Take Your Time Young Man

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject take your time, young man. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty two year old single woman
and I was in a ten year relationship with my
and my man broke up with me and then he
married someone else six months later. I was devastated and
I became a serial dater. Then I met a younger
man and decided to settle down. He's thirty, but mature

(00:49):
for his age. The only problem that I have is
that he tries to take the lead in our relationship
and I try not to flex on him, but I
always have to show him whose boss. He is also
inferior to me in the bedroom, and it's hard for
me to coach him without him getting offended. He needs
to slow down and pay attention to what he's doing.

(01:12):
When I told him that he needs to slow down,
he told me that I need to concentrate. That won't
even matter because the whole ordeal doesn't last long. He
got mad at me the other night because I left
out of the bedroom after we had sex, and I
slept on the couch and finished the job myself. The
next morning, he facetimed his dad and I heard his

(01:33):
dad tell him, take your time, young man. I was
outraged that he would tell his dad about our sex life.
So now we're both offended, and it's his fault because
he doesn't know how to go nice and slow.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
How could he possibly.

Speaker 1 (01:46):
Get mad when I give him constructive criticism. I cannot
waste time on another man that doesn't listen. What should
I do? Everyone doesn't like constructive criticism, ma'am, and no
one likes it during sex, no one. Okay, that is
not the time to point out someone's mistakes or whatever.

(02:09):
All right, I don't even understand why you're with this guy.
You don't even like him. According to you, he doesn't
do anything right. He doesn't do anything right, nothing, from
his ability to lead all the way down to his
love making you have a problem. You say he's mature
for his age, but then you say you always have
to show him whose boss? And what does that mean anyway?

(02:32):
I mean you say you have to coach him in
the bedroom. He needs to slow down, it doesn't last
long enough, and on and on. You have nothing but
complaints about this young man who's twelve years younger than you. Yeah, yeah,
discussing his sex life with his dad. Maybe a little weird.
But his dad did tell him to take his time,

(02:53):
which is what you want the young man to do. Right,
you're mad about that? Make up your mind? What do
you want? What do you want? Ma'am?

Speaker 2 (03:03):
See, I don't have any advice for her.

Speaker 1 (03:06):
Just make up your mind.

Speaker 3 (03:07):
Well, I ain't got no advice, but I'm gonna tell
her the reason why her life going like this.

Speaker 2 (03:12):
If you farty two, if you're a party.

Speaker 3 (03:15):
Two year old single woman, you in a ten year relationship,
your man broke up with you and then married somebody
else six months later, I could assure you a good
part of that ten year relationship you.

Speaker 2 (03:31):
Was in he was in something else too.

Speaker 3 (03:35):
That's obvious because six months after y'all broke up, he
was married. Now I was devastated, and your response to
being devastated was.

Speaker 2 (03:46):
You became a serial day.

Speaker 3 (03:50):
You just dating everybody because you want somebody to prove
to you and show you that you are still desirable.
And so you just went out with everybody. And now
you met this younger man. Now you steal dating so hard,
you going twelve years under. I'm devastated. He's thirty and

(04:18):
you met this younger man.

Speaker 2 (04:19):
Hold on, saiton, baby.

Speaker 3 (04:23):
Loud, and you met this younger man, you decided to
settle down.

Speaker 2 (04:27):
He's thirty, but he's mature.

Speaker 3 (04:30):
For his age. That's what she's saying. Now keep that
in mind because this is important information. The only problem
that this is a big problem that I have is
he tries to take the.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
Reliad in our relationship. Why would he try to do that?

Speaker 3 (04:49):
And I try not to flex on him, but I
always got to show him who's the boss. So now
you're dating this little dude that you say is so
mature but you don't want hear.

Speaker 2 (05:00):
I'm leading, and you got to.

Speaker 3 (05:02):
Flex on him to show him who boss. Well that's interesting.
So now exactly how mature is he?

Speaker 2 (05:10):
Again?

Speaker 3 (05:11):
Because you said he's very mature, but you got to
flex on him, show him who boss. Maybe you don't
need to be a relationship. That could be it. I
don't know where you're going with this, but I'm thinking
that's more like it. Then here go to other problems.

(05:32):
He is also inferior to me in the bedroom.

Speaker 2 (05:37):
Now that's you forty two, the boy thirty.

Speaker 3 (05:43):
Well, you got twelve years on him. Now you don't
want nobody telling you nothing, so you flex on him
to show him who boss. But now let's talk about this.
We have way more experienced than him. Well we come back.

(06:04):
You might discover that you just way too much. You
thought about that. They may be just way too much,
you know, you know.

Speaker 1 (06:18):
All right, hang on, Steve, we'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the
hour of today's Strawberry letter. Subject take your time, young man.

Speaker 2 (06:29):
Right after this, you're listening.

Speaker 1 (06:32):
Hard morning show. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap
today's Strawberry letter. The subject is take your time, young man.

Speaker 3 (06:41):
Forty two year old lady was in a ten year
relationship with a man. They broke up. Six months after
they broke up, this man married somebody. She was devastated.
She became a serial data, meaning she wants to go
out and prove that she's still desired. She's dating a
whole lot of men. Finally she met this younger man
who's thirty, twelve years younger than um decided to settle down.

