October 11, 2022 • 12 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married to my best friend for a very long time. He and I do everything together since we retired this year. We have 2 daughters and we visit them often because our oldest daughter just had her first baby with her husband and our youngest is getting ready for her wedding next year. We can not stand this guy she’s marrying, but we’d never tell her..................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve FARFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
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right now. It could be yours. You never know, okay,
(00:21):
you never knew. Robert like asht buggle up, hold on tight,
We got it before you. Here it is straw very letter.
Thank enough you subject taking it to the street. Dear
Stephen Shirley, I've been married to my best friend for
a very long time. He and I do everything together
since we retired this year. We have two daughters and
we visit them often because our oldest daughter just had
(00:43):
her first baby with her husband, and her youngest is
getting ready for her wedding next year. We cannot stand
this guy she's marrying, but we'd never tell her. We've
laughed at our funny looking water head grandson, and we
make jokes about the knockkneed man our other daughter is
engaged to. It's what we do. We we like to
(01:04):
people watch and laugh for hours of silly stuff, no
matter where we are. It's never anything so bad that
it would offend anyone. And that's why when my daughter
said we offended her and she doesn't want us at
her wedding, I was shocked. My husband made a joke
about her husband and she didn't think it was funny.
Then he made a joke about her sister's big head baby.
My husband sat back on the sofa with his hot
(01:25):
tea and crossed his legs like he was happy with
himself for letting our child in on our jokes. My
daughter called her sister and told her everything are soon
to be. Son in law didn't like what was said
about him, so he challenged my husband to a race.
He told him that they could take it to the
streets so he could show him what his knock kneeds
can do. My husband will not back down from a challenge,
(01:47):
and I am afraid he's going to injure himself if
he races this crooked legged boy. All he talks about
is taking it to the street like it will be
the race of the year. He knows he cannot beat
our future son in law, so why is he letting
his ego take over? Is there any way for me
to keep my husband from racing this boy. Well, you
(02:08):
kind of already answered your question, your own question. The
husband and the fiance both have egos. That's not news though,
because most men have fragile egos, and when their egos
take over, it's like they stop thinking rationally and get
into some sort of beast mode or something. But you know,
and and they gotta do it, you know, they got
to prove themselves, all right. But but the worst part
(02:31):
about all this is that your husband knows he can't
talk about anyone's baby, even his grand baby. Uh No,
no matter how harmless you might think it is, you
gotta keep those jokes to yourselves. I mean, your your
daughters are really really sensitive right now. So keep those
jokes to yourselves like you've been doing. You keep those
within the coupledom that you guys have, the marriage all right, Um,
(02:55):
someone is bound to get hurt, and it seems like
your daughters have. Now your husband is in this. If
he's retired, I'm thinking he's pretty up there in age,
and your future son in law it's pretty in pretty
good shape, or else he wouldn't have challenged him. The
race is going to be a disaster. You know, this already.
This is a lose lose situation for both of them.
(03:15):
Your husband has nothing to prove, and kicking you out
of the wedding. It's very extreme for your daughter to do,
I think, especially since the father of the bride usually
paid for the wedding. Now, you didn't mention that in
the letter, so maybe that's not the case here, But
she did uninvite you. So I suggest you guys call
some sort of emergency family meeting with all parties, make
some sincere apologies to your daughters and their spouses. Tell
(03:38):
them you were just joking. Hopefully they'll accept and you
guys can clear the air and start over. Everyone is
just so sensitive these days, so sensitive, Tommy. This is
about to be one ragged ass race of all times.
So get readyful all right, Shirley's say, y'all need to
have an emergency meet No, you need to have an
emergency vehicle because it's about to be one raggedy race.
(04:01):
Get ready to happen. Okay, and the waterhead board don't
need to be seeing this. I'm just trying to tell
you it's about to be. Let me tell you something.
It's about to be one raggedy race, right, here, the
knock need man racing the old man. This is not good.
And I promise you neither one of my in shape
to run forty fifty or sixty yard. I promise you
(04:22):
this is gonna be a bus and a fallout in
the wedding. Probably not gonna happen if this race happened.
But what you need to do is shut this down
if you want your wed in the half, because if
this race happen, the wed not gonna happen, the knock
need man gonna be laying up in the hospital, and
the old man that's running gonna land up in the hospital.
