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Speaker 1 (00:27):
You, thank you? Subject? Should I tell her that we're
sharing him? Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for thirteen years,
and for the past two years, my husband and I
haven't had sex. I assume that he found someone else
to put up with his sloppy love making. I found
someone else too. My side dude is younger and he's
newly single and said he wasn't looking for anything serious.
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He is on a dating site, but he said he
never goes on dates when he matches up with ladies
on the site. I usually work long days, so when
I meet up with him with my side dude, my
husband doesn't suspect anything. It started as just sex, but
now he's starting to open up and talk about his
goals and his future. I told him he should consider
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meeting someone on the dating app, just to see where
it goes. In the meantime, I play matchmaker for my
single coworkers, and I love to give advice on all
of the drama they go through with men. One of
my twenty nine year old coworkers asked if we could
go to lunch because she's having a hard time figuring
out the man she just met. At lunch, she told
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me all about her new man and how he's a
great lover and cook. She said they met on a
dating site and they've been dating for three months. She
said he's talking about marriage already, but she thinks he's
having sex with someone else because she can tell another
lady has been in his house sometimes. I knew right
off that she was talking about my side dude when
(01:55):
she called him by his nickname. I want to tell
her that he's not seen curious about her, because I
believe in giving straightforward advice. I'm thinking about telling him
that I work with his little girlfriend and see how
he reacts. He's lying to us, but I'm married, so
I don't care. Should I tell the girl what's up. Okay,
(02:18):
you don't really like this. You're not feeling this, whether
you admit it or not, and I can tell your shook.
So your husband is cheating on you, you assume, and
you say you don't care because you're cheating on your
husband with your side dude. But now your side dude
is cheating on you with your coworker. And this is
the same coworker to whom you give advice about relationship drama.
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Now you want to tell your side piece you don't
that you know about his relationship with your coworker, you say,
just to see how he'll react. Okay, So what is
that going to prove? If you tell him I think
you caught feelings for this guy, I really do, and
you want to see where you stand with him. Now
you know what your position is right now. But I
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do want to go back to your marriage for a second,
because you've been married for thirteen years.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
You say, but you.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Haven't had sex in the last two years. You didn't
tell Steve and I why you know if anything happened
to make you guys stop having sex. The only clue
you gave us was that his love making is sloppy.
Well that was just a dig at your husband. You
still didn't give us a reason. So either you can
stay with your side piece who's also seeing your coworker,
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who's in your face every day with that constant reminder,
or you and your husband can try to see if
your marriage is worth saving after two years of no sex.
Those are your choices. All this stuff about telling him
to see how he'll react, I don't believe that. I
believe you really have feelings for this guy, and now
that he's seeing someone else and talking about marriage, you
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have a problem, Steve with him.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I don't like the letter.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
I don't like the lady in this letter because it's
everybody else's fault. Everybody's to blame here. She garners, no
blame in this whole letter. I've been married for thirteen years.
For the past two years, my husband and I haven't
had sex. Sureley said, you didn't tell us why, So
I'm assuming something has happened. I assumed now here we go,
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I assume he found someone else to put up with
his sloppy love making. I found somebody else too. That's
what this letter is really about, because it ain't about
your husband. Cheating because you don't know that your husband
could have ed and he just out of commission. A
lot of men suffer with that and don't know how
to bring up the subject and stuff, and they're embarrassed
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and all like it, so they just rather not even
deal with it. So now, but you, on the other hand,
don't know that about your husband, that there's something medically wrong.
You didn't share that with us. All you didn't share
is about did you all have a falling out of
some kind? Nothing like that. So all you said was
I found somebody else too. No this letter you should
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have just wrote, so I found on me somebody because you.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Don't know what he's doing.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
My side dude is younger, newly single, said he wasn't
looking for nothing serious. Now he's on the dating site
and now he matches up with ladies on the site.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I usually work long days, so.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
When I meet up with my side dude, my husband
don't suspect anything. Okay, So you creeping right, it started
just as sex. Here's a clue. It started just as sex, okay,
which means it has gone to something else. Why else
would you say it just started as sex?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Okay? But now he's starting to open up and tell
but no, no, no.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Uh uh see uh see, lady, you keep putting it
on somebody else.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
See, it started out just as sex.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Now he's opening up to talk about his goals and
his future.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Y'all screwing.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
So now y'all just talking what he ain't caught feelings
for you. He just telling you what he wants. And
then you told him, y'all to consider meet somebody on
the date. Now this is gonna come back to haunt
you and see where it goes. In the meantime, I
play matchmaker for all your single coworkers, love to give
advice on the drama. And then this twenty nine year
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old coworker you got said she having a hard time
figuring out this man she just met. She the woman
in the letter, did not say how long her and
this young boy been kicking it. She just says she
hides it from her husband, or she worked late so
her husband will never suspect. Now she'd have met this girl,
And this girl says she'd have met somebody, and she
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trying to figure him out.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
When we come.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Back, I'm gonna tell you the rest of it, because
it's all this lady in this letter is full of it.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Yeah, all right, Steve, thank you. We'll have part two
of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
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that we're sharing him? We'll get back into it right
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All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject, should I tell her that we're sharing him?