Speaker 2 (07:03):
He's thirty, but he's mature for his age.

Speaker 3 (07:06):
The only problem is she say, he tried to take
the lead in the relationship, and she tried not to
flex on him, but she always got to show him
who the boss. Well, now you done dated this boy
and now you want him to be beholden to you
and under you. But you just said he was mature

(07:27):
a minute ago, so when he tried to take the lead,
you got to flex on him and show him who
the ball. All right, cool, So you know what this
is already. I don't know why you're trying to turn
this into something that it ain't. With good luck, let's go. Now,
here's the other problem. He is inferior to me in
the bed. Well, you forty two, he thirty. You've obviously

(07:50):
been using your forty two years to the best of
your ability, and then so you've also been using your
forty two two years to experience, experiment, explore, and indulge
into things that this boy ain't seen yet. So here

(08:12):
is school right now. Every time y'all go to bed,
this class time. All right, kids, get your pencils, let's
get your notes out.

Speaker 2 (08:25):
It's time to go on in here. See what you
learned from yesterday?

Speaker 3 (08:29):
Right?

Speaker 1 (08:30):
What is that?

Speaker 3 (08:33):
And it's hard for me to coach here without him
getting offended.

Speaker 2 (08:38):
I'm gonna tell you right now. You probably wait till
the coach.

Speaker 3 (08:41):
You need to wait to the coach, and when it
ain't in the middle of it, you gotta hey, listen
tomorrow and we do this well. I really like when
you do this. If you could do more of that,
you might have to go in like this. When you
do going that wrong, stop, don't do that.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
Don't do that? What is that? Okay? Okay, so what
you think that's doing a right?

Speaker 3 (09:06):
Don't nobody want boy boy? Come on now, won't stop
all that hard breathing. You ain't got to do that.
You ain't doing nothing. You ain't doing nothing.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
And so.

Speaker 3 (09:19):
He don't like that. When I told him that he
needs to slow down, he told me, I need to concentrate.
You're going too fast. It's going too fast, and it's over.
He told you you need to concentrate your last needs
to put some focus on because it's taking you too
damn long. That don't even matter because the whole ordeal

(09:41):
don't even last that long. Well, you just said he
was mature. He thirty the other night because I left
out the bedroom after we had sex, and I slept
on the couch and finished the job myself. The next morning,
he FaceTime his dad and I heard his dad tell him,
take your time, young man. Now that's all you heard. See,

(10:03):
you just heard that, take your time, young man. I
was outraged, and he would tell his dad about our
sex life. Maybe he was just talking about how the
situation was going, and he was just saying, young man,
be a woman like this, just take your time, get
to know him better. You never know, but you assuming
they talk about sex because you're in charge yourself. So

(10:24):
we were both so now we're both offended. And it's
his fault because he don't know how to go nice
and slow. Well that's what he doing at thirty. He
ain't learned to take his time yet. But you have,
you know why, because you everything, you all of that,

(10:45):
You got all this know how in experience.

Speaker 2 (10:49):
Let me get to the end of this letter.

Speaker 3 (10:50):
How could it possibly get mad when I give him
constructive criticism because don't nobody.

Speaker 2 (10:55):
Like the way you're telling it.

Speaker 3 (10:58):
I cannot waste time on another man that doesn't listen.

Speaker 2 (11:01):
What should I do?

Speaker 3 (11:02):
Well, Boss lady, Yeah, big boss, big by yourself.

Speaker 2 (11:07):
Boss, the big b B. You buy yourself?

Speaker 3 (11:11):
Boss, You so busy, bossy, you don't want another man
that don't listen. Seem to me like you don't know nothing,
because everything you're telling everybody about how to coach you,
how to do better things and make.

Speaker 2 (11:23):
You feel good.

Speaker 3 (11:24):
See you, you need somebody to make you feel a
certain way, and you don't even know how to make
yourself feel a certain way. You're looking for happiness in
all the wrong places. Now you can find us a
thirty year old boy to replace your for the chier
old man who look at That's why you buy yourself
because you too much. You're bossy, You think you know everything.
You don't want nobody telling you nothing. That's why your
other man left you got married to the other woman.

(11:46):
You ever cross your mind like that with a dead mind,
And I'm glad you wrote it. So now let's get
this out The way right here, you too much bad
down all this experience you keep bringing in the bedroom
and everybody, everybody don't know all that right here and
here with all this crazy mess you want to hear

(12:07):
brand what a candle wax?

Speaker 2 (12:09):
Don't mind? Know what I don't do, candle Wax?

Speaker 3 (12:12):
What you asking me for about you?

Speaker 2 (12:18):
No?

Speaker 3 (12:18):
No, I don't want know candle wax. And I don't
want to be here now. I don't know how to
do that.

Speaker 1 (12:23):
But what is she telling them though?

Speaker 3 (12:26):
Hey, hey, hey, stop stop what you're doing. I can't
hold my breath that long.

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