Y'all gonna help an issue if this race takes place.
That's just from timmy because I hadn't seen it before.
(04:43):
Trust me, get your old answer down and talk about it.
You on them, you race coach Prime? Oh god, oh god, hey,
let me, let me, let me, let me gonna put
this out there. I bet you I can be prop
n I bet you I can be p right now?
What what? Okay? What? What's wrong? Called? I can't raise prime?
(05:07):
Both of y'all deficit. I just gotta through with cancel.
I can I can still raise prime? Did I did
beat that might of fact. Might of fact? I raised
Prime and Junior at the same dayntime. Okay, what's wrong?
(05:29):
I raised Prime in Junior right there in Jackson State.
I swear to Carthy you gonna lose right there. Prime
can beat you with eight toes. Yes, yes, oh you,
oh oh, you going with less toes than me. That's
what you do. I got I got all ten toes.
I got all ten toes. And you still going with Prame.
(05:50):
That's what you do. You there, We were there, y'all
going with Prime with eight toes instead of going with me.
That's what you do. It's hold on, yes, hold on,
we're gonna go Craig right here. Uh, I ain't knocking me.
I'm bullied. I ain't knocking me. So what are we
talking about? We're gonna get in Junior's response. Coming up
(06:12):
at twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry Letter
subject taking it to the street. We'll be back right
after this. You're listening to the Steve Morning Show. Come on,
we got to recap this Strawberry letter. Tommy threw us
for a loop with that one. I'm sorry talking about
hill Raith's Prime and beat him and junior together and
(06:34):
beat told me. Today's Strawberry letter subject taking It to
the Street, a woman wrote in She's married to her
best friend, her husband. They've been married a long time.
They do everything together. They're retired. They have two daughters.
Their oldest daughter just had her first baby, and her
(06:54):
youngest daughter is getting ready for her wedding next year. Now,
the oldest daughter and her husband have a baby that
seemingly has a big head, and they make jokes about it.
The dad does, and the other, the fiance, the daughter's Beyonce,
has knock knees. So um, so anyway, what this what
(07:16):
this couple does, That's what they do. They you know,
go out talk about people and make jokes and you know,
just have fun. It's what they do. But they keep
it closely knit. They don't tell anyone. But the husband
made a mistake. The grandfather slash husband made a mistake
and told his daughter that her fiance had knock knees
and that the other the sister's baby had a big
(07:39):
water head. So the daughter got yeah, daughter got on
the phone, called her sister. They're mad, um, kick the
parents out of the wedding. And then the knock Kneed.
Beyonce heard about it, so he challenged the husband to
a race. The wife who wrote the letter is upset
because she doesn't want her husband to race. She thinks
he's going to injure himself, he's gonna get hurt. And
(08:01):
she says, why is he letting his ego take over?
And it's there anyway for her to keep her husband
from racing the knock Neeed boy. So there we are, Junior, Hey, Junior,
before you start, n is he Kenny Smith? Knockkneed? How
knock need? Is he? Is? He? Is he Spike? Is
he Spike Lee Knockkneed? You know? I want to know? Yeah,
(08:22):
But like you, let me ask you something? Did my
mama right? Didn't let him? What? Right? Now? This sounds
like something my mom would do. I listen. I love
the MoMA and the daddy. I love fact they honest
they opened because they over there killing themselves about this
dude he knocked need for them to talk. I don't
(08:45):
suggest he raced the daddy because did fiance already losing
the trash talking game? He losing over there? What we're
gonna race for? We just keep talking about these knock kneeds?
And then they turned in on the grand baby. Yeah, boy,
can you god? This is my favorite family. I'm so glad.
(09:06):
This is a great wedding to be kicked out of.
They have trash talk their way out of a wedding. Perfect. Perfect.
They're sitting up there. I mean, if you think it's
at the grand baby, They're talking about everybody. They at
everybody's throat, don't care saying what they saying on their mind.
They said he drinking tea, crossed his leg and he's
(09:27):
talking trash at the same time. Yeah, yeah, yeah, looking
about grand baby. The head on this boy right here,
this boy here, this boy here, gon go into boxing.