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Well, this lady been married thirteen years. Her and her
husband ain't had sex for two years. She won't tell us.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Why, but she said she assumed he's.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Found somebody else to put up with his sloppy love making.
She assumed that. She didn't say her husband was cheating
on her. She didn't say her husband had a medical condition.
She ain't say none of that. She just said, I
assumed he'd found somebody to get that sloppy love make too, and.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Where I have to.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
And she's dating a young dude that's newly single. He
twenty nine. He out kicking it with him, and now
she says she just did it. In the beginning, it
started out as sex and so then then later on
he started telling her about his goals and what he
wants for the future. Well, lady, it's still just sex
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for him. Just because he told you what he won't,
that don't mean he done call feeling so you can
stop that. Is you the one that didn't turn into something?
And I'll show you that in a minute. I told
him he ought to consider meeting somebody on the date now, well,
just to see where it goes. In the meantime, I
play matchmaking for you co workers at work. And then
(08:46):
one of your twenty nine year old co worker said,
could she go to lunch because she's having a hard
time figuring out a man she just met.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
And lunch she told me all about a new man.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
He's a great love and cook says, if you met
him on the dating site and they've been dating three months,
she said, he's talking about marriage already, but she thinks
he's having sex with someone else because she could tell
another lady been in the house sometimes. I knew right
off that she was talking about my side dude. And
you know why, because she'dnet been over the boy's house.
(09:16):
That's what they mean. She done left stuff over there
because that's what they do. And I knew right off
she told because she called him by his nickname. Now
I want to tell her that he's not serious about
her because I believe in giving straight forward advice.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
That's a lie. That's a lie.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
You don't want to tell her because you believe in
giving straight forward advice.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
You want to throw it in her face.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
That is you, and that she done cross the line
messing with your new dude, cause you the one to
start catching field. See, And I'm thinking about telling him
that I work with his little girlfriend, and see how
I react. He's lying to us, but I'm married. No, no, no,
(10:08):
he ain't lying to you. You told him. Go on
the Dayton site. Start Dayton. The boy went on the
Dayton site. You didn't know he was gonna go with
the twenty nine year old at your job. I want
to tell him that I work with his little girlfriend
and see how he reacts.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
What's that?
Speaker 3 (10:26):
That's a little snippy remark right there? His little girlfriend.
He's lying to us, but I'm married. He's not lying
to you. He told you he was newly single. What
you think new single twenty nine year old dudes do?
And why is he single? So I don't care?
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Yes, you do. Should I tell the girl what's up?
Speaker 3 (10:50):
No, you shouldn't, because then you're gonna have to implement
yourself and suppose that girl feels a little bit vindictive
like you do, and decide, Okay, since we breaking up, people,
let me go tell your husband what I just found.
See you on a slippery slope, lady, because you are
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cheating on your husband openly, he just don't know it.
And then, oh way, I wish I could find that
line whereas uh, she said she's talking to my man.
She said she met him on the day. Beside that
didn't didn't wasn't of the partner the letter where she
said he ought to tell her something.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
I want to I want to tell her that he's
not serious about her, because I believe in giving straightforward advice.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Hell, okay, since you given advice, you ain't told your
husband you were seeing nobody.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Where? Whoa you know? Since you all this straight forward advice,
you so upfront.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
And righteous, go in there and tell your husband what
you're doing. See that, old I believe in giving straight
for advice.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Girl.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Bye, that ain't what you doing this far? Because you
jealous that this twenty nine year old is now playing you? Right,
because you playing your husband? Now you getting played? Now
you want to tear the house down? Should I tell her?
Should I tell him I've been I'm friends with his
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little girlfriend?
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Yeah? No, lady, no married?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
So I don't care?
Speaker 2 (12:31):
You do care? Ooh you care? The whole letter is
cause you can't you really really care.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
See, let me tell you something, Let me get let
me shriek this down to try to get around my cake.
The title of this letter is, should I tell her
that we're sharing him?
Speaker 2 (12:49):
What if you don't care? What you got to tell
it for?
Speaker 3 (12:53):
See, lady, you you don't really you don't really mean nothing.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
You say, you're a cheater, you're a liar.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
You you don't like you want to wreck his wreck
this little girl's relationship. You want to work his relationship
with the girl after you told him to go. Get
on the dating site so you can see where things happen.
He ain't got no future with you. He don't won't
you because you're too old. He don't won't and he
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don't won't you?
Speaker 2 (13:31):
All right?
Speaker 1 (13:33):
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