already been thoroughly pleased for the day.

Speaker 2 (10:15):
What what? What? So everywhere you go.

Speaker 4 (10:21):
Somebody trying to do you. You can't go no damn
well without somebody trying to do you.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
Man, that's a lot of damn pressure right there.

Speaker 4 (10:34):
If everywhere you go you woke up somebody, did you
gonna meet the other one for breakfast?

Speaker 2 (10:41):
He wanted to do you. Then you get back home
and lo and behold his ass is fuck in.

Speaker 3 (10:50):
For twenty years.

Speaker 2 (10:51):
Twenty years. It is the warhat old ass out.

Speaker 4 (10:55):
It's gotten to the point where I've had to ask
both of my men if they could please leave me
alone in the morning.

Speaker 2 (11:01):
Why don't you leave them alone? You're stupid? It ain't live.
They messing with you because they like using you, because
that's what you are. You the dumpster.

Speaker 4 (11:13):
You got two men dumping on you, and more than that,
because you've been doing it for twenty years. It's just
another one, this one you're telling us. So you've been,
You've been a girl. Please come on now, let me
finish you off. I know my living in has a
great woman that he spends the night with sometime, and
that takes the pressure off of what he got. A

(11:35):
great woman that he spends time and he spend the night.

Speaker 2 (11:44):
Over here.

Speaker 4 (11:46):
But the other man in my life is only having
sex with me and only me.

Speaker 2 (11:50):
You still you think, let me ask you something.

Speaker 4 (11:55):
You think he know you live with this man and
know you having sex with him, and you having sex
with him, but sometime at breakfast you have to forego
to sex. And you telling me, Steve Hardy that this
man is just having sex with you and only you.

Speaker 2 (12:11):
You dumb, just like the rest of this damn letter.
Is you dumb? Just like the rest of this damn letter?
You one stupid woman?

Speaker 4 (12:19):
And if you think this man is just having sex
with you, are you lost your mind? And you said
he has a high sex drive you coming over for
breakfast and you too tired because you got wore out.

Speaker 2 (12:33):
Girl. Bye.

Speaker 4 (12:36):
He is hopeful that I will come to my senses
and be his wife one day soon. Oh that's what
he told you. Wait, wait, that's what he told you.
Hold up, lady, you think that this man wants you
to come to your senses and be his wife?

Speaker 1 (12:52):
Girl?

Speaker 2 (12:54):
No, that's what he said.

Speaker 4 (12:56):
We have no advice for you doing what you're doing
and to you where let me tell you will not
come back. I'm gonna tell you one other thing about
this relationship. I just won't say one thing.

Speaker 3 (13:09):
Do you wanting?

Speaker 2 (13:11):
Okay?

Speaker 1 (13:11):
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Speaker 3 (13:16):
Check out the Strawberry.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
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(14:04):
before we get to your sports, see if you wanted
to add one more thing to the Strawberry letter.

Speaker 2 (14:08):
Please, I don't ask something to this.

Speaker 4 (14:09):
You know this PRIs Bowman that rode in on this
Strawberry letter that's got these two men she been dating,
and now she been in a twenty year open relationship
and now ball her men like to have sex in
the morning, so now they the woeha out. Now she
talking about she needs some advice. You fifty, you're too damn.

Speaker 2 (14:28):
Old for this. Nobody won't tell ohd you done?

Speaker 4 (14:30):
Woe?

Speaker 2 (14:31):
That old raggedy tail out? Now you sitt to been
trying to figure out how to conservative.

Speaker 4 (14:35):
And I'm gonna tell you something. As a little boy,
I had a raggedy tail. One time I had two
rat coon tails on my bike. They were stuck in
my handleballs and when I drove down the street. Then
raccoon tails flew in the wind. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (14:50):
I remember one time I got that rat coon tail.

Speaker 4 (14:53):
Caught in a card dough somehow, and I kept trying
to pull it out the door.

Speaker 2 (14:57):
I was just tearing the hard, tearing the he for
that tail.

Speaker 4 (15:01):
I was just wearing that tail out, and then it
started raining outside. By the time I got that old
ragged ass tail out that card though, it had half
defer on it as the other one, and I had
rained on it, and then that little bit of hair
got magic down. I pull up at the house with

(15:21):
my bike, my mama on the back porch and looked
down to me and say, Stevie, where you get that
little raggedy tail from? Now you probably said, Steve, what
they got to do with this story? Well, let's fire
the old woman that got caught in the card dough,
then snatched all the half her tail, then.

Speaker 2 (15:42):
Roll it out in and got rained on.

Speaker 4 (15:45):
And now little Stevie looking at hair, trying to figure
out where you want us to tell you about that
little raggedy tail you got you exhausted, then wow yourself
out and I throwing a thank God for that analogy
from me riding my bike with that one little raggedy
tail on raising hot tail raggedy, don't let your tail

(16:09):
get ragged, don't let your tail get caught in the
card though.

Speaker 2 (16:13):
Yes, girl, don't let your tail get rained. Thought. Yeah,
like a good raggedy.

Speaker 4 (16:19):
Tail story, man, And the last thing you want to
do is put a raggedy tail hanging out your hand.

Speaker 2 (16:30):
It didn't look nothing like the other tails. Lord, hair raggedy.

Speaker 4 (16:36):
What a beautiful moment, Junior. I'm side about Lord, I'm talking.

Speaker 2 (16:42):
I love it, man.

Speaker 4 (16:44):
But it was kind of it was a little sport too,
because I was talking about bike riding, so that was
not sports for the day.

Speaker 2 (16:50):
Was cycling. Now, yeah, then you're.

Speaker 4 (16:53):
Gonna tell me cycling, thank you, Yes, cycling that not
get a tail hanging up.

Speaker 3 (17:01):
To man coming up at the top of the uptail.

Speaker 2 (17:05):
Look record were fifty years old.

Speaker 1 (17:08):
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