He gonna win too, because the headstrong. Yeah. They throwing
jokes at everybody. My daughter marrying this knock kneed man.
She bow legged, he knocked neeeds. It looked like oh X.
(09:54):
They walking by each other side side, they owe X.
How can you be mad? At least they're telling the truth.
They ain't hide none. They're talking about everybody like his
own problem ninety three. They call her spiritual, spiritual because
(10:15):
she's about to go spiritual. Look at his ain't it overhead?
Just spiritual? They talked about his uncle. Oh just looking
at each other. He crossed out. They talk about him. So,
how you see the weather looking today? They talk about that.
They're going in on everybody. How you mad as somebody
(10:37):
who honest? But Junior, they said, they don't. They talk
about people, but they don't do it as to offend anyone.
It's not so bad, girl, just everybody in my fan.
What did he talking about? I've seen it happening men live.
I know. I know. It's like you grew up, Junior. Yeah,
because how I grew up that I can't respect them?
I have no problem. This is This is called leadership
(10:57):
in a fan. This is called leadership. Is the leadership
in a family. I got an uncle. I got a
uncle who ain't worked the thirty five years. They keep
putting job reports. O. My grandmother said, this boy that
missed every job. They didn't put out five hundred thousand
jobs after the kind he missed all five hundred. How
do you mean five thousand job? You're both job missing it?
(11:23):
How can you be mad? Yeah, that's your family, that's honesty.
How can you be mad? They're talking about everybody, they're
not If you talk about the grand baby and his
head big, how can you be made. Yeah, well, is
there a line with the family. The grand baby head big.
(11:46):
We're using him as a tool. He breaking down sheet rock.
We used the baby. The baby gonna break down sheet
rock for us. We got a demolition baby. Yeah, yeah,
put the back. We ain't got that baby and put
that head up against that sheet. It's they got kicked
out of the wedding, Junior. They went. They saved money.
(12:09):
I think they mad. They didn't say they were mad.
They didn't. I'm so glad people say it is because
they meant it. All right, Listen, we gotta get out
of here. Post your comments on Today Strawberry Letter and
Steve Harvey, fem and Instagram and Faithbook, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Tripping over there now
(12:29):
coming up in forty six minutes after the hour, we
got Junior with Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening
to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve FARFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live pop pop like we're gonna read this right here,
right now. It could be yours. You never know, okay,
(00:21):
you never knew. Robert like asht buggle up, hold on tight,
We got it before you. Here it is straw very letter.
Thank enough you subject taking it to the street. Dear
Stephen Shirley, I've been married to my best friend for
a very long time. He and I do everything together
since we retired this year. We have two daughters and
we visit them often because our oldest daughter just had
(00:43):
her first baby with her husband, and her youngest is
getting ready for her wedding next year. We cannot stand
this guy she's marrying, but we'd never tell her. We've
laughed at our funny looking water head grandson, and we
make jokes about the knockkneed man our other daughter is
engaged to. It's what we do. We we like to
(01:04):
people watch and laugh for hours of silly stuff, no
matter where we are. It's never anything so bad that
it would offend anyone. And that's why when my daughter
said we offended her and she doesn't want us at
her wedding, I was shocked. My husband made a joke
about her husband and she didn't think it was funny.
Then he made a joke about her sister's big head baby.
My husband sat back on the sofa with his hot
(01:25):
tea and crossed his legs like he was happy with
himself for letting our child in on our jokes. My
daughter called her sister and told her everything are soon
to be. Son in law didn't like what was said
about him, so he challenged my husband to a race.
He told him that they could take it to the
streets so he could show him what his knock kneeds
can do. My husband will not back down from a challenge,
(01:47):
and I am afraid he's going to injure himself if
he races this crooked legged boy. All he talks about
is taking it to the street like it will be
the race of the year. He knows he cannot beat
our future son in law, so why is he letting
his ego take over? Is there any way for me
to keep my husband from racing this boy. Well, you
(02:08):
kind of already answered your question, your own question. The
husband and the fiance both have egos. That's not news though,
because most men have fragile egos, and when their egos
take over, it's like they stop thinking rationally and get
into some sort of beast mode or something. But you know,
and and they gotta do it, you know, they got
to prove themselves, all right. But but the worst part
(02:31):
about all this is that your husband knows he can't
talk about anyone's baby, even his grand baby. Uh No,
no matter how harmless you might think it is, you
gotta keep those jokes to yourselves. I mean, your your
daughters are really really sensitive right now. So keep those
jokes to yourselves like you've been doing. You keep those
within the coupledom that you guys have, the marriage all right, Um,
(02:55):
someone is bound to get hurt, and it seems like
your daughters have. Now your husband is in this. If
he's retired, I'm thinking he's pretty up there in age,
and your future son in law it's pretty in pretty
good shape, or else he wouldn't have challenged him. The
race is going to be a disaster. You know, this already.
This is a lose lose situation for both of them.
(03:15):
Your husband has nothing to prove, and kicking you out
of the wedding. It's very extreme for your daughter to do,
I think, especially since the father of the bride usually
paid for the wedding. Now, you didn't mention that in
the letter, so maybe that's not the case here, But
she did uninvite you. So I suggest you guys call
some sort of emergency family meeting with all parties, make
some sincere apologies to your daughters and their spouses. Tell
(03:38):
them you were just joking. Hopefully they'll accept and you
guys can clear the air and start over. Everyone is
just so sensitive these days, so sensitive, Tommy. This is
about to be one ragged ass race of all times.
So get readyful all right, Shirley's say, y'all need to
have an emergency meet No, you need to have an
emergency vehicle because it's about to be one raggedy race.
(04:01):
Get ready to happen. Okay, and the waterhead board don't
need to be seeing this. I'm just trying to tell
you it's about to be. Let me tell you something.
It's about to be one raggedy race, right, here, the
knock need man racing the old man. This is not good.
And I promise you neither one of my in shape
to run forty fifty or sixty yard. I promise you
(04:22):
this is gonna be a bus and a fallout in
the wedding. Probably not gonna happen if this race happened.
But what you need to do is shut this down
if you want your wed in the half, because if
this race happen, the wed not gonna happen, the knock
need man gonna be laying up in the hospital, and
the old man that's running gonna land up in the hospital.
Y'all gonna help an issue if this race takes place.
That's just from timmy because I hadn't seen it before.
(04:43):
Trust me, get your old answer down and talk about it.
You on them, you race coach Prime? Oh god, oh god, hey,
let me, let me, let me, let me gonna put
this out there. I bet you I can be prop
n I bet you I can be p right now?
What what? Okay? What? What's wrong? Called? I can't raise prime?
(05:07):
Both of y'all deficit. I just gotta through with cancel.
I can I can still raise prime? Did I did
beat that might of fact. Might of fact? I raised
Prime and Junior at the same dayntime. Okay, what's wrong?
(05:29):
I raised Prime in Junior right there in Jackson State.
I swear to Carthy you gonna lose right there. Prime
can beat you with eight toes. Yes, yes, oh you,
oh oh, you going with less toes than me. That's
what you do. I got I got all ten toes.
I got all ten toes. And you still going with Prame.
(05:50):
That's what you do. You there, We were there, y'all
going with Prime with eight toes instead of going with me.
That's what you do. It's hold on, yes, hold on,
we're gonna go Craig right here. Uh, I ain't knocking me.
I'm bullied. I ain't knocking me. So what are we
talking about? We're gonna get in Junior's response. Coming up
(06:12):
at twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry Letter
subject taking it to the street. We'll be back right
after this. You're listening to the Steve Morning Show. Come on,
we got to recap this Strawberry letter. Tommy threw us
for a loop with that one. I'm sorry talking about
hill Raith's Prime and beat him and junior together and
(06:34):
beat told me. Today's Strawberry letter subject taking It to
the Street, a woman wrote in She's married to her
best friend, her husband. They've been married a long time.
They do everything together. They're retired. They have two daughters.
Their oldest daughter just had her first baby, and her
(06:54):
youngest daughter is getting ready for her wedding next year. Now,
the oldest daughter and her husband have a baby that
seemingly has a big head, and they make jokes about it.
The dad does, and the other, the fiance, the daughter's Beyonce,
has knock knees. So um, so anyway, what this what
(07:16):
this couple does, That's what they do. They you know,
go out talk about people and make jokes and you know,
just have fun. It's what they do. But they keep
it closely knit. They don't tell anyone. But the husband
made a mistake. The grandfather slash husband made a mistake
and told his daughter that her fiance had knock knees
and that the other the sister's baby had a big
(07:39):
water head. So the daughter got yeah, daughter got on
the phone, called her sister. They're mad, um, kick the
parents out of the wedding. And then the knock Kneed.
Beyonce heard about it, so he challenged the husband to
a race. The wife who wrote the letter is upset
because she doesn't want her husband to race. She thinks
he's going to injure himself, he's gonna get hurt. And
(08:01):
she says, why is he letting his ego take over?
And it's there anyway for her to keep her husband
from racing the knock Neeed boy. So there we are, Junior, Hey, Junior,
before you start, n is he Kenny Smith? Knockkneed? How
knock need? Is he? Is? He? Is he Spike? Is
he Spike Lee Knockkneed? You know? I want to know? Yeah,
(08:22):
But like you, let me ask you something? Did my
mama right? Didn't let him? What? Right? Now? This sounds
like something my mom would do. I listen. I love
the MoMA and the daddy. I love fact they honest
they opened because they over there killing themselves about this
dude he knocked need for them to talk. I don't
(08:45):
suggest he raced the daddy because did fiance already losing
the trash talking game? He losing over there? What we're
gonna race for? We just keep talking about these knock kneeds?
And then they turned in on the grand baby. Yeah, boy,
can you god? This is my favorite family. I'm so glad.
(09:06):
This is a great wedding to be kicked out of.
They have trash talk their way out of a wedding. Perfect. Perfect.
They're sitting up there. I mean, if you think it's
at the grand baby, They're talking about everybody. They at
everybody's throat, don't care saying what they saying on their mind.
They said he drinking tea, crossed his leg and he's
(09:27):
talking trash at the same time. Yeah, yeah, yeah, looking
about grand baby. The head on this boy right here,
this boy here, this boy here, gon go into boxing.
He gonna win too, because the headstrong. Yeah. They throwing
jokes at everybody. My daughter marrying this knock kneed man.
She bow legged, he knocked neeeds. It looked like oh X.
(09:54):
They walking by each other side side, they owe X.
How can you be mad? At least they're telling the truth.
They ain't hide none. They're talking about everybody like his
own problem ninety three. They call her spiritual, spiritual because
(10:15):
she's about to go spiritual. Look at his ain't it overhead?
Just spiritual? They talked about his uncle. Oh just looking
at each other. He crossed out. They talk about him. So,
how you see the weather looking today? They talk about that.
They're going in on everybody. How you mad as somebody
(10:37):
who honest? But Junior, they said, they don't. They talk
about people, but they don't do it as to offend anyone.
It's not so bad, girl, just everybody in my fan.
What did he talking about? I've seen it happening men live.
I know. I know. It's like you grew up, Junior. Yeah,
because how I grew up that I can't respect them?
I have no problem. This is This is called leadership
(10:57):
in a fan. This is called leadership. Is the leadership
in a family. I got an uncle. I got a
uncle who ain't worked the thirty five years. They keep
putting job reports. O. My grandmother said, this boy that
missed every job. They didn't put out five hundred thousand
jobs after the kind he missed all five hundred. How
do you mean five thousand job? You're both job missing it?
(11:23):
How can you be mad? Yeah, that's your family, that's honesty.
How can you be mad? They're talking about everybody, they're
not If you talk about the grand baby and his
head big, how can you be made. Yeah, well, is
there a line with the family. The grand baby head big.
(11:46):
We're using him as a tool. He breaking down sheet rock.
We used the baby. The baby gonna break down sheet
rock for us. We got a demolition baby. Yeah, yeah,
put the back. We ain't got that baby and put
that head up against that sheet. It's they got kicked
out of the wedding, Junior. They went. They saved money.
(12:09):
I think they mad. They didn't say they were mad.
They didn't. I'm so glad people say it is because
they meant it. All right, Listen, we gotta get out
of here. Post your comments on Today Strawberry Letter and
Steve Harvey, fem and Instagram and Faithbook, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Tripping over there now
(12:29):
coming up in forty six minutes after the hour, we
got Junior with Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening
to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
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